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Evil Scientist
09:02 / 31.07.07
Feeling rather self-pitying today.

I just can't bring myself to give a flying c**p about, well, anything really. Annoyingly I was in a good mood yesterday and now...

Ergh.
 
 
Triplets
12:55 / 31.07.07
Bugger. I hope you get better ibis. Very soon. And you need to see a doctor asap if you're still ill tomorrow.
 
 
Pooky Is Just My Pornstar Name
17:20 / 31.07.07
Ibis, pepto is probably not strong enough to deal with your nasty stomach bug. You may want to try Immodium AD. A couple of years ago, my dad came down with a nasty stomach virus and was constantly going to the loo. He asked that I pick up some meds for him, so I went out to the pharamacy and picked up Immodium on the advice of the pharamacist.

A word of warning if you do take the Immodium, though. It knocks you out. It's a little itty bitty pill, smaller than half your little pinkie fingernail, but by golly does it pack a wallop. It cured my Dad's diarrhea, but it knocked him unconscious for hours.

Anyway, if you're not better by tomorrow, then yes, take Trip's advice and go see a doctor.
 
 
ibis the being
17:42 / 31.07.07
Today I'm feeling better in the sense that I don't want to die all the time, but things aren't too much better at the business end. I finished off the Pepto and have switched to arsenicum album homeopathic remedy and some raspberry ginger tea. Beyond that I'm at a loss. I see myself at the cusp of "need to see a doctor" but seeing a doctor is soooo not even close to being in the budget, I don't know what I'll do if this goes on much longer. All my hopes are pinned on arsenicum album right now.
 
 
Ticker
17:59 / 31.07.07
ibis the last time I had that happen a friend of mine gave me a tablespoon of cinnamon in a glass of water and made me chug it. Worked within an hour.

also make sure you are not only replacing lost fluids but also salts.

24 home remedies and tips
 
 
Pooky Is Just My Pornstar Name
19:27 / 31.07.07
Shit! Er, not a joke at your expense, Ibis. I forgot you're an american and don't have health care the way we canucks do.

That sucks. I can't imagine not going to the doctor because a check-up isn't in my budget. If you decide to take XK's home remedies, and they still don't work, I do suggest that you go to the pharmacy and get the Immodium. It's not very expensive and will set you back, at most, about ten bucks.
 
 
My Mom Thinks I'm Cool
19:29 / 31.07.07
the food diet that's been recommended to me is BRAT - bananas, rice, applesauce, toast.

XK is correct - in addition to whatever you're doing to stop having diarrhea, you need to be very careful to replace water and electrolytes/salt. this is probably a big part of why you feel weak.

pepto is not strong but it's less likely to have bad side effects (basically it's just charcoal I believe.) immodium is pretty effective, but it can plug you up when your body really needs to get rid of something. I guess after 24 hours you're probably pretty well flushed though.
 
 
Ticker
19:36 / 31.07.07
I usually live on yogurt when it happens as the probiotics seem to have combat skills with the EVIL.
 
 
ibis the being
21:22 / 31.07.07
You guys are great, who would've thought my poop woes would garner so much support....

The homeopathy seems to be working, unless it's a coincidence of timing. Things are still shaky but quite improved. Yesterday I probably ate about 500 calories all day so today I have been RAVENOUS... trying to eat slowly and gently, crackers, plain pasta, banana, tea. I may venture into some boiled potatoes and carrots for dinner. All the grains in the house are super whole and hearty, usually a great thing but not so much at the moment!

Thanks all.
 
 
Mono
07:36 / 02.08.07
I am miserable because stupid jerks are fucking over our band.

I am sick of getting offered (out of the blue) really amazing gigs and crappy industry people telling us "Yes, it's 100% definite! Cancell all your other stuff around that time!" And then it falling through and the same crappy stupid industry people saying "But we never told you it was for sure, in fact, YOU asked US for this gig but it was never confirmed!"

GRRRRRRRRRRR

And I am miserable becasue we will ahve to cancell a little Ireland tour for September becasue our drummer just pulled out and if he'd told us a month ago we wouldn't be burning our bridges by pulling the tour but now we are. (and for those of you who know this drummer--please don't mention that I am dissing him on the inter-web, then I will be even more miserable!!!)

Thanks Barbelith, for letting me vent because I have a thin skin about creative stuff that I work really hard on and don't want to cry at work.
 
 
Ex
09:28 / 02.08.07
I'm so sorry - your band is lovely and it is (to my completely naive mind) totally unfair that you can't just get some kind of payback for creating something lovely, without a farrago of unreliable bookings, cancellations and let-downs.

(I understand there's an industry and all that. But - the lovely! Why can the lovely not be spread?)

Maybe some kind of brane tithe...
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
09:13 / 03.08.07
Ooh, that sucks. mono.

