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Mysterious Transfer Student
09:10 / 04.05.07
Ibis, this may not be so helpful, but I just wanted to let you know that you have a very fine turn of phrase.

I'm almost certain that your SO is doing what men, including me, have a habit of doing in emotionally fraught situations with no obvious solution, which is to downplay the effect they're having on them in the hope that it'll wash off on you. Perhaps he's failing to realise that you want to express these feelings rather than overcome them.
 
 
Quantum
15:00 / 04.05.07
The company I work for are shite. I was hoping for a promotion to a position I'm easily qualified to do and interviewed excellently for, which nepotism gave to an external candidate. Not only that but the whole thing was handled so badly I don't think I can work here any more without growing an enormous pustule of self-loathing.
The thing is, I know it's not me, I've been promoted in every job I've ever had except this one, but it still feels like I'm not worthy of doing anything more than phone monkey work. Why is it that compliments and encouragement bounce off but criticism and discouragement sticks?
Why are companies all so shit at managing people? It's not fucking rocket science. And now I have to look for another job which I *hate* doing, in a tiny market saturated with people looking for the same work.
And the Conservatives got a 40% gain in the local elections just. And I've got no money AT ALL. And my teeth hurt and I can't afford to go to the dentist because the NHS has stopped paying for treatment pretty much. And the house market here is growing faster than anywhere else in the country (on average houses are increasing in value by £500 a week) which means that most people's houses are earning more than them, and even if I got a brilliant job and saved every penny I earned the price growth would outstrip my saving meaning I will never, never be able to buy a house here.
Still, it's bank holiday weekend and I'm now leaving work.
 
 
Spaniel
15:07 / 04.05.07
Greens doubled their seats, though.
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
16:05 / 04.05.07
I was feeling great earlier and now I'm tired again. I'm really tired of being tired.
 
 
charrellz
18:35 / 04.05.07
OK, after a considerable amount of hoop-jumping, I was allowed to take the missed exam, but I will not be allowed to take the cumulative final. This may turn out alright, except that a) I was notified I could take it less than ten minutes in advance and was unable to brush up on the material, but I think it's ok, and b) it was primarily essay questions so he can count off for various things with little explanation if he wants to fail me anyway. Fingers crossed, but feeling much better now.

Thanks for the advice/encouragment, Pooky and Trix.
 
 
COG
20:13 / 04.05.07
Quantum - the whole property thing is such ggrrrrrrrrrrr.
I spent years saving for a deposit and ended up with a smaller % of the total than what I started with due to the craaazzzy growth. Headlines like "Good news as house prices increase by record amount" really grind my nads.

Anyway, the day came that I just realised it was never gonna happen, and I could stop worrying about it, and just get on with enjoying my life. Fuck 'em all. And now I'm doing just that, living by the Mediterranean, eating nice food and sunbathing with my breakfast tea and toast. And not forgetting, Talks To Strangers as a neighbour. Which reminds me TTS, we must have another catch up beer soon.
 
 
Spaniel
20:37 / 04.05.07
It's fucking amazing that I ever managed to catch up with property prices here, Quants. In the end it came down to savings plus very generous and rich godparents plus my Grandad dying and leaving half his house to my Mum which she promptly sold.
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
20:49 / 04.05.07
We must indeed. Gracia this time?
 
 
Olulabelle
20:55 / 04.05.07
Quantum, I thought you worked in a little alternative bookshop. I thought you had a lovely job which you liked. I'm sorry to hear that you have been passed over, nepotism is horrible and very annoying for those who are not...nepotised?

If you weren't doing what you are doing, what would you do? What would be your favourite thing to do?

You can go to the dentist, I managed to find one eventually. Although I did have to wait 4 months for an appointment.

I can't help with hte house prices in Brighton. It's silly money, like London. Lets all go and live in an ecocommunity in Wales.
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
21:03 / 04.05.07
No, you all have to come HERE and drink sangria!
 
 
COG
21:21 / 04.05.07
I smell a Barcelona Barbmeet. Cheap flights abound fellows.
 
 
Olulabelle
21:22 / 04.05.07
I certainly would come. Mix and I.
 
 
Seth
22:20 / 04.05.07
Endless emergency calls at work. The whole world is shit.

Apart from my manager who has just bought me some cookies.
 
 
Quantum
10:49 / 05.05.07
you all have to come HERE and drink sangria!

In all seriousness that's looking more and more likely. Ecommunitytastic!

What would be your favourite thing to do?

Tarot, writing or lying around drinking sangria. I may go self empoyed, set up a website, move into a cheap shared farmhouse in Andalucia and earn euros until the british housing market crashes, then take advantage of the falling pound to buy a house here and retire and sit around writing about Tarot and drinking beer.
So that might be a plan- sangria, back here, retire, drink beer.
Or I might just sign on for the summer and work the festivals doing readings like a proper hippy.
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
10:57 / 05.05.07
You went to Big Skool, right? Train as an English teacher. A degree will be very helpful but it's not essential. Do that while you learn enough Spanish to open a magic shop round here.
 
 
Leigh Monster loses its cool
12:17 / 05.05.07
I was so happy about this yesterday--two new kids were born the day after I arrived on the goat farm I'm working at. The mother had actually pushed them outside the pen during the night by accident and couldn't get to them until we came in the morning, so we weren't sure how they were going to do. The girl seemed the worst off so I held her and sang to her and helped her nurse, and by evening she learned to walk by coming toward my hands when I reached for her. So, so amazingly cute.

But today the boy, who seemd perfectly healthy and energetic yesterday, is looking really unwell. He won't lift his head and doesn't seem to be able to see and has sometimes got foam about his mouth. He can stand, but doesn't seem to want to make the effort unless someone lifts him to his feet.

