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Shadowsax: discussion of possible disciplinary action

 
  

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The Falcon
21:33 / 20.04.06
So, does anybody think that SS staying on Barbelith is actually a workable option after all of this?

I don't think it's utterly unworkable, bearing in mind this constitutes a great big monolith of warning and can be bumped at any time, and that he would in this case be under a microscope which should, I'd imagine, lead to some serious, possibly off-board, self-examination (with, perhaps, some reading?) and a distinct modification in posting style.

I think Barbelith, by which I mean other more attuned and sharper individuals than myself, can help him work through (some of) his problems and misconceptions ultimately. I believe it has done for me. Whether it actually wants to, being there's no onus to do so, I dunno. But that would constitute the most positive outcome, no?
 
 
Alex's Grandma
21:35 / 20.04.06
He says that rape and abuse statistics are exaggerated because women often report falsely for political/economic ends.

He hasn't said this directly though, has he? He's said some terrible things about 'moms' in the precise situation of a custody battle, of course, and also about the possible motives of the witness for the prosecution in a particularly ugly criminal case, should her accusations prove to be false, but really, only then. Whether or not he's dancing around the issue in order to faciltate his dreadful personal agenda I don't know, but aside from a couple of remarks about the PC police on Barbelith, which frankly just seem a bit silly, more than anything else, I don't really see how it's fair to extrapolate the level of generalised sex-hatred that you seem to be implying, simply based on his posts.

If I were to say that single fathers behave badly, that Robert Bly's a joke, and that professional sportsmen (Mike Tyson etc) are prone to lying in rape cases, I doubt this would be taken as a blanket statement about men in general - I appreciate that it's all a bit more complicated, but still, I think a more careful reading of what's actually been said would be the way forward.

None of which is meant to defend SS particularly - as a writer, chief, you should really be able to put your arguments together a bit more effectively, which, unless you're in the business of causing havok, chaos and genuine offence (11, etc,) you've been a bit lax on, so far.
 
 
sleazenation
21:46 / 20.04.06
Wow... This thread is now so long, I'm not sure if I have much to meaningfully contribute now...

Should I just post my assessment of Shadowsax and the reasons behind it or not?
 
 
Spyder Todd 2008
23:05 / 20.04.06
Should I just post my assessment of Shadowsax and the reasons behind it or not?

Absolutely. I think the more content this thread gets, the more likely a well-rounded decision is to made.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
23:56 / 20.04.06
Tom: I posted here regarding some of Shadowsax's comments on "Zionists" and homosexuality. His response to challenges to his position on gaying was predictable. Nobody even bothered with the Zionists - possibly in the hope of keeping the thread on topic.
 
 
alas
00:37 / 21.04.06
I'm interested, sleazenation.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
00:43 / 21.04.06
Alex:

they got what they wanted. dads are trying to fight the remnants of that whole thing. you know, "all heterosexual sex is rape," that kind of stuff

the feminist movement which has cast women as victims in general

i can say from direct experience that attys for moms routinely and categorically promote false/overblown claims of violence and abuse in order to villify the dad.

Given that the population of the US is around 230 million, and that one in three marriages end in divorce, that's a large enough vchunk of lady, I think, to make id's point stand.
 
 
eddie thirteen
01:21 / 21.04.06
I know this was kind of a while ago, but Ganesh said in response to my whole "banning someone just because we think he kinda sucks" worry:

I think that's rather a reductive way of summarising a fairly nuanced discussion.

And it would be, if what I were trying to do was summarize the case of Barbelith v. ShadowSax. It wasn't. (Although I don't see a non-reductive way to do that, given the volume of posts and the intricacies of various arguments, without writing a dissertation on the subject.) My concern, as I said, has less to do with us banning this particular poster than it does with the precedent set if he is banned. I have no problem whatsoever with banning people who use racial/sexual epithets, deny the Holocaust, etc. I'm not saying those people are beyond help, but I don't think it falls on any of us to endure their abuse while they sort out their issues (or not); this isn't social work. And I also have no problem with attack posters (trolls) experiencing a swift, banning kick to the ass. Again, my definition of a troll (Hawksmoor) is narrow. I also -- it should go without saying, but won't -- think we are right to as quickly as possible get rid of anyone who appears to be a stalker, as I believe happened recently.

