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ONLY NICE THINGS
08:39 / 07.03.06
it's due to the self-sustaining legal system based on kickbacks from feds to local govts for higher child support numbers and the interest to continue an existing profit system. why would lawyers encourage settlement when they will make more money by going to court?

Hmm. That doesn't happen in the UK, though. There are no "kickbacks from feds to loval govts", and solicitors do not represent clients in court. Therefore, since Fathers for Justice was spawned in the UK, I assume that there will be some other reason why the decisions of courts can be described as corrupt. Can one be hand-tooled for every legal system, or is it more a one-size-fits-all proposition?
 
 
Evil Scientist
13:04 / 07.03.06
Threadrot

Shadowsax, out of interest have you been reading the Feminism 101 thread over in Convo? Might be worth checking out if not.

Threadrot ends.
 
 
ShadowSax
13:26 / 08.03.06
haus, i cant speak directly to corruption within the UK system, but i believe that it has more to do with specific mismanagement of the support collection agencies and the equivalent of child protective services. i can try to find details.

evil, feminism is intriguing; it seems made up of genuinely good people who want equality. but i just dont think that its political motives seek equality. the best i can do is relate it to the civil rights movement and suggest that feminist politics - those actual pieces of legislation forwarded and supported by groups which associate themselves with feminist ideals - seem intent on advocating and stopping with institutionalized affirmative action, justified by maintaining that women are actually the weaker gender and need to be protected above and beyond the rights of the "citizen." for instance, womens rights advocates argue for abortions without notification requirements because of the existence of abuse, but they dont support arguments that say that abuse needs to be proven, they instead seek blanket protections, making it so that a person needs to provide more personal information in order to buy something on ebay than they do to get an abortion. i dont mean to open a can of worms by arguing that point forever and ever, i'm just using that example to demonstrate that feminist politics, i think, has created an unfair and unnecessary imbalance in how women and men are treated in our legal system. i support all efforts for equality, and it might be time for us to start separating "feminism" from "female" and just look at gender equality overall. when i start to read those threads or most threads here about controversial topics, most of it seems to me to be simply picky infighting, wrong headed assumptions, and hurt feelings and misunderstandings and it's difficult to follow the whole thing. in my brief so far time here it seems that the most vocal people are the most vocal in order to hear themselves talk or to knock down others' posts without expressing their own opinions, and i dont see how i could contribute to anything in a way that could actually further my understanding of other points of view, but i'll trust that your suggestion is well meaning and will give the feminism threads another go.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
13:31 / 08.03.06
for instance, womens rights advocates argue for abortions without notification requirements because of the existence of abuse, but they dont support arguments that say that abuse needs to be proven, they instead seek blanket protections, making it so that a person needs to provide more personal information in order to buy something on ebay than they do to get an abortion.

Interestingly, having talked about political aims, Shadowsax dives immediately for the heart of the matter - the idea of women having control over their own bodies, and in particular those terrifying, uncontrollable organs of generation, is intolerable. What this has to do with equality is not clear - as far as I can tell it is a claim that it is equal for women to have the right to abortion, as long as men give them permission.
 
 
ShadowSax
14:10 / 08.03.06
haus, mr spin, you're at it again.

"notification" isnt the same as "permission," but i do understand that you have to alter terms in order to make a point and sound like you have a point to make or a point to discredit. i think i can stop there, so that we dont go on rotting this thread.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
14:31 / 08.03.06
Notify whom, exactly, and for what purpose?

This is aactually quite germaine to the thread, as it continues to demonstrate that the paranoid approach to the family courts you espouse ties in to a broader complex of fear and loathing about modernity and gender equality more generally. We can, of course, assume that you are a lone nutter, but there seem to be a fair few people on the Internet, at least, as ready to channel their issues into attempts at legislative reform.
 