Me? Well, I've had better weeks, put it that way. Sheena's hurt her leg and is REFUSING to rest it like the vet ordered, my broadband's fucked (so I'm getting SERIOUS WoW cold turkey) and I got fucking dumped last night.

When this booze wears off it's really going to suck being me.
 
 
Closed for Business Time
09:26 / 03.08.07
Maxxor Suxx0r! I'm still waiting for my 8Mb ADSL to kick in - should be another 4 days, I hurt my leg playing footie yesterday, but I haven't been dumped. Thank the fuck! And mono, that sucks indeed.
 
 
iamus
06:06 / 04.08.07
Grrrr. This does indeed suck mightily, because I can confirm that Mono and Stoatie, and indeed the whole Stoke Newington crew are TEH awesome, and SHITE THINGS SHOULD NOT HAPPEN TO AWESOME PEOPLE.

(I emphasise the TEH above, because that conveys true awesomeness in a way that the word awesome itself never could).

My advice is that when things go crap like that it's probably best to ignore it and bask in your own glory, because you guys should have tons of that shit to spare.
 
 
c0nstant
22:26 / 07.08.07
ugh, so many miserables really. I'm mad at myself that I didn't start reclaiming my bank charges earlier because a letter I just received pretty much guarentees that I won't get any of it back.

Also, I'm horribly in love with two (yup, count em...TWO) of my best friends, who just happen to be a couple, and one of whom is straight, so that's never gonna happen and it kills me whenever I think about it too much (like now ).

Plus I have a horrible habit of only posting on the barb in this thread which makes me feel like I'm using it as my own blog or just a place to vent, which is a shame because I'd really like to contribute more and the fact that I don't is another example of my horrible lack of confidence...

never mind the fact that I have no career and no money and as yet no house for when we have to move in three weeks.

ever feel like curling up into a ball and just staying in a corner till Armageddon comes?
 
 
Kali, Queen of Kitteh
19:12 / 09.08.07
Holy CRAP.

Most of the Eastern US is gripped tight like a blacked-out friend around your neck in a heat wave.

Here in the ATL, we're at a record temp of 105. All our advisories are for NO ONE to partake in any outdoor activity unless, you know, you want to die or something.
 
 
MattShepherd: I WEDDED KALI!
19:25 / 09.08.07
Here in Sherbrooke it is gorgeous and sunny and 71F. Light breeze, a few clouds. One could fly a kite in delightful comfort if one were so inclined.

And yet I am moving down there. From a mountains-and-rivers small-town paradise to the crime-ridden inferno of Atlanta. Love, why must you exact such a steep and bitter toll?
 
 
Kali, Queen of Kitteh
19:35 / 09.08.07
They have a French version of "Dueling Banjos", don't they? They must have because I am totally hearing it in my head.
 
 
Dead Megatron
20:01 / 09.08.07
From a mountains-and-rivers small-town paradise to the crime-ridden inferno of Atlanta. Love, why must you exact such a steep and bitter toll?

Dude, with all due respect, and in the spirit of friendship, I gotta tell you: you have your concepts mixed up. Paradise is not where it's pretty and peaceful. Paradise is where love is. You'll see.
 
 
Essential Dazzler
20:19 / 09.08.07
Paradise is where Sympathy for Mr. Vengeance isn't.

Sympathy for Mr. Vengeance. Do not watch it.


BLEAK.

IS ALL BLEAK.
 
 
Gendudehashadenough
20:28 / 09.08.07
Now, is the exact time that I miss B. Bonds Sr. so much that I might bawl.
 
 
This Sunday
21:01 / 09.08.07
Lack of evidence is never proof. Of anything other than a lack of evidence.

Now why can't the world and all sensible people operate on that tenet?
 
 
Hallo, Paper Spaceboy
00:32 / 10.08.07
Work is filled with nincompoops tonight. MISERY!
 
 
Saint Keggers
02:29 / 10.08.07
Her (much to my suprise): "I wanted to sleep with you back in college, you had this artsy and untainable thing about you that was very hot"
Me: "and now?"
Her: "Well I couldn't now. We're friends. I know you too well."

grrr.
 
 
grant
15:32 / 10.08.07
What, you didn't reply: "Could so!" and stick your tongue out?

You'd be surprised....
 
 
Tryphena Absent
15:49 / 10.08.07
Yeah, hmmm, why didn't you just say "I think you probably could?"
 
 
Princess
16:39 / 10.08.07
Or started a game of "cock o'clock".