Maybe someone can think of a compelling fourth category I'm just overlooking. Until that happens, I'll say that I'm 100% happy with the immediate ejection of people who fall into one or more of the above categories, and less so with the ejection of anyone else.

As far as I can tell, ShadowSax doesn't fit into any of the three. We don't like his posting style; we don't like the content of his posts; we don't like his perceived inability to engage meaningfully with criticisms of his posting style or of the content of his posts. None of that is good, but as grounds for banning, it seems shaky to me. And if we ban people for reasons that seem deeply felt but somewhat nebulous (there seems to be some confusion in this very thread as to what those reasons are), my fear is that banning is something that will in the future be suggested on a whim. Admittedly, this fear has become less pronounced in me as this thread has ground on and on and become increasingly dreary for everyone involved; I don't think any of us are in a hurry to do this again.
 
 
The Return Of Rothkoid
03:17 / 21.04.06
Whew! What a read.

I'm aware that Barbelith is structured a lot differently than other boards that are around, and that is one of the reasons why I'm still (albeit less frequently, since I moved away from the UK and lost my minor barberoyal status - including the decoder ring and lederhosen ensemble) a poster here. But I often think that a lot of time - perhaps too much time? - is spent on debates like this.

Not that the topic at hand isn't important - these sort of things should be ironed out, certainly - but how many times does the same go-round have to be done? It becomes a perennial thing - like the debates over whether the place is dying, or whether pirates kick ninja ass. (Which it's not, and they do - in order.) I also feel that certain posters - and this can include both trolls and longtimers - thrive on this sort of a debate, and keep it going for the attention it brings. Is this the case here? I'm undecided, but I'm certain there's a bit of spotlighting here that's not being shied away from, though. I would suggest that maybe this multi-page wringing of hands (on both sides, maybe) is sapping a whole lot of energy that could've been used more productively.

Teh Internet is full of fuckbakes. This is plainly evident. Some of 'em will get through the Barbe-net. We should be used to this, and perhaps should be less phased about it. Obviously, people should be given pointers if they're repeatedly coming across in an insensitive, offensive or insulting matter, but I don't think that - should they not want to toe the line, for one reason or another - it's worth pages and pages of high drama. The amount of trolls and offensive posters that've been here already should've prepared us for just this eventuality - and if not "us" as in the copmmunity at large, then certainly in reference to mods and board admins.

(And in the end, if Tom's annoyed enough about it - I think most people seem to be of the opinion that he's the decider in the whole banning stakes anyway, which makes sense as it's his party - he'll do something about it. He is a benevolent ruler, but he can kick arse if he thinks it's needed, as many here would know.)

I just feel it shouldn't be as drawn out as this has become: it feels a bit like scab-picking at certain points in this thread, and I don't think it's helpful (now) as I think it somewhat gives the impression that anyone who doesn't fit the posting norm here (or actively goes against it) is going to draw a shitload of attention: which is what many of yer garden-variety internet fuckbakes want. (Whether or not SS is one of these is a question for everyone else to answer, really.)

We don't need people who're wilfully fuckwitted (in the views of, it seems, a bunch of the board) to keep this place going, and so the handling of them - either reprimand or banning or whatever - shouldn't necessarily be the high drama that it's become.

But yeah, I've just contributed a whole load of words to the thread here too, so I'm probably as guilty as everyone else here. But I did share another user's feeling that it was a bit like a search for the misogynists/conservatives/reds under the bed - something that occurs here (or seems to) reasonably regularly.

Mr Disco is probably the closest to the bone when ze suggests that perhaps the issue is one of style rather than content. Should an "ideal" posting style, or an example posting style be forged, so that people can gauge whether they're going to fit in with the decor here? (I mean, you should be able to from reading the place, but it seems that's not as foolproof as one would think.)
 
