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Suggestions for adulthood.

  
 
videodrome
14:10 / 26.09.02
I turn thirty today. Some people have given me nice gifts, commendations for making it this far, really.

But wht I need to know now is, what can I legitimately enjoy or do now that I'm a real, can't-argue-about-it adult? Things like, I can now watch 30Something, or reruns of, and not be ashamed. I can read Tom Clancy books and take the position that they're actually good.

Suggestions?
 
 
Sax
14:22 / 26.09.02
You can forget trying to be a grown-up and/or living up to people's expectations. If you haven't done it by now, you're not going to, especially in other people's eyes. So just let rip and enjoy yourself.
 
 
Persephone
14:22 / 26.09.02
Happy birthday, vid!

To me, the thing about being an adult is... hey, I'm in charge! I can do ....whatever I want! Plus, I have a job hence money. So a large expression of my adulthood is doing things that I was forbidden from as a child, as in buying all the comic books I want. Or if I bite into a chocolate & it's a gross cream, I can spit it out and throw the chocolate away. And I can have flowers. And I can have colored walls in my house, not just off-white.
 
 
that
14:23 / 26.09.02
I think you can listen to dadrock with no shame now...
Possibly wear sandals with socks (especially those socks with the diamondy tartanish pattern).
Depending on hair type, have bad streaks put in?

And happy birthday, btw!
 
 
videodrome
14:38 / 26.09.02
oooh...sandals with socks. That's a good one. Exactly the type of thing I'm looking for. That goes on the list.
 
 
Ariadne
14:52 / 26.09.02
You can complain about music and how it's got no tune, and you can't make out the bloody words. And how it's all just a rip off of what was out in your day, anyway.

And you can look at young people with strange clothes/hair and think "but ... you just look silly! Can't you see that?"
 
 
The Strobe
15:01 / 26.09.02
Knitwear now becomes a valid option in the clothing department, videodrome. Not just pullovers: cardigans as well. And PATTERNS. Nasty, patterend, Argyle sweaters are the way ahead.

Also, you can smoke a pipe without looking like a pretentious arse.

And you can just stare at young people, like they're supposed to KNOW what they've done wrong.

Happy Birthday, by the way... all the best!
 
 
Papess
16:02 / 26.09.02
Hmm, now you can start dating that sweet treat 10 years your junior.
 
 
Matthew Fluxington
16:11 / 26.09.02
You can try to grow out your ear hair.
 
 
doglikesparky
16:13 / 26.09.02
You can patronise people who, having just turned 20, think they're adults.
Especially people you work with. "I was earning a crust when you were just 4 years old....."
 
 
w1rebaby
16:31 / 26.09.02
You can legitimately watch House Doctor.
 
 
Shortfatdyke
16:33 / 26.09.02
Happy birthday! I spent my 30th sitting glumly in the pub, looking at the Eurostar tickets to Amsterdam I'd bought for me and my g/f, who'd just dumped me very publically. Hope yours is more fun-orientated.

I do sometimes wear sandals with socks. Really! And listen to Oasis. But not at the same time. My excuse is that my sandals rub my feet. No wonder I'm single.

Thing is, I do see younger (nearly half my age) friends doing stuff that I did when I was their age and have to bite my tongue when they think they know it all and I know they're just being silly. I have actually learnt a lot and the young whippersnappers just don't have respect, but that's the way it should be I suppose.
 
 
nutella23
16:41 / 26.09.02
Happy B-day and all that...

You can:

--complain about your back problems
--start off all conversations with the words: "I remember when..."
--attend class reunions and start keeping track of who went bald or who got fat or who got divorced.
--mention the music you liked in high school and get blank stares from anyone under 21.
--Not bother to get rid of your old trendy clothes, they'll be back in style come the next sunspot cycle.
--Impress the kids with your one-handed joint-rolling technique.
--Dye your goatee.
--Laugh about the days when Bush was president...Scratch that one.
--Be considered a fountain of knowledge when the "Grunge Revival" comes about. And it will.
 
 
Matthew Fluxington
16:53 / 26.09.02
--Be considered a fountain of knowledge when the "Grunge Revival" comes about. And it will.

You are CLEARLY not a person who has been living in North America for the past six or seven years, much less the past year and a half...
 
 
videodrome
17:21 / 26.09.02
Nutella, I already do most of that stuff. To me, this says bad things. Perhaps I jumped intop this adult thing too early.
 
 
nutella23
17:27 / 26.09.02
It all sounds like grunge to me now. But what do I know? I'm an old man.
On the bright side, you can always get botox injections and lots of tattoos and piercings to cover up any wrinkles. I hear that's trendy now. Me, I like looking like Granpa Simpson.
 
 
w1rebaby
17:52 / 26.09.02
I had some Fischerspooner on my CD player a couple of days ago, fairly quietly, and I came downstairs and my dad said "What is that awful racket I can hear thumping through the floor? Thrash, is it?" "You don't know what thrash is, do you, dad?"

you can say things like that

I don't know why I'm joking, I'm gradually moving from early-to-mid to undeniably mid-to-late and it's downhill from here.
 
 
grant
19:44 / 26.09.02
The best thing I found is the ability, at least in person, to give advice - often hilariously tongue-in-cheek, but always with a dead straight facial expression - and to be taken utterly seriously.
Even to be treated as wise.
It's vital that you not laugh in anybody's face while doing this.

I did that once while telling someone skeptical about some public food offering thing in our office that eggs have preservative properties, so it should be alright. The person I told this to was both older than me and not totally unfamiliar with cooking, but because I was over 30 and said it with a straight face, I was taken seriously. Until I started cracking up 20 seconds later.

Go on, try it.
 
 
videodrome
19:55 / 26.09.02
Yeah, that one's good, Grant. For some reason, people often believe what I tell them; I try not to abuse this power very often, but sometimes the temptation is too much to resist. This is the encouragement I need.
 
 
The Return Of Rothkoid
23:20 / 26.09.02
Happy birthday, you.

I think it means that you can now officially model yourself after Quint. But with rock.
 
 
netbanshee
02:43 / 27.09.02
Yeah, happy b-day.

Grant really touched on the validity issue that comes with that 30-something age. You can really start to be yourself and people may not believe it's just a phase. Go do wacky stuff...at least till mid-life crisis.
 
 
Saint Keggers
03:12 / 27.09.02
I used to think being an adult meant you had to be all serious and such. Then one day my folk call me upsatirs to their room just after they had gone to bed."C'mere! You've got to see this!". SO I go to their room only to find my 60 year old father making shadow pupets on the door with the moonlight comming in from the window. "look, its a wolf".
That's when I realised that being old doesnt mean you have to act it. So stop being old and put the kiddies to shame!
 
 
ceridwen
04:48 / 27.09.02
happy birthday!

you can now be considered eccentric, which means you can do whatthefuckeveryouwant, right?

have fun with it. but don't wear socks with sandals.
 
 
jUne, a sunshiny month
08:00 / 27.09.02
happy birthday, VideoD.
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