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Ethan Hawke
22:54 / 21.10.03
I was just having a ridiculous argument with a friend about cologne/perfume. My position is that I prefer women who DON'T wear perfume often (and only then, very lightly), and I have never adorned my body with cologne. Skin smells good. End of story.
 
 
gingerbop
22:59 / 21.10.03
I dont mind, either way. I hate when you can taste it, when you're near someone. I rarely use my own, but at work, there's all the testers beside the till, so just now, Im a Boss Intense girl.
 
 
bitchiekittie
23:17 / 21.10.03
hell no. at work I pass by a lot of women who I want to shove down an elevator shaft for assaulting my allergies so brutally and thoughtlessly.

and as far as someone I'm potentially interested in, hell no. I like the smell of laundry, soap, nice clean skin. mmm.
 
 
Persephone
23:52 / 21.10.03
No, but so many products have smells... I had a bubble bath this morning & I smelled lurid, I was so embarassed and self-conscious. I can't think of anybody I know who wears perfume or cologne --oh okay, him. I kind of feel embarassed for him, too. I wonder if it's a class thing, like a whole my-tastes-have-been-shaped-by-IKEA and I-prefer-the-smell-of-plain-soap sort of thing...
 
 
Mazarine
23:53 / 21.10.03
My fiance's shampoo smells like drier sheets. I love him so. And while he loves me, I'm sure he'd like it better if I sniffed his head less.
 
 
Spaniel
17:18 / 21.10.06
Okay, after a ten year break I've recently come back round to liking aftershave and perfume if used in moderation. So let's ignore all that whining and moaning* above and get with the repurposing of this thread.

I've just been informed by my partner that she's planning on getting me some male-scent! for my birthday, and, not having bought or worn any in yonks I'm unsure what's on the market, and worry that I'll end up missing out on something good through ignorance.

So, has anyone got any suggestions? Note that I'm not looking for something to wear every day, and I hate that soaked in perfume pong sported by, well, far too many people. I'm interested in something subtle and unusual, that'll only get brought out on special occasions. Oh, and nothing too expensive. We not rich, these days.



*Seriously, If anyone's has got any powerful arguments against wearing aftershave, or particular aftershaves, I'm all ears.
 
 
Spaniel
17:19 / 21.10.06
By too expensive I mean over 40 quid.
 
 
Pooky Is Just My Pornstar Name
18:38 / 21.10.06
I'm a unrepentent perfume whore. I love scent. To me, it's just like another fashion accessory, adding the final touch to the ensemble. That said, the trick is not to overdue sprizting it on. You want to smell nice, both to yourself and to the world at large, not assault their senses and drown them in your perfume/cologne. It takes a light hand, just a smidgen, so that when you walk by, there's a gentle waft of perfume floating through the air, indicating your prescence, inviting others to be drawn in by the deliciousness that is you. Of course, this means that you have to pick a pleasing scent, not one that screams for attention, and one that must be compatible with your own natural body and skin chemistry.

I've just been informed by my partner that she's planning on getting me some male-scent! for my birthday, and, not having bought or worn any in yonks I'm unsure what's on the market, and worry that I'll end up missing out on something good through ignorance.

So, has anyone got any suggestions? Note that I'm not looking for something to wear every day, and I hate that soaked in perfume pong sported by, well, far too many people. I'm interested in something subtle and unusual, that'll only get brought out on special occasions. Oh, and nothing too expensive. We not rich, these days.


I suggest that you and your partner go to a dept store together and sample the wide array of colognes available. This way, you can pick out scents that suit you, and fit within your budget. Select three that you like best and inform your partner. Then let hir decide which to buy - this way you still get surprised.
 
 
Olulabelle
19:01 / 21.10.06
The art to wearing scent, so I have heard, is to spray it in the air and then walk through it.

I used to wear Issey Miyake when I could afford it but now I wear a combination of vanilla and jasmine oil.

Bobossboy, when you go to buy perfume put it on and then go away for about half an hour before you decide. Smells really change depending on the kind of skin you have and what smells lovely in the bottle might smell horrible on you after it's been on for a while. The other thing I know about buying scent is that you should only smell about four in any one go. After that your nose stops being able to distinguish between them.
 
 
Spaniel
19:22 / 21.10.06
During my ten year hiatus I did give in to Issey Miyake on a couple of occasions.

Thanks for the great advice, guys. Still really interested in any specific recommendations, although, although after Lula's skin scent comments (a little detail I'd forgotten all about), more out of curiosity than anything else.
 
 
Smoothly
22:20 / 21.10.06
I'd recommend Marc Jacobs, for what it's worth.
Also, it'd be worth finding out what friends in your real-life social circle wear, and avoiding those. Smell is a funny thing, and there's nothing more evocative. If you smell like someone else, people are going to subconsciously associate you with them. And folk can be funny about others appropriating something bound up with their identity like that.
 
 
Spaniel
22:40 / 21.10.06
Almost none of my mates wear aftershave these days.

Marc Jacobs, you say? I was wondering what his stink stinks like just this afternoon. Nice design.
 
