It really is amazing how crazy love makes people, isn't it? I mean, it's clear as day to most posters to this thread that moving in with someone who has happily exploited your emotional vulnerability for their own ends is a hideously bad idea, but, somewhere in the back of Phobias' mind, is a little voice egging him on, telling him that it might be okay, that she probably loves him really, or will learn to. I know this, because I, like most people with an ounce of romantic experience, have been there, and suffered for it.
To add my voice to the chorus, Phobias, no matter what that voice promises you, no matter how it twists the facts, it *is* talking out of its arse - it's all it knows how to do, and it does it sooo well, but it must be ignored.
For all those suggesting that he go through with it, first I would ask you to consider why he is entertaining the notion - it ain't so he can experience some detached jollies, I can assure you of that much. As for garnering some valuable life experience, I would suggest that taking control and getting rid of her for good - proving to himself that he can do it - would at the very, very least be as valuable as putting himself through the emotional kicking looming on the horizon.
Phobias, you seem like a refreshingly self-aware fellow, you should take advantage of that. |
