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I'm not sure you are though. Every post I've read of yours seems fairly clear. Are there many in the last temple spat that you wish you'd re-worded?
And is everyone unreachable? Look at how the argument with Wolfangel/Sam Hain/Spine turned out in coincidence driver. Perfectly reasonable people can do or say increadibly undreasonable things. And otherwise perfectly intelligent people can have a couple of really stupid ideas. However, no-one likes being told they've said (or worse, thought) something idiotic, so these kind of things are likely to be pretty heated unless the 'wrong' party realises it and is humble enough to accept it.
Of all the fora in the revolution, the temple is the most subjective, meaning that on the whole, when an argument does occur, unless one person has made a rather basic mistake neither side has much in the way of references (or even neccessarily logical reasoning) to back up their case.
Finally, remember that despite the loss of older members, the lith is still expanding. As the active member base gets larger (and as older people leave) the level of history posters have with one another drops. It's far harder to misinterpret a sarcastic statement from say, haus, simply because his prolific posting has established an online personality for him, known to most. Not only will newer people not neccessarily know this, but their lack of history with other posters reduces their empathy for them. I suspect that as the 'lith grows the names of posters have less personality attached to them from the perspective of the average reader. We know each other less so, to an extent, we can't help but care about each other less.
The increasing snarkiness is I suspect partly a result of this, but I'd suggest it also positively reinforces it, perpetating itself.
Sorry this has turned into a bit of a stream of consciousness/analysis. My communication may well be poorer than you feel yours to be. The take-home message is it's situational/cultural. But the barbelith culture is ultimately only a product of the posting style barbeloids choose to use. If other people post something ultrawankery, that's their responsibility. If you respond to the midwankery as if it were ultrawankery that suggests that you need a chance to de-frazzle. What if you took a few days off from barbelith, then re-read two recent threads, one which you enjoyed, one which you hated (e.g the nettie one)? After re-reading you should know whether you were being too harsh or not.
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