 
Triplets
22:56 / 21.10.06
In my early 20summat life I have bought: Hugo Boss, Boss in Motion (sporty, sweet, energetic) and DKNY Be Delicious (rich, tangy-er scent which makes me smell - in my head - a lot older, if that makes any scents? (oh ho)) plus it comes in a container that looks like a space apple.

I'd say Hugo Boss, if only so you have to change your name to "Hugo Boboss".
 
 
Smoothly
23:32 / 21.10.06
It's a nice stink, boboss. Quite dry, not too sweet/fruity; not too musky/woody either. Other people (men and women) say they like it, anyway - that's the only reason I use it. It's not expensive either, I don't think.
 
 
Papess
23:33 / 21.10.06
I still have some of the Rose/Leather scent you put together for me, Pooky. I just adore it.

I think perfume is only attractive and effectivce if you have to get up real close to someone to smell it.

My son's bath soap is very yummy. It is call Petit Chevre or L'il Goat. I also really like the scent of carbolic soap.
 
 
Ganesh
00:29 / 22.10.06
Paul Smith London. I've worn that for a couple of years, at least, and am consistent in terms of shower gel, anti-perspirant and the stuff one sprays on one's bits (I decided walking through a cloud of it was ridiculous). It does seem to have worked in terms of 'brand recognition' in that one receptionist, three secretaries and two colleagues have commented favourably, asked me what I use for after-shave and (in three cases) asked me to keep using it because they like it and associate it with me.
 
 
Tuna Ghost: Pratt knot hero
04:11 / 22.10.06
I've never used scents, really, except to cover the smell of marijuana when going to work. I've thought about it. my dad has a collection that I've experimented with, but money is an issue for me.

I often have people telling me I smell good, and asking what I'm wearing. Apparently Old Spice: Cool Rush and laundry detergent mixed together make a fine smell.

As for finding scents attractive: meh. I can take it or leave it, really. I once dated someone who worked at Victoria's Secret, and since she got the stuff for free I was smelling it all day. Lotions, shampoo, soaps, freakin' hand sanitizer--it all got to be a bit much.
 
 
Spaniel
10:36 / 22.10.06
So then, we have Paul Smith and Marc Jacobs. I'm going to give both a go, but anymore with anymore?
 
 
Olulabelle
10:44 / 22.10.06
I used to work with a man who wore Jean Paul Gaultier. He smelled so nice I used to follow him around.
 
 
Spaniel
16:45 / 22.10.06
Well, that's a big yes for Gaultier, then.
 
 
Pooky Is Just My Pornstar Name
15:23 / 23.10.06
Bobossboy, when you go to buy perfume put it on and then go away for about half an hour before you decide. Smells really change depending on the kind of skin you have and what smells lovely in the bottle might smell horrible on you after it's been on for a while. The other thing I know about buying scent is that you should only smell about four in any one go. After that your nose stops being able to distinguish between them.

Good advice from Lula; if I wasn't so sick from sleeplessness and an empty stomach from my neighbor's party (see Headsick and Rage thread), I'd have said this myself. Anyhow, further to her comments, I'd like to give some additional advice. True, cologne OOB (Out Of the Bottle) will smell differently than when it's applied to your own skin. Once applied, it will merge with your own particular scent, subtly changing and mutating. That's why some perfumes/colognes smell better on others than on yourself - or vice versa. Also, bear in mind that cologne is like a story, there is a beginning, a middle, and an end. The beginning is the Top Note, the first rush of scent notes that reach our senses; the Heart Note is the middle, the other notes that ground the cologne and come into play after the first top notes have faded; and finally there is the Base or End Note, the final bits of the cologne that finish it off and linger after the top and heart notes have come and gone. Thus, a scent that starts out nice can change and become unpleasant on you as the day wears on. Alternatively, it can go the other way; a cologne that didn't start off so good can become wonderful.

As for sampling colognes, most good stores will have a small can of coffee beans. You are suppose to smell the coffee in between smelling the colognes. The coffee refreshs your nose, so to speak, and will clear it for the next scent.

Still really interested in any specific recommendations, although, although after Lula's skin scent comments (a little detail I'd forgotten all about), more out of curiosity than anything else.

Ok, I personally like Dolce and Gabbana Men; it's a very, very, very sexy scent and turns many a head. It's masculine (of course), and rugged, yet still refined. Quite nice, indeed. Davidoff's Cool Water for Men is also good. It's cool, citrusy, and refreshing. Davidoff's Good Life Men is even better, being a tad sweetish (not too much, so no worries there), citrusy, and is more refined and elegant. I second the Jean Paul Gauthier recommendation. And Victoria Secret's Very Sexy for Men is good too. I haven't smelled it myself, but I hear good things about Burberry's Burberry Brit for Men.

I still have some of the Rose/Leather scent you put together for me, Pooky. I just adore it.

Ah yes, that was a good one, wasn't it? The rose is nice, the leather is naughty. Best of both worlds there.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
15:28 / 23.10.06
Blue Stratos tastes fucking awful.
 
