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For the record, I really don't want to ban you; I'd much rather you take a step back and think about how/why your comments are offending people, whether this gives you pleasure, where your comments are actually coming from, and if they're actually logical. Indeed, I'd absolutely love it if you took a break for a while and then came back and read all those threads with fresh eyes.
Also, and here's my piece of cod phsychology, my instinct tells me that you've been through a lot of shit in your life, maybe suffered a lot of taunts and nastiness, and built a defence mechanism that uses anger to justify reasoning which doesn't fit yours. I reckon in real life you would probably try to give people's voices a chance, although you might not understand many of the issues different people have to facy dailly and that your words/actions/beliefs aren't actually helping. I imagine that online you don't realise that you need to be even more understanding and considerate of both your own assumptions, and the ideas/ thoughts/ beliefs / feelings of others. Just remember, there's nothing wrong with being wrong about something. Learn from it and move on, eh?
I'd hazard a guess that pretty much all the people on this board have had similar experiences to the one I've completely imagined for you: being picked on, looking stupid, feeling that one has to fight to exist. I imagine many (if not all) of the other members here hate to make others feel shit (even those who's opinions and actions they cannot stomach), and are actually big lovely softies if they're allowed to be open and honest and listened to. But there comes a point when someone who's all shouty-shouty stops being listened to, by everyone.
Seriously, have a break, and maybe even try pretending you'e someone else reading those threads for the first time (be as imaginative as you like, but make sure it's someone totally unlike the person you know you are). And I DON"T mean that in a "you're a crap person, be someone else way"; I mean this as a simple, cool exercise to try to see the world (and maybe one's mistakes) in a different light.
I also appreciate the complement, but you must realise that just the same as you get angry, we ALL get angry and you're hardly giving anything to Barbelith other than spikey-spikey at the mo'. i.e. not even any facts to back up your arguments. Like any group/society/etc, one has to listen, give, and show reasoning to be appreciated and listened to in return. Of course, nobody should suck arse for the sake of "belonging to a group", but nobody is asking you to do this, and I bet nobody here wants to do that either (me included); we just want you to think about what you're saying and find us proof for your theories.
Honestly, I'm only trying to help, and I pray you read what I've just typed and try to take on board what others have said to you also.
And the best of luck with your health problems (sincerely), |
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