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bitchiekittie
18:34 / 24.01.02
we all wear blinders based on experience and education (or lack of). all of us

theres certainly a very big gap between deliberate evasion and simple ignorance of the existence of something unknown (let alone being deeply knowledgeable about the vast range of possible combinations involved in this particular subject).

just my slightly off-topic two cents there
 
 
Ganesh
18:38 / 24.01.02
quote:Originally posted by bitchiekittie:
theres certainly a very big gap between deliberate evasion and simple ignorance of the existence of something unknown (let alone being deeply knowledgeable about the vast range of possible combinations involved in this particular subject).


That's true. I think that may be why so many posters respond "but I wouldn't do that" or "but I just wouldn't see it that way" when faced with very rigid hypothetical situations. I'm actually more interested in the way people here have critiqued the question or attempted to adapt it to fit their own personality and experience.
 
 
bitchiekittie
19:27 / 24.01.02
its a confusing matter (if you arent aware, educated, and/or accepting). and its easy to get mired in the wrong (ie non-productive) aspects of the discussion when you are really confused - I mean, there are sooo many directions to go, so many aspects to dissect. just the differences between a straight man and a gay man, their perceptions and experiences, can be so vast. and we (most of us, anyway) are both comfortable and familiar with this - its everywhere. transgendered people are still conveyed (in the media, the general publics only access) as confused and conflicted, sometimes outright manipulative (Im not saying that people should belive what the media tells them, only that they DO). often - and I know this is really mean, but honestly true - as a joke. the mean prank pulled on the nice upstanding straight guy. how does this make someone in this situation feel? like fucking shit, Im sure. doesnt make the confused fucker with a handful of genitals he didnt expect (or want) feel any damn better either.

ever kick back a glass of something, expecting soda maybe, and its actually water? ugh! you may love water, but the surprise kills any pleasure you may have derived from it

Im not saying someone who is transgendered should feel the need to "warn" people. I certianly see why they wouldnt - thats like saying who and what they are is abnormal and should be worn like a scarlet letter
 
 
Bill Posters
10:49 / 25.01.02
Can I nominate Wisdom for the Barbelith Standing Tall in the Face of Inexplicable Theory, Jargon and General Shit-Slinging Award of 2002?

I'll try to help? When I was a child (about 5 yrs old) I had a friend called Angela. She was really funny and I liked her. At some point during our friendship, some people at school started being nasty to her and calling her a "nigger". This, I realised, being an expression for someone who ain't white. From that moment on, the world was divided into two, the "whites" and the "wogs"/"blacks"/"niggers". I was nice to everyone, but some people were nasty to the "blacks"/"wogs"/"niggers". But the point was, before all that shit went down, Angela was just Angela. I mean, the fact she had darker skin than me meant jack shit; I guess I noticed, but thought less of it than the fact that, say, she wore glasses and I didn't.

My point is, and I hope this is clear, that a minor physical characteristic like skin pigmentation doesn't have to lead to people being bullied or put in a category based on that skin colour. It doesn't have to lead to anything at all. Like Haus says, it's not three genders, not four, or five, or twenty-three that these theory people want. IMHO these theory people want us to stop thinking in terms of gender at all, just like when I was five and I didn't know how to think in terms of race. I think these theory people want us to think of people as, well, people. Some may be able to reproduce and some not; some may have beards and some be smooth; these things are just minor physical quirks and shouldn't matter. The theory people are pissed because they do matter. For example here in the UK until recently a 'woman' got to retire and draw a state pension five years earlier than a 'man'. How massively unfair was that?! And just because of a tiny little variation in genital forms! But it's amazing how little physical quirks can cause discrimination. I know of a man who was sacked from a job because he has red hair. ('Kay, it was a job on a fishing boat, this was the 1960's in a very remote area of the UK and fishing communities are quite superstitious sometimes. They thought he was an unlucky Jonah.)

WOI, does that help? Physical difference doesn't have to make a difference I guess is what they're saying.

'Kay, some personal experience and then some theory plate throwing, so duck kids! I was once in a club and had my butt grabbed by an individual who - to judge by the TDF cheekbones and splendid cleaveage, was 'female'. We 'conoodled' a bit but it inevitably became obvious that the individual was also 'penised'. I had to call a halt to the proceedings. Like, whatever some of you may think about this, I can't get it up for the penised subsection of the human population, 'kay? Many people have said I was stupid and cruel to back out at that stage, but like, I didn't wanna do it, so I didn't. I just can't apply Butler's theory to my sex life. The trouble with you cultural studies crewe is you're too either/or in terms of what you read and are scared of the contribution 'hard' (arrgh!) science has to make. IRL, I effectively say Butler is bull and invoke Conrad Lorenz and the 'imprinting' theory of human sexuality. Sorry crit. theorists, but there's more to it than Butler reckons, at least for some of us at this point in where we are sexually.
 
