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Love. Ugh.

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lekvar

17:45 / 24.03.05

One thing I perceive is a failure on Boogaloo's part to recognize the importance of mind-blowing sex in a relationship. The flash and spark of College Love is no good without mind-blowing sex. Boring old-people going-out-for-milk relationships are no good without mind-blowing sex*.

Think about how quickly she'll ditch her current boyf if you can make her toes curl!

*And emotional commitment, of course.

grant

18:00 / 24.03.05

Have you thought about asking this girl to come help fix up the scavenger sale at the community center on Friday?

I love that film. They're so wholesome.

STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK

22:28 / 24.03.05

You wouldn't say that if you saw the Easter eggs on the DVD...

Peach Pie

13:36 / 31.03.05

i'm completely taken with someone unavailable. most of the time it's mere head over the heels infatuation, but then i think it's love when i think about this person's mortality, how i'd like to catch the air they breathe and stick it back in, and what a tragedy it is that the person is subject to things like life and death.

we're clearly attracted to one another, but that's all that it can be. Ganesh - can you say more about the resolution of cognitive dissonance?

I'm Rick Jones, bitch

14:17 / 31.03.05

Whiskey. Lots of whiskey.

She's away for a bit and when she get's back I'm going to level with her. Somehow.

SHIT OR GET OFF THE POT, SON

Ganesh

14:28 / 31.03.05

Ganesh - can you say more about the resolution of cognitive dissonance?

Yes and no. Maybe.

Peach Pie

13:56 / 01.04.05

Is it some esoteric buzzphrase with which psychs secretly diagnose humanity en masse?

Brigade du jour

14:05 / 01.04.05

Yes it is.

STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK

16:49 / 01.04.05

Or is it?
Eh?
Eh?
Aaaaahhhhhh....!

Ganesh

21:00 / 01.04.05

Is it some esoteric buzzphrase with which psychs secretly diagnose humanity en masse?

No.

Less searchable M0rd4nt

21:28 / 01.04.05

I like to diagnose psychiatrists en masse. This week, I shall be mostly diagnosing them with cold-sensitive urticaria.

Less searchable M0rd4nt

21:54 / 01.04.05

I mean FFS, Cognitive Dissonance isn't even a condition, it's just a concept.

(I guess it might be the human condition...)

Here's a %rrrrradical% thought: Maybe if very bored rich people with way too much time on their hands didn't sit around looking for the latest "esoteric buzzphrase" to self-diagnose themselves with (often in order to excuse the random fuckitude that they engage in) aided and abetted by lifestyle mags and "have YOU got syndrome X?" type quizzes on the net, there wouldn't be any latest esoteric buzzphrases, and thusly a lot less pills being doled out by desperate doctors ("All right then, you're bipolar then, now put away the colour supplement, take two of these and fuck off so I can explain to this homeless paranoid schizophrenic that he doesn't need to amputate his own arm for Jesus!")

(Disclaimer: Holy fuck I'm drunk.)

Ganesh

22:39 / 01.04.05

*applauds Mordant's drunken-but-spot-on ranting*

Peach Pie

08:17 / 04.04.05

?

I think of love as sort of a place where you can't hide from yourself anymore, and you can't pretend that there are many more people in the sea like the object of your affections.

Maybe being in love with someone unobtainable means that you're not cognitively dissonant enough?

Tryphena Absent

08:57 / 04.04.05

I think of love as sort of a place where you can't hide from yourself anymore

Really? I'd suggest that love is an incredibly convenient place to hide from yourself. In fact if you're really determined you can hide anywhere. Love is like the grown up equivalent of your mother's floor to ceiling hall curtains.

Peach Pie

09:00 / 04.04.05

disagree - i think it greatly raises consciousness, and makes you more self-aware.

STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK

09:02 / 04.04.05

Watching embarrassingly gushy once hard-as-nails people suddenly developing an unhealthy interest in cuddly toys BECAUSE THEIR BELOVED LIKES THEM or, indeed, vice versa, has never really screamed "self-awareness" at me. Maybe I'm just in denial.

Peach Pie

09:13 / 04.04.05

that's the froth on the top. I speak of the rich molten chocolate beneath.

Tryphena Absent

09:28 / 04.04.05

Please elaborate. I mean this weekend I was told that I've started to share facial expressions, which both disturbed me and didn't- I think that once you've been with someone for awhile you can't help some crossover. I mean, I'm never going to regret RZA. That isn't the same as hiding yourself though and if you're hiding then there isn't any chocolate because you're being dominated and that's not right. My point is that it can make you self-aware but just because you love doesn't mean it's positive, that strikes me as naively upbeat.

Peach Pie

09:35 / 04.04.05

I'm never going to regret RZA

What is RZA?

if you're hiding then there isn't any chocolate because you're being dominated and that's not right

I said you *don't* hide when you're in love.

My point is that it can make you self-aware but just because you love doesn't mean it's positive, that strikes me as naively upbeat

i didn't say it's necessarily positive, or mention positivity.

Regrettable Juvenilia

09:40 / 04.04.05

i think it greatly raises consciousness, and makes you more self-aware.

Have you read any of the Barbelith threads on the subject? They are almost always started by people who go on to demonstrate that Selfawaria is not a land with which they are in any way familiar. Some would argue that it's not love that's really involved here, but still... How does love make you more self-aware, exactly? How does it "raise consciousness", and what does that EVEN MEAN, ffs?

Peach Pie

09:45 / 04.04.05

How does love make you more self-aware, exactly? How does it "raise consciousness"

Well, it's different in every case, isn't it. it's like any profound life experience.

Regrettable Juvenilia

09:56 / 04.04.05

Give me one or two examples, then.

Tryphena Absent

10:00 / 04.04.05

Hey come on, he might mean you're more self aware about hygiene or, y'know, recycling newspapers

Sax

10:18 / 04.04.05

Or the size of your genitals. Love can make you think about that a lot.

Tryphena Absent

10:26 / 04.04.05

Always lowering the tone...