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I don't really agree, Haus, that expressing feelings of having been affronted (to whatever degree) is a mere generator of noise. In fact, I think maybe that the air of condecension (real or imagined) in the instances that I was referring to when I started this topic (which, upon reflection, tend more towards the aforementioned "novelty=validity" model than I'd originally realized) may actually be the crux of the matter, as far as I'm personally concerned.
I often abstain from writing about a lot of things here that I have an interest in but don't feel "qualified" to write about. I acknowledge the fact that I'm not as well-educated as some people on the board, and that things that are blindingly obvious to some will seem blindingly revelatory to myself and others. I have seen posts on the board at times that seemed condescending or dismissive towards others, although I'd have to plow through the archives to dig up a good and blatant example. One only has to go as far as this topic, though, to see more latent examples of this tendency in the language used by certain posters towards certain other posters. The suggestion that is sometimes made that those who feel affronted harden their hearts and swallow their tears seems somewhat unfair, particularly in light of some of the conversation currently taking place in the Objection! thread and in light of the differing degrees of respect sometimes afforded by some to others. I don't need to be molly-coddled, but I also definitely don't need to be patronized by anyone who perceives him/herself as superior to me.
I also acknowledge that disingenuousness is, I'm sure, not always intentional. Whatever the intent, though, the fact remains that comments of this nature ultimately do more harm than good, insofar as they can serve to discourage those who've been rebuffed from talking about something new and interesting to them (or old and repetitive, from the rebuffer's POV) in the future (and insofar as I can see little good that they do at all, except as a big neon-lit indicator of where the rebuffer's knowledge base lies). Again, this applies across the communication spectrum and not just in Barbelith specifically.
And an excellent post, by the way, Tom. I understand better where you were coming from in your response to Rage's thread (and where you're coming from in respect to a lot of aspects of the board), but I hope that you understand why I would still lump it in w/the very responses I'm talking about, given its context (i.e. it's location in a Conversation thread). I think that your post, though, is kind of a whole other basket of turnips and maybe should be the basis of its own thread in Policy, like you suggested.
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