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Exclusion/Inclusion

 
 
GRIM
12:04 / 18.12.01
Spreading from the dyke's genderspace thread...

OK, thats doing my head in, where do transgender's fit in (from either direction) in feminisist/masculinist (?) issues and in homosexuality issues anyway?

Moving on from that IS gender-exclusive space an acceptable thing any more?

Feminism has torn down a lot of the old male-only bastions (Good and bad thing, mixed) but rather than learn from the mens mistakes there seem to be a lot of exclusive women only things turning up.

Women only gyms, women only car insurance, women only club nights and so on.

Excluding women seems to be unacceptable, but excluding men appears to be fine. Same as sexist adverts depicting men in a negative light are laughed off and ignored, sexist adverts depicting women more often then not get their complaints treated seriously.

What boundries are acceptable?
What about dress codes?

There's a rock night locally and the various assorted 'normals' often come in to gawk and start a fight, should they be excluded?

What about non-tuxedo wearers from posh parties?

Non fetishists from fetish pubs?

What exclusions are acceptable, what segregrations are OK, and why?
Some of these things are grounds for legal action, does 'Laddism' prevent men from taking the insurers to court for example?

Do transexuals get cheaper car insurance?

my head hurts.
 
 
Ganesh
12:11 / 18.12.01
Too many questions to try to answer all at once, Grim, but I'd take issue again with the suggestions that discriminating against women is considered "unacceptable". Of the examples you give, I know of equivalent male-only gyms and clubs, and the women-only insurance reflects the generally lower accident rate within that half of the population (in the same way as over-25 car insurance being cheaper isn't necessarily, uh, youngist. 'Youngist'?!)

And that's before we get onto salaries and rates of pay...
 
 
Haus about we all give each other a big lovely huggle?
12:15 / 18.12.01
Or, for that matter, life insurance for smokers being more expensive. That's just about statistical probability. Unless actuaries are actuary a sect of the Lesbian Avengers.
 
 
GRIM
12:16 / 18.12.01
I've not seen any men only gyms, but that could be a regional/local thing.
(That and I have an aversion to such things, all those people trotting away like human hamsters - I find it very eerie and unsettling).

Exclusion on the grounds that it makes logical sense has been overturned before. Memory may be failing but I think I recall a 'fattist' issue to do with seating coming down in the overly-large persons side even though they did fully occupy two seats.

I may be misremembering, it may have been the other way.

I'm just interested in the general point.
What 'discrimination' is acceptable, and what isn't?

Where does the law stand on these other things besides gender, and how dos it apply to the transgender issues?
 
 
Haus about we all give each other a big lovely huggle?
12:59 / 18.12.01
I'm afraid I'm finding your questioning difficult to follow. Is it what exclusionary tactics ouside transgender exclusion are acceptable, and why, or is it what exclusionary tactics outside gender as a whole are allowable?

On your airplaine seats point, I would suggest that neither this or the example of insurers is based on "logical sense". The case of the fat person being charged for two seats or otherwise is a debate over how the remit if the airline should be interpreted. Is it to charge a certain amount for the freight by air in a pressurised, artificially heated cabin of a certain weight/size, which happens generally to coincide with the weight/size of a human being, and thus charges double for double that allowance, and would be failign to do its job if it did not? Or is it to transport human beings by air, and within that remit to make provision for each human being to be as comfortable as possible, thus providing two seats for a larger-fit human being, and failing in its job if it does not. The question is which of these two *interpretations* is correct. Logic doesn't come into it.

Likewise, women-only insurance companies work on the statistical probability that women will not be as likely individually to have accidents, and thus will not be as likely collectively to claim for as much in insurance payouts. Therefore, as less money will go out of the business in claims, less money is required to go into the business to support it. Hence lower charges, to make a more competitive offer. That's statistics and economics, not logic.
 
