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bitchiekittie
16:14 / 19.11.02
roughly wide does is it reach? how much do the standards as to who may breach it vary? how big a part do body language, environment, and other factors play? and how do you react when someone enters uninvited?
 
 
Tryphena Absent
16:42 / 19.11.02
My personal space is quite small in a crowded room but there are some people that I find intrusive and won't sit next to on, let's say, a sofa. My housemate is one of them, she's very huggy, I won't be touched by her and in fact have a small problem with physical contact. I like the little space I afford myself. I also don't like people who lean in to my face when they speak, I mean specifically right in to the centre of it, not towards my ear.

Some people have the right to touch me, friends who I've known for a few years, family and people I've slept in a bed with. A lot of people don't realise how careful I am with my space and I tend to just move slightly away when they intrude but I get quite angry when stupid drunk fools won't back off and it takes a lot to get my temper under control when people become really intrusive.

Some parts of my body I'm really weird about, no one is allowed to touch the soles of my feet, my ankles or the backs of my knees. Don't ask why because I don't have a clue. It just makes me scream like a banshee.
 
 
Murray Hamhandler
19:21 / 19.11.02
W/friends and loved ones, I'm incredibly touchy-feely. Lots of hugs/noogies/etc. In the outside world, I sometimes can't handle people even looking at me for extended periods of time, let alone getting in my big bubble of personal space.

But then I have issues. Lots of them.
 
 
The Return Of Rothkoid
21:14 / 19.11.02
When I moved to London, I found my concepts of personal space varied a lot. If you're riding the tube, they have to, otherwise you'll turn into a basket case before long.

Basically, I like having my own space. If I'm moving somewhere fast, though, it'll shrink because I'm on the move and don't mind darting through crowds, etc - as long as I'm still moving. If it's slowed down or I get stuck behind people, that's spatial death.

With certain people, I am very close and touchy/feely, though.
 
  
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