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Things that you find really attractive/exciting that aren't the 'hey bits!' norm

 
  

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Goodness Gracious Meme
23:52 / 31.01.06
Have just been reminded by a conversation elsewhre, that I love watching people play the piano really bloody well.

I'm a ok pianist, can play a bit, but watching really good people play the piano is something I find really beautiful and sexy.

Doesn't matter really what the rest of them is like, watching someone play the piano really well=*swoon*
 
 
ibis the being
00:28 / 01.02.06
This is a bit vague, but I get shivery feelings watching someone confidently take charge in a situation where tasks have to be delegated, plans have to be organized, and someone needs to lead the group. That sounds really fucking nerdy I know. I'm turned on by competent leadership, ooooh sexay.
 
 
Goodness Gracious Meme
00:30 / 01.02.06
vague is fine. alot of these things are. (they might well, and probably do have assumptions beind them, but the attractions often are, well, vague.)
 
 
alas
00:36 / 01.02.06
Gosh, watching anyone do anything really well is pretty much a turn on, innit? Like watching someone who's really good at driving. Or, on the piano line, playing drums. Or making a good meal. I really love watching people prepare food--chopping vegetables, etc. They don't actually even have to be that good at it, come to think of it.

I think it's partly the fact of sitting in a kitchen, which I love to do, while someone else is working and making conversation while they busy themselves. Actually, I also like being watched while I cook, for that matter...
 
 
Shrug
00:47 / 01.02.06
If people are intractably amiable and reasonable under a barrage of verbal abuse or general irrationality I normally begin to think about them very differently. I'm not sure if and I hope that it isn't that I think "Wow they sure can take alot of shit and keep smilling, possible relationship maybe?". I guess I like someone with a sliver of something Pollyanna-esque in them.
 
 
Sean the frumious Bandersnatch
02:40 / 01.02.06
For me to be really into a girl she needs to be funny, which is important to me but doesn't seem to matter that much to most other guys.

Also, I've got a thing for noses which isn't all that common a thing to obsess over. Noses and hair are the first things I notice in a woman and what leave the most lasting impressions. Not that weird, but not all too normal either.
 
 
De Selby
02:44 / 01.02.06
I love seeing women speak another language. There's something very sexy about seeing strange words come out of a familiar mouth..... don't know why.

Oh and accents, but then just about everyone likes accents.
 
 
8===>Q: alyn
04:35 / 01.02.06
I love girls who are into internet message boards.
 
 
Goodness Gracious Meme
04:37 / 01.02.06
that's not particularly selective.
 
 
Goodness Gracious Meme
04:47 / 01.02.06
or interesting.
 
 
*
05:08 / 01.02.06
I enjoy watching people do almost anything which absorbs them in a connection with their body-- martial arts forms being the obvious example, but also dancing, stretching, enjoying the texture of something soft; even eating something really tasty-- so long as it locates the focus of their attention in the physical enjoyment of the moment.

On a possibly TMI note-- the person I'm currently in a relationship with is a great kisser. One of the things I like about his kissing style is that he actually employs noses, rather than being awkward with them or just keeping them out of the way. I am really surprised that I find this such a turn-on... I never realized before what a waste it is to just spare a thought to keeping one's nose out of the way, when one could be nuzzling with it. How odd.
 
 
Solitaire Rose as Tom Servo
05:15 / 01.02.06
I always find it attractive when a woman tells me about something she's REALLY passionate about that has to do with the arts or writing. There's a spark there that just sends me.

Also, when a woman gets into something geeky, like bad movies or a TV show...as long as they don't go over the edge. I had a female friend who I got along with, but wasn't really close to, until she confessed her undying love of Scully on "The X-Files".

I'm such a dweeb.
 
 
HCE
10:44 / 01.02.06
Photobooths, handwriting, a small pile of personal items (such as eyeglasses, wristwatch, pen) set aside while bathing or sleeping, the way people handle their cups and glasses while they drink from or fiddle with them, the way people push their hair out of their eyes.
 
 
lord nuneaton savage
10:50 / 01.02.06
Also on a hair tip; the way a ladies hair falls onto their shoulders. The way it looks spread over a pillow.
Mmmm.

Sorry; hungover and slightly randy.
 
 
Char Aina
11:06 / 01.02.06
faraway looks.

they rock especially hard if followed by a quick decisive physical move towards some unknown goal, possibly with a sharp exclamation such as "Right."
i like dreamers, but i like them more when they wake up and invite you to breakfast to discuss Phase One.

the right shoes and an unkempt head of hair are good too, and the unspoken understanding that you could quite easily get your ass kicked if the need arose.
 
 
8===>Q: alyn
11:20 / 01.02.06
that's not particularly selective.

Well I am not a big snob like some people.
 
 
8===>Q: alyn
11:22 / 01.02.06
However I do have a big nob.

Well, it's not especially big, but I don't think I could stand one more pun to my disadvantage today.
 
