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Isadore
23:09 / 12.04.06
Maybe, instead of trying to 'fix' the gender ratio, send the moderators to sensitivity training?

(Hey, you asked for suggestions. I can't really think of anything better, sorry. Trying to inorganically 'equalize' things is just going to accentuate existing problems, I think, and maybe make people (id est, male posters) bitter.)
 
 
Ganesh
23:11 / 12.04.06
What would "sensitivity training" involve in this particular context? Genuine non-snark question.
 
 
Isadore
23:14 / 12.04.06
... ... ... *ding* Actually, I think Alas would be the person to ask on this one.
 
 
Ganesh
23:16 / 12.04.06
That's the thing, though. Perhaps Nina's suggestion of "moderation policies" is the way to go, then? Nina, can you expand on this a little? Specifically, what policy changes would you like to be brought in for moderators?
 
 
Tryphena Absent
23:22 / 12.04.06
if we're ascribing "inherent bias" to the fact that some moderators are male (ie. because they're male, this will "unavoidably" lead, via their moderator decisions, to a "boys' club" atmosphere)

I think you probably wrote that before I added my addition. I meant bias in a statistical fashion rather than in a "this board is biased towards" way.

I think you're misunderstanding the purpose behind my post. I was outlining for a new member why barbelith is a boy's club. That's not specific to the moderation system at all, it's just an easy example of barbelith as male dominated (specifically Conversation and Policy). Unless you can recruit women onto this board and show them that it's a positive space for them that differs from a world that puts pressure on them consistently then positive discrimination won't change the space, only a small part of it.

I'm not arguing for moderation policies on barbelith, it's not feasible because there will never be agreement on the vast majority of issues. I was simply using that as an example of how the perception of gender can effect this space in line with the way that the system here functions. In moderation I don't think gender is a specific factor in decision making and thus I don't see a need for positive discrimination when it wouldn't reflect the ratio of the board anyway. It is however the easiest way to demonstrate that barbelith is a boy's club because names can be attributed to gender quite easily if you read the board regularly. Really I was simply saying to Celane that any space that is so heavily dominated by men is a boy's club and that can't be avoided, control of the board and male dominated discussion of that control is simply the easiest example to invoke.
 
 
Ganesh
23:29 / 12.04.06
Okay, Nina - but you did cite a lack of moderation policies as a contributory problem, and I'd be interested in any ideas in this regard. As I understood it, you were taking a break from Barbelith in order to think about some of the ideas raised in the misognyny thread and, specifically, how they might be translated into constructive change...
 
 
Tryphena Absent
23:39 / 12.04.06
what policy changes would you like to be brought in for moderators?

Well that's a loaded question isn't it. Despite not really expecting barbelith to fall behind any moderation policies I can think of one policy change that seems clear cut to me and complicated to everyone I suggest it to. Primarily next time someone suggests that all female attorneys advise their female clients to accuse men of abuse we ban them rather than engaging with five pages of repetition. I'd say that ridding barbelith of absolute and overt misogyny would be helpful but I don't actually expect anyone to agree with me on this as it's a hard line response. I think that it's unhelpful when dealing with less overt sexism and misogyny that we allow posters to make statements about women that are so clearly biased against them. To then try to wheedle some kind of concession out of members of the board who are stubbornly refusing to discuss the misogynistic statements that they have made is really to scupper any statements that we make to the contrary. It demonstrates that we don't have a serious attitude to the generalisation of females as evil or the vicious undermining of their intelligence. It also demonstrates that we don't accept them as a group with a problem in wider society.

I would like this to be a policy decision that was not structured simply around women but applied in any case where someone grossly generalises a community or any group that is accepted as having been confined and denied human rights in some way. The denial of the reality of that confinement or infringement should be a banning offense for anyone unless they retract that statement or apologise for it. I'm not talking about slipping up on language use, I'm talking about statements that attack and are derogatory towards people with no justification whatsoever. I think it's clear when they're being made and we should have the same attitude towards them as a board that we do towards holocaust denial.
 
 
Isadore
23:39 / 12.04.06
Male moderators do not have personal experience on this issue, which is why they're all sitting around staring glassy-eyed while the womenfolk sit in a circle and say, "Hey, that's my story too!"

