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Thanks SW, this is something I'm very interested/concerned with at the moment.
I've tried a multitude of terms over my relationship history, and often go for a mix of a bunch of things.
At the moment, I can imagine using: boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, play partner(or play-specific terms), partner. (Motivations often driven by context, as Deva/Warewulf describe) I'm occasionally using 'primary partner' these days to describe my, er, primary partner, but it feels odd to me. I've also used Main Boy, which I like in some ways, not in others.
This is partly a newness thing. My (comfort with) terms is evolving and altering along with my way of doing relationships.* (At this point, I'd say I'm (learner)poly and non-monogamous) But partly, it just feels... odd. A bit clinical, as people have noted about about 'partner'.
Add 'primary' and I feel like I have to start making graphs.**
So, being a foodie, I've come up with 'main dish' and 'side dish' to describe the people in my life. It works for me.
I have a big spiel as to why, but it's not that interesting to many people)
Oh, and Kat, I love that you say 'my associate'. Makes me think of cult 60s tv (The Saint, The Avengers etc) and I imagine you, modded up, racing through Swinging London having dapper adventures.
What do people call their partners who are not male or female if they want to get the gender of their SO across?
*though as long as I can remember, I've been okay with 'partner', ie way back when I was exclusively describing male SO's, it fitted best. I think I was always keen to allow for gender ambiguity.
** which I'm not up for. Venn diagrams, however... |
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