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Long distance relationships = long term?

 
  

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ONLY NICE THINGS
22:09 / 24.05.06
Nice misreading. With some luck, I will be there for her 60th...

You can make me very happy if at the other end of that ellipsis is the phrase "next June", DM. And that she used to date your dad, but then met you, and there was some Tom Hanks stuff, and you nearly came to blows, and there was some really sad music and a montage, and then you moved to a cabin in the mountainsabove a small town, and then one day there was a train coming into the station for the first time since you'd been there, and the little kids of the village were all running alongside it, and then it stopped and SHE stepped off, and she was only stopping on her way to Washington (um, by train), but she wanted you to know that she'd wait for you, and then your dad stepped off the train too, but from a different carriage, and you embraced to the tune of "Brothers in Arms".
 
 
petunia
02:37 / 25.05.06
"What a curious hobby. Have you considered macramé?"

Funny you should mention that. It was during my first attempt to build a life-sized macramé model of the moon that I found my love for kicking realists. I loved it so much that I never finished the moon model, so I guess they ended up right about that one. Right but bruised.

"Hope there's a little Ball-ling soon."

I think Benny is hoping for a little balling soon as well!

Ahaha!

I'm so sorry.

So really sorry.

I'll be in the corner, kicking the realists.
 
 
Slate
15:39 / 25.05.06
Great... Bloody Great... I was just about to console myself into thinking there is/was no hope for myself and Suzan and I read this thread...

I am from Australia, I work all over the world and one of these places was Turkey. I meet a nice Turkish Girl 6 months ago and we click. Loudly. So 3 weeks go I am in India working my ass off and my client goes CH.11 Bankrupt(SGI aka. Silicon Graphics) and my boss says "Take 2 weeks off old boy, while we sort some shit out" AND the same day I find REALLY CHEAP flights from Mumbai to İstanbul... So I jump right on a plane 3 days later and meet my girl here and for the last 2 weeks we have been really struggling to come to a next step. Do I leave tommorrow for good or try to get back here when ever I can... The last 2 weeks here have been amazing; Göreme Fairy Chimmney's, Olympos Turkmen Tree Houses and İstanbul madness. She asked me today "When and IF I will come back to Turkey???" It is like she has conceded to never seeing me again... BUT I got invited to a friends wedding ın August who I met while I was working here for 7 months last year so there might be one last hurrah or should I bring a ring... For me it's difficult as even IF she was back in Australia sitting pretty, I would still be all over the place doing my job...
 
 
grant
15:46 / 25.05.06
But Mr. the Ball -- what did you wear?
 
 
Triplets
16:35 / 25.05.06
Sensitive Rider, go back and see her you matting numpty!
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
16:43 / 25.05.06
Congratulations, Mr and Mrs The Ball.

Well?

Photos?
 
 
Dead Megatron
17:42 / 25.05.06
You can make me very happy if at the other end of that ellipsis is the phrase "next June", DM. And that she used to date your dad, but then met you, and there was some Tom Hanks stuff, and you nearly came to blows, and there was some really sad music and a montage, and then you moved to a cabin in the mountainsabove a small town, and then one day there was a train coming into the station for the first time since you'd been there, and the little kids of the village were all running alongside it, and then it stopped and SHE stepped off, and she was only stopping on her way to Washington (um, by train), but she wanted you to know that she'd wait for you, and then your dad stepped off the train too, but from a different carriage, and you embraced to the tune of "Brothers in Arms".

Wow, tear ar reunning through my eyes...next june

It would be even better if, before the loving embrace, we challenged each other to a duel ("pistols at noon"), but change our minds at the very last moment after she step between us and we go on to a workable three-some relationship. Freudian much?

And photos are a good idea, yes.
 
 
Spaniel
19:48 / 25.05.06
Yes, photos?

You've been going on about your bloody wedding for long enough - I demand to see photos!
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
19:48 / 25.05.06
Gratters, Benny and Benny's missus. Well done.

(Haus: YKINOK, dude.)
 
 
Benny the Ball
20:33 / 25.05.06
Photo's to follow - once I actually get some back...

I was too, you know, in the moment (actually, I had to move out of my old place, and get ready for a job when I got back, so had half packed everything away, and became convinced that I didn't have my charger for my camera, but then two days after the wedding, I found it, but it's all okay because plenty of people took photos, and I'll post some soon, honest etc)
 
 
Benny the Ball
05:51 / 26.05.06
Okay, one photo for now, got sent this by a friend;



Me and Mrs The Ball
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
09:38 / 26.05.06
You got rid of the beard! There is hope for all.
 
 
grant
14:15 / 26.05.06
Today's my wedding anniversary. Tell your wife I think she's beeeautiful.

You don't have to tell her that I think you're not so bad yourself. She might get jealous.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
14:25 / 26.05.06
Benny's secret beard remains, however.

Lovely! More photos, please! Especially ones of after the ceremony, when everyone started getting shitfaced. They're always the best weddingt pix.
 
 
petunia
15:37 / 26.05.06
Awww.

You both look lovely.
Congrats again!
 
 
Jack Denfeld
15:52 / 26.05.06
I never looked at this thread before because I thought it would be like one of those old Denfeld loves this girl but it isn't going well boohoo thing, but wow. Nice. Congratulations Benny!
 
 
Ticker
18:05 / 26.05.06
YAY FOR THE BALLS' LOVE!

I met my spouse online in a weird unexpected manner. We talked, we fell, we met, we engaged, and then it must have been 8 months later he moved to join me in my Lovecraftian town then we wed. Been bliss ever since. 800+ mile distance I believe? Required airfare at any rate.

I agree with the sage advice of contact. Letting the other person know how much you are thinking of them helps a huge amount. As does sending/receiving stuff in the mail.

If your are open to it, cybering with them can help with the no sex aspect. I kept my IM logs for when I'm ancient old hag and need a cackle.
 
 
Spaniel
18:45 / 26.05.06
You both look great. Good on you, big man.
 
 
Dead Megatron
18:56 / 26.05.06
The Balls are a very pretty couple indeed* with very, very big smiles, on top of everything. Congratz



*mostly Mrs. Ball of course, but Benny is not completely un-shagable either...
 
 
haus of fraser
10:12 / 27.05.06
Congrats Benny! So where are you gonna be living? In the UK or over there? i know i owe you a mixtape- pm me and i'll know where to send it and i'll try and get it out this week.

Anyways congratulations dude i know you've been looking forward to it for a long long time.

Brilliant brilliant news, well done.
 
 
Cat Chant
11:18 / 27.05.06
Oh, hey, glad to hear it worked out for you, Benny. I thought I'd posted to this thread at the time, but it looks like I didn't. Tangent and I were long-distance (UK/Australia) for just over a year; I think it was bearable only because we decided quite quickly that we needed to be in the same place, and started working towards that straightaway.

In conclusion, yayy!
 
  

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