If you're outside the barrel you're not going to see what's happening to the fish inside. I thought I understood the troubles of people different from me (color, obviousness of sexuality, fill in the blank) because I've had bad experiences because of my gender. I was wrong. You have to put yourself inside the barrel and swim around for a bit before you really start to appreciate just how awful it is, and then you have to realize that the people you're in there with can't leave, whereas you can. And that's what I think I mean by sensitivity training: make moderators sit down and see the inside of barrels they don't normally swim in.

I don't know how to do that, that's why I put out the call for Alas and her superior logic/book larnin'/etc. But I think that's what needs to happen.
 
 
Isadore
23:45 / 12.04.06
I thought I understood the troubles of people different from me (color, sexuality, fill in the blank) because I've had harrassment in the past based on gender.

See, this is why you hit 'Preview' before posting, kids. I forgot to add the very important next sentence after this one:

I was wrong.

I am racist. I am, to some degree, sexist (according to one study, at least, everyone is). And it's really fucking hard to see it unless and until I'm hit over the head with a clue-by-four that includes the addendum that I will never be totally free of this behavior.

And maybe I should stop here before I get too preachy.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
23:50 / 12.04.06
I entirely understand what you're saying but I don't know how to put it into practice, anymore than I know how to adequately express the kinds of statements I mean in my post above.

The problem with this area is that it's a minefield because it's so tough to police it, for ourselves or anyone else.
 
 
Isadore
00:00 / 13.04.06
Well, I do think you're right, a good start would be to apply the same hard line that deals with Holocaust deniers to those who harrass other groups. It's necessary, otherwise Barbelith will continue to be inequitable on this issue if posters are banned for harrassing Group A but aren't for saying the same things about Group B. It's not really fair to anybody at that point, including the jerk who's doing the harrassing, because if only he'd picked the 'right' target, he'd have gotten away with it.
 
 
Ganesh
00:01 / 13.04.06
Well that's a loaded question isn't it.

Yes, in the sense that it's fairly specific but difficult to answer in an exhaustive way.

Despite not really expecting barbelith to fall behind any moderation policies I can think of one policy change that seems clear cut to me and complicated to everyone I suggest it to. Primarily next time someone suggests that all female attorneys advise their female clients to accuse men of abuse we ban them rather than engaging with five pages of repetition.

That would be the ShadowSax thread, yes?

I'd say that ridding barbelith of absolute and overt misogyny would be helpful but I don't actually expect anyone to agree with me on this as it's a hard line response.

I think that, as you say, "absolute and overt misogyny" is clear cut to you but not as clear cut to others. That's the problem as I see it, and the reason why there will always be discussion among moderators - and one concrete way to up the quality of discussion (assuming female moderators are more likely than male to accurately assess and pronounce on "absolute and overt misogyny") is to increase the number of female moderators, hence my suggestion above.

I think that it's unhelpful when dealing with less overt sexism and misogyny that we allow posters to make statements about women that are so clearly biased against them. To then try to wheedle some kind of concession out of members of the board who are stubbornly refusing to discuss the misogynistic statements that they have made is really to scupper any statements that we make to the contrary. It demonstrates that we don't have a serious attitude to the generalisation of females as evil or the vicious undermining of their intelligence. It also demonstrates that we don't accept them as a group with a problem in wider society.

All of which strikes me as fair and reasonable, but again, how do we ensure that the 'line in the sand' re: misogyny is where it should be? If (a big part of) the problem is that those coming out with "absolute and overt misogyny" are not banned, and that leads to a casual attitude toward lesser variations, then how best to convince the one person able to ban (Tom) that Poster X making Statement Y ought to result in their being kicked off the board? Following the previous logic, more female moderators.

I would like this to be a policy decision that was not structured simply around women but applied in any case where someone grossly generalises a community or any group that is accepted as having been confined and denied human rights in some way. The denial of the reality of that confinement or infringement should be a banning offense for anyone unless they retract that statement or apologise for it. I'm not talking about slipping up on language use, I'm talking about statements that attack and are derogatory towards people with no justification whatsoever. I think it's clear when they're being made and we should have the same attitude towards them as a board that we do towards holocaust denial.

