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Char Aina
18:49 / 29.04.06
so despite flyboy starting the thread, do folks feel he had an obligation to title it, abstract it and write the first post to it in a way that masked his thinking?

i'm not too comfortable with all three, but i reckon there is a fair argument for the title and abstract.

i feel it was never really entirely his thread, despite his starting it.

thoughts?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
19:11 / 29.04.06
So... we've decided that one of the problems is that there is a Barbelite, by which we mean that there are certain people on Barbelith who post more and are better respected than others. Some have gone further and talked about a clique.

What I don't quite follow is what this has to do with the process by which Shadowsax was banned, and how we can do better in the management of difficult posters. Could somebody help me out on this?
 
 
eddie thirteen
19:16 / 29.04.06
Another problem could be disingenuous posting, Haus, but I think that too is a separate issue.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
20:05 / 29.04.06
Indeed. Insincerity is a modern scourge.

That there is a clique is difficult to deny, although I'm sure that, if pressed, someone will deny it and post denials of such length and intricacy that whoever is foolish enough to be on the other side of the argument will eventually shuffle away in defeat, or maybe just boredom.

Now, if you're all done perhaps we could get back ontopic?
 
 
rising and revolving
20:42 / 29.04.06
What I don't quite follow is what this has to do with the process by which Shadowsax was banned, and how we can do better in the management of difficult posters. Could somebody help me out on this?

Are you genuinely having difficulty getting from the

"Why did lots of people email Tom but not take part in the discussion,"

followed by

"Here's the perception that lead to (at least some) of that."

and then working out what this has to do with the banning topic?

Because, frankly, I find that hard to believe.

So, why don't you want to talk about this, given that it's very much on topic?
 
 
eddie thirteen
20:43 / 29.04.06
Ummmmmm...yes, I indeed write that, though I'm not sure how quoting it back at me adds to the conversation. Or, for that matter, how the conversation has strayed off-topic. It may be that the conversation has come to include a subject you aren't interested in discussing, but I should hope that alone doesn't make it a digression. It seems to me that, if some posters feel uncomfortable contradicting posters who are within this perceived elite, and if this perceived elite is prominent in making policy decisions that affect the entire board, that discussion of whether there is an elite at all -- and, if so, how much power it should hold over the board as a whole -- is very relevant to the overall conversation. Why do you disagree?
 
 
miss wonderstarr
21:45 / 29.04.06
So... we've decided that one of the problems is that there is a Barbelite, by which we mean that there are certain people on Barbelith who post more and are better respected than others. Some have gone further and talked about a clique.

I tried to avoid those terms, and also "Barberoyalty" of course. I don't think, for the record, that it's just about posting more, either. After all, part of the issue with ShadowSax is that some of the contributors I have called "high-status" were being made to feel uncomfortable and were posting less.

I don't see it as being entirely about "better respected" posters in every case. Perhaps the key distinction, to my mind, is not that the "big name" contributors are more prolific, or always better at writing, reasoning or arguing, but that they seem to often come as a couple, a collective, even a mini-community. That was the point I tried to raise above ~ that I was reluctant to take issue with one individual because I knew there were loyalty-links to other, equally high-status posters. The way I perceived it, I'd be getting into a squabble with at least two posters (Flyboy and Nina, who to my reading do seem to back each other up regularly... understandably) and possibly a further group of fellow posters with the same kind of textual clout.

I don't know if this is how anyone else sees it, but it's the perception that if you disagree with one "high-status" contributor, you could be getting in the bad books of at least one other, and bringing down upon you not that one person, but also their back-up, that sets certain people apart for me.

Now, that kind of loyalty is an inevitable and positive result of long-term investment in a community, which often leads to real-life meeting. It would be ridiculous to complain at longer-term contributors because they have friends or partners and because they often want to support the people they like and care about.

But it's that sense of a sub-group that marks the divide for me. Most people here, I regard as isolated individuals apart from their shared participation in Barbelith. I feel if I disagree with them, it's a person-to-person thing, an even-handed one on one. I do not feel that way with the contributors I called "high-status".

What could be done about it? I think an awareness of it (if anyone agrees with me about this perception) is a start. An awareness that people feel this way about a group of Barbelith contributors, and feel reluctant to voice an opinion they feel might be "unpopular" with those contributors because it's not worth the comeback, might be helpful. Ganesh and Mordant both said at the start of this discussion that they found the idea of people being uncomfortable to speak up depressing and sad. But they also seemed surprised by it. I think discussing that perception and seeing whether its widespread isn't a bad idea.