 
Shortfatdyke
14:11 / 18.12.01
grim: in an equal world, gender exclusive space may not be needed. we are not living in an equal world, though. if women could go to mixed, straight bars and not get hassle, there wouldn't be a demand for women only bars. i get hit on just about every time i walk into a straight bar, which i find wierd because i'm very obviously a lesbian. refusal can lead to trouble.

there are laws against racism, both in the street and in the workplace. however, my union has a black members' group. because unfortunately it is absolutely necessary.
 
 
We're The Great Old Ones Now
14:44 / 18.12.01
It's an odd but inevitable aspect of ideas of exclusive space that the only people who care that they're excluded from a space are those who try hardest to behave appropriately with those allowed in.
 
 
Haus about we all give each other a big lovely huggle?
15:03 / 18.12.01
I recall a pissed-up bloke at the Hobgoblin last time we met there who cracked onto every female Barbeloid pretty much in turn. Despite regular warning off? Until, in the end, the codes of communication broke down under the pressure of his insensitivity. Of course, he was pissed, but again the system is structured in such a way that it is OK for men to harrass women and then claim in their defence that they were pissed.

So, would it be discriminatory if a bar, having sounded out its customers or come under new management, decided that, as an establishment relying on the patronage of people who give money for drinks, the short-term profit of taking a drunk's money might be offset by the reluctance of other patrons who spend less individually but more collectively to share space with a puking, yelling, lairy person/persons?

One could argue that a space which excludes men is not giving men a chance to demonstrate that they can go to a public house and not harrass women. Except, of course, that they can in fact do that in almost any pub in the country. And there is nothing to stop a barman enforcing a strict no lairy blokes rule, and ejecting any man who tries to hit on a woman. In effect, this is how the Candy Bar works - there is no way to prove absolutely that an accompanied man *is* gay, but the rules of the bar require him not to behave in an obviously heterosexual fashion - coming onto the female patrons, getting off with one of the women he is with and so forth - in order to preserve one space where heterosexuality is not the default and assumed condition.

The fact that relatively few officially single-sex bars exist (not so sure about the statistics for single-sex gyms) suggests that the market can support only a finite number of such spaces. But if the market *does* support them, is it discriminatory to offer the service, or just good market economics?

Nick: sometimes true, but not surely necessarily the case.
 
 
Cat Chant
05:51 / 19.12.01
quote:Originally posted by Nick:
It's an odd but inevitable aspect of ideas of exclusive space that the only people who care that they're excluded from a space are those who try hardest to behave appropriately with those allowed in.


Really? Cos I remember the Men's Rights (These Feminists Have Gone Too Far TM) Movement in the UK insisting on having men-only swimming sessions at a local pool to even the balance with those crazy feminazis being able to swim w/o men present. (No-one showed up to the men-only ones, btw.)
 
 
Haus about we all give each other a big lovely huggle?
07:22 / 19.12.01
Bloody feminist lesbians all over the place. It was in opposition to this kind of hostile takeover of our precious and threatened male space that saw those heroic men of the last several thousand years set up all-male judiciaries, all-male parliaments, all-male cabinets, all-male property-holding classes, all-male boardrooms and, of course, all-male golf clubs.

To erode those hard-won freedoms would just be political correctness gone mad.
 
 
We're The Great Old Ones Now
07:22 / 19.12.01
Deva - don't see how that's incompatible with what I said. I've always thought that "Men's Rights" was a pretty obvious reaction by a bunch of over-precious intellectual males to being told they were responsible collectively and individually for all male-over-female oppression by a bunch of newly-minted feminist revolutionaries. At least, that's how it always came up when I was around:

Trendinista: You are male. Therefore you rape and abuse.

Trendinisto: Not personally, I don't.

Tredinista: I'm afraid that's irrelevant. You are culpable for the actions of your gender as a group.

Trendinsto: That's not fair! In so far as it's possible for a man, I'm a feminist.

