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Suggestions for recharging?

 
 
Kopi
02:35 / 08.10.02
I think I'm stuck in a rut.

I'm in my fourth year of college, I'm bored in my classes (when I actually go to them, that is). My GPA is shite (2.47) and as a result I can't get the good scholarships/internships. I just want to get out of here and get a job and get on with my life.

I love programming but I hate having my java lessons doled out to me in little doses. I'm taking Spanish for the third time and failing it again because I'm bored.....

I feel like if I could just do independent study I could get so much more out of life. As it is now I'm just wasting my time.

I used to *enjoy* college. Now all I do is hide in my room and skip class. I need to recharge, but I'm not sure what to do.

Suggestions? I'm at wits' end here.

(yes, I know I should go to class.)
 
 
netbanshee
03:00 / 08.10.02
Watch your diet and your schedule. Don't stay up too late/not sleep enough that often, it'll gang up and kick your ass. Also, what do you do to blow off steam?

It can suck being in the middle and thoughts of the job world could be appealing as it's new and different. I'd say try to focus at a 3.0 for the semester and gear up for a better one to follow. Just keep in mind that the job market's a bit topsy-turvy and the grass is often greener...you might not be in that bad of a place at the moment.
 
 
Baz Auckland
17:50 / 08.10.02
Go to Mexico and learn Spanish the fun way.

4 years is a very long time with no breaks, especially if you're in college straight from 12 or more years of elementary & high school. I was fine for the first 2.5, went to Mexico for 1/2 the 3rd year and just died in the 4th due to being bored with it.

My advice? Umm.. finish it since you've come this far, then get on with your life? You can always go back and take more classes later or part time. Try and relax and just finish it.

Oh, and being out of school is scary. I ran back in after a year on the outside.
 
 
nutella23
18:24 / 08.10.02
I don't mean to be cliche, but it sounds like you had your "sophmore slump" a little later than most.

Yes, you should go to class! Presumably your semester is now past the point when you can add/drop classes, so its not like you have a whole lot of choice there. College life can definitely get you down sometimes, but you can't let your deep blue funk snowball into something approaching clinical depression, never mind failing grades. I'm not trying to lecture you, I speak from experience.

You might want to look into finding a decent therapist, or, if that idea is not something you want to try, maybe just a good friend you can open up to and lean on sometimes. Net banshee's right about sleep and diet, I recall too many late nights and all-nighters and crappy food way back when. It certainly didn't help my cause any, and I was never so sick as when I lived in the dorms, always coming down with some bug or another.

Maybe try meditation, yoga, or martial arts if you have a spare moment, or just running for a half-hour a day to get your blood flowing. Maybe do some more social things to take your mind off your troubles? Isolation isn't a good thing when you're down. You need human contact. Your school must have some extracurricular groups, find something you're interested in (politics, art, film, activism, what-have-you).

I know it sounds a bit trite, but I've seen people fall down that slope before (myself included). And its awful, especially if folks are trying to cheer you up or are telling you to do so.
 
  
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