What I don't quite follow is what this has to do with the process by which Shadowsax was banned, and how we can do better in the management of difficult posters. Could somebody help me out on this?


I agree with the recent posts suggestion that the connection is this: people felt reluctant to voice their honest opinion about ShadowSax in a public thread because they felt that two vocal, community-powerful moderators, who seem to work as a tag-team textual unit, really wanted one result and were angered and/or disappointed by anyone who disagreed.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
21:46 / 29.04.06
I'm afraid you're both missing the point rather. The topic summary is:

Discussion of how we can make dealing with ideologically conflicting members of Barbelith more consistent, less exhausting and more efficient.

As far as I can tell, you actually want to talk about dealing with, for want of a bettter term, ideologically congruent members of Barbelith - that is, how those who are not "barbelite", "barbeclique" or whatever you want to call those who have been around for a while and with whom you disagree. What I don't see is why people not feeling able to share their views in the face of this Barbelite, for reasons that I do not entirely understand (what can they do, except ask Tom to ban you, which he will refuse because he is a sensible young man, or somehow gang up on you, which I am short of examples to support) is relevant to how we can make dealing with ideologically conflicting members of Barbelith more consistent, less exhausting and more efficient. Perhaps by having a secret ballot on who constitutes the Barbelite and not allowing the first half-dozen winners to reply post in the same thread?

Rising and revolving: Honestly, I'm not sure we can draw too many inferences from that. I agree entirely that it is a shame if people feel that they cannot express their opinions in open forum. Apart from anything else, it causes huge problems with peer review. Tom is intelligent and thoughtful, but cannot keep track of every post on Barbelith, so unless a PM is rigorously researched and heavily annotated, it is likely to provide a highly incomplete picture which he may or may not have the opportunity to substantiate. As mentioned, the invitation to PM Tom was made in the Conversation, so fear of the Barbelite for whatever reason may not be the only motivation for the PM as chosen mode of address.

So, the connection, as far as I can see it is "the possible existence of a hypothetical clique, the constitution, methods and power of which remain obscure might be preventing people from expressing their full beliefs in public about whether or not Shadowsax should have been banned or not". Well, fine. Develop that to tie in with the thread topic. Suggest that it is an issue that needs balance before the next such possible situation arises. Propose, say, a means of anonymous posting. Perhaps by PMing another member and asking them to copy and paste into the next discussion. Talk about the ethics of this. Alternatively, start a new thread entitled "Is there a barbelite and, if there is, what consequences does this have". However, do not clog up what is meant to be a discussion of how best to interact with problematic posters who might pose a threat to the successful conduct of discussion on Barbelith by talking about posters who define and constitute discussion on Barbelith, or this will become another thread taken up with precisely the sort of purposeless "if you disagree with me, you're proving me right" insincerity that I quoted above.

So. Back on topic. Would anyone like to provide a forward-looking, constructive suggestion?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
21:53 / 29.04.06
Crossposted with Miss W. However, I feel it worth pointing out that other members of Barbelith whom I know know to be partners and high-value members were on different sides in the Shadowsax discussion, and this appears not to have been noted. Also that I seem to spend half my life at the moment arguing with Nina and Our Lady about how moderation should function in the Moderator Requests thread... I have a feeling that a desire to see a cohesive element which supports each other is possibly driving the seeing of, to an extent at least.
 
 
miss wonderstarr
21:57 / 29.04.06
Haus, I understand your frustration and your good intention with regard to keeping the thread on-topic. The reason it went off-topic (strictly speaking, with regard to the summary) is that on p2 Ganesh pasted in comments from "Barbelush" thread, from Conversation, and that discussion continued on here. He felt that those comments on the other thread were appropriate to this one.

I've reposted it here because I think several of .trampetunia's points are pertinent (if a little depressing) as is, possibly, the fact that (s)he had to be 'well refreshed' to articulate them.

I responded specifically to the paragraph mentioning the ShadowSax thread...


So, while I agree that page 3 of this thread has strayed off-topic (though I think it still has at least incidental relevance) and you're right to try to set it back, I also think Rising & Revolving, Eddie Thirteen et al can be forgiven for the way it's gone.

It's possible that the "Barbelush" discussion should simply have gone into a new Policy thread, not fed into this one.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
22:13 / 29.04.06
Point taken- and I can see that there are ways in which the perception of the existence of these big batallions has an impact on how we deal in future with conflicting members of Barbelith. However, I agree that we are not successfully relating it here to the thread topic, and possibly we can't unless it is developed a little further.
 
