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15:34 / 03.06.03

Scents do a lot for me. The feminine scent in general, but going down on a woman is exquisite. The scent of creosote in the desert after a thunderstorm. The scent of well-used armor, the leather and sweat and metal.

Girls with strange psychoses, that mix of gritted-teeth independence and tragic vulnerability that just barely peeks through the mask of tough. Goth girls and their arrogant fashion.

Hard manual labor that leaves you sweaty and exhausted but clearheaded and relaxed at the end of the day. The kind of work that makes everything seem a bit simpler and more real.

16:06 / 03.06.03

Time for a fetish update, I think. There's an oddly fluid quality to most of my kinks, in that they seem to alter (in terms of emphasis) over time. Some become more focussed, others generalise; some, like the primary category of 'leather' are so overarching that they assume a sort of 'meta-kink' status.

Currently causing a trouser-commotion in the Grown-Up Juice Department:

Rubber - but, oddly enough, loose rubber, as opposed to the spray-on 'Skin Two' style (which is also fun, but higher-maintenance). Cold at first, a sweat soon builds, and the rubber clings to the skin then pulls away, clings and pulls away. I commissioned a heavy rubber suit from HOST which is smooth inside and out, and feels wonderful.

Bikers. Because I'm living in Vauxhall near a motorcycle training school, and see attractively leathered-up intructors and pupils on a daily basis. I'm even starting to find their wet-weather gear a turn-on...

Transmen (female-to-male transsexuals). This is an odd one; I still haven't quite worked out where exactly the appeal lies. It's not particularly the concept itself, and I don't think it's an issue of notional genitalia. I think I'm attracted to a particular variety of masculinity which certain transmen display. It's like they've spent so long fighting for that masculinity that they're now really happy with themselves. 'Happy masculinity' is really quite sexy.

Older straight men trying on leather in department stores. If I'm wandering around Selfridges or House of Fraser and there's a 'family man' type trying on leather coats and jackets, I find myself oddly mesmerised by the heady blend of arousal and extreme self-consciousness. They invariably make a show of zipping and unzipping, checking the pockets (because men, obviously, make purchases based on functional practicality rather than sex-appeal), then turning around and examining their own backsides in the mirror. Particularly nice if they've got an obvious stiffy.

Orchids. Orchids and lilies. Visiting Amsterdam's Bloemenmarkt was, for me, a sexual experience of near-Mapplethorpian proportions...

16:29 / 03.06.03

Alien mind control.

unheimlich manoeuvre

17:33 / 03.06.03

originally posted by toksik
everything except scat and snuff.

*feigns ignorance*

never had anything against improv jazz myself.
true, there sure are better things to shovel up your nose than tobacco.

*feign enlightenment*

as for my kinks... hmmm...
a bit of tickle and throttle or S&M.
intelligent older women who aren't afraid to say what they like.
the smell of bookshops.

17:55 / 03.06.03

reading all this has made my heart go pitter-pat, and made me very glad that my boy is coming over tonight. rrrrrr...

i like tall skinnyish men w/messy hair. good hands and eyebrows...ooh. if they're wearing turtleneck sweaters and/or skinny pants...yow. and wit! and i love any sort of british accent, or australian.

my boy's from canada and thus can speak some french and i'm always asking him to talk to me in french. i think it makes him feel a little idiotic but it gets me hot.

i love men's shoulders, and the way their torsos taper down to the waist...it makes me feel primal.

foot rubs can turn me on. i like a little light s&m. i like to be teased and to have to beg for it a little. i like to tell people what to do. i like being told i'm hot. i like giving guys head. i like getting bit right where my thigh meets my ass. and i love getting my cervix banged.

and guys who talk feminism. slurp.

18:02 / 03.06.03

-Women in tight fitting pirate outfits.
-The 1920's flapper look.
-Someone who knows how to run their hands through my hair..espcially back in my hair down to the base of my spine days.
-Redheads..I think more the personality than the actual hair.
more later...

02:11 / 04.06.03

I'll go with gridley and librarians. Intelligence, Glasses, skirts, etc!

Violinists, women in top hats (or is that disturbingly self-loving?)

Kohl around the eyes, the usual S&M and goths, drunken sex is fun. I want to try sex and 'e', but I haven't had the chance yet...

Oh! And Eastern Europeans! Especially Poles!

02:21 / 04.06.03

Ive got to agree with you Baz on the violinists.

also,
-Big heavy velvet drapes. I dont know why but there's just something about them that makes any room super sexy.
-tight pirate clothing...worthy of a second mention...especially when worn by redhaired twins playing the violins.
-Painting on nudes... Not bodypainting but more design and/or writting like in the Pillow Book. Note for summer...find willing canvas.

Less searchable M0rd4nt

02:32 / 04.06.03

The unbearably cute look that a sub gets on hir face when engaged in or initating play. If you've seen it, you'll know exactly what I mean.

Solitaire Rose as Tom Servo

03:41 / 04.06.03

Top hats...

Wow, I thought I was one of the only ones.

Top hats, fishnets and garters. Yeah. Yeah. wow.

