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Warewullf
16:13 / 07.07.02
Ok, I realise this isn't the most Earth-shattering topic ever but I've been meaning to bring it up for a while.

My boyfirend has this really weird thing about other people using his razor. Now, I'm not talking about women using it to shave their legs or anything like that. He just doesn't like the idea of other guys (ie. friends) shaving their faces with his razor. He let's me use it, but I think he'd be happier if I didn't.

What gets me is that he claims this is perfectly normal. Is it? Am I crazy? I don't care who uses my razor. It's not like sharing a toothbrush or anything! So who else has a "thing" about sharing their razor?
 
 
Ganesh
16:20 / 07.07.02
I use an electric razor and ZoCher wet-shaves, so the issue never really arises. I can sort of see where he's coming from - shaving's a curiously vulnerable act - and the whole HIV/hepatitis thing in the 80s and since has sensitised gay men (in particular) to issues of 'body fluid contamination'...
 
 
paw
16:42 / 07.07.02
i'd never let someone use my razor, ever. your boyfriends attitude is very common. As ganesh said it's the blood thing for me anyway
 
 
Tezcatlipoca
16:46 / 07.07.02
I had a similar experience, though from the opposite angle. I used to do a lot of travelling, so my electric razor was part of my standard kit. Whilst camping with a group of friends years ago one chap was moaning about his facial hair, and the fact he'd forgotten to bring a razor. I offered him mine, and he immediately recoiled as if I'd told him he was quite at liberty to borrow my spleen or something. I subsequently found out he'd moaned to others, been offered a variety of razors - some electric, some not - and reacted in a similar way.

Whilst I agree to an extent with Ganesh's point on the whole HIV/hepatitis thing, I'd like to expand on it by saying that I honestly think the situation - at least for some men - is a question of (largely irrational) fears about hygiene. I - absurdly - will passionately plunge the depths of my partner's mouth, but don't like the idea of using her toothbrush (even more irrational given my qualifications in Dentistry). The same exists, I think, to an extent in platonic relationships, where we might identify an item we use regularly - such as a razor - with being part of our personal routine, and so feel uncomfortable with others using said item.
 
 
Turk
18:31 / 07.07.02
Use my razor? Why don't just rub yourself all over my face and be done with it?!?
 
 
Jack Fear
21:14 / 07.07.02
Someone once told me that he wouldn't lend out his razor because each person's skin oils are unique, like a fingerprint, and a razor that's been used by someone else would give him razor burn.

Sounds kind of suspect: but the idea letting someone else use my razor creeps me out anyway.

D has used my blade, on occasion, to shave her legsā€”and shaving one's legs does indeed blunt an edge faster than shaving a face, simply because of the comparative acreage involved: and using a dull razor is the best way to cut yourself, true.
 
 
w1rebaby
21:42 / 07.07.02
I - absurdly - will passionately plunge the depths of my partner's mouth, but don't like the idea of using her toothbrush

I posted a question on a fetish community a while back, "how many people here would lick someone's arsehole but not let them use your toothbrush?" And quite a lot said yes.

I wonder whether it's purely an irrational hygiene thing - razors, toothbrushes et al are very personal and intimate objects generally, and even if you love someone you still maintain some personal space. I don't care about razors or toothbrushes, but I get freaked out by someone else using my computer.
 
 
Yay Paul
22:12 / 07.07.02
Use my razor? Why don't just rub yourself all over my face and be done with it?!?

Absolute genius, here here !
 
 
netbanshee
01:46 / 08.07.02
Computer use I absolutely agree on...I'm no novice and hate when one even gets near my mac. It's a bit absurd but what can you do?

On the razor issue, I have no problem sharing anything with the girl, though dulling a razor on ones legs and then being transferred to ones face isn't the best policy. And disease isn't an issue since I more than likely would have the same issues with more direct contact than that. Other people...not so sure.
 
 
Sax
06:11 / 08.07.02
The missus uses my razor to shave her legs occaisonally, which I sound off about on the blunted blade argument rather than any hygiene issues.

However, I do use her special girly razor sometimes to shave my face. Which gives me a strange wobbly feeling inside.

Oh, and electric razors are well down on the barometer. Wet shaves are where it's at. Preferably in cold water, and followed by some "Iron John" style primal screaming in the woods.
 
 
Mourne Kransky
12:14 / 08.07.02
Never lend your razor to:

Paul Sorvino (used it to slice garlic in Goodfellas)
Richie Manic (uses it for decorative purposes)
Captain Zoom (you never know where he'll put it)
Helen Keller (the moustache suits her)

btw, electric shavers are for gurls, Ganesh. Manly men just use a bread knife or, better yet, just burn the stubble off with a blowtorch...
 
 
bitchiekittie
12:29 / 08.07.02
Captain Zoom (you never know where he'll put it)

I was wondering what that was....
 
 
Bear
12:39 / 08.07.02
I once cut myself shaving with an electric razor, still not sure how I managed that.

Real men use fire to shave ZoCher
 
 
Bear
12:40 / 08.07.02
There was meant to be a comma in there, but then I have a problem with spelling and grammar if you hadn't already noticed.
 
 
Ganesh
12:53 / 08.07.02
I use a cheese-grater to shave ZoCher...
 
 
that
12:59 / 08.07.02
bear, I've cut myself more than once with an electric razor, shaving my legs... thought I was the only one capable of such a thing...
 
