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Do I have to sacrifice my dress sense to be kinky?

We're The Great Old Ones Now

14:20 / 01.11.01

Blame Flyboy.

In my case, it's a little moot. I have no dress sense.

14:24 / 01.11.01

you're already kinky, anyway. i mean, you wear leather trousers, and we all know that that means you like to tie one arm up and keep a long bony weapon inside your shirt...

15:04 / 01.11.01

why are all the GOOD perverts so far away??

We're The Great Old Ones Now

15:32 / 01.11.01

She travels a lot, you know.

Mordant Carnival

16:42 / 01.11.01

I'm a baaaaaaad pervert.

16:58 / 01.11.01

all the better

20:02 / 01.11.01

my friend's girlfriend is preoccupied with drawing pictures of me and him fucking

is this a bad sign?

09:18 / 02.11.01

...depends how good she draws...

09:18 / 02.11.01

quote:Meme Buggerer said:
my friend's girlfriend is preoccupied with drawing pictures of me and him fucking

is this a bad sign?

No, a good sign..but ask her if she wouldn't prefer using bodypaint

..(Considering)Actually a flip-book would be a cool souvenir...wow, I think I have a theme for a photoproject..erotic coffee table flip book....

10:08 / 02.11.01

which brings to mind liquid latex

(cold shower time)

11:09 / 02.11.01

I'm sure there's a song in this somewhere.

I've got groooovy dress sense. In my headspace, at least. As for whether or not I'm kinky... rats, I can't remember. I hope so.

Whisky Priestess

14:07 / 02.11.01

It's possible to be kinky in or out of any clothes, as I'm sure we all know. If, however, you wish to signal your kinkiness to others via your clothes - it depends entirely on how good you look in them. The fat Goth look is always a no-no, but a fine creature in leather (rubber, fishnet, feathers etc) will always get most people's vote.

Regrettable Juvenilia

20:29 / 21.11.01

Any chance of moving this to the Head Shop? It might find a loving home there.

Anyway, the opposing point to Whisky's "it's fine to dress kinky as long as you're not fat" view, one might want to consider the following:

quote:Originally posted by Mordant Carnival in the Gathering:
Oh, and for all those "does my bum look big in this?" people who simply can't wear PVC- Hahahahahaaaaaa! You really must come out to the club. Seeing all those varied and different body types, unashamedly tricked out in their slickest perv rags, will be good therapy for ya. Put those fat issues to bed for ever!

So what do people think? I'm kind of torn...

(In addition, does whether you're top or bottom make any difference here, do people think/find? Because presumably a top has to look scary, and therefore dress the part - whereas the bottom might just have been dragged off the street somewhere? Just guessing, I have little, er, direct experience of these things...)

20:36 / 21.11.01

quoteeople who simply can't wear PVC

Once i whent to the Icon in Tulsa Ok. this little hole in the wall Club and this old lady maybe late late 40's was wearin this PVC flapper dress lookin thingie..flabbiset tits i ever seen. but Kudo's for her since she can still be the crazy lady down the road.she was pretty sweet though she claimed to be my mommy when cufw came.. i was, i dunno 16 at the time ..hehe oops...Curfew laws suck..-.- but i am much older now.. so in your face.. uh Curfew people

Ronald Thomas Clontle

20:42 / 21.11.01

Interesting.

I'm a chubby guy, and I'm going to go along with Whiskey on this... I don't think it's at all flattering for fat guys to dress up in fetish gear, unless they happen to have a specific look in mind in which it is somehow appropriate...

to answer the question of the thread: yeah, I think that if yr going to embrace a sort of 'kinky' that is about special clothing, then of course you should be able to look good in that uniform, cos it's all about the clothes, right? There are other ways of being kinky that don't involve consumerism and clothing fetish.

Mordant Carnival

09:10 / 22.11.01

What Flux = (a random variable that will have been changed by the time I finish typing this) said.

Look. There's no European definition of kinky, laying down what you can and can't bloody wear. Wear what you like. Do what you like. Have fun.

Yes, fetish clubs like the TG have dress codes and won't let you in if you wear jeans. Boo fucking hoo. I know that you're all good and decent little pervs who'll behave yourselves impeccably, but some aren't. The clothes are a visual cue that says "here's someone who knows the limits, who won't run around randomly groping or assaulting people, who won't stand around all night going 'Fuck me! It's a bloke in a frock!' at passing transvestites." It's crude and not entirely fair, but what else are you going to do?

Mordant Carnival

09:13 / 22.11.01

Oh, and my boyf is on the large side, and I think he looks lovely in pervware.

09:48 / 22.11.01

I dunno...it depends on the man, I think. I saw an ex (who is gay, I think, despite running out and getting married/fathering a child right after I broke up with him) wearing some little pvc-ish shirt and some little pseudo-punk pants. when he was married he ballooned up to about 300 lbs (hes probably only about 5'9" or so), then apparently lost most of it. hes not nearly as skinny as he was when we dated, but is still rather a bit chunky. he flamed quite highly, but he did it looking damn good

Disco is My Class War

09:48 / 22.11.01

I know plenty of non-thin people who wear 'kinky' clothing all the time. They look fine. It's about attitude and presence, not supermodelism. Besides, often the most important kink signals are in the accessories. The placement of keys, for example. Hankies. (Does anyone in the UK do hanky codes anymore?) Collars. Wristbands. That type of thing. All the rest is just to scare people on the bus.