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My two cents (or "What I hear, what I think")

 
  

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Regrettable Juvenilia
13:21 / 08.10.03
I'm not a big fan of "this is ridiculous". A clear in-thread statement from Fluz and Flyboy individually saying "this is not what I intended" might help. Is that potentially humiliating and annoying for them? Yes, of course it is. But sooner or later, someone has to be the grown-up, take the bullet, and make it all better.

Surely there comes a point where one has to stop underestimating the intelligence and perspicacity of the average Barbelith poster?
 
 
We're The Great Old Ones Now
13:56 / 08.10.03
I'm not asking you to underestimate anyone's intelligence. I'm asking you to imagine - for the moment - that you're dealing with a lot of people who are more sensitive to the possibility of mockery and dismissive behaviour than they perhaps should be. I'm also asking this of myself and everyone else. I mention you only because you and Flux were accused in-thread of being mean, and Anna pointed up the thread as an example of (I think) a knee-jerk accusation of bullying which was devoid of substance. Radiator and The Mask should probably extend some trust in your direction, too.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
22:43 / 08.10.03
That's fair - the thread Jack Fear links to above, hilarity notwithstanding, actually provides quite a good example of a poster losing it and deciding to tell us all that we were fat. Given how many people here have severe body issues of one sort or another, that struck me as not funny then and less funny now, and perhaps a good example of what we shoudl be trying to avoid.

FWIW, it also contains the basis of toksik's earlier complaint in this thread, which I think we can trust people to judge for themselves, and a look at similar situations in whichm, possibly while being overly PC, we tried to deal with things that may have been offensive to gay readers and dyslexic readers.

Basically, Barbelith *is* pretty huggly for a bulletin board, which is something we probably shouldn't lose sight of. In some ways it also has standards which a board with the lack of moderator powers that it has would probably not even attempt to maintain. That's why it has to be a consensual model, to a very great extent.
 
 
Char Aina
01:11 / 09.10.03
i have just looked through this thread to find what i said and add a post with an amended(and possibly apologetic) version of whatever it was i said.

i am not denying saying anything, i do recall accusing haus of having called me worthless, but i cant find it.

was it in this thread?
has it since been deleted?
can someone provide the linkage?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
05:56 / 09.10.03
Here, I think.

Turns out I didn't, but there we go.
 
 
Ganesh
09:03 / 09.10.03
Ah, memories! I should start talking about my t1tz again...
 
 
Char Aina
09:37 / 09.10.03
nah, mate.
linkage to my accusation.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
10:19 / 09.10.03
Ah, such t1tz.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
22:51 / 09.10.03
Ah, such T1TZ indeed.

Toksik - try here. sorry for the misunderstanding above.
 
 
Char Aina
01:23 / 10.10.03
righto.
follow haus' linkage, both the first and the above ones, and then look for this bit;

NICK:
But it's sad to think that you can spend almost a year here and post nearly a thousand times, and still think of yourself as on the outside in some way.

so do i. so do i.
i am not sure why i feel this way, but perhaps people like haus telling me that i am worthless to the board in one of his fits of bilious spite is a part of it. (yes, i shopuld be less insecure. sorry.)


nope. he didnt say i was worthless, he merely suggested i was not yet contributing anything of worth. he reckoned i was spending too much time whining about what was wrong, not enough time exemplifying what i thought of as right.

fair enough, to a point. as i said in that post, maybe i should be less insecure. it is probably also pertinent and fair to mention that the biliousness of haus' spite was probably in my own head as much as, if not more than, in reality. in fact, the spite i spoke of need not have existed for the exchange in question to exist.


i think there has been a certain amount of speaking different languages; and this has been compounded by a certain degree of reading between lines with extreme prejudice, at least for my part.

what am i saying?
i am saying sorry to haus, and retracting the point i made. i still think he can be a mean ole geezer, but i dont think he is as unfair as i may have suggested.


i still need to see g1fz of the aforementioned t1tz, however.
 
  

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