aye, the layers of experience being collapsed are quite troubling.
We have people currently being exploited and oppressed, possibly people in antiquity having similar or totally different experiences (a spectrum seems reasonable) getting bundled in.
It could be a problem of etymology. In the English language there are no words that describe a sexually empowered woman in a positive light.
I think this is very true and as a result the language is dipping into the lexicon of the powerless. Courtesan is the closest term to neutral I can think of from antiquity and surrogate/sex worker in the modern. Whore and prostitute are used as insults and threats and are certainly not neutral.
I emailed a currently practicing sacred sex worker for input on this thread and got this response (THANK YOU!):
XK wrote:
"There are people doing this who I respect a great
deal and I believe if historical sacred prostitution
was proven to be a fabrication these folks would still
be doing their current work. However, they are basing
a large part of their work on these texts."
I'm likely one of these people XK is speaking of, and
got a nudge towards the thread, so I'll chime in.
I'm a Neo Pagan. Not a Thelemite. Not a
reconstructionist. I heard of the idea of "sacred
prostitution" from vaguely spiritual sex-radical
writers, and it rang such a bell for me. I'd done a
bit of sex work at that point, but I'd had some
nagging sense I was "doing it wrong." Unfortunately,
the writers saw it as being sex-positive and
uninhibited, not as being in a service profession.
Not too long after that, I had a dream (or a vision,
or whatever it was) of sacred prostitution in a
cultural setting. It was like watching a vivid
interactive documentary, not like a normal dream at
all. It was clear in the vision that what I was seeing
was not one specific historical culture, but a
representation of a concept, an abstraction made
concrete so I could understand it.
I've looked in to a bit of historical information
since then, because I was curious to see how well it
fit what I saw, but my work is based on this dream and
my intuition, not any text. (I really liked Wives of
the God/King. I've given up trying to make any sense
of Crowley.)
I provide ritual sexual services on occasion in a
quasi-professional capacity. Whether or not money is
exchanged, it is a "client" type relationship - not
friend, not lover. It is just someone who came to me
for a service that I am (spiritually) obligated to
provide. There are strong "professional" boundaries.
That is why I call it "sacred prostitution" - not to
reclaim anything, but because it seems accurate and
makes it clear I am describing transactional
interactions, not personal ones
The way I see it, by doing this work you are
expressing Divine Love through the body, and this
Divine Love is accessible to all. I can set clear
boundaries and rules, but anyone who agrees to those
rules and doesn't disrespect the Goddess is equally
welcome. It isn't about me and my preferences. I can't
say, "Oh, I'll do X, Y, & Z with you, but only A & B
with you."
The whole idea about this being so "empowering" misses
the mark - it is very humbling, in a way. You have to
put your ego aside to a huge extent to be able to do
it right. Because doing it right isn't about getting
the client off or making money or feeling sexually
empowered - it is about embodying Divine Love. It is
in a literal energetic sense, Making Love. Manefesting
Love. And I find that if I do it right, and set up my
ritual space right, I pull down that Divine Love
energy. Then it is like looking at the world through
the eyes of the Goddess, and everyone is equally
beautiful and desirable. It really is something
different than just doing sex work and deciding it is
a spiritually valuable thing.
-JT
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