 
Char Aina
23:45 / 29.04.06
perhaps the topic needs widening?

Discussion of how we can make dealing with ideologically conflicting members of Barbelith more consistent, less exhausting and more efficient.

while the above sounds good, i would appreciate a mention of ensuring fairness in there.
if it were, i see that as a strand of the discussion the recent discussion might profitably feed into.
 
 
Char Aina
00:05 / 30.04.06
Propose, say, a means of anonymous posting.

i think that would be useful.
perhaps a more managed version of my offer to shadowsax to act as a proxy for his supporters among the meek?




no one used the option, incidentally.
perhaps they dont trust me, or missed the deadline, but that they didnt feels telling to me(in the sense that i feel he had support; i think the idea is decent enough).
 
 
miss wonderstarr
08:22 / 30.04.06
If it is worth a new topic to discuss how the real-life and online loyalties of one long-term group of contributors might make others feel inhibited or reluctant to speak openly against them, then I'd suggest using terms like "high-status" (mine) or "high-value" (Haus) rather than Barbelite or Barberoyalty.

But this is the last comment I'll make on that (off-)topic, on this thread.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
12:32 / 30.04.06
You bastards.
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
14:00 / 30.04.06
Our Lady: The biggest difficulty I had with the Shadowsax thread was the behaviour of Flyboy and Nina. I FELT that straight away they were both impatient with anyone that wasn't completely locked in to 'burn him!' mode and angry that people were trying to discuss these issues with each other, and Shadowsax.

I must say, I feel that the fact there are people who think that the "biggest difficulty" with the ShadowSax thread was the behaviour of myself and Nina is illuminating. One might have assumed that the biggest difficulty with that thread was the presence of a troll committed to a misogynistic agenda, but evidently not - perhaps, Lady, you feel that, in the end, the wrong person was the subject of disciplinary action?

I'd ask you to illustrate, with links, which posts made you feel this, but I suspect it would be a fruitless exercise seeing as I have already asked you to specify this elsewhere on the internet, to no avail.

Why limit it to Nina and myself, however? I think Mordant and fred, for example, were also quite impatient. Perhaps a more accurate way to put it would be something along the lines of "I FELT that the behaviour of the people who wanted to see ShadowSax banned from the board was a bigger problem than the behaviour of"ShadowSax himself"?

miss wonderstarr: I felt Flyboy was taking an unpleasant tone towards me on another thread.

And in the same thread, I asked Does anyone else think that by asking miss wonderstarr a couple of questions about a statement she has made I am being rude and bullying her?, in order to give people the opportunity to agree with you - because as I also said, I fail to see how a request for clarification can amount to rudeness or bullying, but if a number of people thought it did, I would have to take that on board.

Towards the end, Nina was asking what argument those who hadn't voted to ban would have to hear, in order to sway them.

Here's where doing your research is useful, miss wonderstarr: it was Mordant Carnival, not Nina, who said that. Let me state more explicitly what Haus has already suggested: I believe that the reason your memory has failed you this time is because it is a lot easier and more convenient to believe that Nina and myself (whose off-board relationship you have dragged into this thread in a manner that sets an interesting precedent for the discussion of impressions one may have gained about a person's off-board life) have ganged up on you in a big mean way because we never disagree about anything ever, than to engage with the actual arguments, facts and events involved in the entire cocking situation.
 
 
Jawsus-son Starship
14:16 / 30.04.06
Well Flyboy, I think that's proved a point? How could any one ever think of you as being rude? I don't understand?

Do you ever think that maybe, on occasion, you're posting style is so confrontational that no matter how valid the point you make, you will offend someone with the way you make it? Or are all these people just misreading your posts, ala Shadowsax? At what point does it stop being everybody elses fault, and start to be something you have control over?
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
14:21 / 30.04.06
Moving on...

It's probably unwise to second-guess, but I already felt I'd got Nina and Flyboy's backs up by not putting in the immediate ban-him vote they wanted and expected when ShadowSax's case came up.

Your feelings are mistaken. I do not hold it against everyone who didn't put in an "immediate ban-him vote" in the case of ShadowSax. What aggravated me, wonderstarr, was that on this page of the 'Newsflash: Feminism, anti-racism still relevant' thread, and in the ShadowSax thread, you defended ShadowSax's attempts to imply that a rape victim was asking for it, and tried to make a case that other posters on the board were not giving these remarks a fair hearing.

Contrary to some people's belief, I do not believe that anyone who did not want ShadowSax banned is an apologist for misogyny. I do however believe that anyone who has apologised for misogyny is an apologist for misogyny. And here we have our problem.