 
Ganesh
10:55 / 25.01.02
Hmm, not sure whether I count as a "theory person" or not; suspect not. Haven't read Butler, Bill, or Lorenz, in any depth. I'm as fond of hard science as I am of hardons - but in the field of gender/sexuality, it's notoriously difficult to gain accurate data.

I wouldn't claim that everyone's potentially turned on by anything; I have my sexual no-nos like anyone else. While 'imprinting' is clearly powerful, I think it's limited in terms of "explaining" the vagaries of sexuality - and I think it implies that things are much more specifically "set in stone" than my own experiences would lead me to believe.

[ 25-01-2002: Message edited by: Ganesh v4.2 ]
 
 
pointless and uncalled for
11:03 / 25.01.02
This isn't really that different from my own personal interpersonal philosophy of person above all else.

Sure I may be caught off guard sometimes, but that is something I see as normal in all of us.

Take for instance an incident that happened to me a couple of months ago.

I was working as a receptionist (a position that is plagued by assumptions) and a prospective supplier come in to meet with one of the managers. As is usual with such people she extends here hand for the obligatory handshake and this woman has no fingers. If, like me, this has never happened to you before, I'm willing to risk good money that you'll have that moment of hesitation before shaking the hand.

I'm not going to judge her on being digitally deficient though.

As a side note, that's one of the strangest feelings in the world.
 
 
Haus about we all give each other a big lovely huggle?
11:06 / 25.01.02
Clearly you haven't ever had a really good inprinting. Baby.


I don't think "we" - the glutinous, undifferentiable mass of "theory people" - want people to stop thinking about gender. Rather, we want people to *start* thinking about gender.
 
 
Jack The Bodiless
11:19 / 25.01.02
I've had a similar experience to Bill... guy at a club once was doing an amazing impression of a gorgeous woman, and being drunk n' all, I was a wee bit too obvious about the fact that I liked the look of hir. Ze ended up buying me a drink, and that's when it clicked... ze was drinking pints. Well, as soon as I realised, I had to set hir straight that I ain't touching no pint drinkin' lass. Then ze told me that ze actually had male genitalia, and did that affect things?

Well, naturally it did. Took hir home and acted out the sword fight scene from The Princess Bride until the small hours. Thank god I sidestepped that landmine...
 
 
Jack The Bodiless
11:20 / 25.01.02


[ 25-01-2002: Message edited by: Jack The Bodiless ]
 
 
Jack The Bodiless
11:22 / 25.01.02
I'm sorry. I was being flippant. Pay no attention to the man behind the penis.
 
 
Bill Posters
12:40 / 25.01.02
Nesh, definately yes to that. My sexuality does have a certain fluidity to it.

<sits back and waits to be splattered with a multiplicity of 'fluid' puns>


Clearly you haven't ever had a really good inprinting. Baby.

Thank you for that.

I don't think "we" - the glutinous, undifferentiable mass of "theory people" - want people to stop thinking about gender. Rather, we want people to *start* thinking about gender.

Which, your infuriating language games and deliberate misquoting of my above post aside, is precisely what I said.


[ 25-01-2002: Message edited by: Bill Posters ]
 
 
Haus about we all give each other a big lovely huggle?
12:44 / 25.01.02
They aren't just games, Bill, and you know that perfectly well.
 
 
Jackie Susann
09:30 / 26.01.02
Bill, could you say a little more about imprinting theory rather than using it as a stick to bash people with? Genuinely interested... I've only come across the term in a sociology course, where it was clearly not 'hard science'.

Also, I'd suggest that most of the people you're criticising either haven't read Butler, or don't put much stock in her work. Which is, as you point out, full of holes. Arguing for more complex/thoughful ideas about gender doesn't mean you're just throwing in with the latest trendy postmodernist (and anyway, Butler is so 1992).
 
 
Bill Posters
09:30 / 26.01.02
"Bill, could you say a little more about imprinting theory rather than using it as a stick to bash people with? Genuinely interested... I've only come across the term in a sociology course, where it was clearly not 'hard science'."