See, although I agree that Tom's ruling on the holocaust denial threads, past and present, set a precedent of sorts, I'm not sure that it is clear when posters are making "statements that attack and are derogatory towards people with no justification whatsoever", particularly when we're talking banning. The one element which does spring to mind is repetition - someone repeatedly espousing a viewpoint, as Hawksmoor did, with the homophobic stuff - and there's very probably a good case to be made, IMHO, for banning ShadowSax. If we're talking individual statements, though, I can't think of an example of what sort of homophobic statement I, as a gay man, would view as unequivocal kick-em-out material. Even with Hawksmoor, I think it was more his flamey rudeness more than his childish U R AL GAY!!1ery that led to his being punted.

That's a tangent, though.
 
 
Isadore
00:09 / 13.04.06
I can't see where one statement, ever, should be a bannable offense. It's after it's turned into a discussion and the poster in question has repeatedly refused to engage with people who try to convince vim otherwise that banning becomes viable.

I suppose the next question is, how much discussion? At which point: why not poll Barbelith and see what the statistics are?
 
 
Disco is My Class War
01:53 / 13.04.06
About re-educating moderators:

I think it comes down to the same thing. White privelege, male privelege, straight privelege. If you're outside the barrel you're not going to see what's happening to the fish inside. I thought I understood the troubles of people different from me (color, obviousness of sexuality, fill in the blank) because I've had harrassment in the past based on gender. You have to put yourself inside the barrel and swim around for a bit before you really start to appreciate just how awful it is, and then you have to realize that the people you're in there with can't leave, whereas you can. And that's what I think I mean by sensitivity training: make male moderators sit down and see the inside of the barrel.


My understanding is that everyone is inside the barrel, and that sexism, racism, homophobia and exclusion of all kinds takes place because that's the only way to get to the top of the barrel. I'm not sure if alas would agree with me here, but for me this is the one problem with a beautifully metaphorised solution.

Since everyone is inside the barrel, people are apt to make distinctions which are emphatically not based on the relativity and mutual understanding of exclusion of all kinds. Like, for instance, this article in the Advocate (which I'm about to start a thread on.) A black lesbian says she doesn't want no Mexican illegals in her country, or at least not before gay marriage is legalised for proper, hard-working US citizens. I can't tell you how many white, gay, and complettely fucking classist or racist people I've met in my time. Some of them have been women; and it is harder to bear when they're women, precisely because of the logic that one oppression should be able to recognise another.

This translates in a particular way in terms of Barbelith matters: I think it's a real mistake to universalise on the basis of gender here. You're going to keep coming up against the same problem: there are some male-identifed posters here who I would call very good feminists, and there are some who just aren't. There are some male-identified posters who experience exclusion of different kinds, to varying degrees, and this may or may not render them more understanding of 'other' axes of exclusion. You can't make an arbitrary division between Barbelith's women -- who are supposedly all able to relate better to other kinds of oppression -- and Barbelith's men, who must somehow be unable to relate.
 
 
Isadore
03:22 / 13.04.06
About that phrase of mine you quoted -- yeah, I said I should have used the preview button.

I thought I understood the troubles of people different from me (color, sexuality, fill in the blank) because I've had harrassment in the past based on gender.

I was wrong.


I thought all the barrels were one barrel. They aren't. I mean, they are in a purely physical sense -- we call it Planet Earth -- but at the same time, one group's experience of oppression is not another group's experience of oppression. Different barrels are different inside and out. In that respect, I'd say I want all moderators to go through some sort of sensitivity training, not just the male ones -- it's just that, on this particular issue, it's the guys who need it most. Sorry for not clarifying more in the original post.

One would hope that having experienced oppression and prejudice, one would be more sympathetic to someone else's experience of prejudice; this is often not the case, however, as shown by the conflicts between, say, the black community and the GLBT community. (This is certainly not the only such conflict; it's just the one which springs to mind readiest because I've been watching it for a while.)

So yeah. It's not that one bias conveys understanding of another bias. It's that these biases are really hard to see unless you actually get down in the mud and live with them in your face for a while.
 
