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Um....can I ask for advice?

 
  

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fuckbaked
23:48 / 13.05.05
fridgemagnet said: "The thing is to identify things that continue to matter to you whatever mood you're in, and use those."

I understand what you're saying but I can't think of anything.

ibis said: "yours sound like the words of an addict.

Yeah, I am an addict.

I find myself without weed on a regular basis (I spend a lot of money on weed whenever I get a paycheck, and then run out of money before the next check comes, and thus run out of weed, then spend too much of the next check on weed again...). I can't stand not having weed. I can't explain why. I can't give it up until I can replace the hole that it will leave in my life.

umm..., this addiction thing is something that's been a part of my life for the last 5 years. It's not the cause of my current woes and it's eradication will not solve all the problems in my life.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
00:31 / 14.05.05
You're kidding yourself if you think weed isn't effecting you. Not only is it a depressant but it makes you forgetful to the point where you lose track of conversations while you're having them... and you don't notice. An RAF drugs test involving your hair follicles can show it up 6 months after you take it. You might have periods of time when you don't have any readily available but how long are those periods? What are the chances that it actually leaves your bloodstream entirely? Dude I know I sound like an evangelist but it's not the use I'm criticising, it's the self-delusion that people who take this stuff seem to engage in. This is a hard drug, it's not an apple.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
00:34 / 14.05.05
Sorry I know that doesn't really connect with what you just said. Weed just seems to boost me on to the high horse. It's just the suggestion that you're ever without it, even when you don't have any, is wrong.
 
 
fuckbaked
01:03 / 14.05.05
I don't lose track of conversations while I'm having them, but that's besides the point. I do know that weed's effecting me. And yeah, I know that it stays in my body for ages, so I guess I haven't known what it's like to be completely free of weed since I started smoking it.

I want to get myself back to "doing ok" (as I'm currently "not doing ok") and I don't think I need to quit smoking weed to do that. I think that if I quit smoking weed it will make things worse in the short term. If I could get through all those months until the weed is completely out of my body then maybe I would no longer feel the need for it, but getting there is something I don't really have it in me to do right now.
 
 
lekvar
01:51 / 14.05.05
Yeah, I am an addict.
...
It's not the cause of my current woes and it's eradication will not solve all the problems in my life.


Quit the weed. Now. I don't need a degree in addictive psychology to know what's going on here. I mean, look at the description you've given of your life. It sounds like something you'd see in an After-School Special. Yeah, the weed may be a symptom instead of the disease but you've got to start somewhere. At least cut down.
 
 
Mourne Kransky
07:28 / 14.05.05
I want to get myself back to "doing ok" and I don't think I need to quit smoking weed to do that.

Yes, you do. That you don't think so is neither here nor there. But you will come round to seeing it yourself eventually, years down the line, like those of us responding to your plea for advice. You forget that most of us have been there, where you are now.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
07:43 / 14.05.05
Um...I've been avoiding my friends. I have one very good friend who is on vacation in another country right now, so she'll still be my friend when she gets back, but the rest of my friends are probably mad at me for avoiding them. It's not that I've been avoiding them, exactly. I haven't answered my phone at all recently, and I've been avoiding everyone.

When I was going through a really bad patch a few months ago, I did pretty much the same. I didn't avoid EVERYONE, just anyone who didn't live within walking distance of my house (and who could therefore be up for a quick pint "in ten minutes" on the occasions when I felt like I had a window when I could socialise before I started feeling shit again. Organising anything sucked- byt the time it came time for it to happen, I really wouldn't be feeling like it.

The last couple of months have seen me coming into contact again with a lot of the people I'd pretty much cut off without explanation (for which I felt horribly guilty, which really didn't help my mood any). I've been getting ready with the profuse apologies, but- get this- every last fucking one of them has been totally cool about it (even the ones who have a tendency to get pissy if they don't hear from you for a while). I don't know if this just says something about my friends (as someone's already said, if they're really mad at you, they're not really friends) but it's been great, and given me a further boost.
 
 
Seth
23:04 / 15.05.05
It's not that I've been avoiding them, exactly. I haven't answered my phone at all recently, and I've been avoiding everyone.