 
Ganesh
06:47 / 21.04.06
Should an "ideal" posting style, or an example posting style be forged, so that people can gauge whether they're going to fit in with the decor here?

No, but the capacity for some degree of self-reflection is arguably essential.
 
 
Evil Scientist
07:27 / 21.04.06
I would suggest that maybe this multi-page wringing of hands (on both sides, maybe) is sapping a whole lot of energy that could've been used more productively.

The problem being though that Shadowsax's comments on the threads linked to here show that even more energy is being sapped because people find his posts offensive and, quite naturally, feel a duty to call him on them. Which turns large chunks of interesting threads into "The Shadowsax Show".

For which an answer could be; "Fine then don't call him on his comments, put him on Ignore.". But, as has been pointed out on other threads, that could be interpretted to be pretty much the same as telling him it's okay to say these things on Barbelith. Even if I put him on Ignore (which I'm seriously considering doing should he stay) all I'm doing is the internet equivelant of sticking my head in the sand. He'll still be here.

Whatever ShadowSax's flaws, I do not personally think that his statements about women and feminism have represented the same level of harrassment as Holocaust denial. Hence, I feel it would be massively inappropriate of me to ban out of hand, and I'm very glad that the board is taking the time to debate this in more depth. Ignoring the substance of the complaints for a moment, I'd also like to state for the record that I think ShadowSax has attempted to engage with the discussion and that I think this is a good thing. His attempts have clearly not always been enormously successful, of course - probably for a variety of reasons. It's now up to you guys to decide whether or not you want to forcibly eject him now or not.

I think Tom's comments here underline exactly why a thread of this nature is necessary Rothkoid.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
08:09 / 21.04.06
Tom's comments, and also id entity's response to Tom's comments. In a way, the comparison with Holocaust denial is a difficult one because H.D is so sui generis - it's bollockingly easy to identify - if somebody says "but did the Holocaust really happen? Aaaaah....", they are pretty much doing it. If they go on to say that they do indeed not believe that it happened, well that's just pressing the self-destruct button.

As established, misogyny is rather harder to prove, and people are less likely to admit that their behaviour is misogynistic, or indeed acknowledge that their behaviour is misogynistic. However. While it falls into the problem that any comparison of x with Holocaust denial is likely to get caight in the emotional backwash of "how dare you compare me to Nazis?", it is worth noting that their are parallels. Likewise, in terms of the impact on other users of Barbelith - although it is an unreliable indicator, we have seen a fair few people saying that the impression that Shadowsax's portrayal of women is considered less of an issue than similar portrayals of, say, Jews or black people is making them reconsider their relationship to the board.

As it happens, dubious portrayals of Jews and black people, for starters, have been tolerated by the Board, in the sense of not been the subject of moderation or Tom's involvement - however, this has generally been in the shape of people who storm off after a fairly brief interval, having been pwn3d by the natural immune system of Barbelith. SS's absolute conviction and determination to show that the value of contributions like this justify the risk that he may be "misread" by those determined to be offended are unusual. Ganesh has discussed the implications of the word "offence" elsewhere, and deva and I have already looked at his contributions to the boooks forum in this thread. The idea that his offensive behaviour has been limited to a single thread is a useful one, but not borne out by facts.
 
 
Tabitha Tickletooth
09:10 / 21.04.06
Apologies for waiting so long to post to this thread but the longer it goes on and the more I reflect on it, the less clear I am about where I stand! As a member of the community, however, I think I have a responsibility to contribute even when it is difficult, so:

I agree, broadly speaking, with most of the criticism that has been expressed, both with respect to SS’s posting style and content. I know that is very broad, but there are pages of largely legitimate grievances already explored.

In essence, I feel SS’s style is Rik from the Young Ones – all sly implication or deliberate provocation, followed by either ‘clever me I tricked you, I didn’t say that, you misread my posts’ or ‘get stuffed, I’m not going to argue with you because you are too stupid and don’t understand me’.