 
Isadore
03:29 / 13.04.06
You can't make an arbitrary division between Barbelith's women -- who are supposedly all able to relate better to other kinds of oppression -- and Barbelith's men, who must somehow be unable to relate.

That's not what I'm advocating here at all.

Ganesh asked for suggestions re: solutions to the current latent sexism on Barbelith. Instead of artificially changing the male/female moderator ratio, I'm advocating having the existing moderators take a good hard look at their own deep-set prejudices. That's all.

And I think making someone a moderator primarily because of their gender is a really bad idea.
 
 
*
06:10 / 13.04.06
We could help women feel more comfortable being moderators by making sure that when posters unjustifiably accuse them of being bitchy, oversensitive, or irrational about moderation decisions, we condemn the sexism we see in those accusations and support our moderators in principle even if we can't support the specific decision they've made. I think many people do this already. That's good because I suspect that it can be a bit uncomfortable contemplating becoming a moderator if you think that the whiny, bratty, irrational poster which inhabits every one of us in our darker hours will frequently be at you for being oversensitive, bitchy, and irrational on the grounds of your gender.
 
 
Char Aina
06:54 / 13.04.06
I'd say I want all moderators to go through some sort of sensitivity training, not just the male ones -- it's just that, on this particular issue, it's the guys who need it most.

point taken.

but why only moderators?
you surely cant expect anyone to be forced to go through this hypothetical training, so why stop at moderators in your fantasy?
wouldnt it be better to suggest all posters take a long hard look?

i dont like the idea of seperating moderators from the rest of the herd in any way other than their duties.

the duty to not be an arse would seem to be universal.
 
 
Evil Scientist
08:00 / 13.04.06
I'd say that ridding barbelith of absolute and overt misogyny would be helpful but I don't actually expect anyone to agree with me on this as it's a hard line response.

It doesn't sound that hard line to be honest. If someone is being openly misogynistic then surely it can be dealt with like any other serious breach in Barb-behaviour? By it's very definition "absolute and overt" misogyny is not something that's going to require four pages of discussion about (Dogpile Effect notwithstanding). It's easy to recognise.

I can't see where one statement, ever, should be a bannable offense. It's after it's turned into a discussion and the poster in question has repeatedly refused to engage with people who try to convince vim otherwise that banning becomes viable.

I suppose the next question is, how much discussion? At which point: why not poll Barbelith and see what the statistics are?


I think it's important that Barbelith as a community does make a call on this sooner rather than later. The current situation whereby idiots like Hawksmoor and co get booted relatively quickly for their prejudices, yet Shadowsax was allowed to spew up his theories of female infiltration into the corridors of power, and (as far as I'm aware) lurks still, seems a tad hypocritical.

Change seems to come quite slowly on Barbelith. It's been several months now since the Feminsim 101 thread started this discussion really rolling. Is there any feeling that we've taken more than the first step on the road? I'd like to think we have. But not being part of the group subjected to misogyny it's entirely possible I'm seeing progress where there's only endless discussion.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
09:58 / 13.04.06
The current situation whereby idiots like Hawksmoor and co get booted relatively quickly for their prejudices, yet Shadowsax was allowed to spew up his theories of female infiltration into the corridors of power, and (as far as I'm aware) lurks still, seems a tad hypocritical.

Well, that is a problem, yes - we had the same problem with Vladmimir J Baptiste and Indians, also. Essentially, Hawksmoor's mistake was in saying "yes, I actually am a homophobe", at which point he was banned. If he had hotly denied being a homophobe, while refusing to disclaim or explain his comments about gay men, Barbelith would probably have had a collective nervous breakdown and fail utterly to do anything beyond force individuals to confront him on an ad hoc basis. Assuming that Vladimir has now been banned, it took about three years to happen.
 
 
Quantum
09:59 / 13.04.06
Is there any feeling that we've taken more than the first step on the road?

I don't think so. I haven't looked at the female thread recently but is it still full of boys bickering? I haven't noticed a decrease in misogyny, in fact a general rise in Facism and unexamined prejudice is more noticable.

Overt misogyny should clearly be a banning-serious offence, as ES says if it's explicit and overt where's the debate?* Do we value a safe space for queer folk and ethnic minorities but not women? How would that even be defensible?

