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Rape vs Homicide: Which is worse?

 
  

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Spyder Todd 2008
00:29 / 14.07.03
In a recent thread comment I point out that I thought rape more harmful then murder on the actual victim, because once you're dead, you're dead, whereas with rape the victim often can be severely traumatized for years to come. What are other people's thoughts on this?
 
 
muse
01:58 / 14.07.03
In terms of how the victim is affected, or which requires more "evil" to perform? As for being dead or living with trauma, consider also the life opportunities missed and memories never made when one's life ends. I would say prematurely, but that's a different debate, isn't it?
 
 
Lurid Archive
09:37 / 14.07.03
It is kinda daft, but...one does have to engage with this sort of question legally. OK, the criteria are not entirely about weighing up which crimes are worse than others, but it is still a consideration. And in that consideration one has to take a stand on the level of punishment, for that is surely part of the justice system, that crimes deserve.

So. Which is worse, and by how much?
 
 
illmatic
09:42 / 14.07.03
I dunno - maybe it's the way it's phrased or something. My initial reaction came out of the fact that both of these events are such terrible, tragic things - in what sense can they said to be equivalent or measured "against" each other? That might be another root into arguing about it, I suppose.
 
 
Monkeyfuck
13:14 / 14.07.03
Rape involves genitals and is therefore worse, obviously.
 
 
Quantum
13:33 / 14.07.03
Would you rather die than be raped?
 
 
that
15:01 / 14.07.03
I think it might be interesting to think about the media attitudes towards/representations of rape and murder, and our own attitudes and responses to those representations. What I mean is - I can watch stuff about fictional murders and, well, find it reasonably good fun, whereas programmes that deal with rape are never easy viewing. I'm putting this simplistically, I realise, but it's what occurs to me - almost that we tend to trivialise murder in film/tv (or perhaps it's just me, but I doubt it), to use murder for cheap thrills...
 
 
Smoothly
16:30 / 14.07.03
I don't know why I can't let this pass me by, but it's been nagging at me since I saw the original comment.
Sure, the argument that it's better to be dead than x because x is traumatic whereas being dead isn't in fact at all traumatic, is probably best treated with a bit of friendly ribbing. But I'm amazed that no one has, as yet, been spectacularly incensed by the assertion that rape victims would, in one poster's opinion, be better off dead.
Just when you think you know what's really certain to piss people off....
 
 
Spyder Todd 2008
17:34 / 14.07.03
Now, I think for the victim's family, murder is probably worse, because that person is gone and you can never see talk with them again and such. On a personal note, having had someone try yo kill me, I must admit that is note a pleasant experience, but its not such a... violation of self. As I see it anyway. I could be wrong, though.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
19:24 / 14.07.03
We have to make a decision about this thread. Either we conclude that the premise is so moronic, so fatuous and so jejune that it cannot possibly be discussed, in which case we move it to the Conversation, or we decide that, no matter how badly begun or expressed, there is a possible discussion here, and we have it. I'm easy either way.

(Those of you new to the Head Shop, please read the FAQ)

Spyder has already complicated his point, such as it is, rather, by admitting that *in general*, rape might not be as bad as murder, because murder is more generally upsetting - the victim may not feel so bad about it, but those around hir will feel worse. His position is that nonetheless it is better to be dead than traumatised. You'd rather be dead in a box than alive in a box, essentially. Is this the case? Lord knows. Perhaps it is a matter of taste. It also assumes that the dead have no feelings, of course, and that the feelings in the short period between being stabbed, say, and death are less valid as feelings for reasons of duration or b) other, than feelings in the long interlude between being raped and death. It's all ultimately death.

Also, there is the question of whether the victim's feelings, or the victim's family's feelings, are relevant to the consideration, and if so how. For example, if one looks at accident compensation claims, the loss of both eyes is generally worth more in compensation than death, because it costs a lot more to support somebody through learning to deal with blindness than it takes to bury somebody. The emotional cost here is not calculated; the question is only what makes more of a mess, and how much effort it will take to clear it up.

So. Does rape or murder take more effort and time to "clean up after"? It's a ridiculous question, surely. Would you rather be dead than raped? Would you rather be dead than have your eyes put out? Again, to universalise seems rather difficult, not to say silly. Different people have different levels. Spyder's sense of physical integrity is constructed in such a way that he would rather have it violated by bullet or blade than sexually, and that is well and good as a personal taste, but it doesn't get us much further on Lurid's question of how one can judge in some sort of universalisable sense which is worse.