My (friend who has far too much vested in his "masculinity") tells me it's the only woo a maiden.
 
 
sorenson
19:11 / 11.08.07
o i have one handed typing tales of woe. c's family is driving us both insane but we can't get rid of them. our days are spent gritting our teeth and furtively strategising in corners, all the while trying to look after baby as best we can in the face of constant scrutiny and anxiety about his every squeak (he's a small baby! they cry! get over it! he doesn't have to be silent to be 'good'!) and comments to c about what she is eating and on and on and this all on very little, broken sleep.

i'm not sure how much more i can take without snapping at them. ironically, it's c's g-mother, normally so wonderful, who in the presence of a baby has become intensely irritating.

am miserable...miss the glory of my shiny beautiful little new family...
 
 
Spatula Clarke
21:00 / 11.08.07
Struggling with a bit of writing again, have been for over a week. Difference this time is that it still hasn't come together and the deadline's looming.

So I'm downstairs, making myself a brew and feeling miserable, when it hits me. I've never really known what, if anything, my natural vocation is - good at a few things, passable at some more, spectacular at none. And I just realised, it's the job that, by pure chance, I ended up doing a year-and-a-half ago and am still in now.

I'm a fucking accountant. I've got an innate ability for juggling and presenting numbers.

That's the most depressing thought I've had in years. I'm a natural goddamn bean-counter.
 
 
Spaniel
21:11 / 11.08.07
Except that you're also a published writer.

And a good one.
 
 
Triplets
21:23 / 11.08.07
sorenson, any chance you, or your partner, could just sit the mother down with a cup of tea and say, "look, we love you, but you're upsetting us a lot and causing way more stress". I think if someone said that to me, calmly, I'd be willing to, y'know, give it some consideration.
 
 
Triplets
21:24 / 11.08.07
Whatever the solution, though, am ensadden by grandmother/baby stressing.

Huggle!
 
 
Spatula Clarke
21:58 / 11.08.07
Boboss: many thanks, yet again, but it's just that it doesn't come naturally, if at all. So I either end up with something that sounds forced, dry and try-hard - because it is - or else that goes in the opposite direcion, all uber-loose and... gloopy? Writing forum posts is so much easier, because there's no expectation, nobody relying on you to get the job done. And you can afford to freewheel with the writing a lot more, just throw it out there as it occurs to you, whereas something that's going to be published... it's in a fixed state, you've no ability to go back and clarify or retract something later on.

I think, also, that I tend to stress out about it because it's still very new to me. Maybe that's a good thing.

Anyhoo, you got PM.
 
 
This Sunday
22:22 / 11.08.07
it's in a fixed state, you've no ability to go back and clarify or retract something later on.

Sure you do. Soon as you can reprint (depending on what the contract looks like), rejig the piece and submit it somewhere else. It might not get picked up, but especially with nonfic, you do see alterations and clean-ups a lot of times when pieces are republished in a new magazine or a collection, what have you. If you can't reprint/republish, write a new piece to clarify the old. Somebody may still come across the first version and, I dunno, take umbrage or get confused, but selah and so what? I don't know precisely what Pauline Kael or Jonathon Lethem are on about half the time I read one of their articles, and I suspect they'd like to retract a few things post-publication, but it hasn't seemed to hurt their careers.

Boboss is right, you're a published writer (and between your good posting style and Boboss' judgement, I'll agree with the good writer call), be proud, be happy, be contented. Similarly, might as well be proud of being a natural numbercruncher. I can't do more than basic kitchen math on the fly so I'd love some of that skill. Besides, it probably pays better than general writing gigs.

Sorenson, good luck with the baby and family. It tends to happen, unfortunately, the needling and prying. Good call from whomever made it, sitting folks down with a nice cup of something warm and pleasant and trying to disentangle them as politely as possible. And, it's a baby! so, be happy for the baby. (I know you are, but remind yourself once in awhile; can't hurt.)
 
 
iamus
22:29 / 11.08.07
That's just the stress of having to do something to spec, Randy.

I feel partially qualified to comment on this because I've been going through much the same situation of late.

You're a very talented natural writer. The reason I can tell that is because the stuff you do when there isn't expectation, the stuff that you do just because you 100% want to, is readable in the extreme and has a very easy and natural voice.

The moment I have to produce work that's to somebody else's standard, I get hit with exactly the same shit. Doesn't matter if I could knock out the same thing easy style at any other moment, it's always the same deal.

The problem's not with your writing, mate. It's all those tripwires in the brain that try to stop you from accomplishing something you know you're good at and would actually enjoy and, gulp, make a living doing at the same time.

Now that's a scary fucking thought.


Use the strain to your advantage. Keep pushing it until something starts to shine through through the crap. Generally, the impossibly high standards you're judging yourself by means that what you're producing is actually a hell of a lot better than you think. The more anxious and het-up about a project you get, the better a job you'll be intent on doing. It'll take a power of legwork in the beginning though.

I think you'll find it's a fairly universal thing to all creative professionals.


I've got every faith in you though, dude.
 
  

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