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Things that you find really attractive/exciting that aren't the 'hey bits!' norm

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17:19 / 01.02.06

Women with electric guitars really rocking out (in the parlance of our times), in fact anyone in a good band enjoying themselves on stage.
Also women who know how to smoke well (a vague and subjective description I know), which is really quite bizarre as I'm not a big smoker myself.

20:02 / 01.02.06

For some reason I find myself turned on by emergency room doctors and nurses doing their thing, rushing about.

I dunno if it's the helping people out or the blue outfits, so maybe a uniform thing (but I'm not talking about your nurse in a miniskirt fantasies here, I mean they're wearing overalls).

So every now and then when a friend ends up in the emergency room late at night, and we end up waiting for them to come out...

*sigh*

Dunno maybe it's them being all competent and saving lives under duress thing. Does it for me every time.

Whisky Priestess

20:13 / 01.02.06

Non-smokers smoking (and smokers too, for that matter, but especially non-smokers. I love to observe their corruption.)

Good drivers.

Piano players. Other instruments are cool, but piano playing is sexy. Maybe it's the two-hands thing?

People wearing glasses who don't normally wear them.

Good, unselfconscious dancers, male or female.

Het boys kissing. SWOOOOOOOOOON.

People discussing anything passionately, even if they're wrong.

20:21 / 01.02.06

I don't think this is too unusual (and taking from previous posts, it's not) but women who sing turn me on soooo much...

I enjoy watching people do almost anything which absorbs them in a connection with their body-- martial arts forms being the obvious example

Hey, I do martial arts. Am I attractive now?????

22:17 / 01.02.06

I find it very alluring when someone climbs with a great degree of skill

I misread this as "climbs a tree with a great degree of skill" and thought wow, that's really... specific.

22:59 / 01.02.06

Something else about smokers. I’m an ex-smoker and I sometimes kinda get the impression that I’m *supposed* to hate the smell of smokers now, but I totally love how smokers smell and taste. Stolen smoke, mmm. It’s, like, it’s what I got my sense of smell back for, all the better to really enjoy all the unusual flavours that smokers have to offer.

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23:05 / 01.02.06

DM-- depends, are you any good?

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23:06 / 01.02.06

By which I mean, of course, can you kick my ass and make me like it?

23:09 / 01.02.06

Ooh, I at first read a slightly different word than like.

STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK

23:39 / 01.02.06

Yeah to the smoking thing, but I think that's largely down to the FACT!!! that smoking IS!!! both big and clever. It's like swearing, only a bit sexier.

I always find it quite heart-pounding when the object of my desire suddenly reveals an interest in, knowledge of or passion for something I didn't already know they were into. (It doesn't have to be something I'm into myself, as long as it's not something I'm opposed to. Bringing out a rant on the Protocols of the Elders of Zion, or a love of Social Darwinism, for example, would be something of a passion-killer). I think I like the fact that people are complex, and I like the ones I care about (or at the very least fancy) to surprise me with their complexity. All the best relationships I've ever had have been made just that bit better by the fact that, despite closeness and openness and familiarity and all the rest of it, you can STILL keep having "fucking hell! I never would have thought THAT was your thing!!!" moments.
That, and girls who read a lot, and furthermore like talking about books a lot. I think it gives my inner alienated adolescent hope.

You all thought I was gonna say drinking, didn't you?

23:50 / 01.02.06

Another vote for smoking. The more they appear to be enjoying it the better. Related to that, I think, people who touch their faces in that slightly nervous way. In fact, I find something very attractive about all kinds of slightly nervous behaviours. There's a certain sense of alertness that some people give off, a kind of self-consciousness - not in the sense of shyness or awkwardness, but an awareness of themselves physically, and what's going on around them. Agile, active eyes, people who talk quickly and intensely, are aware of where everything around them is, a kind of plugged-in-ness. That slow, dreamy, languid nonchalance of the smoldering screen goddess leaves me cold.

I also have a bit of a thing for certain speech impediments. I knew one person whose sloshing sibilants had a particularly powerful effect on me.

00:12 / 02.02.06

Visually speaking, smoking is sexy. It's too bad it smells like monkey jankles.

00:24 / 02.02.06

Take your word for it. But I like that smell, personally.

00:51 / 02.02.06

Smoking is sexy, but only certain people doing it. The bogan slapper down the pub dragging on her hundredth Winnie Red, is definitely not sexy.

Nervous Behaviour: I love it when people (male of female) walk into a room and immediately feel self-conscious and out of place, but not scared or intimidated. Sexy but, again, don't know why?

01:24 / 02.02.06

DM-- depends, are you any good?

My master says I have "talent"

By which I mean, of course, can you kick my ass and make me like it?

ooooh, yes, baby...

01:26 / 02.02.06

I do like the taste of the mouth of a smoking girl, but only when I'm on a "trash", SM mood... which happens rouglhy once every full moon, give or take.

Disco is My Class War

01:38 / 02.02.06

I really like people doing physical things well, poise, etc, but there's something unbearably sexy about physical awkwardness. A particular kind of awkward, nervous self-consciousness, especially in people who are usually tough and difficult to 'crack'. Boys and butches, in particular. It makes me feel predatory and protective all at the same time.