 
MJ-12
06:53 / 24.10.06
Scent by Marlboro.
 
 
bitchiekittie
12:30 / 24.10.06
I have fairly severe allergies and a mild chemical sensitivity, so I tend to avoid people like the plague when they're wearing a strong scent (perfume, cologne, or strongly scented hair/body products or clothing detergents). when it's especially strong, I feel as if I'm being physically assaulted, which doesn't do much for my attitude towards the person, so it's fair to say that I find people who wear it to be especially unattractive.
 
 
Spaniel
12:38 / 24.10.06
Blue Stratos tastes fucking awful.

Yeah, stick with Old Spice.

Pooky, I'll defintely be giving D&G a go. I used to wear Cool Water so your taste and mine might well chime together.
 
 
Ticker
18:32 / 24.10.06
having a tailored scent made is a great adventure I'd strongly recommend.
I spent an afternoon in my early twenties with an aromatherapist and they made me up a scent which I can duplicate by going to any store that stocks essential oils, carrier oil, and eye droppers.

It's mine, I can tweak it if I wish, and as a bonus it doesn't seem to bother people with allergies as much as commerical scents and extra great. I know what is in it.

Many people are put off by the idea of this but really it is quite simple and fun and not expensive.
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
18:42 / 24.10.06
Essential oils of lavender, rosemary and bergamot in a plant mister full of water, sprayed on me and my clothes. If its for work I chuck in a glug or two of fabric softener. If it is for meeting people I add a smidge of vanilla. (I sometimes use a blend of lavender, rose, and honey oils for sleeping in, sort of like having olfactory fleecy pyjamas.)
 
 
Smoothly
18:45 / 24.10.06
xk's is a brilliant idea. Do that. Fuck Hugo Jacobs and Paul & Gabbana; wear Boboss.
 
 
Ticker
19:11 / 24.10.06
it is a lot of fun with your partner too. Very sexy to ask what smells they like on you and to invite them to take part in designing the new stink.

though like mentioned up thread, you're best off doing a test of the scent before settling on it. I like how my experiments change over the course of a day.

Though as also mentioned upthread I have had a problem with people wearing the same scent. I found that I have an unexpected reaction to other people wearing the same deoderant as my lover. It took me a bit to realize that my switches were being flipped because I was unconsciously associating a smell with an experience.

You can use this scent impression intentionally by wearing a certain smell during intimate moments and then using it to inspire arousal later. Very common use of perfumes way back when but many people have forgotten the art of scent.

a bit thread rotty but they're making Perfume into a movie
 
 
lekvar
19:39 / 24.10.06
I don't wear cologne (though I've been playing with the idea for a while now) but I love it when a woman smells good. I can't remember where I read it or who it was by, but I read a short story a while ago wherein an old man id talking about his youth and how more women wore scents then. Later in the story the old man is described as involuntarily inhaling whenever a pretty woman walks by, reflexively wanting to appreciate all of the woman's charms, including her smell. After I read that story I found myself doing the same thing. I love it when I walk by a woman who smells good, who has a scent, it's like a little gift that she's giving to everyone.

People who bathe in scent should be shot though.
 
 
lekvar
19:44 / 24.10.06
It's really true about scents changing depending on the wearer. One of my coworkers smells great after he's done with a cigarette while others just smell like burnt leaves.
 
 
Ticker
20:03 / 24.10.06
I'm an armpit kitten, I'l admit it. I love the warm clean personal stink of my lover. I've asked for t-shirts to keep close by when the person is far away and have been known to take a secretive sniff before putting a discarded shirt into the laundry basket.

When I'm angry or upset in general I become very stinky. My entire life people have noted that my odor changes switfly from pleasant to acrid with my mood. Diet oddly enough did not have much impact even going from veg to vegan to carnivore.
I tend to make sure my deodorant is up to snuff lest in the middle of a company meeting a miasma of disapproval is exuded from my corner.

I could make my own line called 'Glower'.
 
 
Mourne Kransky
21:20 / 24.10.06
Of late, I seem to have become allergic to my favourite (Paul Smith's London) and have had to make do with Johnson's Baby Powder. I am perfectly happy with that, but... It does mean the bathroom looks like I'm snorting several wraps of coke every morning before I go to work and this displeases the tomcat who lives in there.

Plus, when I go out clubbing I attract all the paedos.
 
 
lekvar
21:53 / 24.10.06
xk, I had the same perspiration issues you describe. Do you by any chance drink a lot of coffee? I recently switched to nothing but decaf (the horror, the horror) and the acrid odor when I get agitated seems to have gone away.
 
 
ORA ORA ORA ORAAAA!!
05:24 / 25.10.06
I really like the smell of my partner's skin, hair and space in general, but not so much any of the scents she wears when she occasionally wears them. I rarely wear scents myself, either.

Tommy Girl is so strongly attached to a particular person from the past that I often think she's behind me. Which is weird.

When I moved into the last place, someone had left a bottle of Nautilus - Aqua, which I have appropriated. It's quite nice, but I don't have the smell-vocab for it.

I also have Cool Water, which I don't like at all when it's not on my skin, but is quite nice when it is.

If I could afford any amount of frankincense, I'd wear it every day. Just a little.
 
  

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