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Sekhmet
13:45 / 24.02.06
On my way to work this morning I saw a dog sleeping on a hill at the side of the road. Got worried about it and turned back.

He's got a broken leg and he's hungry and he needs help but he's scared to death of me. He follows me a little but won't let me get close. Another lady shows up with food. We can't touch him. He's not aggressive, but obviously traumatized. Probably abandoned at the dog park up the street and then hit by a car. And if he goes to the shelter he'll end up getting euthanized because he's too shy to be adoptable.

But I guess it's better than slowly starving to death, or dying of an infection, or getting run over. So I'm calling the shelter.

I've been crying all morning. Why do we live in such a shitty world?
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
13:47 / 24.02.06
Oh Sekhmet that's horrible.

You did the right thing though, I think.
 
 
Sekhmet
14:03 / 24.02.06
Ooooh, update - Right after I posted, I got a call back from the police (I guess they send police out for strays these days?)...

Apparently someone got him into their car and took him away. So he's either on his way to a shelter or the vet, I imagine.

Yay. Not so miserable now.

Trying not to think about the fact that there are thousands of other dogs out there in the same situation who aren't getting help.

Maybe when I move out to my country place I'll open a rescue center or something. Twelve acres is enough for a lot of dogs, I reckon...
 
 
Katherine
09:15 / 28.02.06
I admit this is a pathetic miserable whine, but my nose hurts. The bridge of my nose has swollen up and I have to wait until tonight for an appointment with my doctors. I don't have the rage to moan about the fact I couldn't see a doctor last night after all there are probably people worse off than me who needed last night's appointments.

I just want to touch my nose without it hurting.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
19:39 / 05.03.06
Not so much miserable- more freaked out and worried- does that count?

Just found out my sister's been diagnosed with breast cancer. Now, rationally I know she's the sort of person who would be checking regularly and all that malarkey, so chances are when she gets the thing removed in a couple of weeks, they'll almost certainly have got it in time. But I imagine she has the same memories of my dad's cancer (which just kept coming back, and growing and spreading until it killed the poor bugger) as I do, which can't be helping. My mum's fucking worried sick, as you'd expect, and to be honest, so am I.

(calm...) I know it's almost certainly gonna be okay. But it sucks every flavour of shit, quite frankly. Including the stupid ones they just made up to make the shit menu seem longer.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
19:42 / 05.03.06
Oh, she's also the most clean-living person I've ever met since, well, my parents, which just makes me angry, too. Of the two of us, she's really not the one who should be having to worry about her health.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
19:49 / 05.03.06
 
 
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19:53 / 05.03.06
I'm sorry, Stoats. Hang in there.
 
 
*
19:55 / 05.03.06
(I realize that sounds flippant but it's really not meant to be. I want to say something about how when it all comes out right, you'll feel lots better, but that's just not helpful either.)
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
20:00 / 05.03.06
Nah, it's cool. I know what you meant. It's pretty much what I said to my mum.
 
 
Olulabelle
20:13 / 05.03.06
Oh Golly. I'm so sorry Stoatie. I do hope that everything turns out OK.
 
 
Haus of Mystery
20:17 / 05.03.06
Yeah truly.
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
20:19 / 05.03.06
Oh blimey, Stoatie, how horrible for you and your poor family. Best wishes to your sister.
 
 
Sekhmet
20:33 / 05.03.06
Oh, dear. Big hugs, Stoatie, and wishing strength to you and your family.

Gaaah. Cancer sucks.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
20:41 / 05.03.06
Cheers everyone. I'm in "knowing there's shit all I can do until after she's had the surgery so consciously not worrying" mode... however, it's conflicting with "wanting to call my sister but knowing that's not a good idea until I'm sober" mode ('twas me mum that just told me, and I don't call sis anywhere near as often as I should as it is... I'm gonna call her probably Tuesday, as I think the kids'll be at school all day and she has the day off work). I figure a phone call from a drunk guy, even if he IS her little brother, is probably not gonna help. Also it's fairly late.
 
 
unheimlich manoeuvre
11:08 / 06.03.06
Stoatie, sorry to hear about your sister.
Weirdly (how common is it?) my friend and former flatmate, who I've known for 13 odd years, was diagnosed with breast cancer over a month ago.
She had a mastectomy two weeks ago. Both her and her boyfriend have been frankly amazing through the whole thing.
They're still waiting for the results of the biopsy. Then there's the chemotherapy, though I'm not sure if that's dependent on the biopsy result or not. The doctors will have to remove some of her eggs, if she has the chemo, as it can cause infertility.
It's all a bit much. She's only 27.
 
 
Saveloy
11:25 / 06.03.06
Damn. You have my sympathies Stoatie, and I really hope everything turns out okay for your sis.

FWIW there seem to be a *lot* of support groups and helpful sites online for people affected by breast cancer, as I found out when my wife had a scare a couple of years ago. I found them worth checking out as they had a lot of positive things to say.
 
 
Spaniel
11:28 / 06.03.06
Shit, Stoats (and inchoate), that's rough. Just ty and remember that millions of people do come out the other side.
 
