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Mister Six, whom all the girls
23:18 / 28.03.06
Wait... did Haus fight in a war? The quote does say anger is a weapon of war, right?
 
 
Aertho
23:30 / 28.03.06
I thought Haus was saying he was a sword.
 
 
Seth
00:27 / 29.03.06
Bloody brilliant posts (id)entity.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
02:40 / 29.03.06
But, instead of writing a long post explainning my position, so that people would have to think exactly like me

Literacy. It's like mind control.

Id: You assume that PMs have not been attempted so far in the struggle to make Mr Winky sleep silent. This is not a safe assumption. You also assume that talking about contributions to threads with take the form not of continuations of the discussion but as self-aggrandising koants is not relevant to a thread about why Barbelith may seem bad-tempered at present. This, again, strikes me as unsafe.
 
 
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02:50 / 29.03.06
Id: You assume that PMs have not been attempted so far in the struggle to make Mr Winky sleep silent. This is not a safe assumption.

You're right. I'm sorry.

You also assume that talking about contributions to threads with take the form not of continuations of the discussion but as self-aggrandising koants is not relevant to a thread about why Barbelith may seem bad-tempered at present. This, again, strikes me as unsafe.

I am under the impression that the thread is a discussion about how Barbelithians should respond to posts which strike them as undesirable, and in that sense, you are correct— your posts to DM were an example of one way to respond. So, indeed, they were very topical. In my defense I can only say I was considering the content of the posts, which seemed to me tangential, and overlooking the form, which was exemplary.
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
02:53 / 29.03.06
You know, it's 6:52 where I am, which makes it about ten to six in the morning in the UK.

I'm just sayin'.
 
 
De Selby
02:55 / 29.03.06
You also assume that talking about contributions to threads with take the form not of continuations of the discussion but as self-aggrandising koants is not relevant to a thread about why Barbelith may seem bad-tempered at present.

I think that sentence is a bit unsafe actually.

Anyway, why do you always have to pick apart everything DM says? Most of the time, you seem to argue about his use of language when it seems pretty obvious to me what he's trying to get across. Sure his metaphor was a little shit, and accompanied by a completely pointless story, but you jumped on it like he was denying the existence of oxygen or something...

Maybe you could just trust that he's trying (as he seems to be [although I haven't the time to read everything on here, so I'm working with what I've seen] ) and let the little things go? Its not like you were actually disagreeing with the points he was trying to raise, more the way he said it.

Is it too tense to call for a group hug?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
05:18 / 29.03.06
Never too tense for agroup hug, although sometimes the tension makes people a bit... overexcited.

Now, Alex, you've already got into a bit of cleft-stick situation: although you have not read everything, you are claiming the right to comment as if you have. In fact, you use two words in a single sentence - "always" and "everything" - to suggest to the reader that your perspective is total. So, we've got a problem there. It's the second paragraph before you admit the possibility that you're not actually qualified to make absolute statements. So, there's a further problem there. There's an issue in the language, as well - we've got some emotional verb choices - "jump on", and, as a break from the dreadful metaphor, a dreadful simile about ... oxygen denial?

So, how about we look at a "little thing" I did let go? This one, for example, in which DM shared his inability to empathise with gayers, because they don't like boobies, as a tangent to a discussion on a film he hasn't seen but in the thread of which he nontheless needed to comment. Now, this was 16 days ago, which I think is past the point at which he (and, it seems, you) believe that his resolve to stop "posting impulsively" had been made, but what do we have here? We have a post to a thread that ignored the actual content under discussion (which in fact DM could not comment on, since he has not seen it), in order to share the thoughts of Chairman Winky, without any real consideration of what it might do to the thread. It's an astonishing testament either to Barbelith's acceptance of cockwittery in the interests of charity or the level of demoralisation of the moderators in the face of a bubbling stream of the white wee of truth that more was not said about this.

So, before we go on it might be worth checking your basis for generalisation. Thus:

Most of the time, you seem to argue about his use of language when it seems pretty obvious to me what he's trying to get across.

Examples, please?

Supplementarily, I think you've missed the point rather with:

Its not like you were actually disagreeing with the points he was trying to raise, more the way he said it.

There is no point to disagree with. Things with a point, when placed upon a surface, stick. Just as "I just don't see how gayers can not like boobies" is not a point about Brokeback Mountain, "wrath is like a piano: if you drop it on someone, there's gonna be broken bones" is not a comment about the preponderance of Agent Smiths on Barbelith. It's noise, and it is noise which allows for a lowering of the general standard of discussion (see Cassandra/Chad on Brokeback Mountain, immediately sequential, and then further threadrot about that subsequently).

