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I really like 'main dish' and 'side dish', and all the permutations of talking about lovers/friends as menu items. Yum. I also like 'Loverrrrrr,' but you have to perform it, don't you.
I call mine 'partner,' in official situations.
'Girlfriend' with random people who don't know her. 'Lover' with intimate, queer-friendly strangers, like my doctor. 'My sweetheart' with close friends. Her name the rest of the time.
Actually, I use 'girlfriend' way too often. It makes me feel slightly uncomfortable, but not becaus of the connotations of youth. Instead, especially now as opposed to in the past, calling her 'my girlfriend' renders us ostensibly heterosexual. This is discomforting. Also, calling her really woman-idneitifed names like that robs her, I feel, of her own complicated gender presentation. But what can one do? 'Partner' is bloodless.
On her blog, she calls me 'the beloved'. If I'm good, I also get 'Prince Consort'. Logically, that should make her my Queen. But neither of us can get our heads around that, for reasons outlined above. |
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