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I have a question which came up while discussing this thread with some folks after work. Well, it is more of a puzzle perhaps.
If we accept that a woman can become pregnant by accident (which we do, obviously) due to a breakdown in whatever birth control was being used, or forgetfulness on the part of both partners in using birth control, we have 2 outcomes.
1) The woman in question does not want the child, for whatever reason. I feel that it is then her right to seek an abortion. This can lead to issues where perhaps the man involved wanted a child, only realizing this after the pregnancy was diagnosed (is that the correct term?). I have seen this situation cause relationships to end, and while tragic, I think it is the 'correct' thing in this situation, IE it is not up to the man to decide that his partner should carry the child to term. This, from reading the thread, is (to borrow lingo from my field) working as intended.
2) The woman decides she wants to have the child. Again, this is her decision, her body will be carrying the foetus to term and dealing with the physical issues associated with pregnancy and childbirth. Where the issue arises is in this situation, the woman has all the decision making power, and the man does not want a child. This came up because I was conceived after my mother was told that she could not have children, thus when she slept with my father they took no precautions. As I understand law in the USA, even if the child came about due to malfunctioning birth control, the father would be legally forced to pay child support if the mother demanded it, justification being that if you had sex, even though you tried to prevent pregnancy, the responsibility is yours.
I suppose the question really boils down to the fact that we (my friends and I) were unale to reconcile the accidental pregnancy being terminated in case 1, and the father being forced to pay for an accidental pregnancy that was not terminated in case 2.
My father never paid any child support, because my mother did not go to court for it, and I have never met the man, however I think it is a flaw that should I have, at any point before I turned 18, demanded a blood test and money in court, he would have been forced to pay up.
I realize that we are primarily talking about the woman's perspective in this thread, but this is an issue I would like to hear all of your opinions on. |
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