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I didn't post the the flirting thread, but that particular flirtation did have me concerned.
I suppose I've known you, Kali, on and off, for about six years. And, for a fair amount of that time, Barbelith has been a place where the mechanisms of your self-presentation have been ... challenged? Maybe just not _prioritised_. As Olulabelle says, you present as highly sexual, or more precisely highly and sometimes inappropriately sexualised. Barbelith was a place where, largely, that exchange of sexual contact for male attention was not generally agreed to as default. Your statements were not simply salivated over or accepted as defining you, but rather discussed. At times, you were pulled up for being monotonous or threadrotty. People were asking you what _else_ you were apart from your sexual display. It was an interest in a broader you.
Enter Dead Megatron, who does not so much offer male attention as spackle the walls with it on a half-hourly basis, and that paradigm smashes back into place and gets locked down solid. The possibility of Barbelith as transformative space has been shut off, and it just feels rather saddening. Of course, you're getting what you want, so it's not a privation in that sense, and there's a balance between healthy and tasty - nobody loves granola all the time. Nonetheless.
Of course, I am a withered old man with no love in his heart. But my ass is like steel. |
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