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Words and Phrases You Find Yourself Using but Wish That You Didn't

 
  

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Justin Brief
15:08 / 12.08.02
Couldn't agree more with the comments above about 'at the end of the day'; a phrase that can be used as a handy test of general intelligence. People who think they're concluding immensely complicated arguments with 'at the end of the day, [insert mindless inanity here] are, at the end of the day, fuckwits.

I overuse the phrase 'couldn't agree more', and the words 'so', 'basically' and 'and'.
 
 
Your Majesty
15:12 / 12.08.02
This thread reminds me of the annual list of forbidden words and phrases that Matt Groening comes up with for his "Life in Hell" strip, if he's still doing it (and, yes, "in hell" made the list several years ago). Really, they're a sign of conversational laziness, but trying to quit using them is like trying to quit smoking: you start out with the best of intentions, but they're so convenient, and surely one more won't hurt; you know, it's all good, know-what-I'm-sayin', word. It's also easy to slip into the realm of the overly-contrived phrase, particularly with the "clever" variation on an epithet that someone mentioned earlier--Jesus Initial Surname, as in "Jesus H. Presley at the MGM Grand." (Just made it up--can you tell?) The only one of that genre that I've actually used in conversation was "Jesus, Mary and Bullwinkel!" I'd been waiting to unleash it for some time, but it went over like a lead balloon. So much for that.

My conversational vice isn't even a word or phrase, it's using my fingers to indicate double-quotes: both hands in the peace sign/V-for-victory configuration a la Richard Nixon, then curling the extended fingers so that they're like a brace of bunny rabbits whose ears are drooping on cue. (I wonder if the British use only the index fingers, if they do it at all.) Do it once at the beginning of the phrase that's being explicitly couched in irony, then again at the end, even though that really produces double-barrelled double-quotes, a no-no in any country. For some reason, even though I seemed to get along quite well before I picked it up, there are still very rare occasions when I use it because it's just so convenient.
 
 
invisible_al
17:19 / 12.08.02
Oh christ there with you on the speech marks hand gestures, catch myself doing that too much for comfort.
Starting sentences with the word 'Basically', using the word 'stuff' far too much, there are probably other ones but no one has ever called me on them so I don't know.
*sigh*
 
 
Matthew Fluxington
17:37 / 12.08.02
I use the phrase "fucking hell" way too often. I'm not really embarassed by it, I'm just saying I use it waaaaay too often.
 
 
bio k9
08:59 / 13.08.02
Funny, Ive started saying "Fuckin fuck" way too often.
 
 
Tuna Ghost: Pratt knot hero
20:20 / 13.08.02
Detroit is slowly adding phrases and such to my vocabulary without me noticing until it's too late. Things that can easily be described as ghetto. Things like

"Good as hell" (pronounced "goudahell", but slower than you just thought it)

"Hey man, chill with all that ho-ass shit" (pronounced "'ey man, chill wit awl dat ho-ass shit". I don't pronounce it like that, but most people I hang out with do)

"Bitch!" (or "beetch"). Always in reference to another guy. Also used as "who, that bitch?" or "man, that's a bitch thing to do". Let it be known that it's never used towards a woman, but I realize it's still not a good thing. Am trying to stop using it.

I'm also trying to find other expletives than "Christ" to announce my surprise and/or anger at some event. "Holy crap in a hat" isn't as much fun, though, and progress is slow. I may give up.
 
 
The Strobe
21:06 / 13.08.02
I used to use the phrase "Learning By Osmosis" far too often. I've got rid of that.

Things I say too much now? "Hella Yeah" as a general expression of vocal agreement, "Indeed" (it's a university thing and I hate it), "qual" (just a horrible phrase I shouldn't use in public), and also: swearing far too fucking much, if you get my drift.
 
 
Margin Walker
21:23 / 13.08.02
Dope!