SS’s content is almost without exception sexist against women, often misogynist and rarely substantial (or substantiated when challenged).

When I encounter him posting in any thread, I feel instantly weary and freely admit that I have decided, on occasion, not to post to threads he is involved in. This is poor form, but I just haven't felt like he is worth the effort of combating.

My problem is, I’m not sure I’m clear on what the question is any more. Does SS add value to the board? Not that I can see. Do I ‘like’ him (enjoy his posts, want to share discussion with him)? No, I think he’s a tosser. Do I think his posts are offending members of the community? Yes. Do I think he should be banned? I really don’t know.

I see the arguments for banning, I just can’t buy into it as the solution. I accept that his sexism can’t go unchallenged and that this both causes hurt and upset, and derails good, interesting threads. I wish he would go away rather than having to be thrown out. No, that’s not true. I wish we could drive him away, rather than banning him.

Perhaps naively, I like to think there is a level of vitriol, humiliation and plain old contempt that would cause someone even as incapable of self-examination as SS to simply give up and slink away. If he were to be allowed to remain on the board, I pledge to get off my posting butt and challenge him when he is unpleasant, wrongheaded or offensive rather than ignoring him.

But then doesn’t this just feed his desire to provoke and be the centre of attention? Aaaaarrrggghhhh.

The case I see for banning is that he is genuinely causing hurt and upset to some posters. Because they don’t deserve that, I would probably opt for a ban if pressed. I realise this probably hasn't added much to the debate, but feel rather strongly that we need to guard against the already mentioned possibility that SS might view silence as support.
 
 
Evil Scientist
10:14 / 21.04.06
Perhaps naively, I like to think there is a level of vitriol, humiliation and plain old contempt that would cause someone even as incapable of self-examination as SS to simply give up and slink away. If he were to be allowed to remain on the board, I pledge to get off my posting butt and challenge him when he is unpleasant, wrongheaded or offensive rather than ignoring him.

The only reason I'd consider not putting him on Ignore would be to do this. If Shadowsax stays then (AFAIK) the only real disciplinary action that can be applied is an increased vigilance on his behaviour.
 
 
illmatic
10:59 / 21.04.06
I would suggest that maybe this multi-page wringing of hands (on both sides, maybe) is sapping a whole lot of energy that could've been used more productively.
While I understand the sentiment, I don't agree totally - I think the whole engagement with SS has been useful, both for reflecting on one's own beliefs, and for Barbelith's self-definition.
 
 
Spaniel
11:05 / 21.04.06
Rothkoid, I really don't think this case bears comparison with Is Barbelith Dying etc... Okay, so certain posters tend to fulfill certain roles in situations like this, and, yes, we do tend to have long discussions about what should be done, but surely long discussions are anything but robotically cyclical or scripted behaviour, surely they're *how we do things around here* because *we value debate and discussion and don't value kneejerk reactions and generalised responses*.
And no Tom isn't the final arbiter in all cases, in fact as far as I can recall it's pretty much only in cases where Tom could get in legal troubles that he steps in and makes a unilateral decision.
 
 
invisible_al
11:35 / 21.04.06
I think Evil Scientist has nailed my thinking on this, that there are many interesting discussions of feminism and allied subjects that get turned into the 'The Shadowsax Show' and the orginal subject is lost beneath the waves.

Connect that with people saying that they don't feel able to discuss some subjects in his presence and you have the problem right there.

I don't see the issue with politely asking him to leave as his presence is making the normal functioning of the board as a place for intelligent discussion much more difficult.
 
 
Smoothly
12:16 / 21.04.06
I’ve kept quiet in this thread because I haven’t been around consistently enough to be able to get properly involved. I also feel oddly conflicted, but inarticulate about what exactly.
I think ShadowSax is tricky because he forces me to rethink some of my basic standards about these things. For example, a willingness to *engage* is key for me and SS has actually engaged here. But as others have lamented, it’s just not quite the right sort of engagement (as if he’s not actually engaging with *himself* in a way I haven’t really seen before) and it’s all the more frustrating for it.

