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whats your kink?

 
  

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Robot Man Reformed
09:28 / 09.01.02
People who write about their kinks in a public forum.
 
 
alas
09:31 / 09.01.02
right now?

reading ganesh's list. oooh.

bitchiekittie playing the dominitrix and demanding to know our kinks without sharing hirs . . . la.

now i won't tell you any more. even if you spank me. (please?)
 
 
Tryphena Absent
09:45 / 09.01.02
Skinheads in floral dresses... male or female.
 
 
Disco is My Class War
09:45 / 09.01.02
Once I wrote an essay about kink. I don't think I'll repeat it here, though. Just list things.

Pain. Getting it and giving it, preferably not at the same time.
Punk leatherboys, of any gender.
Shaved heads.
Androgyny.
Proper submission, but then again sometimes it's nice to find a bit of a smart-ass to top.
Vulnerability.
Punk boys in dresses.
People who look achingly young but aren't.
Canes.
Bloodplay. (To answer yr question, Haus, experiential evidence suggests that bloodplay is sometimes thought of as a dyke thing rather than a gay men's thing -- maybe influenced by the discursive attachment of gayness to HIV/AIDS. But this is really no evidence, and actually I reckon bloodplay has become more popular over the last ten years than not. But bloodplay can be done safely.)
Faggot sex, ahem. Or rather, the best stereotypical fag leathersex, preferably including me in it somewhere. As a boy.
Girls who look like boys.

I think that's enough for now.
 
 
Naked Flame
09:45 / 09.01.02
Being blindfolded or blindfolding my SO. Or both of us. Giving head. A partner who knows that men need foreplay too. Sex outdoors (in the middle of nowhere- tactile arousal, not thrill-of-discovery.) The idea of being able to change shape and be male or female or both or neither, which could come out a bunch of different ways. Bottoms.

I realised re-reading this that my fantasy kinks are totally different to my RL kinks. In my dreams/fantasies, I'm bi and occasionally female but IRL I'm straight... men kind of ...smell wrong. Peppery. I have a major kink for female scent, natural or artificial, even in completely non-sexual contexts.

theorybitchead says that being male this can't really be a kink, but flame jr. says it works for him.

just to clarify, that's my penis, not a family member.

er. taxi?
 
 
angharad
09:45 / 09.01.02
being spanked on the bottom
 
 
Jackie Susann
09:45 / 09.01.02
Where do I start?

Singlets - the main reason I wish we were having a proper summer right now. I am a raging singletsexual.
Nipple clamps.
Feeling small, humiliated or helpless.
People who are intensely enthusiastic about their own kinks, and generous with the energy from them (oh so vague and hippie-ish).
Unexpected perversity, or fetishes I haven't heard of before.
Sexually adventurous political activists.
Dirty boots (licking or just looking at).
Skinheads in floral dresses, thanks to Janina.
 
 
Laughing
09:45 / 09.01.02
To me, there's nothing quite like a submissive, zaftig girl with dark eyes and long dark hair, sitting on the edge of the bed, wearing black nylon stockings and nothing else.

My intended can pull this off perfectly. One of the many, many reasons we're getting married.
 
 
Solitaire Rose as Tom Servo
09:45 / 09.01.02
You Kinky BASTARDS!!

Thanks for making me seem ever so vanilla.

I have a thing for redheads, being teased, giving oral for extended periods of time, redheads, corsetry and the like, redheads, anything that Howard Chaykin has women wear in his comics, redheads, and redheads.

My last gf was introducing me to the world of B&D, which I found odd yet interesting and way want to explore that area of my thoughts at some future point.
 