Trendinista: Nonsense, evil Western middle class male. You are content to rest on the pillowing laurels of thousands of years of patriarchal conquest!

Trendinisto: I've just about had it with this. I won't be forced into an oppressor-role by your over-blown radical feminism!

Trendinista: Hah! See?

And the result was the formation of a local and short-lived Men's Lib group on the pattern of the 'No More Sex War' bible. The thing was, it could only happen to someone who gave a monkey's about the issue in the first place. Otherwise, it played out like this:

Trendinista: You are male. Therefore you rape and abuse.

Rugby-Playing Land Economist: Wassa'? Sod off.

Tredinista: I'm afraid that's irrelevant. You are culpable for the actions of your gender as a group.

Rugby-Playing Land Economomist: Booollllocks! Where's the beer and tarts?
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
10:24 / 19.12.01
But Nick, surely someone who *really* gave a monkey's about the issue, enough to take the trouble to try to understand it, would:

a) be able accept their complicity and culpablity in the actions of their gender as a group,

b) be able to see that the creation of safe or exclusive spaces for women takes priority over their poor ickle hurt feelings at being "forced into an oppressor-role",

c) be able to see 'Men's Lib' as the ill-informed and reactionary nonsense it is, and thus not touch it with a bargepole.

That's before we even get into the degree of realism of these supposedly typical dialogues you cite - yes, I'm sure all feminist women respond to sympathy from nice feminist men by saying "Nonsense, evil Western middle class male. You are content to rest on the pillowing laurels of thousands of years of patriarchal conquest!"

Or rather, since you don't actually claim that, it should probably be pointed out that the Trendinista isn't doing a very good job of explaining to the Trendinisto where his misconceptions lie...

Or on a less conciliatory note (third edit): even though your feminista is an incredibly obvious straw woman, your Trendinisto comes across as less of a wronged, well-meaning everyliberal than I suspect you intend him.

[ 19-12-2001: Message edited by: Flyboy ]
 
 
Shortfatdyke
10:33 / 19.12.01
i am not a racist, in fact have nearly got my arse kicked by nazi skinheads but totally understand and respect the need for people of colour spaces.
 
 
We're The Great Old Ones Now
12:41 / 19.12.01
Flyboy...do you read my posts or just sniff the screen for the scent of wickedness when you see my name?

I know Men's Lib is a load of hooey. That was sort of my point. And amazing though it may seem to you, I did not intend anyone to imagine those were real conversations. Although reading them again, they're actually not far off the sort of thing I used to hear in King's bar.

And as for this:

quote:even though your feminista is an incredibly obvious straw woman, your Trendinisto comes across as less of a wronged, well-meaning everyliberal than I suspect you intend him.Well-meaning everyliberal? He's 'over-precious', remember? And I refered to both of them as 'trendinista / trendinisto' to indicate gently that I don't have a lot of sympathy for either of them. They're caricatures. I probably should have made him more whingey, but I was in haste.

Interesting that you either misread or misrepresented her tag as 'feminista'. Now, if I'd written that, I might be inclined to back down a little. But I didn't, did I? The implication is that they're both too trendy for their own good. She's 'newly-minted'. Have you never met someone who's just had their first encounter with feminist literature and decided that she's going to be the next Mary Wolstonecraft? My mother - who fought some rather practical battles with her family (who wouldn't send her to university 'cos she was a girl) and her bosses (who didn't think she could do the jobs she wanted - she could and did) - used to get an itchy look when they started telling her she didn't understand the nature of women's oppression.

quote:I'm sure all feminist women respond to sympathy from nice feminist men by saying "Nonsense, evil Western middle class male..."It doesn't require all feminists to respond to 'nice feminist men' (shurely shome mishtake?) in this way for the reaction I'm talking about to occurr. It just needs a couple. And yeah, she's doing a lousy job at explaining where his misconceptions lie, and he's doing an even worse one of articulating his objections. Guess what? It happens.

So please, spare me the rolling-eye smileys.