 
ShadowSax
14:43 / 08.03.06
notify

the

father

this is pedantic. it's obvious you're going to continue to presume and assume the worst of motives and for that reason i'm not likely to continue this conversation with you. you will then presume that i'm taking that route because of the worst of motives. this doesnt bother me, because you are annoying and boring.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
14:50 / 08.03.06
Notify whom, exactly, and for what purpose?
 
 
ShadowSax
14:57 / 08.03.06
Notify whom, exactly, and for what purpose?

if you need to be told why the father should be notified, then your brain isnt capable of continuing this conversation.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
15:04 / 08.03.06
Notify whom, exactly, and for what purpose?
 
 
alas
16:30 / 08.03.06
the best i can do is relate it to the civil rights movement and suggest that feminist politics - those actual pieces of legislation forwarded and supported by groups which associate themselves with feminist ideals - seem intent on advocating and stopping with institutionalized affirmative action, justified by maintaining that women are actually the weaker gender and need to be protected above and beyond the rights of the "citizen."

1) Re: Civil Rights: Have you ever made a serious and concerted effort to understand black history in the US? (Or American Indian history?) Do you understand the goals and efforts of the Civil Rights movement, as distinct from the minimal policies changes that were deemed acceptable to a virtually all-white federal government at the time, and since? Do you know any specifics about black history, American Indian history, Latino History, & Immigration Law between the years 1870 and 1954 which provide crucial context for the way that the Civil Rights movement played out? Can you explain the significance of, say, the Dred Scott decision, Plessy v. Ferguson as Supreme Court cases, and the way they've served and had to be responded to as the precedents of more recent cases?

If you can honestly answer any of those questions in the affirmative and provide some detailed analysis, I'm willing to engage you further. If not, then I am inclined to believe that you are simply spouting knee-jerk bromides that serve to claim for white men the very "victim" status you wrongly associate with women and non-whites and condemn in movements seeking their equality. Can you understand that that's a problem?

2) Women in the US do not have Constitutional guarantees of equal protection under the law. The ERA was defeated using a procedure that has never been used for any other proposed Constitutional amendment.

3) Can you how me a recognized feminist who makes the argument a) that women need to be protected above and beyond the rights of "citizen" b) because women are "the weaker gender"?

3) Does the following argument make any sense to you?: "Citizen" is a term that has historically been defined by white, male, propertyholders, and has been, and remains, shaped according to the norms, typical life experiences, and "common sense" of that group. Most feminists believe it to be in serious need of revision as it comes to deal seriously with women's experience, the experience of pregnancy most particularly, to which men inevitably have a different relationship.

for instance, womens rights advocates argue for abortions without notification requirements because of the existence of abuse, but they dont support arguments that say that abuse needs to be proven, they instead seek blanket protections, making it so that a person needs to provide more personal information in order to buy something on ebay than they do to get an abortion.

First, your flippant final comment: Do you know what it's like to try to get an abortion? Particularly, in, say, one of the 14 states that requires a 24-hour waiting period, or one of the large percentage of counties with no doctor who is qualified to perform the procedure?

Your tone in that statement contributes to the perception that you really have never had a single, empathetic thought for the position of women and mothers. Without any substantive expression of empathy--burdensome as you apparently regard such expressions--it is logical to conclude, again, that you don't want equality but pure patriarchal authority and power over the lives of women and children.

Women's rights advocates argue for abortions without notification because we believe that women need to be considered full citizens who have a right to bodily integrity. Drucilla Cornell, for instance, explains it this way:

What does it mean to deny a woman the right to abortion as a matter of law? It means that she is denied her equivalent worth as a person -- the very moral status that rights are meant in this conception to recognize. Put as strongly as possible: the fact of a woman's sexual difference is used to justify her treatment as a violable object. Since this treatment denies women equality as persons, it denies us the fair conditions of cooperation in which acceptance of any law as rightful could be legitimately imposed upon us.

