Kali, much sympathy.
For what my tiny opininon is worth, I don't think you have to write something 'good enough'. That is, obviously nothing you say can make the situation palatable. This seems like a guilt hangover from snogging the bloke and I think you shouldn't feel guilty.
If that guilt makes you try to solve the situation now by finding the perfect words (and sorry if I'm over-interpreting your difficulties writing) you'll never finish, because the situation has a big fuck-up in the middle of it. You can be honest and polite and even friendly, but you can't sort it out.
As such, and not knowing what she's asked you for, I think that your summary of "Yes, I kissed your boyfriend." (etc) would be useful and to the point. Except I'd probably say 'I kissed [insert name here]' as you know him primarily as [insert name] rather than her boyfriend, you don't know the precise details of their relationship, and it sounds less eye-poky. Possibly add that you're sorry if this is sad news for her, and you'd understandably prefer not to get further involved particularly as you work with [insert name].
I wouldn't risk a kthxbye but I don't think brevity is your enemy. You've got a minimal emotional relationship with him which you're attempting to sever (wisely), he's got one with her which is going who knows where - I think a long message from you written with a sense of obligation would encourage another (not very rewarding) relationship between you and her. I don't recoil from the idea of taking her out for tea, but I also don't think you need feel bad for keeping it brief.
Of course, you also have the right not to talk about who you've been kissing - it depends whether your sense of solidarity with what you perceive as her situation outweighs your sense of privacy. |