 
Cherry Bomb
16:14 / 08.07.02
I have a friend who has used my girlie razors to shave his face. Repeatedly. As in, after I've told him, "You know, that's really annoying."
 
 
Tezcatlipoca
17:54 / 08.07.02
ummm....Ganesh, is that meant to read 'I use a cheese-grater to shave, Zo-Cher', or 'I use a cheese-grater to shave Zo-Cher'? Just thought I'd ask, as there's just something about the idea of you shaving somebody else with a cheese grater that is a little unsettling...
 
 
bitchiekittie
18:05 / 08.07.02
...but shaving yourself with one is oh-so-alluring!
 
 
Tezcatlipoca
18:38 / 08.07.02
I think that depends largely on the target area, bitchiekittie.
 
 
Abigail Blue
18:58 / 08.07.02
I have no problem whatsoever with my boy using anything of mine: We use each other's toothbrushes, razors, deodorant, etc. He seems to think it's icky, though, that I'll borrow underwear from people other than him (and he even thinks that my wearing his underwear is weird and kinda disturbing). Most people seem to share this view, which I really don't understand. I mean, I don't borrow people's nasty dirty underwear, only the freshly-laundered variety. Does anyone else do this? I'm starting to feel pretty stigmatized...
 
 
Ganesh
19:21 / 08.07.02
Means what it says, Tez. I never misplace, commas.
 
 
bitchiekittie
19:37 / 08.07.02
Ive let other women wear my drawers, but, other than the odd pair of borrowed boxers, Id never wear someone elses.
 
 
Lullaboozler
20:00 / 08.07.02
On the whole sharing thing...

Razors: no way. It's mine, and it stays mine.
Toothbrush: ditto
Undies: No problem. Whoever dares venture into them is more than eliglble to wear them.
Deodorant: We use the spray on stuff, so no issue there.

My parents were staying a while ago and my partner asked me if I wanted them to take our bed while we crashed on the futon. They may be my folks, and the reason I am on this planet, but No Way were they having MY (Ok, our) bed. Brrrr. Too icky!
 
 
Tezcatlipoca
22:04 / 08.07.02
Means what it says, Tez. I never misplace, commas.

Indeed. I actually made that post before reading Bear's comments above your own. That'll teach me to post without absorbing the thread beforehand.

No Way were they having MY (Ok, our) bed. Brrrr. Too icky!
Although I've never been in that situation, I really don't think I'd have a problem with my parents crashing in my bed. I can't see that they'd be any more likely to 'contaminate' it than either myself or my partner.
 
 
Margin Walker
23:21 / 08.07.02
i'm not a very sharing person in the first place, but I'm really possessive about my car. Fiercely so. I don't even let other people change the oil, much less drive it. It may be from "Pulp Fiction", but it's also the truth: You don't mess with a man's car. Period.
 
 
Thjatsi
05:10 / 09.07.02
My boyfirend has this really weird thing about other people using his razor. He just doesn't like the idea of other guys (ie. friends) shaving their faces with his razor.

I don't know about other males, but sometimes when I use a razor, I have a tendency to go into roto-rooter mode. This, generally speaking, screws up my face pretty bad, and there's a lot of blood on the razor and me. "I'll teach you, you goddamn hair!" I assume that everyone else follows the inquisition model of shaving, so I prefer not to share razors with anyone else, since it almost certainly means sharing their blood. In case you're wondering, no you can't use my razor.

My toothbrush rules consist of one out of every ten days for someone who is intimate with me, once a year for someone I really like, and never for someone I don't know.
 
 
Saveloy
12:48 / 09.07.02
Never thought about this before, hang on... *thinks* Nope, I'd have no problem sharing at all. There's a huge amount of soap and water involved in a wet shave and it's not too difficult to rinse the bloody thing off, is it? Eh? As for going blunt, razors never go blunt, and that's a fact.
 
 
Loomis
13:07 / 09.07.02
Abigail - just how often do you find yourself in a position where you need to borrow underwear from people? Do you not own enough? Should we send you a barbelith care package? Or do you just like a fresh change several times a day?

I was just congratulating myself on how open I am about all the things listed so far on this thread, and then you came up with this. I guess I am a prude after all. I'd be fine with a partner doing it, but not anyone else, especially the kind of people I'm friends with. Brrr.
 
 
bitchiekittie
13:23 / 09.07.02
you might have a friend unexpectedly crash at your house. go out the next day but dont want to wear funky drawers. accidentally spill something at a party. or just like the look of em
 
 
Loomis
13:35 / 09.07.02
Is there something you'd like to confess BK?

PS - none of those are acceptable reasons.

1) wearing the same pants 2 days straight is no big deal
2) spills dry
3) if they look so good get yer own!

Besides, if yours did too much duty the night before, there's always the option of going without. I'd much rather go without boxers then go without brushing my teeth.
 
 
bitchiekittie
19:43 / 09.07.02
nope. confessions are for people who are ashamed
 
 
Thjatsi
20:21 / 09.07.02
It's not too difficult to rinse the bloody thing off, is it?

Let's say that you go to the Red Cross to donate blood, and the staff tells you that they are going to use the same needle on you as the previous donater, after rinsing it throughly with soap and water. In this situation, exactly how many seconds would it take you to exit the premises?
 
 
w1rebaby
20:43 / 09.07.02
Well, I'm assuming that you're fairly sure that your partner has no blood-borne diseases... and that you know who they are...
 
 
Thjatsi
07:07 / 10.07.02
Oh, I thought we were talking about friends and such.
 
  

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