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Bizarre experiences: my first flogging

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The Natural Way

21:55 / 18.06.04

Or Marriage Romance

Or Psi-Remembromance.

22:04 / 18.06.04

Uh, did you know it was being filmed beforehand?

That's a pretty worrying issue to me to be honest....

STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK

22:06 / 18.06.04

Remembromance of things pissed?

23:28 / 18.06.04

marriche, why do you never refer to people as 'husband my husband'?

and meme, did you get to do them after? was the other one any fit?

23:30 / 18.06.04

Fucking hell. Memey B, m'boy, I absolutely understand the thrill of the unexpected, the wonderful seasoning fear adds to the mix - and I've even been known to indulge in consensual non-consent play - but these people crossed so many lines...

The one that chills my blood is the idea of being filmed without permission: that's a total no-no, partly because their recording could have serious legal implications (anyone remember Operation Spanner?) in the future.

These guys clearly didn't respect (or even properly discuss) limits. Stay away.

03:40 / 19.06.04

I agree with Ganesh in the above: the thrill of not knowing can really add to the whole BDSM experience. So no, I don't think you're "just quite a strange fucker." The problem is, like you note, you have to be careful. To me this means doing such things with someone (or someones) that you trust.

It's cool that you've discovered a side of yourself of which you were perhaps previously unaware. But that club sounds like an unsafe environment for further explorations...

06:06 / 19.06.04

You'll take what you'll get and you'll LIKE it, and you will say "Thank you ma'am, may I have another?".
Now lick my sneaker, you worm!

17:06 / 19.06.04

It seems difficult to decide if it really was manipulatitve and dodgy, or just scary and nasty in a good way... but i really appeciate the concern, guys- could all go a bit Dennis Cooper if sensible precautions not taken in future. "rock-climbing-without-a-harness" indeed.

And, of course - the filming thing. There was a girl walking around with a camera all night but it didn't occur to me that she'd caught my little experience till things were closing up and someone mentioned it to me, asking me if i knew about it. I also didn't really think to worry about it at the time... fuck. Must remember not to be such a stupid fucking bastard in future

Gambit: the other girl was kind of ...err, she had brown curly hair and was quite curvy and wearing a fishnet thingy (this is all starting to sound like my letter to a porn mag - "and then she finished me off with her mouth" etc).

I'm certainly very glad i let myself have this experience as it was very intense and interesting. Thanks a lot folks- for the help with trying to understand what the fuck has
happened here

The Natural Way

18:20 / 19.06.04

Barbescots rule!!!

The Natural Way

18:22 / 19.06.04

Or Davox Marriage

Ex

18:59 / 19.06.04

Filming - v. odd. Most clubs have a ban on unauthorised recording - stills and videos - and the authorised photographers are supposed to ask if you mind, and explain where that picture might turn up. You usually get a tap on the shoulder and a polite request - I've never been to a club where people filmed indiscriminately.

For future reference, and for others in similar circs, you should be able to check with staff on the night, or The Management afterwards, to see if they've got permission.

Although maybe I am overestimating; the club organisers could be big pillocks, also. Attracting hordes of pillock atendees with no ettiquette and creating a big sucky Night of the Pillock.

Ex

19:15 / 19.06.04

Sorry, meme buggerer, I didn't mean that to be read as "You're a big pillock". People who don't get informed consent for a scene, or filming a scene, are pillocks.

01:39 / 20.06.04

Maybe they just abuse the tourists.
I don't know, maybe I like the idea of a B+D club where they're not so bloody POLITE about abusing you and your pasty flesh. KNEEL BEFORE ZOD!

10:51 / 20.06.04

Maybe you do, LM. But you know the thing about a club, right, as opposed to, like, your bedroom or the inside of your head or the basement of Dennis Cooper's house? That it's not just you there?

06:44 / 22.06.04

So, given a lot of time has been spent commenting on the fuckedness of the Kate Moss-a-likes, would it be appropriate now to start telling our own funny and/or noteworthy flogging stories?

07:56 / 22.06.04

Yes. Though I don't have any, I don't think.

09:50 / 22.06.04

Well I was at a squat party the other week, and me and this guy Trita got in a weird competition with three friends at about 4 in the morning, a girls vs boys contest over who could produce the most debauched dance move. It culminated when I dropped my jumpsuit, leaving me in tight white undies and hot pink Chuck Taylors, whereupon I did a dance bent at the waist and pivoting on one hand while the ostensible - though by no means rigorously - straight Trita flogged me with his belt. After that, I appealled to the ladies to call an amicable draw, lest we proceed to public fisting before much longer.

A number of people commented that it was a highlight of their weekend, and it was certainly a highlight of mine.

09:54 / 22.06.04

? There are people outside my head?

14:44 / 22.06.04

DPC -- did you name the move?

04:04 / 23.06.04

I didn't name it myself, but a number of people have referred to it as "the white undie dance".

16:09 / 23.06.04

Outstanding.

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