Um....... (shrugs)
 
 
uncle retrospective
21:38 / 13.08.02

I've started to use Huzza! far too often, no idea why but it leaps out at any chance it gets. I also use Man, all the time. I hated it when my stoner friends used it and now it's rubbed off on me and I'm going nuts. Gurr.
I also started using bada bing for no good reason. Uggh.
I go to hang my head.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
21:44 / 13.08.02
Johnny O- "My Gouda Hell!" What a fantastic headline that'd make.
 
 
6opow
05:50 / 14.08.02
Um, out of curiosity, how does a person find the opportunities to say, "learning by osmosis," way too often?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
07:37 / 14.08.02
By going to Oxbridge Academy, London, who have a special intensive "Learning by Osmosis" course for the Upper Third.

Obviously.
 
 
The Strobe
08:24 / 14.08.02
Actually, I was saying it well before then, Haus. Just whenever I referred to, you know, picking things up, working stuff out, SOMEHOW it would slip in, and every time it did, I felt a strong whiff of turd.

mod3: if there are NO good opportunities to say things, such as the dreadful phrase "learning by osmosis", then saying it at least ONCE is too often. Right? Good.

I have overcome it. I have overpowered my higher power. It's all good
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
08:49 / 14.08.02
I find myself saying "W00T!" "D00D" and "W00T!" rather a lot. Then again, that is the price you pay for L33T HaX0r Sk33lZ
 
 
T*M*U*M*A
12:21 / 14.08.02
i;ve said "just for that, i'm going to tie you down and cut out as many 1 inch square cubes of flesh as i can before you die." far too many times..

but its usually directed at whoever is on the television for being intolerably crap.
 
 
captain piss
14:37 / 14.08.02
I keep uttering 'AAaaarse' with a west country accent, and can't seem to quit
And 'sorry' I say a lot (sorry, I know that's not that interesting)
 
 
6opow
18:15 / 14.08.02
Actually, I think that saying "sorry" too often is very interesting--could be its own thread! It seems to me that many people say "sorry" far too often, and as such, it devalues the use of the word in occasions where it is actually called for. It appears that our society encourages people to say "sorry" for a bunch of things that really do not call for an apology. Again, I feel that this robs this word of its depth and integrity when it is uttered in sincerity.
 
 
6opow
21:10 / 14.08.02
"By going to Oxbridge Academy, London, who have a special intensive "Learning by Osmosis" course for the Upper Third.

Obviously.
"

Quite right old chap, quite right.

"if there are NO good opportunities to say things, such as the dreadful phrase "learning by osmosis", then saying it at least ONCE is too often. Right? Good."

Quite right old chap, quite right.
 
 
Bad Horse
21:23 / 14.08.02
I used to do the 'sorry' thing a lot, someone blew up in my face though and I took it to heart and stopped.

Why do I keep asking people if they are all right? I don't realy think I care that much about the people I ask, it is almost totally subconscious now, I don't realise I have asked until they come out with an answer. If I gave a shit I would find some other way of saying it, I would pay attention when I asked. Talk about a devalued phrase. In fact if I hear the words 'Are you all right?' coming out of my mouth one more time I may mash my own head to a bloody pulp.
 
 
Ganesh
01:02 / 15.08.02
Not so bad with the 'sorry' stuff as I used to be (ZoCher claims I never say sorry but he's very obviously wrong) but I'm increasingly irritated by my inappropriate use of 'thankyou' as a term of general acknowledgment.

Example: when buying something I'll say 'thankyou' when handing it over at the checkout, then 'thanks' when hand me a bag and/or my change. If I pay by credit card, they then offer me a pen and, not wanting to be over-repetitive, I say 'thanks very much' or 'thanks again' then take my purchases ('thankyou') and leave.

Sometimes I vary by saying 'cheers' instead. It's still deeply annoying - particularly as I know it's indicative of a rather pathetic, ingrained need to please/be liked. I wish I could think of another bland, all-purpose acknowledgement - or just risk disapproval enough to stay silent...
 
 
Saveloy
07:43 / 15.08.02
Ganesh:

"Example: when buying something I'll say 'thankyou' when handing it over at the checkout, then 'thanks' when hand me a bag and/or my change."