Being forced to carry a child to term means that your body is being taken over not just by a child, but by the State: at that moment, you cease to exist as anything but a vehicle for the child, and the child's existence is placed over yours. I don't care whether the father of the child is a lover, a husband, or a rapist, no one should be able to say: "I want the eventual baby; force that woman to carry the fetus to term for me, no matter what the cost to her financially, socially, physically, mentally." Bearing a child is a form of labor; forced labor is slavery.

i dont mean to open a can of worms by arguing that point forever and ever, i'm just using that example to demonstrate that feminist politics, i think, has created an unfair and unnecessary imbalance in how women and men are treated in our legal system.

And I am saying, again, that you are creating a "straw man" version of feminism to argue against, one based on media misrepresentations of feminism, and, even when this is pointed out to you, you refuse to engage with real feminism. This is not just poor argumentation, it is unethical argumentation.
 
 
ShadowSax
16:55 / 08.03.06
alas, re: civil rights, i'm merely making a parallel between correctional legislation in civil rights issues and in womens rights issues. i saying simply that many laws created to forward the equality of women seem to be overcompensation at best, comparing it very superficially to affirmative action. i dont consider affirmative action to be the pinnacle for civil rights laws (placing bias towards minorities, which i think was appropriate and in some cases still is), and i dont think that civil rights activists feel that affirmative action is the pinnacle either.

2) Women in the US do not have Constitutional guarantees of equal protection under the law. The ERA was defeated using a procedure that has never been used for any other proposed Constitutional amendment.

i know they dont.

3) Can you how me a recognized feminist who makes the argument a) that women need to be protected above and beyond the rights of "citizen" b) because women are "the weaker gender"?

no. thats not the point. my point is that many laws protect women beyond the rights of other "citizens" - protection of child support over protection of custody enforcement, protection of abortion over protection of other medical procedures. the "weaker gender" argument is discussed after your next point. well, you make the point for me.

3) Does the following argument make any sense to you?: "Citizen" is a term that has historically been defined by white, male, propertyholders, and has been, and remains, shaped according to the norms, typical life experiences, and "common sense" of that group. Most feminists believe it to be in serious need of revision as it comes to deal seriously with women's experience, the experience of pregnancy most particularly, to which men inevitably have a different relationship.

yes, that makes sense, altho i disagree with it, and i think that the inherent disadvantages faced by women are overplayed. you say here that most feminists believe that "citizen" is shaped by white male propertyholders. this is how i'm defining the term "weaker gender" above. and you go from general "life experience" to specifically "pregnancy." i would say that much ground has been made up in terms of life experience, and the particulars of pregnancy have nothing to do with custody or support within this context, as both men and women are protected under the US family medical leave act. when you name "white, male property holders," you are defining a favored class in history, not at the present time, at least not compared to "white, female property holders". as we've seen, women hold at least an equal share of financial decisions. women collect much more child support than men and are favored, as making up the vast majority of custodial parents, in welfare claims, state-provided health insurance, etc. the common male in america is not an advantaged class of citizen compared to the common female in america, all other factors being equal.

i am not going to get into the abortion argument. if you feel that my comments betray something deeper at fault with my perspective, so be it. there are valid arguments to be made on both sides of the issue that dont involve trying to maintian or remove a woman's control over her body. because it needs to be said in this culture of this forum, yes, i have great empathy for women who find themselves in unwanted pregnancies. i dont believe that abortion should be outlawed or that women should be prevented from having abortions. i dont feel that women should be abused, or that children should be abused or that anyone should be put into situations that may be harmful or threatening.

i'm not speaking to media misrepresentations of feminism. i'm talking about legislation promoted by feminist groups. every time i try to focus this conversation down, it gets blown out to something more, things i'm not talking about.
 