Of course, neither can the law. Some instances of homicide are not punished so heavily as some instances of rape; the context and circumstance - rather than the unending absolutes of "dead" and "traumatised" are taken into account. Whether they are weighted correctly is a different question, but possibly one worth looking at.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
20:11 / 14.07.03
Moderator hat: while this thread is in the Head Shop, concerted attempts at threadrot will be moved for deletion. This may be one good argument for moving it to the Conversation, where the funny bar is much lower and the relevant bar likewise.
 
 
Kit-Cat Club
21:03 / 14.07.03
I think this thread is almost certainly hopelessly compromised, but we'll see.

I think that Haus is correct in saying that it is a hard question to universalise. One way of doing so might be to consider the right to life (i.e. not to have that life removed by the arbitrary agency of another human being) as the most fundamental of human rights - in which case murder or manslaughter (generally speaking) is undoubtedly worse than rape in terms of human rights. However, again one is confronted with the possibility that some people might prefer to die rather than have their sexual intergrity punctured.

I can't think of anything else to say on this depressing subject - other than to echo Haus's points above.
 
 
Leap
10:37 / 17.07.03
Rape (which is essentially a sticky version of GHB - no I am not trying to be flippant here!) may well traumatise for years but it is a damn site easier to recover from than murder.......kind of makes this an easily resolved point..........
 
 
We're The Great Old Ones Now
11:05 / 17.07.03
Couldn't we just say that rape and murder are different but utterly ghastly crimes of violence, and then wind this rather silly discussion down?
 
 
Ex
11:17 / 17.07.03
(Sorry, Flyboy - I'd written this already when you posted and thought I should make a last attempt at reviving the corpse.)

Kit-Cat makes good ‘rights’ points as a basis for thinking through the issues, but this also leads into hard areas. Rape is often not only an interpersonal deprivation of rights, but is used as part of wider systems of control and terror - to establish pecking orders in prisons, to dissaude women from excercising certain freedoms, to demoralise an opponent in war.
Of course, murder and non-sexual violence are often used in similar ways (to establish hierarchies and to control behaviour). But it feels as though they are less tied to gendered systems. If you’re calculating which is “worse”, how can we - or the law, if we’re talking about penalties - take into account weird societal power shifts; not just what person A did to person B, but rather the effect of person A’s actions on society as a whole?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
19:15 / 17.07.03
Righty. I've just moved everything in this thread that seemed to me an attempt to rot the thread, or discuss the thread rather than the topic of the thread, or get some jollies out of that oh-so-hilarious being raped thing, for deletion. If the requests go through, I suppose we keep this in the Head Shop and hope that people follow the topic and topic abstract. Otherwise, I imagine we should move it to the Conversation.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
21:30 / 17.07.03
I think Ex's point about rape being a gendering crime is a good one. Whether you are male or female, rape thrusts you into a set of very specific and specifically constructed places qua gender - I would suggest that this is one way in which Leap's formulation of rape as "a more sticky version of GBH" is incomplete; it assumes that one act of violence against the body is basically the same as another act of violence against the body.

For starters, of course, rape arguably need not involve physical violence. If x holds a gun to y's head and threaten you with death if y does not have sex with x, or if x threatens to kill y's children, for example, it is fair to say, perhaps, that this is not consensual, and thus is in some way a sexual *attack*, no matter how little physical force is used. Then there are social and environmental questions - for example, if rape is like any other violent attack, but sticky, why are incidences of reporting anecdotally lower than other incidences?

"Sticky" seems an interesting choice of words as well - it seems to be saying that what marks out rape from any other form of GBH is the fact that at some point during a rape a penis ejaculates. Is this, then, the conditioning factor of rape? That a penis is involved, and that it ejaculates?

Which sort of leads on to problem the next. The original formulation of the question is "rape or homicide". Not murder, note, but homicide. It's generally fairly easy to see if somebody has committed homicide. Has that person just committed an act that led directly to the death of another person? If so, homicide. Whether that homicide is murder, manslaughter, justifiable self-defence or in extreme cases corporate negligence is a more nuanced question, which is where I think "murder" might be more useful than rape. Even if an agreement on the events can be agreed upon, two people might have very different views of whether something was rape or not, in a manner that would be possible of murder but very difficult of homicide...
 
 
w1rebaby
23:51 / 17.07.03
I would think that it wasn't in much doubt that rape has an angle beyond the physical. The psychological aspects, while they may vary according to circumstance, are obviously very significant to the victim. If you were going to compare rape to a non-sexual act, torture would be better than GBH as a comparator, and indeed it's used explicitly as a torture mechanism (although, sure, different forms of GBH can have psychological aspects, and I'm sure there are non-sexual events that have just as bad psychological repercussions).