Ha ha! I'm glad I'm not the only person who does that. I've even found myself saying 'thanks' as I hand them the money for the goods. Pathetic, isn't it? It sounds like I'm saying: "thank you for relieving me of this burdensome fiver," or, worse: "thank you for accepting my grubby little offering, inadequate as it is."

That said, if the people I've known and met who work the other side of the counter are to be believed, it's preferable to saying nothing, or just grunting.
 
 
Bad Horse
08:10 / 15.08.02
This just show how well brought up and polite you are. They are delivering a service, you don't tip them so a Thank you is appropriate.

I tend to use the formal 'Thank you' when I get my goods and 'Ta' when I get my change to show that the money wasn't that important and belie the fact I thought for an instant they were going to pocket it instead.

Perhaps I think about this too much.
 
 
Kit-Cat Club
11:48 / 15.08.02
Oh dear - me too...

I was disgusted to catch myself saying 'this one >insert thing<' the other day. I absolutely loathe that. 'I went into this one shop'... grrr...
 
 
Ganesh
11:51 / 15.08.02
Yes! Thanking people when I hand over money! D'oh!

*slaps self repeatedly on forehead*
 
 
Tuna Ghost: Pratt knot hero
19:32 / 15.08.02
I've been a register jockey (my first job, actually, at K-Mart), and it's not unusual to hear someone say "thank you" when you've done nothing at all that could be considered helpful. Every retail worker I can readily think of agrees: no one cares, and the only reason someone will ever mention it will be to fill in any awkward pauses or perhaps to flirt a bit.
 
 
NotBlue
19:40 / 15.08.02
"Well, "MOVING FORWARD.........", every time I die a little......
 
 
schwantz
19:54 / 15.08.02
I hate that I say "right on" all the time. I mean, it's a mellow phrase, but it sounds kind-of dippy. Plus, I started saying it to make fun of my Indian punk-rock roommate in college (who would say "right on" hundreds of times per day), and all that happened is that I couldn't stop saying it myself.
 
 
schwantz
19:56 / 15.08.02
Another annoying one that we all do:

"Can I get..." instead of "may I have." It turns into "Kaiget," and sounds really crass.
 
 
Logos
01:58 / 16.08.02
"All righty"
 
 
Bad Horse
07:42 / 16.08.02
"Bugger" In fact I don't wish I didn't use it, I like saying it, such a nice round sounding curse. Almost socially acceptable despite it's definition and certainly better than the full "Bugger me with a rusty coat hanger" that it takes the place of in my everyday speech.
 
 
Mazarine
07:49 / 16.08.02
"Can I get..." instead of "may I have." It turns into "Kaiget," and sounds really crass.

Still slightly better than 'gimme' though.

I too am a no-fault apologizer and one who thanks for no reason. Profusely. Repetitively. My sweetheart informed me that I also say 'you know' a ton. He's taking to responding with, "No, dammit, I don't know! That's why you're telling the story!"
 
 
Ma'at
13:17 / 16.08.02
"and quite frankly..." is a phrase I HAVE to stop using so frequently along with "am I being unreasonable..." or variations on that such as "Do you think I'm.." and "Am I being really bad because.."

"Will you please leave me alone" seems to feature quite heavily in my vocab as well at the moment but I can't see that changing anytime in the near future sadly...
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
13:28 / 16.08.02
"Moving ever so swiftly on"...

I don't like to hear myself say it because it is a formula meaning "I have absolutely no wish to pursue this line of conversation. Also, you're scaring me". Which is not very nice.
 
 
Bad Horse
13:55 / 16.08.02
Ma'at. You probably are being unreasonable, if you have to ask then yet again you probably are and I think even you realise you are bad.
 
 
Ma'at
15:17 / 16.08.02
I'd never dispute I'm bad! I do bad extrememly well!

Actually those particular phrases have more to do with me and my apparent inability not to be made to feel guilty by certain people! I would also add that both Jack The Bodiless, Expressionless and Ephemerat are working very hard to get me out of this linguistic habit by the simple means of threatening me with severe physical violence (known simply as the 'group hug') unless I shut up..

..so hope is at hand
 
  

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