 
Dead Megatron
17:49 / 08.03.06
the idea of women having control over their own bodies

First, let me clarify that I'm for women's right for abortion, and I think they don't have notify anyone if they don' want to (although it may be the polite thing to do, in the case of long-term monogamous relationships)- and that i'm not at all at SS's side in this - but I'm not sure I agree with this "it's my body" argument. After all, the baby/fetus/zygote is an entirely different entity, ain't it?

But it's just that specific wording of the argument I have a issue with. Women should have such right, anyway. They only should express it differently, I guess
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
20:39 / 08.03.06
If it's a totally separate entity, DM, then why is it hanging around inside the lady's body? New thread on this, probably.

Shadowsax: I note that not only have you not answered my question, you have also not really answered any of Alas' - you appear to have no knowledge of the history of the civil rights movement, and hilariously do not feel this to be a problem when drawing comparisons. I notice also that you are continuing to make statements based on assessments of finance in the US which you misread and misrepresented the first time round. Great pains were taken to correct your misunderstanding, and it is a shame you did not apparently read those corrections. When you say:

i'm talking about legislation promoted by feminist groups. every time i try to focus this conversation down, it gets blown out to something more, things i'm not talking about.

You also forget that we are still waiting for a credible example of this - that is, a piece of legislation which a well-respected, large feminist organisation has advance, successfully, and got on the statute books which has a positive or negative effect qua Fathers for Justice and similar groups. This does not seem an unfair level of detail - you displayed above a readiness to endorse F4J in areas where you had no idea of the inequalities they were protesting (in the UK), but if we are similarly forgiving then we get nowhere. Your fantasy about feminists somehow mind-controlling the majority-male executive and legislatures has been largely disproven, with surprising politeness. So, can we focus down on a single, attested example, if this is your desire?
 
 
illmatic
08:19 / 09.03.06
i'm talking about legislation promoted by feminist groups. every time i try to focus this conversation down, it gets blown out to something more, things i'm not talking about

I have to say you must accept some partial responsibility for this. For instance, in my interactions with you upthread, my first two attempts to ask you your thoughts about feminism were dismissed as leading questions. When you could finally bring yourself to answer, we got one short sentence - six words or so? This does not in my view show someone with an unprejudiced attitude towards the subject. It might be adviable to stop seeing feminism as a monolith you dislike, and can chip away at on a couple of issues, and see it as a set of seperate but related struggles, some of which are very valuable and praiseworthy (and have had postive effects for men as well as women), some not so. This might give you the space to acknowledge its goals and acheivements.

As I've said above, I've no problem believing that the court system is sometimes prejuiced against men. Neither have I a problem in beliveing that this is sometimes exploited by feminset groups. However, this for me doesn't invalidate all the achiements of feminism, nor its key claims - that society is still unequal. I feel this has been proved comprehensively upthread. This is a key fact you seem to be missing, and haven't dealt at all, with other than saying you think its "overplayed".

I might add that your whole arguement and rhetorical style contributes to this - you show a refusal to acknowledge that anyone else on the feminst side of the fence might simply have a point. While the debates on Barbelith are storm in a teacup on one level, the most important thing about them is that they show the importance of listening to and not simply dismisisng other parties.

In other words, I don't see you as misogynist, but in your dismissal I feel that you are expressing (perhaps unconsciously) deeply sexist attitudes.
 
 
Spaniel
11:11 / 09.03.06
Ditto. Thanks, Ill.
 
 
ShadowSax
12:28 / 09.03.06
As I've said above, I've no problem believing that the court system is sometimes prejuiced against men. Neither have I a problem in beliveing that this is sometimes exploited by feminset groups. However, this for me doesn't invalidate all the achiements of feminism, nor its key claims - that society is still unequal. I feel this has been proved comprehensively upthread. This is a key fact you seem to be missing, and haven't dealt at all, with other than saying you think its "overplayed".

i never said i was seeking to invalidate all the achievements of feminism or even to claim that society is (in some ways) still unequal. why did you think that was my point?

if thats not enough words to make you happy, please forward me a quota and i'll try to satisfy it.
 
 
illmatic
14:52 / 09.03.06
why did you think that was my point?

