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Are you ready for your annual review?

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17:21 / 20.12.04

Raising a family is what you're talking about and a completely different thing as people don't need to be recognised as partners by law in order to fuck

Erm, no, I wasn't talking about that. I'm talking about the preexisting family/friends of the two people, not their future children. It's my opinion that a marriage is and should be the union of two clans, whether it be parents-aunts-cousins-nephews and/or friends of the marrying couple. I happen to believe a couple should remain part of their larger networks of loved ones when they marry, and that the married couple and, hopefully, their loved ones should at least think of themselves as united through the marriage. The whole idea of a "nuclear family," whether or not it includes children, is both sad and impractical to me. Which is why I approve of the practice of asking one's fiance's parents for their blessing on the engagement.

ONLY NICE THINGS

17:43 / 20.12.04

And if you can work in sleeping with your wife's friends... BONUS!

17:47 / 20.12.04

This thread has prompted me to wonder, if my grandfather were to die, making it impossible for me to have the ceremony I want, would I still want to get married? Probably not.

13:55 / 04.01.05

B..B..B.. Bump...

How did you get on Benny? are you still out in LA or are you back with us Londoners? Is there going to be a Mrs The Ball?- (or will she keep her own surname ;o) ) Hope all went well - do let us know...

as for the annual review bit I feel ok about how last year went- I got myself signed as a director of music videos and commercials- so I'm on the way to making it, wrote a short film, directed 5 music videos and laid down some pretty good foundations for establishing myself as a real life working director. Sadly none of its making me a living yet..

Next tasks are to turn it round into money making ventures and constantly keep directing (I have a test commercial and another vid on my plate at the moment).

I want to try and raise the funds to shoot my short- at the moment i'm working on relocating it out of London to try and grab some regional arts funding. Really I want 2005 to be more than a foundation- start making money and eventually look to develop a feature film script- but really I'd be mostly happy if the year ends and Directing is how I make my living...

14:39 / 06.01.05

Got back today, after a heart wrenching good bye at LAX.

It went fantastically well - sadly my timing was poor before I went there, so I didn't have time to purchase a ring, so the actual asking has been put on ice until I have some ice, so to speak. But got a nice phonecall from her dad, and we spoke more about the logistics of us being together. She is coming for a visit in the spring, I'm going to visit once more in the summer, and then we are going to give living together a go, in London, in the Autum.

It was a great, great time.

Now, if you can excuse the whorishnish for a moment, I would love to offer my services as a soundman to yourself, Copey. I've spent the last year and a bit building experience to move up from boom op to mixer, and finally started to get paid for some of it towards the end of the year (even managed to get a credited job which aired at the glorious Ch4, 1.15am slot in November). Seriously, if you need any help in that area, then let me know.

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