 
wembley can change in 28 days
09:45 / 09.01.02
I'd have to call myself a rather Repressed Little Thing by comparison, I think. There are, however, a few things that get me more worked up than usual...
Accents: German, Russian, UK (start at Scotland and head south), Australian, Kiwi, French, Northern-European, Eastern-European. Not necessarily in that order all of the time.
Leather: I've noticed I can't stop touching (practically caressing) leather things. This almost ended in embarassment last week when, flying home from Kentucky, all the seats on the plane were covered in soft, cool leather...mmmmmmmmm...
Unique, well-designed shoes.
Blindfolding games.
Natural, working-all-day-in-the-sun body odour, especially as left as a faint trace on a t-shirt.
Androgyny - the more I can't decide, the more turned on I am.
Older men - 35 to 50. Sigh. So untouchable.
A lightning wit.
Flexibility - that's right. When you're in the middle of a backbend at the gym, I'm watching, flexing my salivary glands.
Not so much: kissing girls - I swear, just to live up to my tomboyish appearance, I've tried a few times to see how my half lives. And while it seems some girls have technique down, I just can't get turned on by the whole thing - I get bored. This is in some ways a vast disappointment.

Gee, for the most part, it's too bad for Ganesh's sake that I'm not a bloke. PS - I do play rugby.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
09:45 / 09.01.02
I love this thread.
 
 
Sax
09:45 / 09.01.02
Yes, but does it get you hot?

Added to my list:

Girls with big noses.
Gwyneth Paltrow with a false moustache and beard in Shakespeare in Love.
Women who say "fuck" in posh British accents.
Women who say anything in Scottish accents.
The Teen Angels from Captain Caveman.
That chapter in Women on Top by Nancy Friday by the woman who fantasised about having sex with a gorilla.
Dwarfs.
 
 
We're The Great Old Ones Now
09:45 / 09.01.02
quote:Originally posted by angharad:
being spanked on the bottom


I'm blind.
 
 
Jackie Susann
09:45 / 09.01.02
Now that you mention it, I have a fetish for being spanked on the bottom by blind men. Interested?
 
 
We're The Great Old Ones Now
09:45 / 09.01.02
I'd need rather long arms, sweetie.

But to be honest, I'm not blind. I'm just trying to close my mind's eye to some inevitable inferences from that statement.

Hoom.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
09:45 / 09.01.02
Jesus. I never realised I was so boring.
Umm... girls with badly dyed hair and too much make-up (as various of my friends would put it- I blame a dodgy goth past). Shit. I'm dull. So fucking crucify me! (hmmm... I may get a bone for that one...)
Oh... btw... extra points to Mordant for quoting the VERY Sisters song that's been going round my head all week for no apparent reason...
 
 
Jackie Susann
09:45 / 09.01.02
I think you'll find I realised that, and was attempting to gently poke fun at your rather quaint idea that a spanked bottom would be a horrible thing to see.

Hoom?
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
09:45 / 09.01.02
See, I assumed Nick meant that he had gone blind as a result of over-indulgence in an activity he was compelled to indulge in by the thought of bottoms being spanked...

[ 09-01-2002: Message edited by: Flyboy ]
 
 
We're The Great Old Ones Now
09:45 / 09.01.02
Oh, no. It's not a spanked bottom I have a problem with. I'm rather a fan of bottoms, both spanked and unspanked.

I don't even have a problem with angharad's bottom, which is an excellent example of the breed, nor yet with the attentions lavished upon it.

It's more the fact that I have a vague notion of some of the possible candidates for the job over the years, and the prospect of some of them in situ, as it were, is rather...um.

I think it's fair to say that angharad, who is one of the finest minds, the most delectable visions, and splendid friends, has suffered from the occasional lapse in good taste in the area of romantic involvement. As have we all, of course.

Okay, love, you can stomp me into the ground now.
 
 
Jackie Susann
09:45 / 09.01.02
Well, if that's what gets you off...
 
 
We're The Great Old Ones Now
09:45 / 09.01.02
In my youth, darling, in my youth...these old bones are grown fragile, so I prefer to stomp now.
 
 
Fra Dolcino
09:45 / 09.01.02
Saw this , and thought of you guys...

...little aid.
 
 
bitchiekittie
11:02 / 09.01.02
Id never make a good dom, Id surely ruin the effect with all sorts of "are you ok?" "oh - did that hurt, baby?" and the horrified "IM SORRY! I DIDNT MEAN TO DO THAT SO HARD!!". I have an overactive worry gland

I once did something so horrifically wrong to someone once (fortunately for me, he really really loved me) that I still feel guilty to this day
 
 
Mourne Kransky
15:37 / 09.01.02
I have no kinks, fortunately, and am a very normal gay male voyeur, rubber~fetishist and sado~masochist.

quite like pushy subs who want to subvert the whole sm thing. I'd be interested in Mordant C@rnival's rejects. maybe that's a kink.