I’m generally more willing than some to give the benefit of the doubt, and I tend to be optimistic that members can grow from inauspicious beginnings. As Toksik and Duncan have mentioned, lots of people here have said stupid, arguably offensive and unacceptable things, and yet converted it. Just when I have thought SS might get near to doing that, it turns out to be a dummy.

Basically, I’d ideally like ShadowSax to stay, and by staying to develop his approach. But it’s been a while now and I just don’t see evidence that he really grasps what that’s going to take.
I dunno. When I’m feeling optimistic, I think he should stay for a bit longer. Other times I feel that he’s just going to be a drag and should probably be cut loose for everyone’s sake.
 
 
rising and revolving
13:38 / 21.04.06
I have a lot of thoughts on this whole situation, but many of them have already been put forward by others, better.

The one thing I would like to see happen, if SS *is* banned, is a clear understanding of why. To me, that still feels lacking in the discussion - especially since SS has been interacting with the discussion (if not engaging).

The reason I think this is key is because, like it or not, this is going to set the precedent for future bannings on Barbelith. Denying that is very foolish - the very first post in this thread speaks to the precedents we've already set.

Now, I don't think anyone during the Zoemancer situation was actually trying to set a precedent. They were merely trying to deal with the clear and present issue. Regardless, the precedent is set.

This will have the same effect, and I'd be very happy indeed if people were able to clarify what precedent, exactly, they would like to be set by banning SS.

There are many reasons throughout these 9 pages of discussion. Some of them I agree with. Others represent a slippery slope in terms of the rationale not being very applicable. I think it behooves us all to spend some time thinking about not merely the solution to todays problem, but the Barbe-law that we're laying down for the future and how comfortable we are with that.

One reason that I'm actually behind is that SS is pissing off (and causing to not be present) posters I value far higher than him. Best summarised by Illmatic w/

If this is having the effect that many posters I like, many of whom I value as friends (Nina, Mordant and others) are deeply angered and are therefore not posting - well, to me, the negatives of his presence are outweighing any positves, and I'd be happy for him to be shown the door.

So, better to keep people like Nina than SS, sure. If that is the precedent we're setting, though, we need to be very clear about it - because I'm not sure it's a good one. It is, however, a clear one. Piss off anyone with enough friends and you go. Like I say, I actually think this is appropriate for this case - but a bad precedent.

I thought (id) came up with a very concise summary of another position, which (from my reading) balanced upon the core description His arguments describe a world where there is no systematic oppression of women.

I think that's undoubtedly true. Is that the reason to ban, and is that the precedent we want to set? I find it more palatable than the first option here, in terms of long term application. It's much clearer and seems a lot more acceptable to me than the first.

Evil Scientist also presented a POV that I think would be actively dangerous as an ongoing precedent

If our words cause offence, even unintentionally, then they are offensive and it is the duty of the person who created them to address the hurt that they have done.

On this basis, we need to move to ban Flyboy and Haus next. They certainly offend plenty of people, and they rarely address the hurt they cause thereby. I very, very, strongly believe that mere offence should not be sufficient for banning. This has been put forward by several people (in one form or another) and I think it's bad for Barbelith.

So, there's my current position. If the reason put forward is

SS is pissing off my friends and causing them not to want to post : I abstain. I think it's the right call now, and the wrong call for the future.

His arguments describe a world where there is no systematic oppression of women : Yes to a ban on this basis.

He's offensive : No to a ban on this basis.

I really appreciate the level of debate that goes on around these matters. Barbelith is a changing and shifting sand - but the things that happen in Policy really do set the metre for the future of the 'lith.
 
 
ibis the being
13:49 / 21.04.06
Perhaps naively, I like to think there is a level of vitriol, humiliation and plain old contempt that would cause someone even as incapable of self-examination as SS to simply give up and slink away. If he were to be allowed to remain on the board, I pledge to get off my posting butt and challenge him when he is unpleasant, wrongheaded or offensive rather than ignoring him.