Which leads, to drag this one back ontopic and away from the deadly gravity of the winky, back to one of the complexities, I think, with the way the question in this thread has been formulated, to wit that it creates an idea of them and us which I don't think is entirely accurate. OK, so Jack Horsley, say, is a them, in the sense that he isn't to our knowledge a member of Barbelith, but that's a distinct and discrete situation from, say, Jack going in with a reducer on Dr. Argenteum. In that context, everybody is us.

As such, we get on to PW's idea about the duty to educate, but again I see this is not really taking into account that the flow of information out and in on Barbelith is broadly level. So, we can educate zoemancer, say, about whether or not the Holocaust happened, but what he is doing is also education, if that's the word we're looking for - he is making information which he feels ought to be known. The division of tutor and student, or wise person and ignorant person, is an imposition by us not built into the software of the board. Likewise, to an extent, DM's "I like boobies". So, context becomes very important - everyhing you put on Barbelith basically just exists as a datum the value of which is not inherent in who you are, but, and this is a big but (for which form of interjection, as I have mentioned before, I am unable to conceal my fondness), it also has consequences for the data around it. In an extreme case, like the Fetch's anti-Semitic numerology, this means that not only his contributions had to be cut down and burnt but also those of everybody else on his threads. More generally, it can mean that a datum has the power to affect the flow of data from there - for example, to tie it back, feminism being turned into winkiepalooza, the thread in Policy on Barbelith being "anti-het" diverting into a lengthy discussion of gaying in shopping centres, or a thread just quietly dying of despair.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
06:10 / 29.03.06
P.S.

You know, it's 6:52 where I am, which makes it about ten to six in the morning in the UK.

I'm just sayin'.


I hear you. I've pretty much given up sleeping. I think it may be making me cranky.
 
 
penitentvandal
07:11 / 29.03.06
Things with a point, when placed upon a surface, stick.

Not necessarily true, that. Plenty of round things will stick to a surface too, especially if you use blu-tac. Also, attempting to place a knife (or, indeed, a sharp sword) side-on on a diagonal surface may lead to loss of toes...

To get back onto topic, this is certainly turning into an interesting discussion. I hadn't even considered the possible negative aspects of my position, viz. the idea that people will be put off objecting to stuff for fear of appearing to be the BarbePolice. That certainly wasn't my intention, and I aggree that if we are to create a more understanding forum then we need to avoid going down that road.

Something I was musing on yesterday is the NLP idea that all behaviour has a positive intent behind it, and it's important to try and engage with that positive intent. Now, this may not be literally true, but heuristically, when negotiating with people, it's sometimes useful to pretend like it is. Maybe if we reframe (ugh!) debates with people we think are stupid to try and show we take into account the positive intents that lie behind their behaviour, that might help?

It was the Matrix Warrior thread and, to be honest, Flyboy's vitriolic response to Alchymium, followed by my own toadlike decision to join in with a not entirely relevant point about evidence, which caused me to think like this, because I was suddenly brought up against the positive intent behind Alchymium's defence of Horsley: ze was defending hir friend. That's understandable, and positive, so isn't it better to engage with that (which I think people did, later in the thread) than to just reach for the snark stick?

In here, for example - in the arguments which have generated here - we can use the principle as well. TSK's positive intent is that they don't want people to be patronised on the site. The intent of those defending alas is that they want to defend hir from a misrepresentation of hir views. DM's intention is to share something someone told him which he feels is relevant. Haus' intention is to avoid threadrot and keep the thread on-topic. If we acknowledge these positive intents behind everyone's behaviour, it might keep the argument from getting too angry.

I think the main thing that leaps out from all this, though, is that we can't force people to adopt these attitudes, and that it has to be a personal decision. We have to, ahem, be the change we would like to see on Barbelith (christ I can't believe I actually said that. I'm going to punch myself in the face repeatedly for ten minutes and shout 'hippy!' at the mirror) and try to steer things in a more understanding direction through our actions in response to other peoples' posts, and to that end, I will now endeavour to adopt a less confrontational posting style when confronted with people I disagree with.
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
07:20 / 29.03.06
I was suddenly brought up against the positive intent behind Alchymium's defence of Horsley: ze was defending hir friend. That's understandable, and positive

What, always? It's always positive to defend one's friend, no matter what they've done, or the manner in which you defend them?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
07:29 / 29.03.06
Hmmm - not quite what I think VV is saying - more that you can see a kernel of what seems to the person to be a positive motivation behind actions which appear to have negative circumstances or results. So, Jack Frost was caught in a difficult situation where, he felt, the need to defend a friend - that is, to adhere to the virtue of loyalty - overwhelmed the virtue of challengng misogyny and general awfulness. In the same vein, we can assume that Alex Gein, above, was motivated by the positive desire to head off conflict and/or defend the oppressed. It's a way of separating motivation from outcome, and allowing one to keep respect for the person who made the comment while still being able to disagree with the comment itself.