Your posts in this thread, in particular a refusal to engage or comment on huge swathes of evidence refering to inequality. In a nutshell.

There's no quota, but a willingness to engage might be nice.
 
 
ShadowSax
14:56 / 09.03.06
well, now i see why you thought that was my point. does my response satisfy you?
 
 
illmatic
15:12 / 09.03.06
Wellllll... on some levels. yes. I still would like to see you advance evidence per the effects of feminims as per Haus's request at the end of his last post.
 
 
ShadowSax
15:16 / 09.03.06
well, haus isnt getting what he wants because all he's doing is disagreeing with me and not forwarding any real opinions and mostly being a jerk. i dont have nearly enough time in my life to fight that losing battle. mostly it seems an ego stroke for him. i'll have none of it, i say!

and if that means he stands unconvinced, then, well, oh well.
 
 
illmatic
15:21 / 09.03.06
I think Haus's dislike of you is getting in the way of his exchanges with you in this thread and elsewhere, but I still think here, he's making a valid request.
 
 
alas
19:24 / 24.09.06
I wasn't sure whether to put this in a new thread or not, but here goes. There's an article in this week's Newsweek (Sept 25), which has been reprinted on a child & women court advocacy site, entitled "Fighting For Our Kids". It's exploring the notion of "parental alienation," which is one of the current strategies used by fathers' rights advocates to strip women of custody rights. I wish it were a longer piece--it's only 6 short paragraphs--with more details about the use of the strategy and specifics about the resistance to it.

Here's the meat of the article:

Under the theory [of 'parental alienation'], children fear or reject one parent because they have been corrupted or coached to lie by the other. Parental alienation is now the leading defense for parents accused of abuse in custody cases, according to domestic-violence advocates. And it's working. The few current studies done on the subject consider only small samples. But according to one 2004 survey in Massachusetts by Harvard's Jay Silverman, 54 percent of custody cases involving documented spousal abuse were decided in favor of the alleged batterers. Parental alienation was used as an argument in nearly every case.

This year the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges denounced the theory as "junk science," and at least four states have passed legislation to curtail its use in custody cases involving allegations of domestic violence. "It's really been a cancer in the family courts," says Richard Ducote, an attorney in Pittsburgh who has represented abuse victims in custody cases for 22 years. "It's made it really difficult for parents to protect their kids. If you ask for protection, you're deemed a vindictive, alienating parent."

It may seem hard to fathom how a judge could award custody to a parent accused of abuse. But battered spouses often don't file criminal charges—so no judicial finding is made against their mates—and family-court judges typically aren't trained to referee the complexities of abusive relationships. (Although men are sometimes battered by their wives, women are the victims in the majority of abuse cases.) Judges often throw out documented evidence of spousal abuse, arguing that it is irrelevant in a custody case. And experts say that family-court judges often look favorably on the alleged abuser because he seems more willing to share custody than the accuser—who is hellbent on keeping the father away from the child. According to a survey by Geraldine Stahly, a psychology professor at California State University at San Bernardino, attorneys will caution battered spouses against reporting abuse in court so they don't lose their children. (Stahly and other academics say the parental-alienation argument has more legitimacy in custody disputes that don't involve charges of abuse.)

(an aside: I find the last two sentences there confusing: I think they mean that people who are victims of spousal abuse are somehow at risk of being seen as incapable parents, not being strong enough to stand up for their children? But then, if they don't report it, they leave themselves vulnerable to the "parental alienation" charge? Perhaps someone else has a clearer idea or understanding of this.)

