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What breaks your heart?

  
 
bitchiekittie
19:58 / 20.06.02
I think all of us, no matter how tough, independent, or pragmatic we may be, tend to have at least one little weak spot (or many) when it comes to romance. some tender little bit that makes us hurt, or giddy, or jealous, or some other involuntary and otherwise irrational response in a romantic situation. do you agree? are you immune? or are you especially prone to it? what do you think?
 
 
Ganesh
22:13 / 20.06.02
Van Helsing. With a sharpened PLANK.
 
 
the Fool
23:00 / 20.06.02
For some reason whenever I meet a bloke I think is really cute, my brain turns to jelly and I obsess that I cannot speak to them. Hence I am very lonely...
 
 
Grey Area
23:07 / 20.06.02
When gf starts swooning about a movie/rock star. Your basic jealousy option, I guess...can't bear the thought of someone I'm in a relationship with meeting someone else and moving on.

And I second the "meet cute person = brain turns to mush" syndrome. Mine is usually accompanied by side effects along the lines of "lying awake at 3am thinking of all the things I could have said instead of "durr..".
 
 
the Fool
23:36 / 20.06.02
"lying awake at 3am thinking of all the things I could have said instead of "durr..".

so true... with endless echoing of "I'm so stupid..."
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
23:36 / 20.06.02
I think the cute person/mush thing's kind of universal.
I always find myself getting kind of scared when I'm really attracted to someone- I start thinking "it'd be so much safer to just forget about it". Obviously you can't actually do that, though.
 
 
Grey Area
23:55 / 20.06.02
Not without some rigorous mental training, no.

...ergh, 2am. I really need to get back to some sensible sleep patterns. I'll never meet the love of my life this way...they're all asleep when I', awake. All the sensible ones at least. And who wants to meet an insensible love of one's life? (cynics and mean people may now make the point that only an insensible girl would ever fall in love with me). Sorry for the threadrot, I'm going to go to bed now.
 
 
MissLenore
00:07 / 21.06.02
Having my eyelids kissed always makes me want to cry for some reason. I just find it so terribly endearing and romantic.
 
 
Saint Keggers
01:44 / 21.06.02
Are we talking good things or bad things?

Good:If the right person smiles. Just that slight upturn of the corners of her mouth that says volumns, says the world is the way it should be at this very moment.

Bad: When a song comes on the radio that reminds me of her, of moments shared together. I loose it. Complete emotional breakdown.
 
 
Sax
07:29 / 21.06.02
It breaks my heart that Ariadne constantly spurns my advances.
 
 
drzener
10:15 / 21.06.02
The usual: betrayal, guilt, regret. TO be quite honest I haven't been able to get the bits to fix mine yet and I don't think I really give a shit anymore
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
12:06 / 21.06.02
And, according to people who know me, hearing from people who I've been romantically involved with in the past always makes me act like a twat. Not a nasty twat, you understand... a dewey eyed one.
As cynical misanthropists go, I'm an old romantic, really.
 
 
suds
13:14 / 21.06.02
i don't know why really, it's nothing i can pinpoint but today seeing this totally broke my heart.
 
 
Grey Area
13:18 / 21.06.02
Wow...8 years. Can't even begin to imagine being in a relationship for that length of time.
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
17:51 / 23.06.02
Barbelith broke my heart. With a few increasingly infrequent exceptions, the last six months or so have been like watching your mother become an alcoholic.
 
 
Solitaire Rose as Tom Servo
17:58 / 23.06.02
Hm.....

It's hard to say, since I have kept my life at an emotional distance for such a long time...

When my hand is grabbed by someone out of the blue.
A phone call for no reason at all.
Handwritten letters.
Orange Marshmallow peanuts.
Public displays of strangeness.
 
 
the Fool
00:46 / 24.06.02
How's this for crap.

Having a bit of a crush on someone. And then having the person you've got a bit of a thing for tell you, in secret, that they actually have got a crush on the person that introduced you to them.

Try smiling after that...
 
 
Solitaire Rose as Tom Servo
01:51 / 24.06.02
I don't allow myself crushes anymore. They always end badly.

Well, except for the one I had on Winona Rider...I had to break it off when she'd stolen the wrong stuff I'd sent her into the store for.
 