[ 19-12-2001: Message edited by: Nick ]
 
 
Haus about we all give each other a big lovely huggle?
12:52 / 19.12.01
I'm going to write Nick/Flyboy slash, I swear...
 
 
We're The Great Old Ones Now
13:20 / 19.12.01
Ew.
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
15:21 / 19.12.01
And thrice ew.

I've scrapped my original version of this post because it drags the thread hideously further off-topic. (I concede 'feminista' was my slip though.) Let's get back to the point you originally made, Nick:

quote:It's an odd but inevitable aspect of ideas of exclusive space that the only people who care that they're excluded from a space are those who try hardest to behave appropriately with those allowed in.

Deva then responded with:

quote:Really? Cos I remember the Men's Rights (These Feminists Have Gone Too Far TM) Movement in the UK insisting on having men-only swimming sessions at a local pool to even the balance with those crazy feminazis being able to swim w/o men present.

Your response to this is to then adopt the rather curious tactic of claiming that the originators of 'Men's Rights' movement are the same people you mentioned above. Call them what you will: Trendenistoes, "over-precious intellectual males", they are still characterised by you as men who "give a monkey's about the issue", who claim to be feminists themselves, and who presumably "try hardest to behave appropriately with those allowed in".

And it strikes me that this is just patently untrue. The kind of people who start 'Men's Rights' groups are not misguided but slightly defensive "intellectuals" (have another rolley-eyed smiley for subjecting that word to further abuse), they're the kind of deluded, paranoid, none-too-bright reactionaries who think that the country is being run by feminzai lesbian Guardian-readers and that their right to breed or even exist may be snatched from them at any moment.

[ 19-12-2001: Message edited by: Flyboy ]
 
 
Ganesh
20:01 / 19.12.01
quote:Originally posted by The Haus of a sudden chill:
I'm going to write Nick/Flyboy slash, I swear...


Ewww! Too much sublimation!
 
 
We're The Great Old Ones Now
22:29 / 19.12.01
quote:The kind of people who start 'Men's Rights' groups are not misguided but slightly defensive "intellectuals" ... they're the kind of deluded, paranoid, none-too-bright reactionaries who think that the country is being run by feminzai lesbian Guardian-readers and that their right to breed or even exist may be snatched from them at any moment.[shrug]

Our experience differs. Perhaps it's generational - you're what, five years younger than I am? But when I was around it, they were just men who were completely unprepared, both emotionally and theoretically, for being told they shared a commonality of blame with those who actually, personally engaged in (for example) wife beating.

The reactionaries you're talking about wouldn't have been caught dead in anything so overtly sissy (homophobia went hand in hand with that kind of attitude) as a 'Men's Lib' group. For God's sake, you might as well be wearing a dress...

I don't know - if the men I'm thinking of were like me, they absorbed what you might call the practical side of it through the pores. It just never crossed my mind that women were anything other than equal but different. But the tacit feminism I knew before I went to university was very different from what I found when I got there - people who asserted that you couldn't be a feminist and marry; or even, be a feminist if you were straight...who knows what all other permutations and factions.

So these guys would turn up in October and want to be helpful - 'get involved'. And they'd be met (not always, but sometimes) by such golden moments as the then-notorious section in the CUSU Handbook entitled 'What Men Can Do To Help About Rape:' which contained only the words 'stop raping women'.

I learned to be a thick-skinned debator round about then.

But several people I knew did get into men's groups on the basis of discussions like that. You could say they wanted to express a masculinity which could be a positive partner to women, but which they felt was being drowned under a deluge of anger. Or you could say they wanted feminism on male terms, didn't want to take on board any responsibility for the way the world was, and whined their way through a couple of terms before the group collapsed under the weight of its own pathetic self-regard.

The thing is, though, that only someone who cared enough to seek out the discussion was going to get it between the eyes. Anyone who wasn't interested would cruise right on by, probably never even know it was there.
 