And, thinking about it, I don't know what to hope for, because he's a boy so if he does get well then he'll grow up to be taken from his mom and sister and slaughtered for sausage.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
15:37 / 05.05.07
Oh, that's horrible. Best wishes for the little guy, or as good as can be wished anyway.

I just decided to tidy my flat (well, half of it) to cheer myself up. Then it occurred to me that the reason I was doing it was on the grounds that if I'm gonna spend the rest of my life sitting in a room on my own, it may as well be comfortable, and that just made me feel shitty all over again.

Oh well. At least half my flat's vaguely tidy, and in doing the other half I've got a project for tomorrow. Maybe I'll finally feel able to get the landlord round to fix the ceiling (no, not that one, a NEW and DIFFERENT collapsed ceiling) in the bathroom. Unless he decides to kick me out for keeping a dog.
 
 
Seth
15:42 / 05.05.07
I just decided to tidy my flat (well, half of it) to cheer myself up. Then it occurred to me that the reason I was doing it was on the grounds that if I'm gonna spend the rest of my life sitting in a room on my own, it may as well be comfortable, and that just made me feel shitty all over again.

Y'see. This just makes me happier to clean and tidy. I spend a fair bit of time at home on me tod, so I like to make it a nice environment to be in. And when people come round they tend to comment on how nice and peaceful it is.

A good home life is important, if you're going to have a home life at all.

Cleaning makes me happy in general, I love manual work.
 
 
Quantum
15:55 / 05.05.07
You can come round and tidy our house anytime you like. Stoat, when was the last time you went to the seaside? Come and visit us and watch Seth tidy the house, it will be very calming. I'm prompted to ask because I just saw Our Lady in town visiting for the day, and recalled how nice it is to get over the M25 prison wall and remember that there is a world beyond the miserable big smoke.
Come throw stones at the sea! We have a spare room! We're dog friendly! There is beer and sunshine and pretty ladies!
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
16:13 / 05.05.07
Hmm, that does indeed sound fun.

I'm thinking perhaps that maybe it's just because I hate tidying. I don't know. It certainly LOOKS nicer, and will be nicer to wake up in. But all that chucking stuff away and hoovering and shit sucked ass.
 
 
Princess
16:15 / 05.05.07
Or come camping over my way. I can get you (but not your dog, I'm afraid) into Conkers for free. ANd there are woods, and a monastery, and trees and fresh air and farms.

And you could come camping with me and mine.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
16:17 / 05.05.07
This is why I love Barbelith. I was on the verge of tears earlier on and now I'm all smiley.
 
 
Princess
16:20 / 05.05.07
Although,if you did come to my house, my brother might have to move his Stoats altar.

And you'd have to wear a cap whilst you slept, just to make sure he wasn't stealing your hair.
 
 
Seth
16:26 / 05.05.07
WHO THE FUCK DO YOU THINK I AM!??!?!?!?WAN!

Tidy your own house. Like a man.
 
 
Quantum
16:41 / 05.05.07
WHO THE FUCK DO YOU THINK I AM!?

The bastard son of Ghandi and Godzilla? Godfather of the secret beard mafia? The Buddha of the Hobbit?
I did tidy, but stoat's right it sucked.

Come on Stoat, day return to Brighton from London Bridge is about a tenner! It's the Bank frackin' Holiday! Nice local barbepeople will covet you and coo over teh dog!
 
 
Quantum
16:42 / 05.05.07
...although we don't have younger brothers who idolise you, and steal your hair while you sleep.
 
 
Princess
16:47 / 05.05.07
I could mail him to you if you want, Quantum.
He's getting on my tits at the moment, he keeps talking about "anarchism" and "punk" and stealing my guitar. So you can have him. For free like.
 
 
Princess
16:49 / 05.05.07
Or Stoatie, if you wanted someone to clean you whilst you slept, I could provide that.
 
 
Leigh Monster loses its cool
17:23 / 05.05.07
Or, Stoatie, I'd marry you, though that might not be very novel. But you and Sheena would have to let me keep the two little goats and help me make sure they didn't die.
 
 
Olulabelle
21:57 / 07.05.07
Laoi, how is your goat?

Or I might just sign on for the summer and work the festivals doing readings like a proper hippy.

Yes do that!

***

Somethings happened and I need help but I don't know who to ask and TBM is not here which is awful anyway and more awful when something happens. And I don't know whether I'm worrying for nothing about the something or if it's a big deal and I need to sort it.

Oh. Godly Gods.
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
21:59 / 07.05.07
Hugs, Lula.
 
 
This Sunday
22:10 / 07.05.07
Olulabelle, don't let whatever it is sit and go worse, but here's hoping it's not a big deal. Just think, you could be one of these people getting all giddy over cleaning.

I never noticed how useful that 'O' is for sympathetic gestures. I just have to type 'Olulabelle' and it's the written equivalent of that 'Oh...' thing I do probably too often.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
22:17 / 07.05.07
Oh dear. Hugs, Lula.
 
 
Seth
01:40 / 08.05.07
Chin chin Olulabelle. The rabble is here if you need us.
 
 
Spaniel
10:46 / 08.05.07
Perhaps you could PM one of the rabble. And, yeah, *hugs* whatever.

Today I'm feeling slightly miserable because I've just found out some news which someone who is very dear to me has been keeping quiet in order to prevent me from worrying. Annnnd, now I am worrying, and I'm getting angry because I want to do something about it but I'm not sure whether anything can be done, or whether the person in question has done what they've told me they've done, and UURRRRRRGHHHH!

And I'm just worried

If anyone knows about the strange workings of the NHS could you PM me?
 
  

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