 
Grendix
04:07 / 24.06.02
a movie kiss: sometimes, after a film, i like to turn to the other person, and just gently grab his head, pulling him close, gently sucking his breath into mine while kissing, long and tender, just BREATHING him into me ofr a bit, in the dark of a theater, with the credits flickering by my closed eyes. it dosen't break my heart to do that, just that it's been so long since i've done it.
 
 
Oresa delta 20
22:06 / 25.06.02
Finding out someone you like has a crush on your friend may be hard, but what if your own feelings are somewhat stronger?? A while back, i realised just how much i loved this girl. I just wanted to spend every minute of every day with her. Then, one night, one of my friends was driving me home from the pub, and he starts talking about her. He reveals that he actually quite likes her (although i realise his interest is nowhere near the intensity i'm experiencing). Anyway, the girl lets on to one of her friends that she kinda likes my friend too.

The next following night was the worst thing i have ever experienced. She called me up, and we got round to talking about this friend of mine. I knew he wanted me to 'put in a good word', as it were, so i made sure to only discuss his finer qualities. Soon enough, she comes right out and says she likes him, and wants to know how he feels about her. Now i'm not exactly great at this whole matchmaking thing, nad i was aware that i'd been doing a pretty dire job up until this point, so rather than telling her what he'd said about her, I told her how I felt about her, but said that the words had come from him.
After that night, they got together. That broke my heart.

Soon afterwards, my friend went off for australia, and although they parted on good terms, it doesn't look like there's any kind of lasting romance there. Everything started going really well: she was talking to me more frequently, and opening up to me about some things. That was until last weekend.

On the sunday night, we were both at the closing night of a local music festival. The whole night she's running in and out of the room, taking various calls on her mobile. I asked one of her friends what was wrong, and found out that her grandad was seriously ill. I don't know much about him, but from what i can gather, the two of them seem pretty close. When i heard this, i went over to her and asked if she was alright (i didn't let on that i knew about her grandad, cos i didn't want her to get angry at her friend). She told me everything was okay, and that if she was acting wierd, it was just cos she was tired. I've always considered her to be a good friend, but it broke my heart that she couldn't talk to me. I could see she wanted to cry, but i guess she just didn't feel like she could open up to me.

Sorry about the lengthy post; I just needed to vent this somewhere.
 
 
Tuna Ghost: Pratt knot hero
17:31 / 26.06.02
And I second the "meet cute person = brain turns to mush" syndrome. Mine is usually accompanied by side effects along the lines of "lying awake at 3am thinking of all the things I could have said instead of "durr..".

You know, there are ways around this. Once I realized that awkward pauses and awkwardness in general were the most useless feelings ever, I decided to never go through it again. It does take a degree of sepertation, of not caring if someone thinks you're interesting or not, but it works.

But maybe I have an unnatural advantage. To me, feeling anything strongly is better than feeling nothing at all, so I can't really lose. And I spit game like a mad bastard.

...ergh, 2am. I really need to get back to some sensible sleep patterns. I'll never meet the love of my life this way...they're all asleep when I', awake. All the sensible ones at least.

Bah. Forget sleep. You don't need it. I try to avoid it where possible. Insomnia is one of the greatest gifts I've been given.
 
 
The Strobe
20:18 / 26.06.02
What breaks my heart?

The big stuff. But the thing that recently really got to me...

the inability to get over things. Ie recently: huge crush on someone for quite a while, which I could never really get my head around because we're entirely unlike each other, incompatible, and I find her a little dull (and suspect she finds me entirely dull) but in a last ditch effort to knock things on the head before term finished asked her out (which took enough balls, I tell you), fully expecting entire rejection, and basically getting and tasteful, polite rejection (as opposed to the rudeness or standing-up I normally get), and everything has gone according as I'd expected... and yet a few days after, I'm shaken up and going nowhere. I thought I was entirely prepared, and somehow rationality failed me. I expect a particular result, I get it... and something in me, deep down in my irrational part doesn't like it. (The rest of me, incidentally, was fine). Now, of course, term is over and I shall never see said person ever again, and have no choice.

But basically, I hate my own inability to get over people. Whom I have every reason and desire to do so, and even every opportunity. And I can't get over them. And I hate it. And it happens too often.
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
22:09 / 26.06.02
I like durrr. A durrr response is a sincere response. If a prospect comes out with something smooth'n'witty on first aquaintance, they're probaly either selling something or on a dare.

When an otherwise intelligent bod rimspornhectacles you, you're onto a promise.
 
  
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