The problem I have that makes it pretty much impossible to compare rape and homicide, though, is the premise as expressed in the first post - "rape more harmful than murder on the actual victim". Because, in my philosopy, a murder victim doesn't exist any more. Murder victims are past tense, rape victims are present tense. You can't compare something that doesn't exist with something that does.
 
 
Jack Denfeld
05:33 / 18.07.03
Seems someone accidently erased my original post, so I'll post it again. From a Christian standpoint, rape is worse than being murdered, because when you're raped you have to deal with the icky fact that you got raped. But when you're murdered you go to Heaven and sit by the throne of God in eternal hapiness.
 
 
Old brown-eye is back
08:11 / 18.07.03
Weirdly, someone seems to accidentely removed mine too. Ok, one more time - new and improved for the not-yet-irony-enabled - what can possibly be more harmful to someone than death?
 
 
Nietzsch E. Coyote
08:19 / 18.07.03
People commit suicide right? So clearly for some people there are worse things than death.
 
 
elene
08:21 / 18.07.03
Jack, from a Christian standpoint when I'm murdered I go to Hell.

Haus, I don't see what's gendering about rape and, as you allow, it
certainly needn't be "sticky".

I despise myself for contributing to this.
 
 
Old brown-eye is back
09:38 / 18.07.03
Not worse things. Logically speaking, more harmful things. What can be more harmful to something than its destruction?

Yeesh.
 
 
waxy dan
10:23 / 18.07.03
Hold on.

mint:

Jack, from a Christian standpoint when I'm murdered I go to Hell.


What?
 
 
MJ-12
10:55 / 18.07.03
I think mint is referring to the notion that if you die unrepentant of your sins, then no Kingdom for you.
 
 
waxy dan
11:27 / 18.07.03
Riiiiight. Doesn't matter, I really don't know what I'm doing on this thread anyway.
 
 
Jack Denfeld
16:02 / 18.07.03
Mint, you know those old cartoons, where even when the bad characters die, they grow wings and start playing a harp and start floating up to Heaven? That's how Christianity's going to work from now on.
 
 
elene
17:38 / 18.07.03
Oh Jack,

The ice binding the soul to hell's requirement melts
and green knives of tissue sever deaths embrace.
Green feathers sprout and spread, an eye opens
And a mind turns to face it's God, shocked with
innocence.
 
 
elene
18:21 / 18.07.03
Wow cool! I type a command here and someone somewhere
else does what I said.

Whoever you are, you're a darling! XXX
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
20:28 / 18.07.03
I don't think I allowed that it doesn't have to be "sticky", I contended that it doesn't have to be sticky. There is a difference.

As for gendering...well, that's an interesting one. I would say that rape as an act locates one pretty much immediately in a highly gendered position - male or female, one of the identifiers of gendering - how one acts and reacts sexually - is completely messed up. Further, I would suggest that there is a gendering process in both female and male rape -both are being attacked in a way that renders one into a grotesque parody of feminisation - made (sexually) submissive, penetrated, supine. See rape as tool of domination in war, male rape as a way to establish pecking order in prison, the attitude to gender of the stereotypical "rapist"...

But that could just be me. What do others think? Does rape have a relationship with concepts and attributions of gendered positions?

And careful, darlings - this isn't a thread about Christianity, or about how funny we can be. It's a thread about a very serious issue which has the potential to cause enormous upset. As such, maybe making with the wacky and the threadrot might be minimised?
 
 
elene
07:03 / 19.07.03
Sorry Haus,

Jack gave my that lovely cartoon and I wanted to give him something
too, the little bit of 3D kitsch. Yes, the other comment was giddy
and you did indeed contend.

So gender is 2D, (male/female, top/bottom)? Or do we mean simply top/
bottom when we refer to gender? I read a radical feminist implying top
is male and bottom, female yesterday, but she was so busy trying to
blame gay men for the all of society's ills that her logic was
necessarily both jumpy and rather sketchy.

I've been raped, by a man, Haus. I didn't feel it made me any more
female, feminine nor bottom. It merely left me lying on the floor for
twenty-four hours, in bed for the rest of the week and in fear of HIV
for the next six months. This was a very long time ago, by the way.
He took a big risk himself. I always hoped he realised soon after just
how big a risk he'd taken.

