Ah. So, let me make sure I get this in the context of the metaphor. You weren't hitting him, and anyone who thinks you were is mistaken. He, on the other hand, started it last lunch break, and was looking for a fight again.
You want to talk that way to me? Does it make you feel better? There really isn't a need to condescend. There is no metaphor, either. Bullying isn't only physical. You don't have to accept that, Haus, but it is true.
You don't have to accept that I wasn't directly addressing Flyboy with my comment in Policy, but it is the truth. I don;t like that you are trying to force your version of my actions, however. If you are trying to imply that I was reacting to Flyboy's comment in the CNN thread five days ago, just today over in Policy? That would be very, very wrong and not even remotely close to the truth. The only reason I brought up Flyboy's deleted comment was to show a prior prejudice. I certainly didn't have it in mind when I made my sarcastic comment.
Anyway, as I have said it wouldn't even matter if I had been making a direct comment to him, it wouldn't have been abusive toward him! It would in no way justify Flyboy's abusive comment to me.
I think it's perfectly fine not to be happy that people are not convinced by your beliefs, or by your not-belief (in this case, a belief that the apparition was not an insect trapped on or in the lens, or similar effect).
You keep twisting my words, Haus. I never said I believed either way, and it doesn't bother me in the slightest what Flyboy believes about the CNN video. What bothers me are attacks on me based on what Flyboy perceives to be my belief. That is being a bully. Using intimidation and ridiculing tactics that imply another is inferior, or their beliefs are inferior.
What also bothers me is your attempt to make light of this, Haus, by using a term like "metaphor for bullying" and showing support for Flyboy's inappropriate reactions, and abusive comments. Plus the manipulation of this situation by attempting to make me out to be a shameful victim and admonishing me for it.
The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander: Barbara Colorosso
I suggest a reading of it for future reference on bullying. It isn't just about who started what first. Bullying has a lot to do with how things are done - intimidation and ridicule being hallmarks of bullying behaviour. OH, and that the "victim" sometimes lashes out is not uncommon. Often taking the focus away the actual bullying and bearing the brunt of focus. Mostly, because "the bystanders", those who are not active in bullying or being bullied, don't want to end up being bullied themselves. This whole issue revolves around social insecurities.
In conclusion: my comment wasn't directed at Flyboy, and it is a poor excuse for him to use to justify his own inappropriate behaviour. |