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01:48 / 02.02.06

Unfortunately, I find people who say things like "Oooh, yes baby" unbearably UNsexy. Especially if they say it in type. But best wishes.

09:00 / 02.02.06

I like to watch people concentrating really hard on doing something that they're not quite adept at doing. Not quite sure why, but it is more interesting and involving to me that watching someone who is really good at x thing doing that thing. I'm not sure whether this is actually a teh Sex thing.

09:56 / 02.02.06

The bogan slapper

if my understanding of australian slang is correct, and it is, you would appear to be saying you dont mind smoking as long as it isnt done by poor people.

bogan is not better than chav just because we dont know what it means, dude.

10:05 / 02.02.06

I always find it quite heart-pounding when the object of my desire suddenly reveals an interest in, knowledge of or passion for something I didn't already know they were into.

That's a good one. I love finding out about things that I had no clue someone was into. Especially dangerous and weird things.

Less searchable M0rd4nt

10:09 / 02.02.06

there's something unbearably sexy about physical awkwardness... Boys and butches, in particular. It makes me feel predatory and protective all at the same time.

Ohyeah.

Less searchable M0rd4nt

10:12 / 02.02.06

(PS: um, sort of what toksik said re. bogan.)

ONLY NICE THINGS

10:13 / 02.02.06

there's something unbearably sexy about physical awkwardness... Boys and butches, in particular. It makes me feel predatory and protective all at the same time.

This is one brain in a jar who's having a fine time in the Old Town tonight.

11:08 / 02.02.06

I get really turned on by lonely women with lots of money.

lord nuneaton savage

11:29 / 02.02.06

Ladies who drink pints and say "cunt".

Once again; hungover. Once again; Randy. This thread isn't helping actually.

Disco is My Class War

11:46 / 02.02.06

Thirding the usage of 'bogan'. I would contest slightly the equivalence of 'bogan' and 'chav' -- different countries, not quite the same thing, but still. Poor, trashy women smoking is 'disgusting'; a rich, well-dressed woman smoking is 'sexy'. Now there's someone who hasn't been influenced by cigarette advertising...

Also, someone is bound to point this out, but don't any of you straight-boys-who-must-constantly-declare-your-straightness find some attributes sexy in anyone? (I'd have to exempt stoatie and Solitaire Rose from this group, given the complexity of their responses.) There's a really weird difference in this thread between the people who start with "Women/girls/ladies who xxxxxx..." and those who just talk about the particular attribute without specifiyng a gender. It smacks of heteropanic to me. Just sayin'.

11:52 / 02.02.06

What's heteropanic?

Less searchable M0rd4nt

12:03 / 02.02.06

Is it still odd to drink pints if you're a bird then? That's really funny. I don't know many women who don't drink pints, and they generally don't drink full stop.

12:06 / 02.02.06

heteropanic?
check my first post again, and then maybe consider naming who exactly you are talking about.
you might also wanna watch yer assumptions regarding the sexuality and gender of those posting about girls.

12:14 / 02.02.06

I like watching my girlfriend read comics or play computer games. Mind, it's probably the novelty of it, but dang she looks sooooo cute with a furrowed brow playing Tetris. hmmmm

Less searchable M0rd4nt

12:26 / 02.02.06

There's a really weird difference in this thread between the people who start with "Women/girls/ladies who xxxxxx..." and those who just talk about the particular attribute without specifiyng a gender. It smacks of heteropanic to me. Just sayin'.

You've got a point there, but on the other hand a lot of the female + [activity] = sexy equations seem to be powered by the fact that [activity] is at odds with common cultural stereotypes of women (smoking, drinking, swearing, rocking the fuck out ect). Specifying gender in that context isn't necessarily irrelevant, although it can start to look a bit twitchy like you say.

There also seems to be a sense of class-specification creeping in under the preferred gender banner: a lady doing something is not the same as a woman doing something. Lady specifies a bit of poshness and polish to set off the cigarette or the pint of lager; it gives the reader to understand that we're not talking about someone who's rocking her third kid to sleep in the buggy with the toe of her trainer whilst dragging on a Winfield Red (or adjusting her tie and eyeing up your girlfriend).

ONLY NICE THINGS

12:38 / 02.02.06

I'm sorry, but I'm loving the unintentional comedy of Mister D commenting on the preponderance of "a girl who..." heteropoint, followed almost immediately by John raising the stakes with "My. Girl. Friend."

Thirding on bogan, incidentally.

Less searchable M0rd4nt

12:38 / 02.02.06

Are we a dogpile yet?

12:39 / 02.02.06

There's a really weird difference in this thread between the people who start with "Women/girls/ladies who xxxxxx..." and those who just talk about the particular attribute without specifiyng a gender.

And this really weird difference is?
Mister Disco seems to be suggesting that some people in this thread are victims of ‘heteropanic’, whatever that is. I gather this is related to the assertion that there are straight-boys-who-must-constantly-declare-your-straightness here, although the only people named are Stoatie and Solitaire Rose (although they are given an exemption here because of their complex responses to this particular question).
I want to know more about the nature of this weird difference, the diagnosis of heteropanic, and where these constant declarations of straightness are.

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