 
Char Aina
11:27 / 01.02.06
For me to be really into a girl she needs to be funny, which is important to me but doesn't seem to matter that much to most other guys.

burds wi'banter!
definitely.
my last ex was well funny, and she could take the proper-piss.
funny girls are rare, in my experience. i'm sure its a sense of humour issue, but i find more girls who laugh at my jokes than who make me laugh.
its possible i am just less polite than the ladies i meet.


funny can make sexy in a way that sexy cant make funny, i reckon.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
11:34 / 01.02.06
They may be conditioned to laugh politely at bad jokes.
 
 
Char Aina
11:49 / 01.02.06
well, i wouldnt go quite so far as to call being raised well conditioning...

maybe my "laugh or i will cry" t shirt has something to do with it as well.
 
 
Chiropteran
12:22 / 01.02.06
'Funny' is a big thing for me, as well - sharp and quick, without being mean-spirited (my wife is brilliant in this department). Hands always draw my attention, irrespective of gender (I generally identify het', but I've crushed on guys for their hands) - slender and strong, long-fingered, lightly calloused (the line from Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon about Yu Shu Lien's hands being rough from saber practice...*swoon*).
 
 
modern maenad
13:47 / 01.02.06
I have a bit of thing for guys who are a bit chubby/beer bellied. I'm just not into the athletic look at all. I find all that self control and discipline a bit scary. Give me hedonism and a little fallibilty any day.
 
 
bitchiekittie
14:26 / 01.02.06
random acts of kindness cause me to swoon, and an easy sense of humor will capture my lust in an instant. a quick wit that is ever present but never arrogantly displayed engages my interest like nothing else.

watching anyone who is very talented while they utilize their craft, whatever that may be. there's a confidence in their movements and a general air of contentment (even if they are in the midst of struggling for their work) that I find incredibly appealing. this is doubly true when their hands are involved - hands at work are intensely attractive.

a person's smell, the way they move, they way they talk and laugh when they don't realize that they're being observed. a passion for something uncommon.
 
 
bitchiekittie
14:31 / 01.02.06
also their capacity to find fun, to make it wherever they go. or to create peace for themselves, contentment in their lot.

and someone who is passionate about food, knows a lot about it and loves to indulge.
 
 
Goodness Gracious Meme
14:38 / 01.02.06
(oh, and I do not mean to suggest with this thread that there is anything wrong with the 'hey bits' norm. Just wanted to hear about other people's 'piano hands'.)
 
 
BlueMeanie
14:51 / 01.02.06
I find it very alluring when someone climbs with a great degree of skill - to the point where a complex route is made to look effortless.

I also am very attracted to someone who can talk in great detail about a subject they know incredibly well, and can easily teach it, no matter how complicated. I love it when someone has an infectious enthusiasm for their subject.

And quiet confidence, that's good too.
 
 
Suedey! SHOT FOR MEAT!
15:00 / 01.02.06
Being able to tell me to shut up.
 
 
Supaglue
15:10 / 01.02.06
Shut up Suedey.

(Are we dating now?)
 
 
iamus
15:23 / 01.02.06
Look, all of you. I know you like me but come on. My ears are burning here.
 
 
matthew.
15:25 / 01.02.06
My ideal mate would be Nora to my Nick. Banter, essentially. Also, I want my mate to be really really bitchy to other people, bitchy in the sharp wit sense. So funny and sharp-witted that I cackle everytime she opens her mouth.
 
 
JOY NO WRY
15:40 / 01.02.06
An associate of mine is a dance student. Now she's pretty, but no model. And she might be smart but I don't know because she never says all that much. But when she walks, or when she stretches, something smooth is going on. It makes a man shiver.
 
 
Quantum
15:48 / 01.02.06
Funny, I was going to say walking- easy grace, poise, elegance or just generally being a smooth mover. Much more so walking than dancing, but really people become sexy when they move nicely IMVHO.
 
 
Char Aina
16:11 / 01.02.06
poise is good.
that almost instinctive sense of one's body and the mastery of things physical that comes as a result both lend themselves to poise, and often manifest in other ways as well.

walking and dancing, sure.
but also sitting, standing, welding, skating, punching, playing guitar, smoking cigarettes, writing notes, or even pushing a trolley round a supermarket.

all of it.

with poise, even reading this post is hot.
 
 
Red Cross Iodized Salt
16:34 / 01.02.06
Seeing someone involved in an animated conversation where lots of laughing and excited gesturing is involved. I'm picturing a particular person when thinking of this, but it kind of applies to anyone that I know and enjoy the company of and have had similar funny / excited conversations with. There's something about how people's faces look when they're laughing together that you only really see if you're temporarily outside the conversation and not focused on anything else. I guess it reminds me of why I like spending time with them in the first place (while also making me pleased to see them having fun).
 
 
pointless & uncalled for
16:35 / 01.02.06
Quietness and stillness work very well for me. There's no need to gabber and bounce around for every moment of the day and I delight in watching someone just stop for a moment and let a moment pass them like a wave breaking around a rock.

Also drop-handled racing bikes equal double sexiness. Sorry, that should be double the carbon neutral sexiness, the best kind there. And would it kill you to get a chainring tattoo on the inside of your calf?
 
  

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