Parental-alienation syndrome was first introduced by child psychiatrist Richard Gardner in the 1980s. Fathers-rights groups picked up on the idea and began trying it out in court. These groups condemn abusers. But Dan Hogan, executive director of Fathers & Families, a nonprofit group that advocates for joint custody, argues that all too often the accusers lie in order to win custody of their kids.
 
 
ibis the being
01:00 / 25.09.06
(an aside: I find the last two sentences there confusing: I think they mean that people who are victims of spousal abuse are somehow at risk of being seen as incapable parents, not being strong enough to stand up for their children? But then, if they don't report it, they leave themselves vulnerable to the "parental alienation" charge? Perhaps someone else has a clearer idea or understanding of this.)

I read it differently. I thought it meant that victims of spousal abuse are advised by their attorneys not to report the abuse because if they do they will be accused of "parental alienation" (ie badmouthing their spouses for being abusive) and this is what will cause them to lose custody. Boy that was wordy, hopefully not just as confusing?

Again (as earlier in this thread), all I can offer here is a personal anecdote... based on my experience with my parents' divorce I agree that this "parental alienation" idea is probably junk science. My mother said a lot of awful things about my father when they split up, but this did not affect my young siblings' relationship with him in any significant way. Nor, thankfully, did it affect his access to them (he never claimed parental alienation or anything of the sort).
 
 
Disco is My Class War
05:01 / 25.09.06
That's so scary, alas. That's crazy scary.

I don't really know what to make of that claim that the parental alienation argument has more legitimacy in cases that don't involve abuse. I guess they're saying that if, in the absence of a specific reason to deny one parent custody (such as violence) the children are badmouthing that parent, the situation looks fishier and is more complex. But doesn't the whole definition of 'parental alienation' depend on the presence of a claim of violence, or something so bad it would work against the father?

My experience of my parents' divorce is that claiming parental alienation is actually an extension of the manipulation that most violent parents become practiced at.
 
 
redtara
19:47 / 25.09.06
Christ, that's chilled me to the bone.

Just been to kiss my kids and now I want to kill someone.

I'm under the impression that in the UK you have to be married and shown to be an unfit mother for custody to be granted to a father. Please correct this if it is only my wishful thinking.

So the woman in the story lost her kids because the court believed that she had told her children stories that made them scared of their dad? I would have thought that in the UK this would just have lead to supervised access for him untill a sense of normality set in. Or am I just hopelessly naieve?

Are there any English legal types around who know the deal on family law. Is this the kind of thing that we will be accepting in five years time in the UK or is that unlikely?
 
 
ibis the being
21:32 / 25.09.06
I'm sorry this is going to be really unhelpful but does anyone remember the name of the woman whose kids were taken from her right in public to make some sort of statement about parental alienation... she was a former model I believe, and I think it happened in NYC. I'm trying to Google it but without a name I'm getting nothing.
 
 
grant
15:17 / 26.09.06
I really want to know how "parental alienation" is legally constituted. This is the first I've heard of it.
 
 
HCE
16:04 / 27.09.06
I'm under the impression that in the UK you have to be married and shown to be an unfit mother for custody to be granted to a father. Please correct this if it is only my wishful thinking.

redtara, could you clarify? I don't understand what this means. Fathers cannot be legally granted custody of their children in the UK if they were never married? There is a 'default' award of custody to the mother? It is not done on a case-by-case basis? What if there are two mothers? Or two fathers? Can two caregivers of the same sex or gender be legal custodians of a child in the UK?
 
 
Supersister
17:06 / 27.09.06
Sorry red tara you are wrong. There is no direct equivalent in the UK to the US concept of custody. A residence order can be made to state where the child lives and who makes day to day decisions, a contact order will regulate contact with a non-resident, non primary-carer. Decision are made according to the welfare principle - the child's welfare is paramount - and there is a welfare checklist, which sets out the factors the court should take into account. The status quo before any application is one of those factors, so a married Mother who is the child's primary carer before relationship breakdown is in a better position to that extent, but not merely because she is married or because she is the Mother. Shared residence orders, which allow parents to share day to day decisions and define the time spent by the child in the care of each parent, are becoming more common and I think that they, or even better a shared parenting agreement, are the best way forward in the majority of cases.