Now, had my body tricked me into enjoying it, I think I would feel
much, much worse. As I was only semi-conscious and completely lamed
when he did it that's not the case. I felt infinitely stupid, I blamed
myself for many, many years, but I've been far more deeply hurt by
other things. The thesis of this thread is pathetically naïve.

Had my hater used a bottle he might have spared me my fear of HIV,
but I think it'd still count as rape.
 
 
Jack Denfeld
08:05 / 19.07.03
Would you rather be known as a rapist or a murderer? Does this help the discussion any? Let's say you go to trial for one of the two crimes, and you are cleared of all wrongdoing legally, but you still have a reputation. Would you rather be known as the rapist or the murderer?
I'd rather have the reputation as a murderer. Murderers are sexier, and sometimes the public can get into it. How many movies or books feature a charming murderer? There's not a whole lot of charming rapists portrayed in the popular media. Who is the rapist equivalent to Hannibal Lecter for example?
I guess in a legal sense, murder is worse than rape, because the victim of rape can be compensated? And the victim of murder can't?
This topic confuses me. The topic abstract is "Which do you think is worse?". Would I rather be raped or murdered? Would I rather a family member be raped or murdered? Would I rather rape or murder someone, or be known as a rapist or murderer?
 
 
elene
08:55 / 19.07.03
Hello Haus,

I feel so stupid. I suddenly understand. You would all experience
rape as emasculation, wouldn't you?

Really sorry, no excuse
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
11:43 / 19.07.03
Don't worry about it, really. I am feeling my way here, and I'm certainly not trying to be prescriptive about how people feel or should feel or do feel. But yeah, not suggesting feeling "feminine" or "bottom", so much as... well, as being pushed into a very specific corner, which is related to gender, and makes the experience of gender horrible, while also flattening gender into that 2D state....

I think one of the awkward and difficult things about this whole topic is that there is such a range of experiences and reactions - the very question of what constitutes rape (and murder, although not so much homicide) is open to question - it is possible for one person to believe that a certain series of evens was a murder, or a rape, and another to believe it was not, without actual disagreement on the series of events themselves. That's where the legal question is curious - it's one way that we can identify rape or murder, but it's a *really* imperfect and limited way.

There's social responses also, of course - Jack makes a very good point. Murder can be *redeemed* in a way that rape, once it is established, is generally not. The bit in "mY Family and other Animals", for example, with the avuncular wife-killer. In fact, even before we move on to characters like Hannibal Lecter, our media has a far more ambivalent attitude both to killing and murder than to rape. Murder - i.e. (roughly) the killing of another person when there were other options than killing - is a constant in a lot of our media, and is not unheroic behaviour, or at least does not make the character unheroic. If somebody kills your wife, you are narratologically required to kill them, basically, even if you have the option not to. And one can murder (kill when there is another option) for the "right reasons" - vengeance, a belief that the law is inadequate, to avert a future threat... murder (and *certainly* homicide) can be seen as the instrument of policy of basically good people, in a way that rape generally cannot...

I agree completely that the thesis is this thread is pathetically naive, mind, which is why there was and probably is a case for locking it or deleting it... it's a tricky one.
 
 
Tom Coates
13:22 / 31.07.03
I think the gendering issue is a bit of a red herring to be honest, since feminists and gender theorists have been trying to detach concepts of biological gender, gender identity and power-relationships from one another. Certainly there are connections between them - I think particularly between ideas of femininity and submission - which would make a man feel stripped of aspects of self-determination associated with masculinity, but these do also apply to women as well - the "stepping out of line", "get back in your place" kind of stuff uses sexual violence to try and assert gender divisions. I think we should be trying to dismantle that connection (or deconstruct it) rather than reify it.

The other point I'm really interested about is this idea of suicide as an indication that there are states of being which are too difficult for an individual to handle, where they choose to die. Euthanasia seems to be related to this issue, as well as the degree to which we afford people the right to choose one option where they're clearly under tremendous stress and might not be able to think rationally. All these issues seem to be tied in together.

Certainly I don't think it's useful to make a statement from the outside that death is inevitably the worst thing that can happen to a person and that there are no circumstances where someone might not choose it as the better of two options - the obvious test-case for demonstrating that would be the right of people in living wills to say that they don't want extreme measures used to keep them alive. The determination 'life is better than death' doesn't work there....

I think this thread is potentially much more interesting than people might think...
 
  

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