I have a similar inclination, but I'm afraid that anytime someone tries to challenge SS from now on they'll be met with a certain amount of "Hey, leave him alone, you're just backing him into a corner again."

This is essentially why I can't see SS continuing on the board in a workable fashion. How would that look? I can imagine a few possible scenarios -

1) ShadowSax stays and continues for the most part to post highly offensive, highly questionable, highly thread-rotting material on custody battles, the evils of feminism, bad mothers and what have you. Probably not likely to happen, as his most recent postings have indicated he has at least some desire to dilute his negative effect on the board.

2) ShadowSax stays and from now on posts completely inoffensive material and completely stays away from his pet projects for the remainder of his stay. I think this is also somewhat unlikely, though that's certainly arguable and I'm sure many would say too pessimistic.

3) ShadowSax stays and posts mainly inoffensive material, but occasionally, given what seems to be the partly subconcious nature of his misogynistic feelings, his posts contain some of the old sexism and hatred of women we've seen from him in the past. I believe this is the most likely scenario by far, and also the most problematic because of the options that WE have in responding to him. Either we let his offensive statements stand, which as several people have stated they don't want to do, or we call him on them. However, so many people have already said that they fail to see misogyny (or homophobia or anti-Semitism) in what has already been posted, and they agree with SS that he's been misinterpreted, and they've sprung to his defense in various degrees - it's probably guaranteed that any time he's called out in the future we're going to fall back into this same old mess of arguing about whether he is or isn't being offensive and whether people are or aren't being too harsh with him. This scenario would be incredibly disruptive, divisive, and unproductive.
 
 
ShadowSax
13:55 / 21.04.06
i have to say that i appreciate both tom's comments and those of several others who've found this thread in the past several hours.

if it helps at all, i'm going to return to my rule of not discussing political issues on an internet forum.

i dont ask for anything in return. i dont offer that up as a last ditch effort to not be banned, i'm just letting you know that i've come to that conclusion, whatever is decided.

i sort of take issue with being labeled as someone trying to play the victim. really, i'm trying to step back from confrontational speech, and if, in doing so, it seems like i'm playing the martyr, that is unintentional.

i understand that if it's decided that i'm not banned, everything i say for a period of time (somewhere between now and forever), everything i say will be read thru a skeptical filter. that would be my job to overcome, but i've no interest in overcoming it by changing my name or hiding my identity. indeed, we reap what we sow, and, while i often have regrets about everything from what i ate for lunch yesterday to the way i handled that breakup 10 yrs ago to what i may have written at some point, i stand behind all of my actions as wholly mine, and i accept responsibility for them as someone who always tries to express his opinions as openly and honestly as possible, both in the effort to learn and in the effort to communicate. it's all life and some things have worked out and some havent. but i dont wish to pretend that i can manufacture another persona in order to have people react to me new. i dont look at the internet that way; i dont feel that the internet is a thing unto itself, it's simply another way of communicating with people, and we cant wear a new mask to the office if we do something stupid, so i dont intend to try that here, either.

i agree with the comment that this handwringing in this thread is to some degree a poor use of time. at the very least, tho, i do hope that it offers the forum something to move forward on in terms of dealing with things. at the very least, i hope that it gave some of you something like an atom of confidence that i can behave myself, that i take the idea of trusted community seriously, and that i've made an effort to meet the community on some common terms.

if anyone walks to talk some ginsberg, i'll be checking the howl thread throughout the day, otherwise, mebbe i'll see you here or there; your call on if it's here, or there. i appreciate the thought that so many people have put into this.

cheers.
 
 
Elijah, Freelance Rabbi
14:07 / 21.04.06
Good post R and R.

I feel kind of strange in this thread. I have an on again off again love affair with Barbelith, and because of that I have missed a lot of the historical events over the years. The last banning discussion I remember being around for was the unpronounceable guy from technoccult who was web parking grantmorrison.com.

With that having been said, I have read this thread, and the items that have been linked, and have come to the conclusion that if SS decided to give me the secret meaning of life I would rather not learn it to avoid conversing with him.

