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Being really bad at posting...

Fist Fun

20:05 / 29.07.02

I must have started to type half a dozen posts today...and then just thought, nah, I can't post that, people might laugh at me, too dull, too desperate...does anybody do the same or is it just me? Would you judge me if I made dull posts? Should I even post this...mmmmpphrrmmm...

The Apple-Picker

20:12 / 29.07.02

You know, I'd thought about starting a thread like this before. I abort probably 90% of the posts that I write. Almost the only ones that survive are here in the Conversation.

Grey Area

20:14 / 29.07.02

I do the same...start a post then not see it through, mostly because while typing it I realise that what I thought was a clever contribution turns out to be a rather silly/stupid/ill-informed/useless one. While I wouldn't judge people for dull posts, I'm sure there are those who would...but that shouldn't put anyone off of posting (unless you're close to your posting limit or something).

Fist Fun

20:15 / 29.07.02

Maybe we should make the plunge more often, apple-picker. What stops you from hitting the send button?

moriarty

20:16 / 29.07.02

Constantly. I usually try to find the thread with the conversation that is closest to what I want to say and post there to avoid starting new threads. Bury your posts! I've practically boycotted the Comics section because I felt like I was starting too many stupid threads. And, like you, only about half my posts make it. I guess it keeps the noise down.

Less searchable M0rd4nt

20:16 / 29.07.02

Yeah, me too. I usually need about three goes before I get it right, especially if I'm starting a new topic. When I do post in a hurry, I always regret it.

The Apple-Picker

20:26 / 29.07.02

Maybe we should make the plunge more often, apple-picker. What stops you from hitting the send button?

What stops me: Despite appearances (occasional as they may be), I really would prefer to not embarrass myself or others. Also, I'm not really sure what it is, but I have a hard time articulating myself here. I've been told that how I write here doesn't really sound like me.

Grey Area

20:31 / 29.07.02

Ditto on the articulation thing. I think that it might have its roots in the fact that most of the discussions on here are quite intellectual, resulting in I-won't-sound-smart-enough angst. This isn't meant as criticism of the board by any means, it's just an observation...

Kit-Cat Club

20:47 / 29.07.02

I frequently start replies to threads which I then cut off because I realise that I actually don't really know what I'm talking about; and I don't like sounding a) like a twart or b) ignorant. But I don't think there's too much wrong with that, and it does save one from hopelessly trying to rephrase a post to get closer to whatever it was that one thinks one was trying to say...

paw

22:51 / 29.07.02

i too often type stuff then don't bother sending it. i often read posts and occasionally in the headshop i think 'wait you didn't consider this' but then i read further and someone brings it up. I also made up my mind a little while a go to try and not talk about things i know little or nothing about. it seems to me that in general too many people in the world have opinions about things they really know nothing about.

Trijhaos

22:58 / 29.07.02

I thought I was the only one who never bothered posting half of the stuff I write. Half the time it's because I think of a shorter way to say something. There's no sense in posting a half-page when a sentence will suffice.

Baz Auckland

01:15 / 30.07.02

Back in the days of multiple suits, I created a second one to post under instead of not hitting the send button. The results were not too good, and I returned to writing 3 posts for every one I actually hit 'send' for.

I think it's the written equivalent for trying to throw your opinion into a conversation, but failing to get everyone's attention.

"but, ah! um..."

Solitaire Rose as Tom Servo

01:44 / 30.07.02

I post everything, but I always feel like I have made a horrible, horrible mistake.

Well, not always, but a lot of the time. I never quite feel like I'm getting my idea across because I don't have the time to put into my posts.

Mazarine

03:13 / 30.07.02

I'm trying to cut back on my self-censoring, but whenever I sit down to post in a serious, thought provoking thread, I generally wind up writing about a page and then not posting it. Half the time, this is because I've convinced myself that, in the time between looking at the thread and clicking the reply button, someone has either posted exactly what I was going to say in a far more clever and eloquent way, or has said something directly refuting what I was going to say in a far more eloquent and clever way than the way in which I made my statement.

bitchiekittie

11:57 / 30.07.02

I agree with solitaire - it all goes on here. usually. though I have found that lately (the past few weeks), Ive been censoring myself a lot, mainly because Im not currently emotionally equipped to deal with a lot of disagreement

but soon Im sure Ill be back to rubbing people the wrong way again

Lilith Myth

14:44 / 30.07.02

I post around 10% of the things I write. I get all "shit, no, I'm stupid. they're smart" as soon as I see the post reply button.

see, I'm even nervous now...

Murray Hamhandler

16:51 / 30.07.02

Ditto. I send about half of the posts that I start and I don't even start 90% of the posts that I consider starting. Most of my reason for doing so is that I don't often feel like I have anything to add. Like, for instance, if I hadn't had all of this to say, I would've probably written "Ditto.", stared at it for a minute, realized that no one needed my vote of affirmation on the topic at hand, and promptly gone elsewhere w/o posting.

This also sums up my IRL social interaction (or lack thereof). If I don't feel like I have anything to add to a conversation, or if I don't feel like I have anything interesting to say at all, I just...don't say anything. Which is why I've met, like, two new people in the past year.

And for the last time, moriarty, your Comics topics are worthwhile!!! Come back into the fold!

We're The Great Old Ones Now

16:59 / 30.07.02

God. Way too much self-control. I think of this place as an intellectual safe zone. That's not to say that I'm going to post whatever pops into my head, but that I feel able to be wrong here.

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