I don't think it necessarily reflects people's actual thought processes, but it might be a useful tool.
 
 
Jack Denfeld
07:32 / 29.03.06
Neo talks stupid, agent Smith talks cool. Plus agent Smith has a lot more energy. I forget which part, but the one where there's a thousand agent Smiths watching them fight? Agent Smith is sooooooo fucking angry, he must be full of energy and emotion. Neo's all like, "I'm a slacker stoner, I got sunglasses".
 
 
illmatic
07:33 / 29.03.06
I'm not sure what the positve intent is behind the statement I'm about to make, but I do sympathise with Haus's irritation with Megatron. Frequently, his posts seem just content-free. The one above didn't seem to add anything to the conversation, it was just more noise.
 
 
Jack Denfeld
07:41 / 29.03.06
In fairness to Megatron I think you mean my post above.
 
 
penitentvandal
07:42 / 29.03.06
Yes, I did find that I agreed with Haus in general terms about DM's point - I personally think it a bit irrelevant - but I can sort of understand that DM thinks of it as relevant and was trying to make a contribution to the discussion.

In retrospect perhaps the best way to deal with it would have been to ignore it, but then, and here's the rub, we would have missed Haus' dissection of the anger/sharp sword metaphor, which I do confess to finding very funny.

I don't think defending a friend in all instances is noble, Flyboy, you're right there. In some circumstances it might be more noble not to defend your friend (you should probably have no hesitation about shopping your pals to the rozzers if you find they're serial killers, for example). However, I think the impulse to defend one's friends is positive and understandable.
 
 
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09:43 / 29.03.06
VV, I'm liking this. It's almost 4 am here, so I can't be much more thoughtful or relevant, but thumbs up.
 
 
Olulabelle
11:21 / 29.03.06
Trying to see the postive intentions behind posts is an interesting experiment and appears in the first instance to actually work, at least for me.

Veve, I have just been feeling frustrated with this thread because I didn't see how TSK could read Alas as he did, and then I felt frustrated with Haus and DM for that interlude. Then I read your paragraph:

In here, for example - in the arguments which have generated here - we can use the principle as well. TSK's positive intent is that they don't want people to be patronised on the site. The intent of those defending alas is that they want to defend hir from a misrepresentation of hir views. DM's intention is to share something someone told him which he feels is relevant. Haus' intention is to avoid threadrot and keep the thread on-topic. If we acknowledge these positive intents behind everyone's behaviour, it might keep the argument from getting too angry.

I feel differently now about those things. As a result of properly considering the motivations people may have had for posting I can much more easily see their points of view and suppress my instant judgement of them rather than focussing too much on my own reaction to them.

Looking at the positives is an easy thing to do and one that I should be doing anyway, but in discussing this I am aware that I have been failing to do it. I am very big culprit when it comes to posts about me or things that disagree with me. I forget to try and see the positives and in the past posts that disagreed with my point of view have felt like hatemail.

It's very easy to read a post in the voice you have 'assigned' to that particular poster but if you then take a step back and try and find their positive reasons for saying what they have, things can become a lot less fraught.

I think we should all try!
 
 
Ender
16:57 / 29.03.06
-I stumbled on this thread a bit late-

I am a re-formed poster, and glad for it. I was a bit surprised that no one mentioned the steve saga and my days of confusion in this thread.

I am a better person for having gone through the tough love re-education process. I came to this site a raging conservative with deep seeded questions in the back of my mind, and through the years the Barb has provided me with a large part of what I needed to be who I am today.

Kind PMs full of understanding and concern kept me coming back, and ultimately help morph my world view. Even when I was getting hit pretty hard in the open forum there was always someone to send a comforting PM my way. I recommend this for the future.

