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Privacy: that old public/private thang

 
 
Lilith Myth
22:58 / 05.10.02
I've been writing a weblog for, man, nearly a year. Six weeks ago, for a whole host of reasons that made sense at the time, I told my family about it. Now they read it every day, and comment and hound me and it's doing my head in.

I started writing because I wanted a place where I could write, honestly, every day. Now I feel constrained, because there are lots of things my family don't know about me (like I have sex, and that it's the kinky kind and a whole of host of less interesting things). And now I feel I can't write honestly .. it's like they're looking over my shoulder, or in my head.

Obviously my (former) privacy was quite a public thing, but I was OK with that. I've realised that apart from 4 people in the world, I'm happy for anyone to read what I've written. But now they know where I live.

Any, er, ideas?
 
 
Papess
23:29 / 05.10.02
Hiya Lilith,

Can you change the settings for your blog? Maybe you will be able to keep some stuff private.

Really though, maybe it is time for a new one and not tell your family where it is.

Sometimes, intimacy with strangers is just plain easier.

MT
 
 
The Return Of Rothkoid
05:06 / 06.10.02
Firstly, don't tell them. Too late now, but if yo udid know what your family were like anyway, then you would already know what was likely to happen when you told them about your site.

Bodily move the whole thing to another blogspot address. Just get another one, or some other webspace, change that as the URL and you're all set, old content intact.
 
 
w1rebaby
08:20 / 06.10.02
My family know where my blog is, but mine is a little compromised anyway - my work also know where it is, or, at least, people at work do so it's not secure. I am therefore restricted in how much I can bitch about my job or details that I can reveal, since they have a fairly strict security policy regarding information. (They let me surf all day though.)

Furthermore, my girlfriend reads my blog, my RL friends read my blog, I suspect one of my exes reads my blog... I'm not going to be able to get out of this and I'm a bit limited as to what I say.

The only way to do it is to construct a new one. I wouldn't move the old one, because then, if you keep the old archives and name etc, people can just search for it.

Livejournal has a facility where you can set your entire blog to "friends only" (or just individual posts). Only logged-in Livejournal users that you specify as friends can view it. You can even set the whole thing to "private" so that only you can read it. This would be more convenient if everybody in the world was issued a LJ account at birth, which seems to be happening in some parts of the US.

If you're putting it on your own server, you could use an .htaccess file to password-protect it.

You could always do as I'm doing and move to another country so that nobody who knows you everyday knows where your blog is. That's the only reason I'm doing it, you know.
 
  
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