 
Capulet5000
14:56 / 09.03.04
I dont know much about this or the history of feminism, the sufragets and all that stuff so here's my simple opinion and you can take or leave it.
You both have good points, both the people for and against feminism and stuff. Both sexes should treat each other with the same amount of respect but also have to understand the highly important physical, mental, emotional and so on differences between them and these shouldn't be overlooked in the search for ultimate political correctness. Men's golf courses and women's swimming lessons should be kept because men and women dont always want to be together and you cant force them.
Theres my stupid and imature thoughts. I didnt want to put them there and i only stumbled on this topic whilst doing homework but I hoped it might shut up all your whining.
P.S. Lesbians rock.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
15:15 / 09.03.04
Men's golf courses and women's swimming lessons should be kept because men and women dont always want to be together and you cant force them.

But, my tiny chum, genders can choose not to associate all over the shop. Your examples are instances where one group has decided unilaterally to affect the other group's freedom to be together or not. So, looks like the whining must continue.

All very rum. Can we read the essay, Capulet500?
 
 
Nobody's girl
15:32 / 09.03.04
I think "women only" space is just as counter productive as "men only" space.

From my personal experience there's an implication in the formation of "women only" space which I find quite unsettling. It seems that the implication is that women need to be protected from men in some aspect. I find myself resenting that implication. I find organic women only spaces such as all of the employment I have had in the social care sector (I have rarely found men in low paid care jobs) pretty stressful.
 
 
archon666
19:09 / 09.03.04
..the whole concept of 'gender' has become as antiquated as applying newtonian physics towards cell phone signal transmissions:

as far as inclusion versus exclusion: as long as the basic tool of divide and conquer remains a prevalent and for those in the 'know' a beneficial tool: then there will always exist the inquistional minds that wants to ride higher than the herds they are steering and whipping towards the inevitable slaughterhouses of mind control and mind manipulations....

even the s0-called feminist movement has become one stagnant monolith living off the dead carcass and never truly bringing forth a sense of dynamicism that truly allows any and all women to find a sense of inner strength within themselves:

this applies to any 'movement' that seeks to free any particular group of oppressed group: the movement freezes and becomes lost within the tar pits of fundamentalism that seems all too aroused to embrace the repetition battle cries again and again instead of shedding the dead skins and become rebirthed as a deeply expressive force for change.

the current s0-called exclusive practises have been around long enough for an inspired to step from academic postulings and realise these practises are rooted within a deeply rooted and ongoing history reflecting as always a scenario where fear of the masses' uprising and becoming united beyond petty differences would overturn a system entirely based upon the mere values that as long as the 'i' gets more than the 'we' then so carry out any and every practise known under the dark suns....

and if you would like to dissect this thought further or not -- i would strongly ask about considering the exclusionary/inclusionary practises of organised religion which stresses a 'pure saved heart...' and refuses to embrace the even simple tenement that even the common prostitute as a heart of gold which seems to go against the preachings and lessons of christ in the new testament of the bible.....

look at the roots of such practises instead of pin-pointing the stem as the root.
 
 
Ex
15:29 / 10.03.04
this applies to any 'movement' that seeks to free any particular group of oppressed group: the movement freezes and becomes lost within the tar pits of fundamentalism that seems all too aroused to embrace the repetition battle cries again and again instead of shedding the dead skins and become rebirthed as a deeply expressive force for change.

So you wouldn't say the shifts between different models of feminism (I posted it, I'm going to bloody use it), and the evolution of organisations like GenderPAC - a non-identity based activist organisation - is becoming "rebirthed"?

