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Some magickal help with stupid love problem

slinkyvagabond

11:54 / 28.11.02

I'm so sorry, I'm totally new and already making idiotic requests but I'm in despair at this stage. Months ago now my ex dumped me completely out of the blue - I don't want to y'know "cast a spell" on him to get him back - all I want is a meeting between us. I don't mean "serious talk" type meeting, just a night out or something. I really want a second chance at this so a meeting would be a start. Is there anything i can do magick-wise - I've tried the normal talking route but it doesn't work. I am interested in other magickal aspects, I promise, but this is taking up all my headspace right now and I be so greatful for any advice.

illmatic

12:35 / 28.11.02

There is a another thread where someone raised the same issue...
does anyone have the link?

Personally, I suggest doing a divination to get another perspective on the situation (However, I always suggest this, and think I am beginning to sound like a stuck record).

slinkyvagabond

12:52 / 28.11.02

Thanks, any suggestions are welcomed, no matter how much you may have said them before. I just want to say that I have tried meditation and "cutting the cord (sp?)" visualisations - I've said goodbye many times and really felt like that was the end of it but either we're meant to at least have some involvement in each other's lives or there's something in the pit of me still resisting letting go. I am desperate here, no joke and I'm not usually one for suffering prolonged depression (nearly 5 months now) or for suicidal thoughts. I don't know what i believe in but I will try anything (benign-ish, that is)

arcboi

13:07 / 28.11.02

To be honest, and without knowing the details, you may have to face up to moving on without him.

Ending any relationship is always a wrench and can also be a troubling and traumatic experience. It's very easy to find excuses and reasons to continue clinging on despite the fact that in all likelihood it isn't going to happen.

Tamayyurt

14:57 / 28.11.02

5 months is nothing... The same thing happened to me 2 years ago and I was in suffering for like a looong year and a half. I did every magick trick you could fucking think of... then I, eventually, got over it. And I met the most perfect person ever, the person I'm with now, and I'm soooo glad I got dumped 2 years ago. Thank God for unanswered sigils, huh?

All I'm saying is do the divination... maybe a year from now you'll be with someone better.

drzener

10:50 / 29.11.02

The same thing happend to me over 2 years ago and I was convinced I was over it. But every winter I think of her and my fucking heart feels like its been ripped out again. I just blame the winter blues and hope it'll pass as earlly as possible in the new year. Probably doesn't help that things never work out with anyone I've met that i actually like. I can't see magick helping with this at all - more likely to make things worse.
I would be open to suggestions
Sorry but this seems for threadrot but this seems relevant to me.
I'm not a happy camper today.

slinkyvagabond

18:25 / 30.11.02

hey drzener, I dont mind, I'm not a happy camper any day. but yeah, threadrot and I guess irrelevant to the forum. forget i asked.

Eskay Uno

14:05 / 01.12.02

Hang in there Slinky.

I can totally relate to your situation, and it's pure hell. From my experience, I'd say avoid using magick to "help you out". It can backfire on you and make a bad situation worse. What we desire is not always what is truly best for us. I know it's damn near impossible to see anything positive come out of such a heart-shredding experience, but this may be one of the best things that could happen to you. Things worked out great for impulsivelad - they'll work out for you too.

But talk is cheap, right? Meditation, exercise, work, writing, music, and friends with sympathetic ears have been a big help to me. Oh, and Austin Powers too.

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