I do have sexual fantasies about barbeloids based purely on the images conjured in my febrile mind by their fiction suits. but that's more of a pointless and pathetic character flaw, rather than a kink.
 
 
deja_vroom
15:40 / 09.01.02
lesbian twins. Obviously
 
 
angharad
17:04 / 09.01.02
quote:Originally posted by Nick:

I have a vague notion of some of the possible candidates for the job over the years, and the prospect of some of them in situ, as it were, is rather...um.


Calm yourself, dearie. The bottom spanking is a new thing. I won't deny the 'lapses', though.

But I'm all better now, I promise!

[ 09-01-2002: Message edited by: angharad ]
 
 
Ganesh
17:09 / 09.01.02
quote:Originally posted by ZoCher:
quite like pushy subs who want to subvert the whole sm thing.


[deliberately stroppy] Like fuck you do! [/deliberately stroppy]
 
 
Rage
17:58 / 09.01.02
Ok, here goes.

Insanity. Role playing fantasies that involve shit like world domination and starting new races.

There.
 
 
Not Here Still
18:10 / 09.01.02
Eyes.

Verbal sparring.

Having my nipples licked/nibbled.

People who don't just want to fuck straight away.

But most of all, the moment I'm in. I'll go whichever way I'm taken (as it were)
 
 
Cherry Bomb
18:16 / 09.01.02
Hmmm.

Being tied to the bed and blindfolded.
Tying someone to the bed and blindfolding them.
Boys wearing eyeliner.
Androgyny... YUM.
Boys in drag.
Playing "dress up" - especially if I get the starring role.
A really, really well-argued argument with someone.
A boy who totally wows me with their intellect. (It REALLY is a turn-on!)
Scratching my fingernails down someone's back.
The occasional good slap on the ass. But I don't want too many slaps on the ass.
Dirty dirty dirty talk YAY! But it has to be clever dirty talk that either turns me on or makes me laugh.
Nice broad shoulders.
Hairy boys
The smell of someone's skin on my body like, hours after we've fooled around
A really good work out always turns me on.

I don't know if these count as kinks.

Enough. I have to go now.

[ 09-01-2002: Message edited by: Cherry Bomb ]
 
 
bitchiekittie
18:26 / 09.01.02
quote:Originally posted by Cherry Bomb:
The smell of someone's skin on my body like, hours after we've fooled around


*drools*

sometimes just the smell of a man when you hold him to you - right at his neck, a mixture of his skin and hair...

mmmm

I have to go, too
 
 
Cherry Bomb
18:31 / 09.01.02
Yes, a good-smelling boy is excellent. I still think I prefer the scent of post-coital skin/skin mixture, meself..
 
 
Captain Zoom
19:13 / 09.01.02
gotta add the Swiss language to my list. a little more fluid than German and oh so sexy.

Zoom.
 
 
Solitaire Rose as Tom Servo
20:47 / 09.01.02
[QUOTE]Originally posted by bitchiekittie:
[QB]Id never make a good dom, Id surely ruin the effect with all sorts of "are you ok?" "oh - did that hurt, baby?" and the horrified "IM SORRY! I DIDNT MEAN TO DO THAT SO HARD!!". I have an overactive worry gland
[QUOTE]

Ghods, that was so me. "You have been very bad you little bitch....um...it's OK to call you bitch, isn't it?" kept going through my head. I know it's role play and all, but I'd worry that after the night was all done, the woman would be thinking, "How dare that rat fuck call me a cunt. He's never getting another hummer as long as he lives."
 
 
Haus about we all give each other a big lovely huggle?
20:51 / 09.01.02
quote:Originally posted by Captain Zoom:
gotta add the Swiss language to my list. a little more fluid than German and oh so sexy.

Zoom.


Others may note that Switzerland has several languages, German and French being among them, with a Swiss *accent*. But what the fuck do Europeans know?
 
  

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