Yeah...if ANYONE can give me an explanation why sex between two men is considered gross by the vast majority of US society, while sex between two women is considered hot by the exact same people, I'd love to hear it.
for what it's worth, which may not be much, i've noticed a distinct upsurge in the number of people who identify as straight women who also claim to find watching gay sex hot in the last few years.
I think you may be aiming for the idea that biomales have their prostate in a place that *might* be stimulated by anal sex, which *might* produce a particular feeling, which will not be produced in anal sex with a woman.
i think i'd like to throw in my $0.02 here and note that the anus has a hell of a lot of nerve endings, for pretty much everyone.
i'd also like to back up Mister Disco on the polymorphous perversity front. i think it's a big part of what freaks certain people out about queer issues, and not just about queer issues. as an example, i remember hearing a lot of noise a few years ago about groups "concerned parents" who were horrified to discover that teenage oral sex was running rampant. apparently, these carpet munchers and blowjob queens didn't even consider what they were doing sex, and there was a concerted effort to educate teens about the "hard truth": that oral sex was sex (of course, they blamed it on Clinton for the Lewinski thing, because clearly no one got a blow job in high school before 1997).
the potential for some sort of sneakiness here is, i think, what really hit a nerve in this case. "concerned parents" work so hard at building walls around "virginity," and when any sex that isn't penis-goes-in-vagina sex slips around those barriers, by essentially exploiting the semiotic gap between what "sex" means in a traditional hetero sense and what they're doing, it really fucks people up.
i think that the reason queer sex, fetish sex, or really any sex that isn't penile-vaginal penetration is so threatening is precisely because it threatens people's very definitions of what sex is. it leads into this very sort of is-it-or-isn't-it-sex questions, and dethrones the centrality of heterosexuality, reproduction, the family structure, etc, by kicking the legs out from under the linguistic/conceptual table it's all built on, and throws everything into a kind of anarchy.
building on what cusm pointed out, how are you going to tell who's a virgin and who's a slut and who's a faggot if you can't even determine what is and is not sex?
We are also invisibilising lesbians again.
you mean, we're turning lesbians into sexy leather-clad pop-culture terrorists and chaos-magicky assassin superheroes bent on destroying reality as we know it? cool.
(sorry. that was dorky. i just couldn't help myself...) |