 
Jack Denfeld
11:32 / 06.03.06
Sorry Stoats. Huggles and good thoughts from me.
 
 
Evil Scientist
11:38 / 06.03.06
Best wishes Stoat, to your sister and all of your family.
 
 
Sax
11:40 / 06.03.06
Yeah, balls, Stoatie. Chin up etc.
 
 
Baobab Branches and Plastic
11:51 / 06.03.06
I was going to add a rather pointless and self conscious moan about some tedious aspect of my life but I just read Stoats post... and err... well I doesn't really seem right or that bad anymore.

Stoat, I hope everything works out well for your sister, if they catch these things early then theres every chance she'll get better no worries. Love and support to you and your family (I know that sounds a bit overly familiar for a newbie board post - but best wishes)
 
 
Shrug
11:58 / 06.03.06
Similarly sincere good vibes to your sister Stoat.
 
 
elene
12:07 / 06.03.06
I hope it goes well for your sister, Stoat. My dad died of cancer a little over a year ago, but he'd reached a fair old age. Well, on the other hand what's fair. It's very scary, but she'll need you all to be there and be strong. As will your mum, perhaps even more so. Sounds like you've got the right attitude though.

I hear about this so often these days.
 
 
Kit-Cat Club
12:23 / 06.03.06
Stoatie, inchoate, I'm really sorry to hear about this. Best wishes to all.

Breast cancer is increasing among younger women. I find it pretty terrifying, particularly with the difficulty of determining what is a hormonal change and what isn't... several people my age I know have had minor scares, inc. me, and my old flatmate's sister had it (she was 25). Not to go into we're all going to die mode, but one does wonder why it is increasing...
 
 
The Falcon
14:32 / 06.03.06
Best wishes, stoat.
 
 
Cherielabombe
17:35 / 06.03.06
So sorry to hear that stoatie. Best wishes.
 
 
Mon Oncle Ignatius
19:42 / 08.03.06
Fuck, Stoatie, I hadn't read this thread for a while as it had dropped rapidly down the first page of Conversation, so I only just read about your sister. That's terrible news, and you know where Lilly and I am if you need us for anything.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
19:58 / 08.03.06
As above, Stoats. I hope your sister is OK.
 
 
Mon Oncle Ignatius
22:20 / 08.03.06
Inchoate, that's tough on your friend too.

I hope all of our sisters and friends, mothers and daughters, partners and brothers, lovers and fathers, sons and cousins and every last one of the people we care about are going to be all right.
 
 
alas
22:51 / 08.03.06
I hope all of our sistes and friends, mothers and daughters, partners and brothers, lovers and fathers, sons and cousins and every last one of the people we care about are going to be all right.

Amen, brother Tango. Me too. But especially for Stoatie.

(This does remind me of the prayers we used to say when I was a child for all our relatives "God bless..." Mind, i have about 30 cousins, 14 aunts and uncles, plus a wider extended family...so we'd eventually give up and say "God bless everyone in the wholewide world" and I'd start thinking of exceptions...)
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
23:11 / 08.03.06
Cheers everyone. Spoke to her yesterday, and she's still her disturbingly cheerful self. Hopefully they've caught it fairly early and all will be well.
 
 
Bubblegum Death
02:31 / 13.03.06
I looked in the mirror today and discovered yet another flaw about myself. I have a large forehead. It's never really been noticeable, but if I scrunch my face up; I look a bit like the Martian Manhunter.

I probably noticed my forehead because my hair is thinning. I've always had REALLY thick hair; and I'm not going bald or anything; but I can really tell a difference.

I am starting to decay.
 
 
Bubblegum Death
02:32 / 13.03.06
I also overuse the word "really".
 
 
Mon Oncle Ignatius
11:59 / 31.03.06
Not exactly miserable, but the recipient of some sad news.

Someone I've known for ten years died recently, though I only found out today. He was a bit of an outsider poet and eccentric musician, a regular at the Klinker Club in North London - home to all things impovised and obscure, weird and wonderful, odd and engangingly bizarre. I didn't even know for years that he frequented and played at the same event as I have done: the way I knew him was through the place I've worked and volunteered for the last decade, where he had been Treasurer and then occasional volunteer for some years.

So we moved office to the other side of the railway station, and I would bump into him under the bridge, or on the street, or then at The Klinker - at one of our gigs, in fact. It was great to see him each time in passing to say hello, and he was always pretty cheerful against the odds. A character, you might say. He was married in the last year to his long-term partner, an event which only seemed to increase his general happiness whenever I saw him.

So it came as a shock to hear that he had been in a hospice with cancer, and died a couple of weeks back. One of those acquaintances I was always glad to bump into, to reminisce with and just find out how life was passing; and now AB has passed on in turn.

Actually, I don't think I'm going to be too sad now - there's mostly good things to remember about knowing AB - perhaps thoughful instead. So I'll put the memorial in June in my calendar, and celebrate his life with his family and friends then.
 
  

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