*the debate of course is usually the three pages after the initial comment hashing back and forth in the familiar pattern, sexist-post:criticism:I'm-not-sexist-you-PC-thug:go-and-read-the-PC-thread:you're-a-mean-feminazi:dogpile:I'm-leaving-4evah!1!
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
10:17 / 13.04.06
I'm actually pretty disturbed by how okay a lot of people seemed to be with Shadowsax. I mean, yeah, he got heavily and repeatedly called on his shit by a number of posters, but I got the strong feeling that there was a sort of backlash against this. I felt like there was this expectation floating around that we should be bending over backwards to accommodate him.

Now I come to write that, I realise I'm going to have my work cut out tracking down supporting evidence--like I say, it was a strong feeling rather than a names-and-pack-drill deal. However, I don't think I'm far wrong. I also think that this is a repeating pattern: someone comes along with a fairly revolting set of opinions, misogynistic or what-have-you, gets called on their shit by a few posters--and suddenly that's a 'dogpile,' we're all ganging up, we're all bullying the poor little chap. So what if he constantly insinuates that eeeevil women are controlling the legal system (and who knows what else?), acting as an apologist for violence against women and uncritically spreading material from websites with a misogynistic agenda? We should all have choked back any anger inspired by the stuff he was coming out with and played nicey-nice.

I do believe that things are starting to improve. If I can draw an analogy, look at the difference in the response to the The Fetch being banned and zoemancer. The first was greeted with howls of protest, page after page of posts complaining of censorship and explaining why saying that Jewish people were 1) evil and 2) in charge of THE WORLD was not anti-Semetic, that the Protocols of the Elders of Zion was a perfectly acceptable document to reference on the board because 'conspiracies are Barbelithy,' and so on, ad nauseum. When zoemancer went? Fine, ban him, good riddance. Either people had adjusted their veiws in the meantime, or they'd left the board. If we can achieve that with one form of prejudice then surely we can do it with other forms?
 
 
Char Aina
10:27 / 13.04.06
We should all have choked back any anger inspired by the stuff he was coming out with and played nicey-nice.

he seems to view any use of invective or bad language as a get out clause, certainly.
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
10:32 / 13.04.06
Despite having no compunction about using it himself.
 
 
Char Aina
10:36 / 13.04.06
in which respect he is a lot like hawksmoor.
he also seemed to shit the dummy at the slightest scent of pejorative posting despite feeling no restraint himself.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
10:52 / 13.04.06
I think the Fetch/Zoemancer was a bit more complex than that, not least because the Fetch was the first time we banned somebody for anti-semtism (no, honest). However, as mentioned, Zoemancer was suspended on suspicion of Holocaust denial, and his account was then cancelled when he PMed Tom saying that he was infact a Holocaust denier, but did not feel it should prejudice his membership. If he had PMed Tom stating that he was most assuredly not a Holocaust denier, but had been indulging an experiment in free speech or similar, then I think the decision on whether to make the suspension of his suit permanent would have been far more difficult.

Likewise Shadowsax, who would maintain, and would probably sincerely believe, that he does not hate women and therefore it is a calumny to call him a misogynist - and further, as has been mentioned before, believes that because he was not banned, his behaviour is now considered entirely acceptable. He loves women, after all - he just happens to think that they get a bit unnecessary about being raped, because their minds have been turned by feminism and deceitful attorneys.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
12:15 / 13.04.06
Evil Scientist, it does sound like it should be evident but if you're wondering why I don't think that it's possible to create moderation policies on barbelith then you simply have to consult Ganesh and Haus' responses above.

I'm at work at the moment but I'll tackle your posts when I get home tonight. There's quite a lot I want to say, actually I think I have a short response to almost everyone who's posted in this thread today.
 
 
Chiropteran
17:45 / 13.04.06
Primarily next time someone suggests that all female attorneys advise their female clients to accuse men of abuse we ban them rather than engaging with five pages of repetition.
/snip/
I would like this to be a policy decision that was not structured simply around women but applied in any case where someone grossly generalises a community or any group that is accepted as having been confined and denied human rights in some way. The denial of the reality of that confinement or infringement should be a banning offense for anyone unless they retract that statement or apologise for it.