As for parental alienation, it's not a legal concept so there is no legal formulation, but PAS is a recognised psychological syndrome in the US and the British Courts are starting to recognise it more and more. Previously, the Courts here referred to 'implaccable hostility' from one parent towards another. PAS applies to situations where the parent with care poisons the children's mind and so alienates them from the other parent, usually because they want them out of their lives. It can be inadvertent, where the parent's own hostility is so extreme the child sides with them out of loyalty and to protect themselves emotionally, but more usually it is deliberate. The most extreme form is the situation parents manufacture allegations of abuse and involve the child in faking symptoms and lying to professionals - not as uncommon as you might think.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
17:09 / 27.09.06
At the risk of getting shouted at again, I think there's a bit of confusion here. First up, an unmarried father (or a father who was not married to the mother at the time of the birth) may or may not be legally recognised as the father in the UK, but is not necessarily so recognised - it has to be ratified by a Judge. The relevant section of the Children Act 1989:

4.—(1) Where a child's father and mother were not married to each other at the time of his birth—

(a) the court may, on the application of the father, order that he shall have parental responsibility for the child; or

(b) the father and mother may by agreement ("a parental responsibility agreement") provide for the father to have parental responsibility for the child.


That's from 1989, but I don't think it's been substantially altered.

It is usual for a residence order (that is, the right/duty to provide a home for the child) to be given to one parent and other forms of access (defined in Section 8 of the Children Act) to be given to the other. In general, the Act aims to preserve the status quo as far as possible to minimise disruption to the child's life, so since most children spend most of their time with their mother, and since fathers more commonly leave the "family home", children usually end up with their mother. However, residency with the father is possible, although rare, based on a number of other factors including the interests of the child, the age and sex of the child, the circumstances of the parents... and, of course, who has actually applied for a residence order. The mother, I think, more usually does so, which is also a factor. With the support of a judgement assigning parental responsibility, anyone can apply for a residence order, but you have to get special dispensation if you are not one of a smallish number of people - parent, stepparent who has lived with children as a parent, guardian who has provided a home for children for a continuous spell of at least three years, and so on.

Incidentally, if a father does not have parental responsibility under the Act, it can be conferred by a judge at the same time as the settlement of residence.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
17:12 / 27.09.06
Sorry, Supasista. Crosspost. Listen to the expert, people.
 
 
Supersister
17:18 / 27.09.06
According to a survey by Geraldine Stahly, a psychology professor at California State University at San Bernardino, attorneys will caution battered spouses against reporting abuse in court so they don't lose their children. (Stahly and other academics say the parental-alienation argument has more legitimacy in custody disputes that don't involve charges of abuse.)

(an aside: I find the last two sentences there confusing: I think they mean that people who are victims of spousal abuse are somehow at risk of being seen as incapable parents, not being strong enough to stand up for their children? But then, if they don't report it, they leave themselves vulnerable to the "parental alienation" charge? Perhaps someone else has a clearer idea or understanding of this.)


I'm not sure about the US but in the UK 'failure to protect' is a specific form of recognised child abuse, so it may be a similar thing. However, in the UK, advocates have a specific primary duty to the court in matters of child protection, so as soon as such allegations are made and so long as they were of substance, there could be no question of keeping it from the court.

I think the reason the UK courts have been so reluctant to recognise PAS is precisely because it is such a convenient defence to allegations of abuse. However, on full investigation and involvement of psychiatrists it does seem to be pretty obvious when allegations are true and when they are false.
 
 
Supersister
17:24 / 27.09.06
Ha ha yeah listen to the expert.

*looks around for the expert*

Just one more thing, Tannhauser it has been altered. Since December 2003, unmarried Fathers now have PR automatically if they are named on the child's birth certificate.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
17:40 / 27.09.06
There, you see? Expert!
 
  

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