He reminds me of a friend of mine, in his argument style. Whenever an issue comes up that he feels he knows more about then the person he is talking with (which he perceives as most of the time) he starts waving his hands in the air, making some nebulous point, and then asks a question which, when answered, with either damn you as ignorant or negate your earlier points.

It seems clear that SS is using rhetorical forms in his posts, the question is what form are they taking. I do not think he is trying to cover his ass, so to speak, with these tricks, because the content of his posts comes through pretty clearly. I think his rhetorical style is more of a means to try and back any opponent into a corner until their ideas become "less" then his.

I am having a hard time deciding where I stand on the banning issue. On one side he is obviously upsetting people on the board, and that is a bad thing, but as RandR said above, a lot of people upset others on Barbelith. If we ban SS for upsetting people, is that saying that insulting soeone based on their genitals is worse then upsetting someone on the basis of your perception of their intelligence, or calling someone a peice of shit? I think this needs to be clarified whatever the outcome of this thread is.

On the other hand his discussion style is annoying, and has had me headdeasking a few times while I read through the threads he has posted in.

I think, since I was not around for the most recent bannings, I need to abstain from this one, because I am not really here enough to try and set policy for the future. Sorry for the long winded post which led nowhere.
 
 
Evil Scientist
17:07 / 21.04.06
Full quote:

But that isn't the case on Barbelith is it? Each and every member has the responisibilty to own the words they post. It is the writer, not the reader, who must justify what they have written and qualify the context in which it is meant. If our words cause offence, even unintentionally, then they are offensive and it is the duty of the person who created them to address the hurt that they have done.

You make some good points Rising and Revolving, but I'd like to make it clear I'm not supporting banning for simply causing offence. My comments here were in response to Shadowsax's own comments in which he laid the blame for this whole situation upon the people who had misunderstood what he was saying (thereby absolving himself of all responsibility for the offence he had caused).

My support of the ban is simply because of Shadowsax's continued misogyny and unwillingness to accept fault or change his attitudes to avoid offending people simply because they're XX where he's XY.

Shadowsax,

i understand that if it's decided that i'm not banned, everything i say for a period of time (somewhere between now and forever), everything i say will be read thru a skeptical filter. that would be my job to overcome, but i've no interest in overcoming it by changing my name or hiding my identity.

If you manage to stay on the board (and it's looking possible you might) then you will have to work bloody hard to build up a level of trust. It will probably be extremely tough to do that in your current ficsuit. But that, at least, would show a willingness to take responsibilty.
 
 
ShadowSax
17:27 / 21.04.06
to clarify, respectfully, evil scientist:

My comments here were in response to Shadowsax's own comments in which he laid the blame for this whole situation upon the people who had misunderstood what he was saying (thereby absolving himself of all responsibility for the offence he had caused).

i believe i've taken responsibility for my posts and their tone and how i could have done things differently. as posts slow down here, i dont want that to become lost for people who read your statement.

My support of the ban is simply because of Shadowsax's continued misogyny and unwillingness to accept fault or change his attitudes to avoid offending people simply because they're XX where he's XY

just to be clear, misogyny is an attitude, which cannot be gleamed from a series of posts, and i do stand by the statement that that perception of me is something you and others have misinterpreted. that doesnt mean i'm absolving myself of why you've misinterpreted my statements. but, i do believe in the same rights and freedoms for all people, and i do believe that no race, ethnicity or gender or any other group is inherently better or worse than any other, nor that any group is inherently inclined to think/feel/act one way or another. i understand that i've posted statements that can be interpreted as being anything from ironically to flagrently offensive, but they were never meant to offend one group over another.
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
17:32 / 21.04.06
misogyny is an attitude, which cannot be gleamed from a series of posts

Yes it can.
 
 
Aertho
17:45 / 21.04.06
Misogyny is an attitude that can be interpreted from a series of posts, SS. I'm sure that interpretation is, and has always been, the issue at hand here. With that in mind:

that doesnt mean i'm absolving myself of why you've misinterpreted my statements.