I have problems with identity politics, but I think you're being a bit dismissive in calling feminism "one stagnant monolith living off the dead carcass". It's a multifarious ongoing source of activism, some areas of which have moved out of identity politics.

rooted within a deeply rooted and ongoing history reflecting as always a scenario where fear of the masses' uprising and becoming united beyond petty differences

I'm not sure if I'm reading you correctly - are you suggesting that organisations such as feminism promote divisiveness which will hamper the masses uniting (against a value system based on greed)? Because that was pretty much the argument that left wing politics kicked up against second wave feminism in the late 1960s: "You're splitting the Movement". The response then being [roughly]: Misogyny is splitting the Movement, and we have to deal with it or we won't be able to work together. (And if sexism won't exist after the revolution, why do we have to keep performing the domestic, secretarial and sexual servicing roles until then?)
Would it not make more sense to see sexism and racism as very effective ways of dividing the masses and keeping them from concentrating on a useful overhaul of society? And see that sexism needs to be tackled as we simultaneously attempt to rework a flawed and greedy value system.

I'm afraid I rather lost you on the religious point.
 
 
Ex
15:38 / 10.03.04
(And I know that didn't really address exclusion and safe space; I was mainly responding to archon666. But the rest of the thread is very interesting.)
 
 
Tryphena Absent
18:16 / 10.03.04
It seems that the implication is that women need to be protected from men in some aspect

I think that to an extent the discussion here centred and continues to centre around a particular aspect of the feminist movement that really began in the '70s and continued with strength for about ten years.

In order to gain equality in a western society that was patriachal and continues to be to an extent (women still hit the glass ceiling) women had to take an extreme approach. The notion that heterosexual intercourse was rape had to be spoken out loud, the power structure was such that it was rape because women hadn't the power that men had. More to the point men couldn't be involved in that realisation because they would then have been able to retain that power to an unacceptable extent. We're not talking about now, we're talking about different times, in the 60s women didn't wear trousers as a matter of course and the feminist movement gave them that power and a whole host of others that most women don't even think twice about now.

This all seems rather obvious but my point is that even while women, as a group may not need protection now they did because their rights, often their in theory weren't so evident in the everyday dealings of the culture. Who wants their opportunities restricted to secretarial work unless they're surprisingly brilliant. Where was the award for the woman who helped create DNA theory? Why did feminists reject politics to get a woman in to power, why did they feel the need? Because women lacked power that by all rights each person should have. I say: thank god they said rape, thank god their stance was strong because I like what I have as a result.

So women-only space may or may not currently be needed but we should not resent its creation.

..the whole concept of 'gender' has become as antiquated as applying newtonian physics towards cell phone signal transmissions

I might accept this when human reproduction reaches the point where men have babies or they're all grown in tubes, until that day gender will continue to mean something.
 
 
diz
18:25 / 10.03.04
And it strikes me that this is just patently untrue. The kind of people who start 'Men's Rights' groups are not misguided but slightly defensive "intellectuals" (have another rolley-eyed smiley for subjecting that word to further abuse), they're the kind of deluded, paranoid, none-too-bright reactionaries who think that the country is being run by feminzai lesbian Guardian-readers and that their right to breed or even exist may be snatched from them at any moment.

i'm with Flyboy on this. though i'm definitely familiar with the type of person Nick is referring to, in my experience they're nowhere near the majority of Men's Rights folk.
 
 
Capulet5000
19:39 / 10.03.04
I knew I'd get complained at for writing anything but god damn it I'm gonna do it again.
You all complain so much but have you ever really, personally been a victim of gender discrimination? And does anybody really care that women have their own swimming sessions when there's other, perfectly fine lessons in half an hour anyway?

P.S. Being hit on by a guy doesnt count as gender discrimination.

P.P.S. I am so gonna get killed for this.
 
 
Ex
18:06 / 11.03.04
You haven't been "complained at" and you won't be "killed". Your post has been discussed. You new post will be discussed.
If you're worried about adverse responses, try phrasing your posts in a non-confrontational manner. There are examples of this kind of phrasing all over the board.
 
 
Cat Chant
14:59 / 12.03.04
Mod hat:

You all complain so much

(1) Please avoid the phrase "You all": not all posters on this thread have similar views, tones of voice, or political positions.

