Consider this a cheatsheet on on what Z.deScathach calls glamouring. None of it is true, it’s just a useful generalised map that I’ve trained in and learned from personal experience. You don’t have to call it glamouring, either: my trainers didn’t name it at all. It’s one thing to notice how you are different when you wear clothes and cut your hair differently to how you might usually. It’s yet another to assume a role. But I believe the most significant differences can be noticed by wearing different physiologies:
- Notice your beliefs and ways of thinking on an important issue, especially an area that you feel stuck. Now, trail a person as they walk ahead of you. Try to duplicate their physiology. They way they walk, the way they hold their posture, the way they breathe, their inconsistencies from the left side of their body to their right, their centre of gravity. If you’re in a club, dance the way they dance. Build up your personal mirror in tiny sections in order to wear them fully. Or try them on in totality to begin with, then go for the small details. Mirco to macro, macro to micro, whichever you want, as long as you try it on as completely as possible. It can never be a perfect duplicate. Now notice how you believe about your stuck issue. Reich and the people who pursue his line of thought often speak of character armour, of the ways in which our personality is held within the stress and tension of our bodies. Until you have fully worn someone else’s physiology you may not have thought it possible to experience the world so completely differently from the manner in which you currently perceive it. It’s interesting to pick someone totally different from you for this exercise. I did it with someone from the opposite sex, a high powered high stress business woman. I came back to my original issues with a completely different perspective (but then, I had already trained in techniques of noticing facets of my experience of the world in minute detail, and was primed to observe changes that might normally be imperceptible. I was also primed to believe that there would be a change from my state before to after the exercise. Don’t underestimate the effect that might have on the exercise, but know that it’ll probably work anyway. You’d be surprised how uncomfortable it can be.
- The right hand side of your body is often associated with the social aspects of being, how one fits within a social context, the conformative, what one does. It may have a predisposition to logic, the evaluative, one’s place, belonging, how one is appreciated, safety. The left hand side is often associated with one’s unique self, the heart, the full individual human experience, the heart, being. You may find it predisposed to freedom, creativity, spontaneity, the heart’s desire, and passion.
- Eye movements can be extremely revealing. The following are examples of if you’re aware of the movement of the eyes in your own head (reverse left and right if you’re observing someone). In general, eyes moving straight ahead or upwards are associated with states of visualisation. To either side they’re associated with listening. To the bottom left they tend to indicate internal dialogue, to the bottom right feelings and emotions. The right hand side is typically associated with remembered visual, auditory and kinaesthetic stimuli, the left with created stimuli. Pay attention to yourself and how you compare and contrast with this map. Type “eye accessing cues” into Google for a schematic, remembering that they will depict another person as if you are looking at them.
- The body posture typically associated with having a sensory bias towards visual stimuli is more upright, straight backed, high centre of gravity (around the chest, usually), with breathing in the upper chest, head straight and eyes in facing straight ahead or upwards, feet angled outwards. With auditory, the head is inclined to the preferred ear, in fact the entire body may incline to one side (as if one were speaking on the telephone, notice your preferred ear for hearing), and the breathing will be typically located in the middle of one’s chest, eyes to either side. With kinaesthetic one might have a low centre of gravity, eyes moving downwards, feet angled inwards, breathing from the diaphragm, bent at the knees. Become adept in using all three physiologies and notice the difference that makes to your experience.
- If you ask someone to remember an experience, watch their eyes. It’ll be like watching a sphere roll across a pitted field, like the game Marble Madness. Their eyes may roll across an indentation in this metaphorical pitted field, and come to rest in that indentation. They’ll be in a mini trance state for this period. There may be several such “indentations” or rest states, and they may only occur in the space of milliseconds, so watch closely. These are the memories being located, as all information is originally absorbed in sensory experience and stored physiologically. The memories may also be out of awareness, unconscious, so be careful if you’re calling someone on where their eyes rest: they may not be forthcoming, either through choice or what they are capable of knowing at that point.
- There are several physiologies that are associated with personality types (here my memories become sketchy, I’m waiting on further resources to arrive via email for clarification). For example, people who are tall and thin, with darting eyes and a physiology with a lot of nervous energy at the extremities (they may seem to be all elbows, all knees) may be very attention seeking, continually reaffirming their own existence (they may well use spoken language to this effect, “He/She didn’t even know that I existed”). Those with well developed upper bodies, shoulders/chest/arms, eyes that stare straight ahead (lots of direct eye contact) may well have shields around their persona, considerable ego defences, project themselves as something that they may not necessarily be at their core and shows of their personal strength of will and personality (and may refer to terms such as “power” in their spoken language). Those with a low centre of gravity, wide hips, eyes that move downwards, larger bellies, may tend towards caring and nurturing roles, and might display passive/aggressive behaviour. Those with oval faces and larger eyes may also be attention seeking, but in a manner which suggests they are seeking those that might feed and care for them as opposed to reaffirming their existence. Those with sharply angled jawlines and eyes that stare straight on are likely to be very directed in their behaviour. I might post a more complete map on this subject when I get more information.
There are a number of very deep implications for this subject (for example, I once considerably helped someone with their depression by teaching them how to stand more upright and look upwards, breathing from a different location). I’ll leave you to consider that in more detail. I can give you resources to find out more via PM if you like (some of these resources are particularly expensive, and may well involve drafting a business case to an employer if you work in a field in which they might be useful. No-one needs unnecessary international travel plus training expenses if they can get away with it!). But none of this may help you in what you’re after, Ganesh. What’s more important (for now) is that you clarify what is really your goal. |