Sure, OTTOMH, Lorenz was the scientist studying birds for some reason or other who accidently allowed a chick to hatch next to a ping pong ball. That chick spent its adult life trying to have sex with ping pong balls. Robert Anton Wilson uses the idea to explain why he likes redheads - he had a red-haired baby sitter when very young. I've changed my mind now, 'Nesh has, as usual, been the voice of reason. It may work for birds, but in humans, it's dodgy. I think more psychoanalytic stuff is necessary, and psychoanalytic stuff which allows for that "fluidity" Nesh wrote of. Like Irrigary maybe. Not sure. Anyway,

"Also, I'd suggest that most of the people you're criticising either haven't read Butler, or don't put much stock in her work. Which is, as you point out, full of holes."

Which is of course an "eeenteresting" metaphor!

"Arguing for more complex/thoughful ideas about gender doesn't mean you're just throwing in with the latest trendy postmodernist (and anyway, Butler is so 1992)."

With that I agree.
 
 
Disco is My Class War
09:30 / 26.01.02
I can only speak for myself, and not for any other self-confessed theory bitches around here, but I see this conversation and this thread as a really useful opportunity for everyone to learn about this shit. After seven pages, the level of conversation is becoming far more complex, I think. That's a good thing.

Also, people are obviously different and I really don't mind or care if individuals have had experiences with trannies and haven't wanted to fuck. I mean, hey, fine. But that's not what the original argument was about: it was about whether not explaining one's gender/sex in absolute sheer and utter depth before one fucks was awful horrid dishonesty or not.

But, bitchiekittie, with regard to people not having access to education and terms and so on, what we've been talking about doesn't rely on any kind of theoretical/academic understanding of gender and sexuality to be understood. At least I don't think so. It is very definitely complex and difficult to get yr head around. But I also think non-tranny and non-queer people have to take responsibility for at least attempting to get their heads around it. This is probably a bad comparison to draw (and sure, argue with me about it), but would you say that white people should be excused for their racism because they haven't had access to any people of colour who can spell it out for them? I wouldn't. In the same fashion, teaching against transphobia (which we've seen a bit of in this thread, I think) is not and cannot just be the responsibility of people who don't feel absolutely comfortable in their born genders.
 
 
Bill Posters
09:30 / 26.01.02
" ...would you say that white people should be excused for their racism because they haven't had access to any people of colour who can spell it out for them? I wouldn't."

Nor would I. But I'll say this: as a white and straightish male I was less unconsciously racist after a. being with black women in a relationship type sense and b. living in a 'black' area of London. Even as recently as last thursday night I was in a local bar with a Barbeloid and I couldn't help being struck by the fact that at one point we were the only white faces in there. It's a rare experience for a white to think 'sheesh, all of a sudden I'm the minority, I'm the different one, and this must be how 'they' feel most of the time', and a very 'educational' one. My point is that your 'average' white simply won't have experienced that and will be more unconsciously racist because of it. Likewise a lot of men approach women in the wrong way because they've never been hit on by a guy and don't realise that it can be potentially threatening. It's so difficult. It's not Kitty's fault that she doesn't have many gay friends and therefore asks a heterosexist question in the notorious 'married?' thread. But no, of course it's not just the gay community's job to help her think different.

"teaching against transphobia (which we've seen a bit of in this thread, I think) is not and cannot just be the responsibility of people who don't feel absolutely comfortable in their born genders"

Indeed. I feel comfortable in my gender (except when I get picked on for looking "effeminate") but I sometimes teach for my living so I can try to reduce prejudice that way. I can fit a nature-nurture debate into most subject areas! But I guess most aren't in such a position. It's a tricky one...
 
 
alas
19:54 / 27.01.02
Bill Posters said,
quote: IMHO these theory people want us to stop thinking in terms of gender at all, just like when I was five and I didn't know how to think in terms of race. I think these theory people want us to think of people as, well, people. Some may be able to reproduce and some not; some may have beards and some be smooth; these things are just minor physical quirks and shouldn't matter. The theory people are pissed because they do matter.

There's a lot going on here to disagree with.

First, the use of "these theory people" is clearly a dismissive, reductive label that feels--to me--like it was designed to provoke general grumpiness on the part of people who like to think and like to read philosophical works. It stinks of anti-intellectualism, and the later invocation of a masculinist-tinged reference to the "hard sciences"--even with the "arggh"-- contributes to the general sense of "WOI, these soft-headed effeminate types are just too benighted to deal with, but let me simplify and distort what they're saying so you can see, with me, just how befuddled they are."

Well, I'm a theory people and proud of it.