While I can't imagine it actually happening without loads of discussion/argument, I strongly agree with Nina on this.

Yes, figuring out exactly where to draw the line in a "borderline" case is a moderation headache, but it still needs to be done. I suspect that outright banning is probably not something that would have to be done all that often (allowing for a brief spike after each influx of new members), but it needs to be an established and available option when someone really acts out.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
18:04 / 14.04.06
If he had PMed Tom stating that he was most assuredly not a Holocaust denier, but had been indulging an experiment in free speech or similar, then I think the decision on whether to make the suspension of his suit permanent would have been far more difficult.

An argument for free speech based on a lie involving mass execution is a case for the deletion of a post or thread with a careful explanation to the person who has posted. When someone continues to slander groups of people we should delete the suit not a series of posts or a thread. I think there is a line here and I think the arguments people have posted in favour of keeping people who practise slander on the board are generally centred around their personal responses to the issues. Notably in precisely the same way as the arguments that those who practise that slander are.

In addition I think it's very important to note that people here did not protest against zoemancer's removal despite an ignorance about the process of his banning because they were aware of his recent history on barbelith. Even if he had made a claim to the contrary I think people would have been unhappy about his continued presence in this forum.

how do we ensure that the 'line in the sand' re: misogyny is where it should be?

We compare it to other types of behaviour of this kind. If someone had said all muslims clerics advise muslims to become suicide bombers then I very much hope that person would be banned on the basis of that statement and their response to criticism of it should it be to brazen it out. As Celane says It's after it's turned into a discussion and the poster in question has repeatedly refused to engage with people who try to convince vim otherwise that banning becomes viable.
 
 
Ganesh
20:21 / 14.04.06
We compare it to other types of behaviour of this kind. If someone had said all muslims clerics advise muslims to become suicide bombers then I very much hope that person would be banned on the basis of that statement and their response to criticism of it should it be to brazen it out. As Celane says It's after it's turned into a discussion and the poster in question has repeatedly refused to engage with people who try to convince vim otherwise that banning becomes viable.

The pertinent part of this being, for me, and their response to criticism of it should it be to brazen it out ie. the "repeatedly" element I identified earlier. If banning is on the table, then I think it's the response as much as the initial statement - possibly even more so - that should determine what happens.
 
 
Char Aina
20:26 / 14.04.06
i'd agree with that.
that way there's loads of room to get honest misundrstandings dealt with before we go for the lever.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
21:27 / 14.04.06
Quite. The initial post may seem horribly offensive to many of us, but it may have just been worded badly. The poster should have the right to clarify their statement, explain what they REALLY meant... and if, for example, what they meant is that the Holocaust never happened, then BAM!!!

We can be, and for the most part have been on occasion, guilty of misunderstanding intent. In a text-based medium, that's kind of par for the course. BUT... give people the right to respond, the right to explain themselves... THEN (or rather IF/THEN) go nuclear.

The zoemancer case is kind of key here- as Nina points out, a lot was to do with hir recent history- ie this WASN'T just someone saying "wouldn't it be interesting to look at the arguments in favour of Holocaust denial", this was someone doing that who'd in the space of a week gone from "Irving case=freedom of speech issue" to "holocaust denial thread" to "telling Tom ze actually didn't believe it had happened, thus rendered the 'no matter how abhorrent his views may have been' disclaimer in the Irving thread bollocks". Sometimes when people put those wiggly toes in the water, the sharks are right to take 'em off at the leg.
 
 
Char Aina
22:00 / 14.04.06
p'raps not right...
like shooting someone as they lift their leg to leap off a building.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
22:11 / 14.04.06
Well, I meant more in the sense of having spent ages sat at the water's edge going "you finny fuckers are shit! I hate you all! You're shit, with your gills and all!" and THEN bunging in the toes.
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
22:59 / 14.04.06
I'm actually pretty disturbed by how okay a lot of people seemed to be with Shadowsax.

100% OTFM. There seems to be a sense that the whole thing has blown over, and that now Shadowsax should be allowed to keep on posting to various fora as if he were any other member of the board - until the next time he demonstrates his vile, fierce hatred of women, which is, oh look, just now in the Switchboard. This cannot continue.
 
  

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