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bitchiekittie

20:48 / 04.10.03

I have this friend who's smart, funny, reliable, in incredible shape, and is otherwise a really good guy. however, he has terrible luck with women - they won't even give him a chance. and it seems that the reason is because he's short. at first I thought, this is really annoying. he's a great guy, so why can't he even get a first date?

but then I thought about it. there are certain superficial attributes that are truly incredibly insignificant, yet are things that I just wouldn't be able to overlook. and even my wisest and most forgiving friends are likely to turn someone down for something fairly small

what traits do you find completely undesirable, and could successfully turn you off of someone, for good? not anything fairly reasonable, big, or important, but rather the little details. do you think it's horribly shallow of you, and feel ashamed of yourself, or do you think it's just another acceptable matter of preference?

Tryphena Absent

20:53 / 04.10.03

Men who fuss about coasters.

Ganesh

20:55 / 04.10.03

Threats to kill oneself.

Regrettable Juvenilia

21:06 / 04.10.03

People who are scared of rollercoasters.

bitchiekittie

21:22 / 04.10.03

sandals, tie dye, dress shoes with tassles, ben affleck hair, little crap cars with giant spoilers on the back

Strange Machine Vs The Virus with Shoes

22:20 / 04.10.03

Wig wearing, unless they have been in chemo, that is the one exception.

8===>Q: alyn

22:28 / 04.10.03

Oh, god, bitchiekittie hates short guys. I'm going to kill myself.

gingerbop

00:17 / 05.10.03

I dont think threats to kill oneself can be considered minor. One went out with a fairly suicidal guy, and was on edge all the time- what if i said one thing wrong, and he topped himself? I was almost to scared to dump him for the same reason.

Long fingernails, or worse, (eugh) long toenails. Being vaner than I am/ spending longer getting ready. Talking about films a lot. Not recognising that you dont care to listen for hours on a topic you care for very little, whilst continuing to talk about it. *hangs head* Red hair- a couple with red hair just seems too wierd. Bad eyebrows. Plucked eyebrows. Any kind of smell that isnt 100% good. Saying "like" a lot, or similar pointless words, too often. A bad laugh. Yellow teeth. Waxy ears. Too much body hair. Tight jeans.

Im never gonna find anyone with a list that long. But a short guy, I think I could handle. As long as he was taller than me...

Ganesh

00:21 / 05.10.03

SMS

01:07 / 05.10.03

Women who
have a primary interest in role playing games, sci-fi, and such.
this is irrational, and I may be proven wrong.

like a type of men, and are vocal about it.
same.

don't want to have children or don't like children.
or
don't believe in the institution of marriage.
these apply even if I would otherwise have no intention of marrying the woman, having children with her, etc. I'm not sure why, exactly, unless there's a sense that it's somehow risky that I might fall in love, and know that marriage, etc. is never an option.

I actually have a couple friends with nearly all of these traits, come to think about it.

bitchiekittie

01:38 / 05.10.03

oh hush up, q. you're the perfect height for whatever it is I'll have you doing.

yeah, but ganesh, even if it's not serious, or enough to worry about, it's a major annoyance. worse than even tube socks and sandal combos!

panarchy, you know lots of people who wear wigs? do they at least share them with their friends? do you trade tips on wig care and delousing?

I too hate long or otherwise unkempt fingernails, on men or women. or funky toenails

Ganesh

01:45 / 05.10.03

yeah, but ganesh, even if it's not serious, or enough to worry about, it's a major annoyance.

True... but one can always walk away from it.

bitchiekittie

01:49 / 05.10.03

but it's a reasonable sexrepellant.

not like, I dunno, using hairspray. I can't do the nasty with a man who uses hairspray. to me, that's reasonable. the guy using hairspray, maybe not so much

Ganesh

01:50 / 05.10.03

Unless maybe they're 'trying' to kill themselves with the hairspray...

bitchiekittie

02:23 / 05.10.03

it's possible. so far I have no way to prove my theory that hairspray kills brain cells, because none of those mall fucks will sit down with me and take my flash card tests

Ganesh

02:24 / 05.10.03

You're just gonna have to go with the postmortem biopsy plan, then.

bitchiekittie

02:29 / 05.10.03

I long for days past where you could easily find someone to dig folks up for you, fresh n unembalmed, baby!

wait, did they have hairspray back then?

8===>Q: alyn

02:59 / 05.10.03

In a sense. They had a specialized charwoman who would swish up glue, grain spirits, and water in her mouth and spit on your head. Actually, I come from a long line of them, and it was a dark period in my family history when aerosol cans were invented. We menfolk then shouldered the burden of feeding hungry mouths by producing hair gel in copious amounts. I won't bore you with the details, but I'm a millionaire today.

