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Love. Ugh.

 
  

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ONLY NICE THINGS
13:29 / 12.05.05
And are you ready to make a complete fool of yourself on the strength of your analysis of a look. Eyes are powerful communicators, but unless backed up by some sort of statement to the effect of "Crikey, I'm powerful attracted to you", they may just bespeak lost contacts or vaguely trying to remember your name.
 
 
Peach Pie
13:35 / 12.05.05
Mmm hmm.

I feel the need to point out I would never make moves on a taken person, whether or not anybody cares.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
14:21 / 12.05.05
Well, there's "taken" and "taken". Is the person in a monogamous relationship? Are they committed or dating? Are there mechanisms that would allow them to see other people? If you mean that the person and their partner have both entered happily into a relationship which excludes sex with any other person, and postulate further that you would never intrude into that, then you have your answer, assuming that the person you are inquiring aboiut is yourself. Since the person with the go-to-bed eyes is off the buffet until or unless they cease to be taken, in the meantime don't think about them and devote your energies to relationships you aren't ethically prohibited from ever pursuing.

Of course, you may be asking on behalf of someone with no such qualms. In which case my advice would probably be about the same, but for different reasons.
 
 
Peach Pie
14:23 / 12.05.05
I'm guessing... irrespective of the ethical prohibitions, you would say it would just make too much mess?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
14:44 / 12.05.05
Pretty much. Also, the same absence of encouragement would be in effect. There's no evidence to suggest that the person has any interest in the other party at all, really, apart from a few easily-imagiined smouldering looks. There's nothing wrong with taking a chance, but adultery takes two people, both of whom have to be committed to making it work.
 
  

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