What do you mean when you say this? The emphasis on "why" indicates what seems as a bit of sarcasm, or perhaps another level of information that escapes me. Please tell.
 
 
ShadowSax
17:51 / 21.04.06
What do you mean when you say this? The emphasis on "why" indicates what seems as a bit of sarcasm, or perhaps another level of information that escapes me. Please tell.

what i mean is that, absolutely, positively, without any question whatsoever, the way i've said the things that i've said has contributed to some readers believing that they can read an attitude of misogyny into them. i dont mean this sarcastically.
 
 
Aertho
17:54 / 21.04.06
Oh. Well then. Thank you.
 
 
illmatic
17:55 / 21.04.06
I don't think that SS is a misogynist.

However, as Boboss said above, I do think that to advocate pushing back women's rights is damaging and misogynistic in a political and social sense.

Splitting hairs maybe but there you go.
 
 
P. Horus Rhacoid
17:58 / 21.04.06
R&R said:

SS is pissing off my friends and causing them not to want to post : I abstain. I think it's the right call now, and the wrong call for the future.

His arguments describe a world where there is no systematic oppression of women : Yes to a ban on this basis.

He's offensive : No to a ban on this basis.



I don't think you can necessarily separate out the different reasons that people have brought up as arguments for banning. Offending people on its own probably shouldn't be grounds for banning, but you can't separate "Shadowsax is offending people" from why Shadowsax is offending people, so I don't think the comparison to Haus and Flyboy holds up. Likewise with people not wanting to post while he's around- they react negatively to his presence on the board because he offends them which is inextricably tied to his attitudes towards woman. None of the reasons you identified exist in a vacuum. What I mean is that, if a ban occurs, it won't be setting one reason as a precedent but rather all of them in tandem.
 
 
ShadowSax
18:02 / 21.04.06
However, as Boboss said above, I do think that to advocate pushing back women's rights is damaging and misogynistic in a political and social sense.

well, this is getting to the real topics, and this isnt the place for it, but as long as we're all being nice to each other,...

to clarify, i dont advocate pushing back women's rights; i never advocated that, and i dont wish to convey that. i advocate advancing all rights for all people. we dont have a perfect system, and, unfortunately, the advancement of some rights sometimes causes problems for others. i feel that the (valid) advancement of some rights for women as a group may have helped to cause an unfair legal system, particularly in family law. thats it.

i would hope that, as time goes on, people of currently disparate groups can start to find common ground and advance personal rights with fewer limitations to groups. groups serve to divide.
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
18:10 / 21.04.06
to clarify, i dont advocate pushing back women's rights; i never advocated that, and i dont wish to convey that.

Misrepresenting the current situation as one in which the feminists have won and hold all the power amounts to the same thing, my misogynistic friend!
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
18:18 / 21.04.06
I'd just like to thank fred, encore for this post, (id)entity for the one a few posts below, and many other posters, of all gender-identities, who have argued for why ShadowSax needs to be banned. I'd like to express my appreciation for their willingness to engage, my concern about their feelings, and my apologies if they have been at all upset by this thread. I think we should all be very grateful to them for not just posting a string of insults, as that would be an understanable response to this thread.
 
 
ShadowSax
18:28 / 21.04.06
His arguments describe a world where there is no systematic oppression of women

if you asked me if i'm arguing that there is no systematic oppression of women in the world, i would say no. there is plenty of oppression of women.

my arguments were limited to 1. family law and 2. a legal situation that involved no proof of crime, and the descriptions of both alleged victims and alleged perpetrators.

actually, i used one thread in switchboard to try to define some middle eastern societies as in part less advanced as some parts of western societies, partially due to those societies' treatment of women. in that thread, i was told that i was being ethnocentric.
 
 
ShadowSax
18:29 / 21.04.06
Misrepresenting the current situation as one in which the feminists have won and hold all the power amounts to the same thing, my misogynistic friend!

i never said feminists hold all the power.
 
  

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