I say: The above explanation of what gender theorists want is completely fucked. Gender theorists have all read Nietzsche and they are not a particularly nostalgic lot; they do not harken us back to some non-existent utopia where "people can be just people"...

Second,
quote:For example here in the UK until recently a 'woman' got to retire and draw a state pension five years earlier than a 'man'. How massively unfair was that?! And just because of a tiny little variation in genital forms!

Jesus. I don't know your previous posts well enough to be sure where you are coming from, Bill, but this, when read in combination of everything else in your post smacks of the kind of right-wing, antifeminist rhetoric that implies: "see, women have really had it better all along . . ." Since I believe you referenced Irigaray in a later post, I'm going to assume that you understand that people culturally identified as "women" have been massively discriminated against in the economic sector, and that jobs, far from following a female life-trajectory are based on a masculinist life pattern. Was the comparison to the red-headed sailor supposed to be ironic?

quote: . . . I just can't apply Butler's theory to my sex life. The trouble with you cultural studies crewe is you're too either/or in terms of what you read and are scared of the contribution 'hard' (arrgh!) science has to make. . . . Sorry crit. theorists, but there's more to it than Butler reckons, at least for some of us at this point in where we are sexually.

I am not "afraid" of hard science, thank you very much, and I agree with an earlier post that Butler is 1992. Nevertheless, this post completely misunderstands the underlying point of Butler's and others' critiques. (And, btw, who exactly is trying to "force" people like Bill to apply Butler's theory to his sex life?)

But even if he does not want to "apply" the theory to his sex life, he should at least be willing to questions the assumptions that shape his conceptions of sexuality, gender, and, yes, "hard science." That means to understand the theoretical claim that "science" is a discourse. Science does not have an unmediated access to "reality": it is in a privileged relation to reality in our current culture, and that privilege masks the degree to which it is both product of and inextricably related to other cultural discourses.

The history of the cultural positions/roles assigned to scientists and, even more important here, medicical professionals is, after all, part of the problem that some folks have with psychiatrists and psychiatric classification systems--as Ria and Rosa's posts suggest. As Ganesh clearly realizes, there can be *no* diagnosis of disease--or "scientific" classification of human beings or human sexuality--that can occupy some rarified realm of "pure science." That's the foundational fantasy of science which has been used to mask the violence that has been associated with scientific power/knowledge.

Such a fantasy implies that psychiatry can, for instance separate itself from its history, and from the cultural implications of such classifications as "healthy" "normal" and "unhealthy" and "deviant."

HOWEVER, critiquing the role of science and/or the medical profession does NOT mean that psychiatric discourses, practices, and knowledge are inherently USELESS. There *is* no "inherent." Psychiatry occurs within a system, and needs to be very aware of its relation to that system, the power that it wields within that system, and the real possibility for abusiveness that accrues to the position because of that power.

</sermon>

but I agree, in the end, that the goal is to encourage more complex thinking about gender, to realize the degree to which all our thinking is predicated on a binary system which is in itself problematic.
 
 
Disco is My Class War
07:10 / 28.01.02
*applauding*

I'm a theory people too. Hundreds of it.

And what alas said, really, because the points I'd wanted to make about Bill's original post about theory people and gender theory were distracting me from my goal of keeping focused on thinking about trans stuff, so I didn't post.
 
 
bitchiekittie
13:33 / 28.01.02
quote:Originally posted by Rosa d'Ruckus:
This is probably a bad comparison to draw (and sure, argue with me about it), but would you say that white people should be excused for their racism because they haven't had access to any people of colour who can spell it out for them? I wouldn't. In the same fashion, teaching against transphobia (which we've seen a bit of in this thread, I think) is not and cannot just be the responsibility of people who don't feel absolutely comfortable in their born genders.


I wouldnt excuse discrimination of hatred of anyone by anyone. however, I do understand ignorance and subsequent confusion
 
 
Disco is My Class War
09:54 / 29.01.02
But that's just the point: ignorance is sometimes as destrictuve as unadulterated hatred. Worse, in fact. Ignorance breeds hatred.
 
 
alas
09:54 / 29.01.02
"ignorance is power."--Ronald Reagan should have said this, but I don't think he was ever that self-aware. i'm interested in this core issue of the dominance strategy of proclaiming "I Didn't Know": in grad school we called it arrogant ignorance... like the way that most US citizens don't know a second language--it's the sense of entitlement that's the primary problem, no?

if one has a sense of humility about one's lack of knowledge--a kind of awe before the otherness of any other person's experience, a genuine desire to learn more, and a willingness to accept correction, that helps, it seems to me . . .