What does avoiding your friends do for you?
 
 
Tryphena Absent
23:32 / 15.05.05
I'm more inclined to ask if you actually like your friends? You could try getting some new ones.
 
 
astrojax69
23:45 / 15.05.05
I was doing ok despite the weed that I smoke until rather recently, and I think it's possible for me to get things back to how they were.

we, sorry to say this, but the advice on this is right. i spent quite a bit of the last year 'self-medicating' with a little weed, and social drinking or worse, and reached a point recently where i finally hit meltdown - i seemed only to have a choice between go in and take the pills and third bottle of gin i had prepared, or phone a friend.

obvious which route i took now, but i have since come to value my friends and their advice and strength even more than i ever did. and i have eschewed all drugs, dope, drink, caffeine, everything since and feel massively better. friends will understand.

i know it will be hard - i had many times before meltdown where i thought 'ok i'll give it up for a couple days and i should be ok' but patently it never worked. i never regained the equilibrium of drug use i enjoyed when it wasn't for self-medication. if that is its purpose, then you have a problem. i did.

go see your doctor, tell hir you are quitting dope and write it down in your journal. give any you have away and give away your papers/pipe/bong or at least put it in a box and put it in the back of a cupboard. really. you'll thank yourself for it soon and that is all you can ask.


other than that, how are you feeling today? i hope there are some sunny thoughts and feel free to pm me if you want more of my story. any time.
 
 
astrojax69
04:03 / 16.05.05
oops, forgot the < at end of quote. bold of me, huh?
 
 
alejandrodelloco
05:55 / 16.05.05
...You know, nobody has replied about what exactly the deal was with chili. I suspect conspiriacy.
 
 
lekvar
06:05 / 16.05.05
... those who know, don't tell.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
09:05 / 16.05.05
Oh, and on the self-medicating thing, I'd say definitely lay off the weed for a bit. Having suffered from both depression and a drink problem, I've found getting help and cutting down drastically on the booze (while incredibly difficult) has made dealing with the depression a fuck sight easier.
 
 
alejandrodelloco
21:54 / 01.06.05
I am bumping this thread because I just was more or less diagnosed with depression by my shrink after I suffered a nervous breakdown (which caused me to miss a dental appointment). I am a Junior in high school and have always been one of those GT/LD (For you brits, that's smarter than normal and more frustrated in school than normal) kids who just sort of snapped. I am tired of trying to meet the unrealistic expectations that are set for me, and just want an out. I am in a really shaky spot right now and I could use some huggles and helpses.
 
 
Shrug
22:22 / 01.06.05
Todos los huggelos en el mundo to you.
But thinking about anything in terms of highschool is counterproductive. Both the daily drudge and pressure I'm sure at times may seem intolerable, even the thought structure that somehow EVERYTHING centers on you and school may seem ineradicable but frankly mister shankly it is not and it doesnt.
Find pleasure in your school work (and your own self improvement) and you will do well anyway don't make it a points scored objective.Be wary of your own health above all other things and don't be overrash in your actions, second guess your stress and try and focus on the finite end of this particular episode in your life.
....but trust me on the sunscreen.
 
 
alejandrodelloco
00:58 / 02.06.05
Haha, yeah... That was really a small part of it all. A lot of it has to do with my family and stuff, but I somehow found myself doing some serious ass freaking out today.
 
 
fuckbaked
03:17 / 02.06.05
*huggles*
 
 
astrojax69
04:40 / 02.06.05
and more huggles!

all the above advice is good - exercise, though if you're still at school you probably do stuff and aren't a lazy slob like some of us who have a leeetle more life experience [fat lot of good it's done us!], and staying clean. can't stress enough how good 'no drugs!' [everything! including caffeine and excess sugar][unless it is prescribed...] is for a sttruggling mind. reading can be good. in the sun. something engrossing, challenging; but not brooding. don't lounge in front of the telly. get outside, garden or something. mow the lawn. pick the neighbour's chrysanthemums...

anyway, try to find stuff to laugh about ...and huggles!
 
  

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