I do however agree there are some people that come here just to stir up trouble, and I think that the best way to get rid of them is to completely ignore them.
 
 
matthew.
17:19 / 29.03.06
I think that's what some posters seem to forget: there are kind PMs that help and are warm. I've had a few PMs that certainly gave me courage through some of my darkest posts. PMs don't necessarily have to be abusive or off-topic-y. They can be supportive. Sometimes I PM people (not just n00bs, but Barberoyalty) and congratulate them on a phenomenal post or point.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
17:25 / 29.03.06
Ender- much as I love (and I do love it, and have enjoyed watching it, and sincerely hope it's done you as much good as it looks like it has) your learning process (sorry, that sounds horribly fucking hippy, but I can't think of a better way of putting it right now)... I'm ALWAYS gonna find the Steve stuff funny. Please don't take it personally when I (inevitably) bring it up again.
 
 
Mourne Kransky
17:35 / 29.03.06
You and me both, Sir Stoat.
 
 
Dead Megatron
17:49 / 29.03.06
DM shared his inability to empathise with gayers, because they don't like boobies, as a tangent to a discussion on a film he hasn't seen but in the thread of which he nontheless needed to comment. Now, this was 16 days ago, which I think is past the point at which he (and, it seems, you) believe that his resolve to stop "posting impulsively" had been made, but what do we have here?

I won't say much, since I got major barbelith hang-over today, but I have to admit Haus is right about my so-called "contribution" to the BBM thread there. it was a bad moment of mine. I wasn't, though, saying I can't empathise with "gayers", I was saying I was afraid it might happen with the characters of the movie, specifically (already knowing how the movie ends is also a factor). It was a winky moment. But the thing is, I kept posting in that thread, even thought I did not see the movie, because the subject interests me - my insensibility to gay rights and feminism has been brougth up to my own attention by barbelith, and I have been working on it, although, to my shame, I still have not the time to see the movie (awaiting the DVD) or reading the books alas recommended to me, so I've been quite about it.

Resisting posting impulsively is like recovering from addiction - given due proportions - and sometimes I slip. Maybe I could use a "sponsor" or something.

But, in this thread, I honestly felt my "anger as a weapon" metaphor was a valid contribution. A *small* contribution, yes, but a contribution nonetheless. I wouldn't post it on Head Shop or Switchboard, where the nature of such fora demand a more extended, referenced, response, but this being Convo, I thought a quick remark would be acceptable.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
07:48 / 30.03.06
It's unfortunate that Alex Gein has soured the mood rather by sending me a rather Mister Six abusive private message, but I'm not going to let that stop me from implementing the "I feel... I understand... I resolve" principle.

I feel frustration when Dead Megatrons posts feel purposeless - that he has not read the thrad and has not paid attention to the discussion, but has merely leapt in with a knee-jerk response to one word or phrase - for example, his responses to the word "rape" (twice), "bare breasts" &c.

I understand that Dead Megatron recognises that he has a habit of posting impulsively and offtopic, and that he is trying to limit this, but in this case that he felt, this being the Conversation, that a throwaway comment with thematic ties to the discussion but no connection to the discussion itself, was acceptable.

I resolve to be more patient and understanding of DM's ongoing effort to be a more valuable member of Barbelith (and of the difference in language and culture= between us), and to do what I can to help that effort.

More generally, I think one problem may be that recently threads with very serious topics or topics requiring a fair amount of focus to avoid causing offence have landed in the conversation - including Feminism 101 and this topic. This has created a sort of gear-shifting which I think at times is causing problems.
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
07:52 / 30.03.06
Dead Megatron here:

I wouldn't post it on Head Shop or Switchboard, where the nature of such fora demand a more extended, referenced, response

Dead Megatron in a Head Shop thread entitled 'The Politics of Birthing':

MONEY SAVES!

Incidentally, give my congrats and well wishes to your sister.


I feel confused.
 
 
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08:12 / 30.03.06
Thanks, Haus. That seems really helpful and thoughtful.

I wonder if it's also worth mentioning that it took me about a year of trial-and-error type practice before I was posting thoughtfully and topically, in a way which sufficiently engaged with the subject that people would respond. Back then, though, the tactic was generally to ignore the offending post. I think maybe I could have figured out more quickly why people weren't responding to me if I'd been challenged the way Haus has been doing here... except that I know myself and I'd have left the board first and felt too humiliated to come back. So I also admire DM's perseverance.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
08:23 / 30.03.06
From the less helpful section - Alex feels that I am misrepresenting him by saying he sent an abusive PM. So, with his permission, reproduced here:


1) You must know what I'm talking about, and yet you chose to address my language. I don't spend all day constructing my posts (and I'm sure you're going to say that I should [ you're probably right] ), so there will no doubt be issues. Was this necessary? Sure I'm learning to be more careful with what I say, but does everyone need to read that? If it really annoys you, why don't you PM your lessons?