You are right about one thing, however...

The strong impression I get is that Flyboy is liked and respected by Haus, that he's partnered with Nina, friends with Mister Disco, pals with Alex's Grandma.

...It is, in many ways, really really great to be me.
 
 
Spatula Clarke
14:38 / 30.04.06
Math, your recent behaviour in this part of the board hardly makes you a suitable candidate for deciding when and where other people are being rude. Please stop trying to turn arguments hereabouts into bitching sessions for your own amusement.
 
 
Jawsus-son Starship
14:49 / 30.04.06
Why does everything here have to be made out like its some afternoon soap opera shit? There was no agenda to my post - I happened to agree with what flyboy said. I was just questioning his style. Have I lost my right have an oppinion on here already?
 
 
Jawsus-son Starship
15:08 / 30.04.06
But in response to flyboy's last post; while it's wrong for wonderstarr to "misremember" who said what to make a point, do you not think it's also wrong to deliberately imply a falsehood to prove a point? See, what I read in wonderstarr's post about Shadowsax's comments in the Duke thread was somebody stating how they had read his comments, and then stating that they did not feel them to hold the meaning that others had implied. What I did not read is someone apologizing for Shadowsax's misogyny. To imply otherwise would be unfair, unfair in the same way you feel wonderstarr has treated you with her implications.
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
15:08 / 30.04.06
No, but dude--you've not exactly been a model of restraint, you know? You can be a very sweary and shouty Math at times. This is going to colour people's percetion of what you write and inform their responses.
 
 
Jawsus-son Starship
15:14 / 30.04.06
Very true Mordant, I do get sweary and shouty. But I am trying to stop that, and therefore change peoples oppinions of me as a poster. I really worry that people just ignore what I'm actually saying in post, completly ignore my points and print over the top what they think I'm saying/insinuating. I think the meat and potatoes of what I say are not unreasonable a lot of the time, but then if a lot of people disagree with that then I'm obviously wrong.
 
 
Our Lady Has Left the Building
15:33 / 30.04.06
Wow, obviously 'I feel' statements really don't matter do they?
 
 
Tryphena Absent
15:38 / 30.04.06
Our Lady, I posted in the Shadowsax thread for the first time on page 10. I'm very upset that someone who I regarded as a friend would lump me into a unit in the way that you have.
 
 
Cat Chant
15:43 / 30.04.06
Flowers: it seems not. I'm trying to come up with a post which expresses my own feelings about some of the things you've just said, but in the meantime, I think it's worth pointing out to Flyboy that the presence of SS can't really be the biggest problem with a thread discussing whether his behaviour is bannable, can it? Saying that there is a difficulty with the way someone's disciplinary action is handled is not the same thing as saying that the wrong person was subjected to disciplinary action. (For one thing, that would mean that every time there was a mistrial in the courts the judge would have to be tried for the same offence as the original defendant.)

As for the thread summary: (id)'s post (may I call you [id]?) here was completely exemplary, I thought, in terms of identifying the problems with Shadowsax's posts in a way which accounted both for why they were ideologically problematic and for why they were slipperier than Flyboy's 'troll with a misogynistic agenda' implies. I'd suggest that that post should be used as a basis for further discussion. I also think the slipperiness of SS as an example shouldn't disappear from this further discussion, because it's important.
 
 
Our Lady Has Left the Building
15:47 / 30.04.06
Nina, What about the things you said in the other threads previous to that? I thought it was clear, this is the effect what you and Flyboy said had on me, in the same way that what Shadowsax said had an effect on you, and Mordant, and others. Now Flyboy can get all belligerent and chest-thumpy if he wants to, but it's ironic that we're in a situation where all of a sudden feelings don't matter. Of course I'm not going to start the 'Let's hang Flyboy' thread, or the 'I saw Nina Consorting With the Devil!' thread, but I'll repeat, as it seems to have been overlooked:

'I guess it's about passion versus detachment, should people strive for objectivity, even when they are talking about something that's attacking their feeling of safety?'
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
15:52 / 30.04.06
I FEEL that "belligerent and chest-thumpy" is a more attacking form of words than anything I've posted in this thread, so the idea that yet again I am the big mean bully is, I FEEL, at best questionable.

I FEEL, as I have already said, that it would aid your case Flowers if you provided some specific examples of what Nina or I or anyone else said or did that made you FEEL uncomfortable or uneasy or anything else.
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
16:03 / 30.04.06
I think it's worth pointing out to Flyboy that the presence of SS can't really be the biggest problem with a thread discussing whether his behaviour is bannable, can it?