Thjatsi

03:06 / 05.10.03

I don't like large breasts, they're scary and ugly looking. It's a complete mystery to me why other men are so attracted to them.

bio k9

03:49 / 05.10.03

You are gay.

bio k9

03:56 / 05.10.03

For Qalyn:

Whisky Priestess

09:29 / 05.10.03

Oh, SMatthewStolte, we shall never be married ...

Anyone shorter than me is simply impossible. Just can't be done. I like my men to be at least six foot, but I am sometimes prepared to make exceptions.

Gay guys. I often like them loads, but fortunately I never fancy them, even when I don't know they're gay. I think I have hetdar.

Men who are too good-looking. It's just unnerving.

Spaniel

14:32 / 05.10.03

As a short guy myself, I have to say that it's never impeded my moderate success with the ladies. Admittedly, I'm not overshort, and at around 5'8''/9'' (?) I do tend to be taller than most girls, but I sure as shit ain't tall.

As for my pet-hates: overt vanity, can't stand it. You know, all that I'm afraid to move my face in case of wrinkles, must constantly check myself out in the mirror bollocks.

That said, I do like a woman with a stoney visage.

Oh yes, and false stupidity. Drives me up the wall.

Papess

14:43 / 05.10.03

- I cannot tolerate a date with someone who cannot eat spagetti correctly. NEVER use a knife!

- Or someone who has to talk to the entire restaurant when they are addressing me, and I am right beside them.

- Someone who tells you their problems and any solution you come up with, there is always another problem with...it never ends.

- The annoying behavior of letting you make decisions and agreeing to them, then complaining it is not what they wanted afterward.

Hmm...not sure if those last two are petty on my part. Those type of things are irritating to just about anyone, I think.

Uhm...Thjatsi...you are scared of large breasts?
Well, welcome to my nightmare.....*shimmmies*

Spaniel

15:07 / 05.10.03

I don't like large breasts, they're scary and ugly looking. It's a complete mystery to me why other men are so attracted to them.

Whilst not finding them particularly attractive - and preferring the smaller variety, I have nothing against them, although I am always suspicious of the large breast lover - something to do with wanting mummy's big tit shoved in their baby faces.

The Falcon

15:23 / 05.10.03

I like big breasts. I thought this was some atavistic mating instinct.

Also like false stupidity, 'cos it can be used to puncture the yolk of idiots, without their knowing. But consistent pretence of thickness can get irritating if it can't be switched off.

You know what I really don't like? People who use the diminution of all their acquaintances names. Like the cast of Friends.

The Falcon

15:24 / 05.10.03

I'll just pre-empt anyone trying the obvious here:

Why not, Dunc?

Spaniel

15:36 / 05.10.03

Also like false stupidity, 'cos it can be used to puncture the yolk of idiots, without their knowing.

Not entirely untrue, 'though in my experience it tends to cut short/limit conversation and lead me worry that they believe dumbness to be a virtue - a far common English affliction.

Dunc, are you sure you just haven't got over the milky goodness

Papess

15:43 / 05.10.03

Well, I am not particularly fussy about the size of a woman's breasts. Does not matter to me.

Now, a man's penis....

Thjatsi

15:55 / 05.10.03

Uhm...Thjatsi...you are scared of large breasts?

Well...so what if I am?!?

Solitaire Rose as Tom Servo

16:22 / 05.10.03

-Having no dreams...no ambition, nothing they want to do with themselves.

-Lack of a sense of humor.

-Inability to appreciate anything new.

-A desire to change me in ways I am not changing.

And, because I am at heart a Groucho Marxist, anyone who thinks more highly of me than I do.

I didn't say any fo these were sane, now did I?

Papess

16:32 / 05.10.03

Using the words.."..aww, come on!" in any type of foreplay situation.

I cannot stand it when people say "Anyways". It is "Anyway", and only "anyway". Think about it...it is just so wrong.

Mourne Kransky

20:24 / 05.10.03

or anyhoo. Grrrrrr, teeth on edge.

I am scared of large breasts too. I was traumatised in youth by a Woody Allen film.

Never fall in love with a man who dances like a monkey. I have twice been in relationships with fine, upstanding men whose styles of dancing were their major flaws. Pleased to have moved on to Ganesh rather than Hanuman, Lord of the Hopping, Prancing, Fucking Stupid Dance.

spidermonkey

20:27 / 05.10.03

I have a fear of dents in chins. Don't know why, and it's a bit of a shame as I have met many lovely, attractive, genuine people with only that small fault.

gingerbop

21:20 / 05.10.03

Hmmm. I have a vaguely dented chin, and it really pisses me off.

Tricks-Gay guys. I often like them loads, but fortunately I never fancy them, even when I don't know they're gay. I think I have hetdar.
Consider yourself fortunate, my dear. I appear to have the opposite of this, and it is not good.

In the breasts debate, im a bit 1/2 and 1/2. I like large breasts when clothed, but naked big boobies are pretty ugly. Little boobies are always quite nice. And meduim boobies are all-round pleasant. About a C-cup being my favourite.

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