(2) Can you please give an example of someone complaining about something? Generalities like this are difficult to respond to, except with a series of posts saying "No, we don't", which isn't much fun.
 
 
penitentvandal
16:09 / 12.03.04
Perhaps we should get all RAW about this Nick/Flyboy argument, and agree the following:

Some, but not all men's movement types appear to self-identify as feminist males who have been unfairly treated by the women's movement and find this hurtful

and

some, but not all men's movement types appear to self-identify as 'common-sense' individuals fighting a world in which a process designated 'political correctness' has exceeded its acceptable parameters of action.

One, neither, or both of these groups may appear to observers, depending on their own self-identification and value system, as pathetic wimps, dangerous Nazi shitheads, or heroic defenders of the embatlled male. Or, like me, they may just appear to be as boring as the extreme feminists they contend are their enemies, in which case you will probably opt to leave them to their encounter groups and go off down the pub.

My ideas about exclusion? Like RAW's system, it should be based on the behaviour of individuals in space-time. I.e., if a bloke goes to a pub, hits on all the women and generally behaves at some point in time and in a particular space in the manner of a complete twat, he should be excluded from occupying that space at any future point in time, possibly with extreme prejudice. I don't see myself as a sexist, a racist, a misogynist, a misantrist, or anything of that nature: I'm a twattist. If you act like a twat, I will discriminate against you. And yes, I know 'twat' is a prime example of sexual discrimination deeply-ingrained in the language, which is why I try to alternate between using it and 'prick' to describe a particular type of individual, depending on what day it is. Today is a twat day. Okay?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
23:31 / 12.03.04
My ideas about exclusion? Like RAW's system, it should be based on the behaviour of individuals in space-time. I.e., if a bloke goes to a pub, hits on all the women and generally behaves at some point in time and in a particular space in the manner of a complete twat, he should be excluded from occupying that space at any future point in time, possibly with extreme prejudice

I first read this as a suggestion that we should look at this from the point of view of WWE RAW, and see if Triple H could reasonably be excluded from a face bar face bar face bar.

But anyway. The question then is whether one can extrapolate from that and say "this is not a judgement on you as a person, here as a space or now as a time, but we would like to create a space that does not involve you, because *regardless of your behaviour* your presence would be in itself disruptive to how we want to act"?

Which is an awkward one. In a sense, it certainly *is* exclusive, by definition, but is it justified? For example, journalists might be excluded from a particular event, regardless of their intentions, in order to create a space where everybody could behave without fear of their actions being recorded. Rudegirls in London creates a space where, regardless of who they are, men are not invited, in order that the participants can create a specific space which, although public, is also exclusive, and allows women to interact in a specific way. The Savage club does not allow women in as guests outside certain clearly defined times, because they want to be able to interact in a purely male space.

To the modern metropolitan, the Savages might make less sense, because we do not stratify our interrelations along gender roles - we hang out with men and women, largely unchaperoned and primarily without discrimination of action. But should we own that by the same token the women of RudeGirls should suck it up and abandon their prohibition because if men should want to participate at such an event they have every right to, or is the demand to attend a space created for women to interact in a space predicated on the absence of men an act of intrinsic twattery?

Or, to put it another way, it's a bit more complicated than that...

I'm thinking of cult religions as an example - the thesmophoria or bona dea were spaces designed specifically for women, and the cultural impact of having men present in that space was not apparently enough to justify the presence of men, even in societies that might be identified as far more boycentric than our own. Was that a sop, a tool of general subjection or an acknowledgement that some women's spaces are useful and the advantages of opening them up were outweighed by the problems (to cite Capulet500, who appears to be living in fear of armed bands of radical feminists roaming Milton Keynes, what is the profit in demanding access to a previously women-only gym session if there is another gym session in half an hour and a de facto male-oriented gym down the road)?
 
  
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