I don't really understand this, Deva. ShadowSax's presence and behaviour on the board was the catalyst that led to all of... this. That's unless one takes the line that he should not have been banned, that the people calling for his banning were over-reacting, etc. So he was the initial cause, which in my mind makes him the biggest problem. No matter how well or badly Barbelith posters dealt with him, the ideal, preferable scenario would to have been never to have to deal with the presence of such a fervently-committed misogynist in the first place, surely?

And then, even within the thread, I still think (and feel) that nobody contributed less or posted more badly than ShadowSax...
 
 
Cat Chant
16:16 / 30.04.06
I'll have one more go at explaining, but then I'll probably stop or take it to PM, Flyboy, because I don't want to derail this thread hugely, and I have a lot more thinking to do before I can contribute substantially or productively to this topic. Here goes:

As I understand it, this thread is not about whether Shadowsax should have been banned or not, nor about what the ideal, preferable scenario might have been, but about how successful or otherwise we feel the process of discussion and decision-making about his behaviour was, and about how we can and should deal with cases where banning is mooted in the future. Hence, when I read

the biggest difficulty I had with the Shadowsax thread was the behaviour of Flyboy and Nina,

it does not seem to me to be saying 'Flyboy and Nina's behaviour was worse than Shadowsax's' (that, to me, would not be a difficulty with the Shadowsax thread but with the board in general). It seems to me to be saying something more like:

Given that we had to make a decision on whether to ban Shadowsax, the biggest difficulty I had with that process of decision making was the behaviour of Flyboy and Nina.

So asking whether the wrong person was the subject of disciplinary action seems like a red herring to me.
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
16:21 / 30.04.06
Welllllll... yes. I might have been exaggerating a touch for rhetorical effect, that one time.
 
 
Char Aina
16:37 / 30.04.06
and the capitalising of FEEL?
 
 
*
16:47 / 30.04.06
(I've been working on this post for too long, and it's no longer timely. Still, here it is.)

Flyboy, I generally agree with you, and I am not among those who feel threatened by your posting style, but I'd like to point out that generally speaking, using "I feel" language to pronounce a judgment about another person's behavior, as I notice that you did a few posts ago, has a very manipulative effect. I think that you used that technique ironically, fully aware of that fact, but I thought I'd point it out in case someone didn't get that and thought that was a productive and egalitarian form of talking about one's feelings.

I think objections to the notion of a barbelite are failing to take into account the effects of social pressure in this community. While the idea that there is a cadre of barberoyalty may seem needlessly conspiratorial, I have myself experienced that there is pressure here to behave in ways which will be approved by people who likewise get much approval on the boards. This is sometimes beneficial— as in the case of me slowly improving my posting style over the course of the last three years, or Dead Megatron seemingly working hard to avoid offense and apologize when it does happen, although opinions are likely to vary on his degree of success. On the other hand, it has equal potential to work in the opposite direction, as some feel happened in the banning thread, in that people were afraid to express opinions which seemed to run counter to those of the most vocal and passionate voices in that thread. On a less serious note, I doubt I'll ever post about anything I just plain like in F&TV again, unless enough other people seem to like it that I know I won't appear uncool. That may seem juvenile, but it's a real pressure, and it's just part of the social reality of existing in any kind of community. Successful communities tend to reach a point of understanding these pressures and attempting to take them into account where appropriate, as Tom did by offering people an opportunity to PM him. These are my own experiences— I mean, I got to meet some lithers I respect and they said nice things about me, so I guess I'm in, but it took me— what, three years? —to get here, and that's three years in which I often felt I should never come back here for my own health and well-being.

So to tie this back to the thread topic as requested, I'd like to ask how helpful Tom felt his PM request was in encouraging softer voices to speak up. I'd like to ask if anyone feels it's appropriate for me to conduct a similar PM survey asking how many people do not feel comfortable publically expressing opinions about how the board is run/policy decisions such as banning, and what can be done to alleviate that. One possibility is the careful use of an anonymous online survey.
 
 
Our Lady Has Left the Building
16:57 / 30.04.06
toksik: to be fair to Flyboy, I capitalised feel in my post on page two. This was to try and emphasise these were my feelings and I wasn't trying to make some statement about how things are.
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
16:57 / 30.04.06
I'd like to point out that generally speaking, using "I feel" language to pronounce a judgment about another person's behavior, as I notice that you did a few posts ago, has a very manipulative effect.

(id), I completely agree. Not only was I doing it ironically, I was doing it in reference to this instance of the phenomenon you describe.
 
  

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