09:38 / 04.06.03

Got many Zatanna comics, Solitaire?

Solitaire Rose as Tom Servo

13:23 / 04.06.03

Comics...action figures and the statue.

I am SO lame.

13:30 / 04.06.03

The unbearably cute look that a sub gets on hir face when engaged in or initating play. If you've seen it, you'll know exactly what I mean.

Christ, I thought you meant sub-editor for a minute there, Mordant. I've been in newspapers too long. I need some air.

14:21 / 04.06.03

WOW! You've all made me feel so popular

I:
Am a redhead. (i had no idea ANYONE liked redheads)
Have ghost-white skin. (tho hate it with a passion)
Have a scottish accent. (well think i must- tho i dont notice it)
Could be classed as a dwarf. (5'2")
Am flexible.
Used to have a buzz-cut.
Now have a bob.
Can speak german.(-ish)
Can play piano.(very vaguely)
Wear unusual patterned tights half th time.

So hurrah for people with those unusual kinks!

As for mine, well, cant really think of many off-hand. Slim-womens backs, where you can see the outlines of the shoulder blades. Also collar-bones. Dominating men/women. Sex in outdoor, unusal places. (helloo edge-of-the-cliff...) People whos arms you feel safe in. mmmm.

14:34 / 04.06.03

The unbearably cute look that a sub gets on hir face when engaged in or initating play. If you've seen it, you'll know exactly what I mean.

(Sax; )Christ, I thought you meant sub-editor for a minute there, Mordant. I've been in newspapers too long. I need some air.

coincidentally my ex-girlfriend is a sub-editor, and I know that look- Sax, look around your office for staff initiating play and see if it's the same look, heh heh heh. You'll never look at your colleagues the same way again.

14:44 / 04.06.03

I once knew the sub-editor of Fetish Times. (That's not meant to be a joke, BTW, just a trivial but puntastic, genuine fact.)

14:46 / 04.06.03

Plenty of tight boxes, dog's dicks, straps, bastard measures and white-on-black in that office, then.

14:55 / 04.06.03

How about this…

There’s a crop of thick, warm, half-light coming in through the curtains (could be dawn, could be dusk) and the room’s dusty so the light makes big, pretty streaks coming through the room.

She is definitely smoking a cigarette (Ye GODS, but smoke from a girl’s lips is sexy!) and she SMELLS, yeah baby. I'm not talking BO, i’m talking a nice fresh crop of sweaty girl-smell, all around the nape of the neck and behind the ears. These two things alone (smoke, smell) are erotic enough to make my teeth chatter.

She can be wearing absolutely anything, so long as it’s really hers, like she was meant to wear it. It might be a simple t-shirt/white cotton panties combo, I dunno. like I say, it’s HOW she wears it that’s important. It’s all about bearing and grace for me.

Aaah, but where are you now, my lovely?

15:33 / 04.06.03

Violinists?

16:00 / 04.06.03

...and women who can sing. And those who stop working for the mayor and start slaying vampires in black leather pants. I mean sehe's wearing black leather pants...not that she wouldn't have a righteous vendeta against the undead who are cramping her fashion style

21:03 / 04.06.03

What? Girls with violins are great! Wait.. not girls with violins... just female violinists...

03:30 / 05.06.03

oh damn this thread makes me nostalgic for the good old days of 2002. (a kink of mine: nostalgia for five minutes ago.)

reading blowfish catalogue

clicking "preview reply." ooh baby.

10:47 / 05.06.03

girls in red, and fucking whilst a cat watches you

15:22 / 05.06.03

let's see. in no particular order:

- roughness - scratching, biting, etc
- dirty talk. lots of dirty talk.
- girls who really overtly like to be really raunchy during sex.
- really delicate pretty boys
- elegantly butch women, like women wearing nice suits and ties, drinking brandy and smoking cigars
- naughty Catholic school girls in uniform. it's such a cliche, but i went to an all-boys Catholic school so i think i'm entitled to my fetish.
- also really attracted to really well-built raver/hip-hop type guys, but i've never really gotten up the nerve to do much about it...
- sex in public or semi-public
- group sex
- going down on either girls or guys
- anal play of any kind
- i like BDSM play (as a top - subbing does nothing for me 99%), but i can't get into the whole well-defined formal BDSM relationship thing. in other words, i like BDSM but i'm not part of the BDSM scene and i don't have any interest in having a full-time collared slave or anything like that
- watersports. also scat voyeurism with female partners (i.e. watching women shit).
- porn, and the trappings of porn shops and the porn industry. places like the video booths in the back of seedy adult bookstores really tweak my noodle. i once exchanged blowjobs with a complete stranger in one. it was really hot. also applies to strippers and strip clubs.
- cybersex, phone sex, written erotica. really any kind of explicit verbal or written expression of eroticism
- roleplaying

19:03 / 05.06.03

Hmmm. Once again reality prives that for all my 'magickal' behaviour I am in fact more boring than pretty much anyone on this site. If I was in the Invisibles, I would be Mason.

