First and foremost, I want to find the least destructive way of dealing with (something I see as) a problem with various of InnerCircle's threads, stemming primarily from his 'Knocking on Heaven's Door' thread, in the Conversation.
Put simply, I have a problem with the puerile reversal of Xoc's name - 'Cox' - and the more slyly homophobic 'ginger boy' aimed at myself. And it is homophobic: I don't accept that he was referring to 'health-giving' plants, red beards or anything else. Not plausible. We both know 'ginger = ginger beer = queer', we both know I don't like it, we both know I want him to stop it. Barbelith's always been somewhere I've felt insulated from this sort of casual slur; it pisses me off to see it used here, and I want the whole thing to be over.
So what I'm proposing, InnerCircle, is this:
1) You go back and modify those posts which refer to 'Cox' or 'ginger'. Click on 'moderate post' on the left there, beneath your name, and change or delete those parts.
2) I'll go back and modify or delete those posts of mine which refer to the incident. I know several other posters who'll willingly follow suit.
3) When we're both done, I'll delete this thread and stop hassling you about it.
4) We'll all be happy, happy little bunnies.
I'll even say please.
Please.
Sound fair? |