<edited to correct egregious pronoun disagreement. argh..>

[ 29-01-2002: Message edited by: alas ]
 
 
Disco is My Class War
09:54 / 29.01.02
Yes. 'Zackly. Sometimes I reckon the biggest task for anyone who wants to be political is to stop being arrogant, get humble and listen. And that doesn't just apply to the people who've been protesting ignorance on this thread; it goes for everyone, including me.
 
 
bitchiekittie
11:08 / 29.01.02
but how can one become more aware of something that isnt accessible as a reality, an actual facet of the human spectrum?

remember - we are talking about people who fuck strangers without protection, who routinely drive drunk, who deliberately clog their arteries and blacken their lungs every day. we are talking about people who cant grasp the concept of honesty or communication, or the repercussions of refusing to utilize either - we are talking about the general populace, which consists of oblivious fools who need a graphic 30 minute video complete with celebrity voice over to simply understand that something exists. its a very rare thing to come across a person who routinely puts themselves in the shoes of another person, and actually makes an attempt to understand.

I dont excuse anything. however, I can understand.
 
 
Haus about we all give each other a big lovely huggle?
12:24 / 29.01.02
Yeah, but, you know, we're talking about *perverts*. People who lop off their cock or their tits on a twisted whim. People whose idea of fun is to wander around outside with hairy legs rubbing together under Laura Ashley florals. People who don't understand, no matter how often you explain it to them, that God created two sexes for a reason. People who pump themselves full of weird drugs to pervert the natural balance of their bodies and then blind themselves to the sorrow they cause their families and the disgust they elicit from decent folks....

Which is to say, once you get into the contemptuous generalisations, you realise there are a shitload more of the "general populus" than there are of you. So you'd better hope they are enlightenable, really...
 
 
Ganesh
13:11 / 29.01.02
Uh-oh. Only a matter of time before someone starts talking about "sheep"...
 
 
bitchiekittie
13:23 / 29.01.02
was there a point, haus?

if there was, it went over my head, sorry
 
 
Ganesh
13:31 / 29.01.02
At the risk of going all "Flyboy", I believe Haus is illustrating the danger of making generalisations. You don't really believe the populace consists of "oblivious fools", do you?
 
 
Haus about we all give each other a big lovely huggle?
13:40 / 29.01.02
Essentially, yes. And, if I was so minded, I could taje the fact that my point went over your head as a sign that you are a hopeless case, and will always be trapped in your "us/them, patricians/plebs" dualism, and just give up.

But that wouldn't really profit anyone.

So, if it's true we patricians either grin and bear it or start a cull....

[ 29-01-2002: Message edited by: The Haus of Hair-Pulls and Kicking ]
 
 
The Planet of Sound
13:47 / 29.01.02
Does anyone ever get the feeling Haus tries too hard?
 
 
Ganesh
13:51 / 29.01.02
Evidently not hard enough...
 
 
Haus about we all give each other a big lovely huggle?
13:52 / 29.01.02
Or, perhaps, people who are Just Bright Enough (tm J.D. Salinger) often don't try hard enough...
 
 
bitchiekittie
13:56 / 29.01.02
pffhht. did I once say Im not "one of them"? I make stupid choices (based on ignorance as well as idiocy) and retarded oversimplifications based on nothing.

and hey, guess what, haus, you are certainly one to talk
 
 
Haus about we all give each other a big lovely huggle?
13:59 / 29.01.02
BK - not interested in descending to "I know you are, but what am I?".

Sorry.

Planet - Likewise. Maintain focus.

Question at issue, roughly - is ignorance any excuse for mistreatment? Can ignorance be cured?

Thoughts?
 
 
The Planet of Sound
14:10 / 29.01.02
If we are all of us infinitely ignorant (which mathematically, we are) then no, quite frankly. But our comprehensive school system and houses of higher learning do try to administer the odd jab. Not sure about public schools, which seem designed to generate hypocritical hatred.

If we're talking purely sexual discrimination/gender fascism, again, unlikely. There will always be hateful people in the world, as I think I mentioned a while ago. Fatists, racists, sexists, homophobes, those who don't like 'ignorant' people, those who don't like comedians, those who don't like the colour green or the number 65. Surely best just to think in terms of individual revolution and try to spread a lil' sunshine?
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
14:18 / 29.01.02
But surely, as has been mentioned before, in order to have an individual revolution, you have to stop externalising prejudice...
 
  

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