Having said that, I do have some mild sexual quirks, soooooo...

Older women
Very posh women
Oriental women/men

I also have that thing about watching girls fight, but that's a fairly normal male affliction, I believe.

The most odd thing about me, sexually, is that I occassionally get very turned on by the thought of rejecting people - you know, when some out-and-out absolutely gourgeous person comes along and clearly wants to get off with you, and then you ignore them and fuck off somewhere else. In some really nasty, atavistic, yet also self-denying way, that has some kind of appeal for me.

Oh, and John Malkovich. Not looks-wise, but for the way he speaks. But then everyone has that, too...

Off to have a nice cup of tea and listen to Elgar now, I think.

Whisky Priestess

23:31 / 20.10.04

Corsets, basques, bodices (on me, duh)

Blond and red hair (on them)

Glasses if worn occasionally

Talent/skill, specifically one I don't have, such as driving or playing the piano

Slightly fucked-up-looking people. I feel their complexity and pain!

Ability to dance is way sexy

The physical ability to manhandle me (I'm 5'8" and about 10 stone and rarely get to feel like a delicate, vulnerable little creature)

One of the most peculiar knee-melting moments was when I spotted a guy I'd had a crush on from afar walking up the other side of the street ... with a pronounced limp (due to a recent injury: the last time I'd seen him he hadn't had a problem walking). I do not know why. Paging Dr. Freud?

Boy-on-boy erotic (but not hardcore sexual) action is beyond arousing.

21:27 / 21.10.04

On les femmes:
-Black plastic framed glasses
-Button up men's dress shirts
-Knit caps
-A little too much eyeliner
-Baggy sweatpants (but this effect is nullified if there's words printed across the ass, like "PRINCESS" or "FLIRT", as is common at my university)
-Half-smile smirks (often seem more meaningful than full smiles)
-Unusual/obscure celebrity crushes
-The whole "intrepid reporter" stereotype one gets from reading too many comics
-Reading the paper in the morning, on the bed, naked (I don't know where this comes from; did I see this in a movie anyone else has seen or something?)
-It occurs to me that a woman covered completely and only in post-it notes to be removed would be incredibly sexy.

In general:
-Ears. Nibbling, licking, whispering, etc.
-Talking Heads, Remain in Light (this CANNOT be just me)

21:32 / 21.10.04

I'm embarrassed in advance, but mine is very simple. Pull my hair. Rawrrrr. Anyone who likes this knows how it's best done - gently, just above the nape.

04:07 / 22.10.04

I love it when a beautiful woman has a faint but distinct scar. Let's me know she's been somewhere and wasn't just squeezed out of a plaster mold. (It happens! I have photos!)

My favourite ex had an inch long vertical scar on the left side of her upper lip and not long ago there was a young woman with these old, old burn scars running delicately down her neck and along her arm. They stuck out the most when she blushed.

Ah well, that's mine.

05:25 / 22.10.04

Shoes, Steve and Jacob Davidfield.

15:37 / 22.10.04

Czerno, ever watch Saturday Night Live? Tina Fey's got that big squealer scar.

16:16 / 22.10.04

And she has those delectable black plastic-frame eyeglasses as well which, while not automatically arousing, I do find quite charming on most women.

However, it's spoilt by the fact that she is on television and, therefore, not a real person. If I ever met the woman who plays Tina Fey (whom I understand is herself named Tina Fey) on the street or in a bar then I'm sure I would find her quite instilling.

02:54 / 01.02.05

I found this thread a very strange read because I could identify with so many of the kinks listed and, I don't know... I always considered my kinks something unique and "special" and seeing them written down by someone else makes them seem, dunno, common or something.

Or is it that the things people like sexually are actually pretty common?

PS: I fell in lust about 50 times during the reading.

BTW Ganesh: I'm pretty big, 30ish, somewhat hairy, have an Australian accent and ride a motorbike in full leather. Your posts are scary!

08:35 / 01.02.05

I run an STD fetish site.

17:13 / 01.02.05

Goodness.

You know, I skimmed this and laughed a bit, thinking ya'll were taking the piss at "fetishes". Then I read deeper and found that it was all true.

I'm part of www.alt.com, folks. And I ain't never seen some of these.

Of course, I'm a healthy white young attractive male living affluently in Midwestern USA. Propotionality and relativism must be accounted for.

But, as a non-praciticing bisexual, I confess I feel I've lost my mojo. Or, for the sake of discourse, my kink. Nothing seems to turn me on anymore. I lament the days of unsaid chemistry, and "the connection".

I've been reading these wonderfully queer little kinks and I get the most rise out of the following: shaving or showering with your partner(s) -cleaning them, i suppose. Creeped out by the "parenting" aspect of it, but...

Fighting naked, mentioned above as consensual(of course, otherwise it'd be abuse), I prefer to call it wrastlin' ...warms the body and pumps up the testosterone. The ladies I've been with never seem to get that. And the boys all know it too well. Wonder why we go gay? Gotta keep it hot.

Ladies: learn to bite and scratch correctly. It's the best, but damn!

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