2) You're right, I haven't read that thread. Perhaps I was a tad (understatement) excited with my use of the words "always" and "everything", but you've provided enough examples with your posts in this thread. Does it matter if his metaphor is shit? Isn't that threadrot? Its obvious he annoys you (along with what seems to be a growing list of posters) but why do you bite so hard?

3)See above (although I acknowledge he says some fucking stupid and ill-thought out things)

4)No point to disagree with, and yet you managed to. Why did you bother? And better yet, why did you do it publicly? He hasn't offended anyone afterall. Do you think that maybe by continually attempting to manually filter out the "noise" on barbelith that you may be discouraging actual discussion? (hang on.... I'm back on topic!)

5)True. Its not only inaccurate to create that type of mentality, its destructive to the overall feel of the board. I do think there is an issue here though, and it seems to be getting brought up quite a bit too.

6)Again, I see what you're saying, but I don't feel that what you're doing is an effective way to raise the standard of conversation on barbelith. By just cutting people down un-necessarily, you're not stopping anyone from posting crap, you are inciting them to get more narky and make everyone unhappy.

PS-

You seem to enjoy using a condescending tone of a cunty ('scuse me but I can't think of a better word) school teacher when imposing your language lessons. Do you think this is conducive to the type of board you want barbelith to be?


Apparently "cunty" is all right because he "disclaimed" it. As such, I am now entitled to call him whatever I want as long as I excuse myself because I can't think of a better word. Just for reference.

As for the rest of it, I'm not sure I can be bothered. Would anyone else like to handle this? I've got one rigid emic reality tunnel to deal with in Policy already.
 
 
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08:33 / 30.03.06
I think by saying it's an abusive PM you imply that the PM is substantially just abuse. I don't think that's the case. Although the parts which seem to me genuine criticism don't excuse abusive language in other parts, obviously.

Don't feel obligated to pursue this right now; it can wait. The great thing about message boards is that so many discussions are improved by a little downtime. A lot of people lose sight of this property in their excitement about communicating their ideas. Waiting is fine.
 
 
illmatic
08:35 / 30.03.06
G for Gundetta: Yes, I noticed that. Here's a thought, Megatron - if you actually don't know anything about a subject, why not go away and read up on it for a while? That will keep you off the board for a while at least, thus missing out the whole "impulsive posting" circle of annoyance. Everybody would be a lot happier, and you would, in fact, be wiser.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
08:40 / 30.03.06
Oh, DM - incidentally:

But the thing is, I kept posting in that thread, even thought I did not see the movie, because the subject interests me

I think this may be something where what seems like a sensible thing to you may be rubbing people up wrong - no malice or blame intended there. It's just that, much as alas and others got irritated that you kept posting about the all-pen.-sex=rape canard in a thread about feminism in which it had already been debunked as a weasel idea used to discredit Andrea Dworkin rather than a tenet of modern feminism, likewise it might be worth taking this to a new thread, or putting it in a thread like Q&As or even a Head Shop thread on sexuality, of which there are a bunch - I could pull one out for you if I know what you're asking. The "Brokeback Mountain" thread is about "Brokeback Mountain" - it isn't big enough to contain a side discussion, especially when only one person wants to have that side discussion.

It's possible I'm misreading you, but if I'm not, that would be my advice.
 
 
Dead Megatron
08:47 / 30.03.06
Gundeta, my intention there was just to give my congratulation for the birth of the baby. But, you're right, a PM would have worked better.

See what I mean with "slipping"?
 
 
Dead Megatron
08:51 / 30.03.06
And, Haus

I feel frustration when Dead Megatrons posts feel purposeless - that he has not read the thrad and has not paid attention to the discussion, but has merely leapt in with a knee-jerk response to one word or phrase - for example, his responses to the word "rape" (twice), "bare breasts" &c.

Although I admit I post "knee-jerk responses to one word or phrase" from time to time, that does not mean I did not read the thread. I do read them.
 
 
illmatic
08:54 / 30.03.06
my intention there was just to give my congratulation for the birth of the baby

Well, despite your intent, it reads, like a lot of your other contributions, as if you are shouting "Look at me! Look at me! I have nothing else to add, but look at me!"
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
08:58 / 30.03.06
Yeah, sorry - I changed that sentence half-way through and didn't edit it entirely. It should have been something like "when it seems to me as if he has not read the thread". Focus on my perceptions, not reality.
 
 
Dead Megatron
09:02 / 30.03.06
Illmatic: yeah, I know you're right. I did actually regret the post rigth after posting it.

Haus: cool enough for me.
 
  

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