In his defense, DM can't be that heteropanicked, did you not see him flirting with me earlier this thread? (Unless he thinks I'm a laydee, which is only not amusing because of my overexposure to the phenomenon.)
More things-- I like to see people standing calmly and stoically in the rain. (If it's a gentle rain. I'm not a sadist. Well, not much.) I like the physical appearance of the beading water on people's hair, clothing, and eyelashes, and the combination of quiet dignity and both vulnerability to the elements and their lack of effect, as if to say "Yes, I can be touched by rain, but I can't be touched by rain."
I like to see men near tears. Again, not because I'm a sadist; it can be happy tears or just being moved by a sad movie. And yes, this is a gender-specific one, although I suspect it would also work with a woman I thought of as particularly hard.
Speaking of which, Haus, you said: In which context, the reprivileging of the physical body through the back door - by specifying the gender of the person in whom you find that behaviour attractive - might be seen as significant. But that's assuming that for all the posters, gender = physical body (or more exactly, physical body -> gender). For me, unless I specifically say "non-trans men" or "male-assigned men" or something similar, when I say "men" it means man-identified people regardless of their body type (although obviously attraction is trickier than that). I hope that's true for at least one or two others here who have gender-specific attractions. It may be a slim hope, however. Even though for many posters gender ambiguity seems to be an attraction in certain contexts, it has to be a safe kind of gender ambiguity, accompanied by all the "right" physical cues. For example, a woman who is read as a trans woman, cursing, downing pints, and smoking a cigarette, even if she is attractive and seems wealthy or classy or whatever the other criteria, might not be considered attractive in the same way-- her gender ambiguity is contextualized differently. This is a really common double standard applied to trans people. Men who are gentle are defying gender stereotypes; trans men who are gentle are simply falling prey to their female conditioning.
Ooh, sorry, this is convo, isn't it? I also like people who speak languages I don't understand. |
[inside joke refering to another thread]