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'Nesh I agree, but would venture that relatively few would possess the necessary emotional clarity to view the situation with such amused detachment. Perhaps I'm doing Phobias a disservice but, based on what he's written so far, I certainly don't think he does.
No disservice at all. While I felt a certain amount of detached amusement toward the ridiculousness of the whole thing before she moved away- it was the best way I found to deal with it- it was always coupled with a sense of resignation that I was in fact emotionally attached to her, and that yes, I was hanging around in my room on a saturday night and not going out with my friends because I was torn up about it. Having had to think things through to make this thread, and having read people's responses, it's becoming increasingly clear that no, I am not Over Her. Listening to her get porked by the boyfriend would not, I think, do wonders for my emotional well-being. I do see what you're saying, Mirror, and I value bizarre and fucked-up friendships, I don't think I could muster the necessary detachment.
GGM You're just hoping that someone can come up with a compelling reason as to why it is a good idea, because you want to be close to her.
Alas Gotta agree with all the wiseheads around here. I mean, whether you intended to or not, you've framed the whole description of the relationship in such a way that we couldn't possibly say, "Oh, yes, ask her to move in, and give her your credit card and bank account PIN." You do know what you need to do: Just Say No.
I think you're both pretty spot-on here.
Nina And also that hand holding thing... totally unacceptable unless you can call that person your special love bunny to their face and it makes them roll their eyes.
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